Hello! Consolidating past posts into one final lot, a lot of stuff purchased dating back the past decade. Continental US shipping $5, shipping using new BagsUnlimited mailers with records outside sleeves/proper shipping methods. PayPal only, no Friends & Family. Grading is conservative. Message if interested. Records that are $5 and under I'll do 3-for-$15 w/ free shipping.
Obliteration - Nekropsalms (Yellow) VG+ - $10
Shining - IX Everyone, Everything, Everywhere, Ends (First Pressing Black) VG+ - $10
Toxik Death - Happy Fukking Holocaust (VG+) - $10
Mayhem - Live in Leipzig (Purple) VG, creasing on corner - $15
Cattle Decapitation - The Harvest Floor (2014 Reissue - Silver w/ Red Splattter) VG+, cover wear -- $15
Today is the Day - Animal Mother (VG) -$5
Excel - The Jokes On You (Southern Lord 2016 Reissue) VG edge wear - $8
Hells Headbangers Compilation Vol. 6 2xLP (VG) - $4
The Funeral Orchestra - Feeding the Abyss Reissue (G, Corner major bending) - $4
Statiqbloom - Mask Visions Poison (Clear) VG+ -- $8
Cloud Mouth - That Ghost is Always With Me (Chron Cloud) VG+ - $4
Rodeo Idiot Engine - Consequences (White with Black Haze, VG w/ corners that have creasing -- $4
WarHorse - As Heaven Turns To Ash (Black, VG+) -- $7
Aura Noir - Black Thrash Attack (Black - Neseblod Reissue VG+) -- $12
Bleak - We Deserve Our Failures (Blue, VG+) -- $4
Karma to Burn - S/T (2014 Metal Blade, VG+) -- $9
Thrones - Day Late, Dollar Short (Grey 2005 Southern Lord, VG+) -- $9
Class of Nuke 'em High - Soundtrack (2014 180G, VG+) -- $13
The Music of Cosmos (Japan, VG+) -- $5
The Soft Pink Truth -- Why Do The Heathen Rage? (Pink, VG+) -- $8
BIT.TRIP's Greatest Chips (Multicolored Picture Disc, VG+) -- $8
The Mothers -- Over-Nite Sensation, MS 2149 1973 Gatefold – Fair Plus (Disc playable, has some wear, gatefold is in tact but heavy wear on corners and edges) – $4
Berlin - Pleasure Victim – 1983 Reissue – Good (price stickers on bottom line, wear on edges) – $4
Michael Jackson - Thriller – 1982 Stereo – Poor (Album has severe damage on bottom of cover) – $4
Michael Jackson - Black or White Single 1991 – Good (sticker wear on front and back cover) – $4
Iron Butterly - In-A-Gadda-Da-Vida -- ATCO SD 33-250 -- Fair Plus (cover weabends) -- $4
John Lennon/Yoko Ono -- Double Fantasy -- 1980 Geffen -- G (slight creases along edge of cover) -- $4
The Jam -- All Mod Cons --1978 -- G (slight creases along edge of cover) -- $4
The United States of America -- S/T 2008 Reissue -- VG (some wear on cover, comes with original envelope sleeve) -- $12
Wes Montgomery -- Tequila -- Japan Import -- G (some wear on cover) -- $12
Wake Up You! The Rise and Fall of Nigerian Rock 1972-1977 Vol. 1 - (2016) - VG (Originally came with a paperback book separate, that's not included) - $9
Songs and Dance of Syria - G (shelf wear along edges) - $4
Land of Africa - 1985 12" 45rpm - G (weabends on corners/edges) - $4
National Wake - Walk in Africa 1979-81 (if unfamiliar, kind of like a South African Clash or Minutemen) - 2013 Light in the Attic Records - VG - $6
Shugo Tokumaru - L.S.T. (White w/ Black Marble) VG+ -- $12
Washed Out - Paracosm (Black) VG+ -- $15
Violent Sons - Nothing As It Seems (Smoke) VG - $7
Jaguar Love - Hologram Jams, VG - $8
Native - Wrestling Moves (Repress Clear Red w/ Black Smoke) VG+ - $12
Dyse - Das Nation (White VG - $15
Yngwie Malmsteen - Rising Force - 1984 Black - Good Plus (some wear around edges) - $10
I Don't Want To Be A Part Of Your So Called Punk - Compilation (Norway punk compilation) VG - $10Entrance - Prayer of Death , VG+ - $10
Carpathian - Isolation (No cover) - $4
Ramming Speed/ANS 12" Split, VG+ -- $7
Electric Eel Shock - Transworld Ultra Rock -- Blue -- Good plus (some general wear; cover is autographed by band member) -- $10
Man or Astro-man? - Experiment Zero -- 2010 reissue, VG -- $10
The Misfits - WCBN Michigan Live (Blue Translucent 1989 Vinyl Not On Label), Good (some wear and creasing along jacket) https://www.discogs.com/release/2128191-The-Misfits-Michigan-WCBN -- Please only reach out if serious and have previous trades for this one, open to discussing it as there's just not a ton out there on it and bootlegs aren't on Discogs -- $65
Velvet Underground - S/T (Either 2005 or 2012 pressing, can't discern and purchased in early 2010s so hard to say, any advice appreciated) -- Good Plus (some cover dents on corners) - $15
Additionally, a lot of three Rough Guide records ($15). These were ordered a few years ago from Music Rough Guides and they shipped them poorly, so each has noticeable sleeve dings on the corners. With that said, the records themselves are in VG+ condition. Included are:
Rough Guide to African Blues
Rough Guide to the Music of Ethiopia
Rough Guide to African Rare Groove Volume 1

