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Project F Early Development Gameplay
Source: TheRiotMMO
Project F is a research in-development game that will be produced by Riot Games, Inc. The upcoming ARPG is expected to be a PvE action RPG. In other words, a player vs environment action roleplaying game. It appears to be a cooperative action game based in Runeterra, where players can team up against monsters using champions from League of Legends. Project F is isometric, stylized and casual. It seems Project F has been in development for some time. If you’re looking forward to playing it soon and learning more, then read on.

Riot Project F Announced

Interestingly, Project F was never officially announced. We had our first glimpse of Project F during League of Legends’ 10-Year Anniversary Celebration live stream.
10-Year Anniversary Celebration Riot Pls: 10th Anniversary Edition - League of Legends
Beginning at the 32-minute 38-second mark there were a few sequences of Project F gameplay. Granted, it was early development footage of Riot’s Project F. It is important to note, Riot Games intentionally previewed Project F. Project F was not a leak. In fact, Project F has been under wraps for the most part since that very day.

What is Riot Project F?

Project F is an upcoming ARPG set in the world of League of Legends. Actually, set in Runeterra to be more precise. It is a cooperative action game where players control the champions from League of Legends. You will traverse through Runeterra and defeat enemies along your way. Players will get to use iconic and familiar champion abilities that have been established through League of Legends gameplay as well as new abilities too.

Project F Landscape

There will be varying levels of inclination throughout your adventures. Given Project F is an isometric game, the sense of height and depth will be an important design element if Riot wants to make this game a successful as possible. So, throughout your adventures you will have to descend higher terrain on occasion.
You can expect to see familiar landscapes that share a similar art style as League of Legends’. As with many isometric games, such as Lost Ark, Diablo, Path of Exile, etc., the background will contain interesting landscapes while the foreground will feature rich and detailed visuals.
Overall, it appears the art design will showoff bright and beautiful colors. Expect to see the following decorative elements; colorful trees, plants, flowers, roots, large stones plus a variety of terrains. While we aren’t sure yet, it appears players cannot fall off the map.
One feature we find to be a nice touch is the dust from the ground that rises as players jump from heights.

Project F Game FeaturesPing System

It looks as though Project F might feature a ping system. Presumably players can ping locations on the field. Once a location is pinged, a red floating inverted cone will remain at the desired location for a time. Coordinated players can use pings to set focus areas, destinations, and other communicative commands. It could also be that Blitzcrank’s melee abilities inadvertently marks the ground for some unknown reason. Again, we saw early development footage. We expect most of the features to not be fully implemented.

Jumping Over Ledges

Another feature that Project F appears to include is jumping over ledges when traversing through corners of map without terrain. For example, when Ezreal walks forward, there is no terrain under him just a few steps ahead. Just before the ledge, Ezreal leaps over the cliff edge and lands on the other side. It’s unclear whether this will be a player command or our characters will jump over edges by themselves.

Cast Indicators

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Taliyah
Project F takes a feature from it’s inspiration League of Legends. Ranged characters will have casting with indicators. It’s not known if the indicators can be turned off or not. Casting indicators are a useful feature. The indicator serves as a projection guide. Players can line up the indicator with their target for improved accuracy.

Friendly Fire

Friendly fire was a feature in the early development build. When a player is in a casting state, it means they are about to use an ability. At this point a cast indicator is visible. Likely only visible to the player casting, if it’s anything like the League of Legends feature. Now, when the player’s indicator intersects with a cooperative teammate, the color of the indicator turns red.
While the friendly fire colored cast indicator is insightful, it brings up more questions than answers. First, maybe it’s possible there are various difficulties in which you can damage your teammates. Second, allies could very well block teammates skill shots, hence the red indicator. Another possibility is while hovered over an ally, you cannot cast your skill shot. All of this is speculative of course. We will provide updates as they come.