Apologies in advance, I'm upset and it's hard to put what I want to say properly when it's asking for advice.
Background: I am Autistic - diagnosed at 13, struggled throughout school until I dropped out at 16 and then found that law was my calling in my early 20s, did a HE course to get into uni, and I'm now here in my late 20s about to finish.
I'm graduating soon with a 2:1 law degree from a non-RG uni (not a high 2:1, but given I have some disabilities, had no support with my conditions, had a couple hospitalisations and chronic pain,severe depression and battling some heavy issues including recently losing damn near everything I didn't bring to uni in a storage unit fire, I think I did alright?).
I have been applying for law firms since my first year, almost 3 years ago. I know what kind of firms I want (size, location, expertise), what areas I may enjoy, etc. I don't know where I am going wrong aside from the Watson Glaser or whatever psychometric/games-based/SJT test that are demanded to advance. I do ask that such tests not be a factor in my application (there is evidence that such tests are ableist against neurodivergent people due to the cognitive/critical thinking aspects being different to neurotypicals, meaning they will ultimately perform worse and such tests should have an alternative for ND people.) and it's okay, but some just flat out refuse and say "it wouldn't be fair to the non-disabled students".
I am terrified of graduating without anything lined up. I'll be an unemployed graduate. I have kept trying this year to apply and got about 5 applications to firms, but they ultimately rejected me. I've been on multiple mentoring schemes, been a Finalist in a couple of the biggest student awards in the country and am close to a hefty scholarship for a possible Masters. I've used these finalist positions to get an internship at a global company in my second year, and have spoken to law firms and international companies about how the application process can be ableist as part of these awards' aftermath, AND mentored 6 people this year for one of the awards; four of which got to the Final. All of this while doing multiple part time jobs to help me financially survive these past 3 years and working in my uni's Law Clinic, but nothing has changed. I have pushed myself more than I probably should do to just try and be like the non-disabled students who are able to get 2:1s, gone for opportunities wherever possible, had mentors go over my applications as brutally as possible, and I have gotten no where. I have reached out to my old recruitment agency in London to find something once I finish, but they don't typically do law/legal jobs, but at least it would be something while I keep trying?
I want to know what else I can do. I am trying so hard but I don't understand how I can do all this. Does anyone who is autistic or maybe has a neurodivergent condition have any advice on what I can do? If there is a legal unicorn on here who is disabled (or has disabilities - I know some say one and others say the other) and has gotten to that coveted training contract offer, HOW?! I want to be a part of the legal sector and I am finding that with every "no", every barricade, I don't see how I can continue.
If anyone has had this experience graduating without anything lined up - genuinely, anyone; not just disabled people - what did you do? How did you cope? Where did you apply or go to in order to be able to find a job? What advice can you give to a, frankly, scared and confused soon-to-be graduate that's losing hope of getting into her chosen careesector?

What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.

• My younger sister would like to be able to play games like Fortnite, GTA, and just AAA games in general. Basic school programs like PPT, Word, should work on almost anything I assume?

What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?

• ~$750, absolute max of $800

When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.

• ASAP, a week from now at most

What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc)

• Everything except a mouse

Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?

• Georgia, United States. There's a Microcenter about half an hour away from me.

If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.

• Uhuru brand mouse I bought from amazon a while back. Model is WM-02L.

Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?

• I'm not interested in overclocking

Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)

• Would prefer a decent amount of space/storage for games. Other than that, no specific preferences.

What type of network connectivity do you need? (Wired and/or WiFi) If WiFi is needed and you would like to find the fastest match for your wireless router, please list any specifics.

• WiFi, don't really know the specifics

Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?

• Nope!

Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?

• Not really a need, but Windows 11 is a preference

Extra info or particulars:

Elvis isn’t dead, he just went home.
Exploratory scout DSX862-QQ1 was cruising along at approximately 80% of lightspeed on an outer spiral arm of the galaxy it was native to. Its mission, issued by the Greater Council Exploratory Committee, was to seek out new life, new civilizations, points of scientific interest, and potential future colonies.
80% of the speed of light was a tremendous pace, even for a craft built by a galactic community as ancient as the Greater Council, but its particle shield was more than up to the task, and it allowed the scout to scoop interstellar dust and hydrogen to refuel itself, slowly charging its drives for the next pinch-jump. Each jump would catapult the little craft a hundred light years forwards, followed by another sub-light cruise to analyse, recharge and listen. It wasn’t expected to find much out here. Life had evolved in the warm, bright galactic core, entire civilizations meeting within decades of reaching orbit of their respective home worlds. Resources were plentiful, many of them had been talking for centuries before meeting face to face, with only years of communications lag, instead of the decades or centuries between the species evolving further out, in the colder reaches.
Out here, on the arm, everything was cold. Even the search for possible colony sites and resources was more a formality, record keeping for the sake of the endless bureaucracy that infested the Council.
So, it had come as a tremendous surprise to the scouts simple intelligence when it picked up the ghostly whisper of a deliberate radio signal.
Pulses, blips, zaps, hisses, all were the normal background noise of the cosmos, but this was a firm BUZZ. Soon followed by strings and knots of beeps. The scout rotates, following its radio antenna ‘nose’ to lock in a direction towards the noise. It spooled up its pinch-drive, and jumps, a few lightyears, not enough to drain its energies, but just enough to allow it to triangulate. Then jump again, to get a third point. A fourth, a fifth.
A yellow star, a few billion years old, spectral and gravitational indications speaking of gas giants, rocky and icy bodies, and a potential habitable zone with a world skimming just along the outer edge of the habitable zone. The source of the signals.
The scout spooled its pinch-drive once more, preparing to make the thirty something lightyear jump to close with the noisy world.
It also began the process of waking up its Commander.
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Kevin Karl and the Karlsons wound down their last song of the evening, sweating under the stage lights and bathed in the adoration of the crowd. This was IT, the high they had all dreamed of, had chased through bars, opening acts, and finally, after just a few years, headline act of a whole show!
They’d bopped along to the other acts on that night, friends all, they’d been on tour together for weeks across the entire USA and would be playing two more shows before wrapping up for the year.
Off-stage, past the cheering, singing, breathless fans of rock and roll, brought together by the joy of the new genre that seemed to defy boundaries and break the locks of society. When they played, no-one saw the colour of their skin, Joeys scars, Mikes club foot. The band couldn’t make out individuals in the crowd. They saw humanity, united and beautiful, wrapped in the music they played.
One of the opening acts were gathered back stage, still bouncing, and their singer passed over a reefer cigarette. Kevin took a drag, feeling the smoke sooth his nerves as he passed it on, then he choked and laughed. “That was some show, could you feel them?”
The other singer, Jack ‘Wabbit’ let out a howl, “Hell yeah baby, felt like lightning, smooth lightning all through… wait, that gives me an idea for a song!”
He was off, crouching awkwardly as he pulled a pencil and notebook from somewhere and started scribbling.
Kevin chuckled, took a beer from Joey, and started walking towards the car. While far from brand new, it was big enough to take the band in relative comfort, while the instruments and gear followed in trucks. He climbed in back, sprawling across the bench, and closed his eyes. It was a thousand miles to the next venue, they were already running late to start getting organised, but he needed just a moment.