Equal Base Movement Speed

From looking at the Project F short clip, we can see each player has the same base move speed. Keep in mind, equal base movement speed may not be the case at launch. Furthermore, it’s possible gear can be equipped and stats or talents can be acquired that affect the champions movement speed. Nonetheless, an equal base movement speed does reinforce the casual nature of Project F.
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Project F Early Development Gameplay

Possible Game Features

Boss Fights

We may see boss fights. In the image below, a Project F developer is seen with a reference image on his second monitor. Part of the image showed Wild Rift assets of Varus and Ashe fighting a massive image of the League of Legends item Static Shiv.

Boss Mechanics – Slow Effect

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In that same screenshot, the giant Static Shiv appear to emanate a yellow aura outwards up to under the attacking champions’ feet. The yellow aura looks incredibly similar to the slow effect from League of Legends.
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Vayne

Checkpoints

On the same map where we have Blitzcrank, Lux, and Ezreal fighting, all three champions can be seen fooling around a campfire. There are no enemies present. Furthermore, they appear to be at a dead end with only one direction to go….into the forest. In the meantime, the players are running around and using abilities around this empty campfire area. Perhaps this starting area can serve as a communication hub amongst teammates before they begin their quest or journey. Alternatively, these checkpoints could be scattered throughout zones in order to let players rest, change armor, tools, loadouts, or reestablish their strategy.

Champions in Riot’s Project F

We know of at least three playable champions in Project F. The following champions include, Blitzcrank, Lux, and Ezreal. Below includes a brief overview of the mentioned champions for those unfamiliar with the League of Legends champion roster.
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Blitzcrank

Blitzcrank is a support-style tank. In the world of Runeterra, he a a mechanical golem dedicated to protecting Zaun from harm and supporting its citizens.
In League of Legends, he uses powerful lightning infused mechanical forces to subdue, retract, and stun foes for his allies. Meanwhile, he soaks up and blocks damage effectively for his teammates.

Lux

Lux is a support-style mage. In Runeterra, Lux is an aristocrat from Demacia with the ability to manipulate light. Unfortunately, Demacia prejudice against mages.
While playing League of Legends, Lux possessing offensive and defensive magical abilities that can stun and damage enemies and shield allies.

Ezreal

Ezreal ranged damage dealer. According to the lore, Ezreal was born by wealthy Piltovan archeologists. Ezreal now explores foreign lands and uses his powerful yet mysterious Shuriman gauntlet to defeat his adversaries.
Gameplay wise, Ezreal is a ranged short-ranged damage with good mobility including short teleports.
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Project F Champion Abilities

In the snippet, we saw several champion abilities adapted from League of Legends. At the same time, there were a number of innovative abilities that fit with the theme of the respective champions. It’s worth mentioning the champion auto attacks have a low cooldown.

Blitzcrank

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Blitzcrank Fan Art
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• Basic Triple Auto Attack Combo: Blitzcrank uses three separate attack to perform a combo.

1. Blitzcrank uses both fists to attack foes directly in front of him
2. Blitzcrank begins with a wide left hook and then a wide right hook to damage enemies directly in front of him.
3. Finally, Blitzcrank leaps into the air, extends his arms and and smashes the ground doing damage doing damage in a radius around him.

Lux

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Lux Fan Art

• Basic Attack: Lux let’s out a projectile of light as well as a short arcing swipe with her wand damaging foes directly in front of her.
• Final Spark: In Project F, Lux possesses what is known as her Ultimate ability, Final Spark, in League of Legends. Lux projects a narrow beam over an incredible distance, dealing dealing high damage to all enemies.

Ezreal

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Ezreal Fan Art

• Ezreal lets out a grappling hook that returns to him upon reaching its destination.