He was woken by a nudge. “Hey, Kev, you want a ride down to Jacksonville? Wabbit says his cousin has a plane, can take you both to Florida, rest of us will come down with the trucks, faster then the Catalina can get us there.”
Kevin blinked, groggy, but hanging on to getting to the next stop in comfort.
“Damn, yeah, I’m in! No way I’m passing up a planeride in comfort!”
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The commander of DSX862-QQ1 listened to the sounds of the boisterous world her small ship had discovered. To say it was barely habitable was an understatement. Plenty worlds had higher gravity, but not the weather extremes this one had. Others had far worse weather but lacked the deadly pathogens that were detectable in the outer reaches of the atmosphere. Others still had some version or variation of every horrific threat this single world had, but never so many of them wrapped into one pristine appearing blue and green ball of life that seemed determined to survive by any means necessary.
She was impressed that life had evolved to multicellular levels at all, never mind to the point where it had achieved radio broadcast, powered flight and, if the latest scans were accurate, atomic power, weaponry, and the rudiments of space flight under development.
This world was only a few centuries from needing a first contact delegation, she could sense it.
If they survived. She’d seen plenty of far more peaceful civilisations wipe themselves out before achieving their full potential after all, and the light-delayed data her ship had gathered on the way in indicated that the primary species of this world **really** liked to fight one another.
Well, it wasn’t as if the Greater Council was perfect. A few hundred worlds, usually half at odds with the other half, or outright warring with the non-aligned groups surrounding them. Over what, she could hardly imagine, resources weren’t scarce, habitable worlds almost common, matters of religion seemed pointless to her.
Rather than be caught up in the endless squabbling, she’d worked to be assigned a scout ship, and only went ‘home’ when the databanks were full or the hull degraded.
She flipped idly through the signals her ship was pulling in. Mostly simple vocal signals, some barely encrypted, likely military, the rest completely in the clear. For a while there had been a simple video signal modulated as well, the computers now busy going through it to compile a useable language interface.
Her digit stopped, as one transmission caught her attention. There was a voice there, the words as yet unintelligible, but it was laced through, interwoven with, strung around a **sound**.
It wasn’t the first she’d heard of music from this world, nor even the first she’d heard following this particular set of musical rules, but there was something about **this** voice… It reached inside her, and she felt her soul reach out to embrace it.
It was memetic, the warning symbol now flashing on her display confirming what she already knew, but memetics were weapons, hazards, dangers to be filtered and avoided, while this?
It spoke of pain, it sang of loss, and heartbreak and joy and unity and togetherness. It sent her thoughts on strange tangents where her actions saved worlds, brought together warning species, enabled peace…
She shook off the effects as the music faded out and a smooth voice mumbled something, before the next song started. That too, touched her, yet lacked the sheer power of the first, and she was able to shut off the recording with a shaky digit.
She fumbled the ships controls, aligning with the source of the original transmission. A rickety looking steel tower with several high-powered emitters inside a small building next to it. Clearly not the source of the music itself, merely a civilian broadcast station, the music an entertainment medium.
She turned her attention then, to discovering what, or who, had created such a wonder.
++++++
Kevin stared at the airplane. It looked fresh, but old.
“War surplus, picked her up for a song when she was gonna be dumped out in a desert!” Wabbits cousin was a skinny boy, barely out of his teens, but with the quick and sure motions of an expert when he touched his beloved machine. “I heard you guys playing last night, gotta say, it changed my mind about black folks. Always thought to myself, to each their own right? And the laws are that way too, it made sense, but man, the way you sang, how the band played, I wanted to meet you, to say, you got me to see more. Like how the world looks from way up high, we’re all just one piece of something, right? And I think the world might be less ugly that way. So, I said to my cousin, man, I want to help out, my folks left me a pile of cash, I have my baby here, and if you want, I’ll take you where you gotta go.”
He stopped, looking at the ground, and although Kevin was tempted to accept the offer on the spot, but the kid was offering to sideline everything to ferry around his ass?
“Well, damn, listen man, thanks, and I’m grateful you’re giving us a ride to Jacksonville, but lets take it easy right? See how you feel after the flight and if you want to come to the show, sure, I’ll get you in. I can’t pay for regular flights though, I’m already paying for my car! Besides, as much as I need to get down there and make sure everythings golden, I can’t go leaving my band behind every time!”