Possible Champions in Riot Project F

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During the League of Legends 10-Year Anniversary stream, a developer had a reference page on his second monitor. It appeared to be two League of Legends champions outside of the traditional League game environment. In fact, is looked like a rudimentary Project F environment based on the ground particles seen in the anniversary video. Although, the screenshot of Varus and Ashe were assets from Wild Rift along with Wild Rift user interface. In the frame, you could see Varus and Ashe attacking a large massive image of the League item Static Shiv. Presumably the image of static shiv was a placeholder image for a boss.
Moreover, there was a clip in the video where Lulu was being designed for Project F in Unreal Engine. This Lulu was distinguished from the Lulu in League of Legends. Therefore, it’s safe to conclude, Lulu was at the least being designed in the early development stage.
Therefore, it is possible Varus and Ashe could be in Project F.
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Possible Champion: Lulu

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In-development Lulu
Lulu is a yordle from Bandle City. Specifically she is fae sorceress. While wandering in Runeterra she befriended a fairy named Pix. We she delighter to find many of her newfound abilities remained while back in Bandle City.
During gameplay, Lulu is a ranged support champion. He has a lot of crowd control and can provide her allies with buffs such as shields, increased health and movement speed.
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Possible Champion: Ashe

Ashe is an Iceborn Warmother. She is from an inhospitable norther region called the Freljord. She leads the Avarosans, which is one of the three major tribes of the Freljord.
In League of Legends, is a ranged damage dealer, known as an ADC (attack damage carry). Ashe also features support features in her kit, such as slows, and revealing fog of war for the team.
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Possible Champion: Varus

Varus used to be a magically ascended hunter from Shurima ages ago. After the loss of their king, his kind had succumb to insanity and blood magic, becoming Darkin and wreaking havoc on Runeterra. The Darkin were imprisoned in their weapons by the Aspects. Accordingly, Varus in his bow. Two Ionian men relinquished Varus. Now Varus consists of a Darkin and two men who resist his every more.
Varus is an ADC, with a mix of attack and magical damage.
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Classes in Project F

Several League of Legends champions will be designed in Project F. We also know Project F is an action roleplaying game with a cooperative option. With the brief gameplay in mind, each champion will be unique. As a result, Project F could implement at the very least a basic class system. This is an role-playing game after all.
For example, Blitzcrank make possess tankier stats such as increased health, resistances, and mitigative abilities.
Next, there could be support classes and mage support classes. If League of Legends is to be reimagined, Lux would fall into the mage-support class type. Also, Lulu would belong to the support-mage class type.
Another class would be ranged damage dealers. Naturally, Ezreal and Varus would belong to this category.
We’ve yet to see a brawler, or physical fighting class type. Would would an Action RPG be without one. It would be interesting to see champions such as Darius, Garen, Tryndamere, Olaf and others of the like fit this role.
It’s possible Assassins could be a class in Project F. We have a ton of them in League already. Assassins champions that come to mind include, Nocturne, Evelyn, Talon, and Fizz.

Who is Working on Project F?

We currently know of one Riot employees working on Project F.

Kate Chironis

We believe Kate Chironis is the design director for Riot Games’ Project F, the upcoming ARPG. If so, then she started the early development of Project F when there were only three designers. Here’s what Kate had to say.

I helped bootstrap a new game as one of three early designers on the project. I focused on core game loop, player systems, the fundamental building blocks of enemies/encounters/AI, and helping establish the initial vision for several different types of content in the game. I prototyped heavily during this time period to “find the fun” in UE4/Blueprint.Kate - LinkedIn

It’s likely the quote from Kate refers to Project F because in the League Anniversary from October 2019, we can see Kate working on Project F.

Riot Project F Release Date

We’re not sure when Riot Project F will release. Even Kate Chironis, a likely Project F employee said she’s unsure of the release date.
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I am optimistic that players will get to see it, but I don’t know when.
Kate Chironis – Twitter

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Nonetheless, we can speculate the game have a trailer, gameplay or other public media in late 2024. Remember, Project F likely began around pre-development in May 2022. This is based on Kate’s start date at Riot Games from her LinkedIn experience. In the experience description she describes work that lines up with Project F. Furthermore, 17 months later, Riot showed an early development of Project F where Kate was actively iterating.

Summary

Let’s summarize what we know about Riot Project F, the in-development ARPG. Project F appears to be non-canon. We saw three unrelated champions fighting alongside each other. Specifically, Ezreal, Blitzcrank, and Lux generally do not interact in canon lore. Ezreal is from Piltover, explores Shurima. Lux is from Demacia, and Blitzcrank is bound to Zaun as far as we know. To have all three of them fighting alongside a common enemy defies canon lore.
Also, Project F looks to be a casual friendly game. We believe it would make a great party/couch game. It wouldn’t be a surprise if this game became available for PlayStation, Xbox, Switch, and PC. Project F does not appear to be graphically intensive. It comes off as a nice coop couch game you’d play on the weekends with friends.
Project F will be created in Unreal Engine. We’re unsure whether it’s Unreal Engine 5 or 4. We can expect to play as several champions such as, Blitzcrank, Lux, Ezreal, Lulu and likely more.
Stay tuned for more updates on Riot’s upcoming Project F.
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Source: TheRiotMMO

So the discourse surrounding what a “proper” adaptation of the series ought to be is often met with “just adapt the games directly”. Not an insane suggestion, but I think the one hick-up in that is the Master Chief himself.
Not because he wears his armor all the time or because he doesn’t talk much, but because I can’t really say he has much of a story in the original trilogy.
A “story” in the context i’m talking about is different from the “plot” of things. The distinction being “plot” is what happens in a narrative, the actual mechanics of how it progresses, while the “story” is what the narrative is about, the themes and conflicts of the narrative. “Conflict” also doesn’t mean the physical trials a character faces, but the internal one’s.
With that being said, I don’t think Chief has any story in the original trilogy. He has no wants or desires, no conflicts of interest, no conflicts that isn’t literally a conflict. He never second guesses himself, doesn’t even really think for himself.
Compare him to the Arbiter, who questions what he believes, butts heads with others over reasons beyond physical conflict, and even changes by the end. Chief undergoes no such journey, he starts off as a stoic soldier and ends the third game the same.
Don’t take this the wrong, Chief is a good character, I like him a lot. Hot Take, but I don’t even think this is much of a problem for the games, as he serves as a cypher for a lot of them (yes, he is own character as well, these are not conflicting ideas).
But for adapting the character, unless your willing to make some changes to his characterization Will be needed. “He’s nice” isn’t a compelling character, that can be part of their characterization, but it needs to be a bit more.
Honestly, Chief didn’t really gain any narrative depth until the 343 era, where he struggles often with his duty and comes into conflict with people who are on his side, but he “disagrees” with, putting it lightly.
I failed to mention the books, because yes, they have done a good job since the beginning of doing just this. But the Bungie games always ran with simple narratives that forwent the kinda depth for Chief. Not a sin, but it also doesn’t make for an easy adaption.
I expect this may ruffle some feathers as my posts often do, but genuinely i’d like to hear what others feel on the matter.

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Most overarching narrative cartoon shows during the modern years and days have been becoming deep with depth and focusing on lore, however, as Total Drama is one of the modern overarching narrative cartoon shows. Have any of you noticed that Total Drama unlike majority of the other modern overarching narrative cartoon shows doesn't do depth and lore?

Hello, I didn’t really know how else to word the heading, but in this post I’ll be talking about the inconsistencies between ST1 and ST4.
I’m currently rewatching ST1 and I’m confused by almost everything. How did will use the Christmas lights? How did will break through the wall and then close it while talking to Joyce? How did random portals to the upside down open, like the one at the bottom of a tree?
To begin, I want to talk about the lights; how does will know where they are if the upside down and it’s time froze to the day that will went missing? In ST4, when Nancy, Eddie, and Robin are looking for Nancy’s gun, they realize that the gun isn’t there due to the upside down being in the past; stuck in the day that will first went missing. If every object was stuck at the exact time will went missing, and nothing could be added/changed to/about the upside down, how did Will see the Christmas lights?
I don’t want to get in-depth with any of the other inconsistencies I mentioned, as I believe you, the reader, get my point. Anyone have any theories as to how will saw those lights in ST1?

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Since I'm always gliding down from the shrine, I decided to build the house with social quarters up stairs to take advantage of the view. I was kind of annoyed with the component limitation at first, but quite happy with how the house turned out.

im new to the game (started yesterday) but to go more in depth, i used to get offers on the middle left side of my screen to redeem awards like 8 eggs or 4k meat IF i watched an ad. after getting to level 5, those offers disappeared as in, they stopped showing up… is that normal? i didnt buy any subscription to get rid of ads.

I'm back with the next worlds primer following the spring cups. To reiterate this is meant to be a summary of how teams/fans should feel about the likelihood of making worlds, either main event or wildcard.
For info on how regions get spots, please see my previous post. (38) Worlds Region spots primer : RocketLeagueEsports (reddit.com)
I am not going to go in depth here, I suspect that at some point rubunaul will so keep an eye out if you are interested in that. If anyone has any questions, please let me know.

Should qualify directly to main event

• NA
  • GenG*
  • Faze*
• EU
  • KC*
  • Liquid*
  • Vitality

These teams should qualify directly to the main event barring disaster.
*Team has mathmatically qualified for worlds wildcard.

Serious competitors for main event

• NA
  • Complexity
• EU
  • Moist
• SAM
  • Secret
  • KRU
  • NIP

These teams are those that are virtually guaranteed to make at least the wildcard and have a reasonably good chance at qualifying directly to the main event.
Most of this comes down to who gets the last worlds wildcard spot between NA/EU/possibly MENA.
Huge change in EU here with Moist performing well and in good position for the major they are very likely to pass OXG for the 4th spot and a chance at the main event depending on how EU4 does in the major.
For SAM, the race for the top seed is now much more interesting. With NIP and Kru now in position for the two major spots it could very easily be a three-team race going into worlds. And to make it more interesting while it is likely that SAM will get a main event spot its not guaranteed, so whoever ends 3rd will have a small chance of missing worlds entirely.

Wildcard bound

• NA
  • G2
  • V1
  • SSG
• EU
  • OXG
  • BDS
• OCE
  • KCP
• MENA
  • Falcons
  • Rule One
• APAC
  • Elevate
  • Gladiators
• SSA
  • Limitless*

These are teams that are most certainly going to the wildcard but don't have much of a path to qualify directly into the main event.
G2 has moved down a group now. Given where they are they would need a strong invitational to make the major. Even if they do so they would still be reliant on a strong major to pass COL or NA keeping the 4th spot. And if they fail to make the major then there is a good chance they can be passed by V1 and/or SSG.
BDS now looks very liekly to make the major and thus (barring crazy scenarios) worlds.
KCP has enough of a lead over PWR (32 points) and GZG (36) to likely maintain a top 2 spot even without making major.
For MENA with Rule One going out in third the major spot now comes down to whoever wins that event, meaning that both teams now face an unlikely chance having to make the major and then having a great run.
*Team has mathmatically qualified for worlds wildcard and cannot make the main event.

Reasonable chance at making wildcard

• NA
  • Optic
  • Furia
  • NRG
• EU
  • BDS
  • G1
• OCE
  • PWR
  • GZG
• SSA
  • Nixuh
  • Orlando Pirates
  • French Class

These are teams that are competing for and have a reasonable pathway to making worlds wildcard event.
For NA Optic seems to be in the drivers seat now given their possible major spot, however they still need to stay ahead of the other teams and have NA keep their extra spot.
For EU if PSG Tundra outperforms G1 in the invitational then they will move up to 7th, whichever teams ends there will make it into the wildcard if EU gets an additional main event spot. (And if either of these teams does make a deep run and make the major they could have a chance of surpassing BDS)
SSA might actually be one of the most interesting races there are 3 teams within 4 points for the #2 seed.

Still Technically Alive

• NA
  • Dignitas
  • Shopify
  • KOI
  • M80
  • Sup
• EU
  • Luna Galaxy
  • Suhhh
  • Williams Resolve
  • Guild
  • Monaco Esports
  • FUFAXDOP
  • Hogan Mode
• OCE
  • Merge
  • The him police
  • Tsurani
  • 95X Esports
• SAM
  • eRa
  • Exceed
  • w7m
  • True Nuetral
  • EndGame
• MENA
  • Twisted Minds
  • Geekay Esportx
  • Infinity
• APAC
  • Patriots
  • Paradigm
  • DeToNator
• SSA
  • White Rabbit Gaming

For these teams they would need to make the major, and even then, would probably need a deep run or fortunate break from other teams.

Mathmatically eliminated

Everyone else

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I have been lurking on this forum and considering signing up for the program for a while.
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On this forum there are varied responses on what level of depth is required for the math courses. All I am trying to do is get some skillsets in analytics/machine learning to keep myself relevant for the future.
With that said, will this program help and what should be my best course of action to fill the massive math gap I currently have. Taking the math courses at community college have been an option but that would take me more than 2 years to complete and not sure if that is worth the effort.
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so for context im going to my first concert with a friend in a few weeks and i was talking about it with my bf. hes worried about my safety ofc cause what if anything happens to me and all that. paranoid me already thought about most precautions (extra sensoinsulin stuff/blocker for drinks i got a while ago/snacks/etc).
ANYWAY. so i jokingly asked if he wanted me to give him occasional updates on what my bloods are throughout mostly jokingly since id have to keep an eye on them anyway (esp if i drink + the moving about). i also added that i could give him a crash course on bg levels/effects of them tomorrow since we're meeting up anyway.
he goes "yes please" and the second he sent that it just made me really really unnecessarily happy and i dont even know if it's a "yes hes concerned about my health/disease", "he wants to know about my disease" or just the relief of more people except my mum knowing about my t1 (but more in depth since my friends know about it just dont fully understand it lol).
i was just wondering if anyone else gets happy when people want to know. especially if it's a close friend/loved one. im still really giddy while writing this and i havent been able to stop smiling for a good few minutes now haha.
kind of excited to explain stuff to him tomorrow.

Honestly, I am so tired of having relationships that feel like they only take from me. Taking my emotional energy, draining me of my social battery, adding nothing really to my life... all of these reasons are why I would rather just be alone and away from people. I used to think that maybe I didn't like people altogether but I think I just don't like these types of relationships. I actually really like the kinds of relationships that feel low effort, the types of connections where you can literally spend so much time together and not even be doing much of anything. There are no expectations for you to do or be anything or anyone. It's just freeing to have these relationships in your life in comparison to the other kinds that only take take take from you.
In my last posts, I was very sad and wanted to give up on relationships altogether, but after a lot of the responses from very nice people on this subreddit, I have changed my mind. After reflecting on the kinds of relationships I would like to have in my life, I realized that I love these easier and less demanding kinds of relationships with people. The only real problem I have is that I tend to attract people who need things from me. It's weird because I feel like they sense that I can provide that emotional support and that, in a way, healing to them.
I think the best way forward is to just be mindful that people are drawn to me in this type of way and to make sure I don't let myself give of myself too much to them. I don't want to be anyone's hero or savior or healer. I want to live my own life and have people around me who just want to do the same. I rarely ever need emotional support from other people because I would rather do that work on my own so as to not burden anyone or pull anyone into all of my inner chaos. It never really helps to let people in because they either get really overwhelmed by the depths of my emotionality, or they just struggle to understand where I am coming from so I end up just feeling even more alone.
The different approach I am speaking of is this, I want to show up as whole, content, and innerly fulfilled on my own so that when I show up in relationships I am not coming from a place of needing to take or fulfill any needs through other people. I don't want to show up in relationships with expectations from other people, like "I need you to respond to my text immediately or else I will be sad" or "I need you to listen to me and provide me with emotional support or else you are a bad friend/partneetc. to me."
I guess an easier way of putting it is "I will take care of me and you will take care of you." Rather than the previous way of "I need you to take care of me and I will take care of you." I am so done with that outdated relationship dynamic. I will be responsible for meeting all of my needs and I only hope to find others who are capable and self aware enough to do the same. That's all. :)