“Oh, right, no it’s cool, if they want a ride too its all good. I want to make a change, and helping you out helps me do that, right? If you want to talk money, heck, I could bankroll a few shows, take a percentage in return, but its not about the money. Man you changed me, in a good way. I think you could do the same for people like me! You, uh. I stopped hating, you know? Feels good.”
Kevin started to wonder if he shouldn’t have just curled back up on his car bench and stayed asleep. “Okay, I’m on board, if you want to take the rest of my guys too, that’s great, we all get to our next stop on time, you get a show, and if you still want to help us out, we can look at more shows after the tour. Sound fair?”
They shook hands. Pete, as he turned out to be named, started fussing with his airplane again, and removing what he termed ‘junk’ from the hold and other parts of the craft, which to Kevins untrained eye all looked vaguely important, but were ‘heavy’.
He boarded with his band, and Wabbit, who had his own guitar with him, and as the airplane started taxying, amidst the reefer smoke, and snippets of song Wabbit was working on, they settled down for the flight.
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DSX862-QQ1’s commander was hampered in her efforts to locate the origin of the music she had heard by the lack of any real information link between radio and physical locations. There was undoubtably ground-based cable she couldn’t tap, but there was no evidence of a wide area data network, and given the technology of the ‘Humans’ she wasn’t surprised.
Just frustrated.
Nonetheless, she was able to identify the singer, and his ‘band’ who played the instruments that had so perfectly twinned with his voice. She wondered how a purely non-verbal species would have received his music. Would they have felt what she felt just through the radio signal? Something she would learn, in time. Her plan was simple, she’d locate her subject, and deploy a drone to follow him. Wherever he played, her drone would invisibly follow, recording his music in perfect fidelity.
She’d return home, and share his music. Something no-one had heard before, had never experienced, and perhaps, it would make them see, and feel, what she had when hearing it.
The ship pinged, it had located a small heavier than air craft that had a high probability of carrying her quarry. It was moving at less than a third of the local speed of sound, but was being strangely buffeted. The computer flashed warning symbols on sections of the craft. Simple, but not primitive, the craft was perfectly designed for the task it was meant to perform, very good engineering had gone into creating it.
Yet it was failing, structurally, air pressures flowing over it far in excess for which it had been designed, one of this worlds unique weather phenomenon threatening to rip it apart.
Amidst the horror of realizing she was about to witness the death of those individuals who had touched her very soul, she recognized the craft was operating in excess of two hundred percent its designed stress ratings.
It was a toughness that bought a few seconds of thought. Of decision, and rash, perhaps illegal, action.
Digits brushed controls, summoning a hum from the depths of her ship. The fuel capture system was not meant for rescue, in fact, using for anything other than non-living mass was considered a breach of several laws. First and foremost, it was a very focusable disintegration array, making it a terrifying weapon. Secondly, it could collect the energy released by the disintegration and funnel it into storage cells to fuel the engines.
Thirdly, and this was the illegal part, her scoutships sensors could record exactly how the disintegrated matter had been arranged, down to the subatomic level, and the array could be reprogrammed to then reverse the process to convert the captured energy back into the original thing.
Used on an interesting rock, this was fine. On a living being it was murder at best and non-consensual cloning at worst.
Her digit pressed down firmly on the energize symbol that appeared below her hacked override code.
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The aircraft finally surrendered to the windsheer pulling at it, fragmenting in a shimmering cloud of metallic fragments that erupt in a fireball as unspent aviation fuel is ignited.
Of the passengers and pilot, no trace was ever found, their deaths mourned by millions, in part for the loss of young people who had given the world such wonderful music, but also the sense of loss at the music they would now never be able to play. A pilot who had changed his beliefs and committed himself to promoting the ones who changed him for the better, a brilliant young singer and songwriter, and a band who could touch souls, lost forever.
The great changes they had been about to unleash would not take place. Or at least, not take place as quickly. The seeds had been planted, as other young people took up their instruments, raised their voices in song, and set out to change hearts and minds their own way.
Over the course of the centuries before Humanity could reach the stars as a single family, a steady stream of visitors dropped by the musical ball of rock. To observe, to listen, to rescue, when the opportunity arose.

Hello all, asking for some local advise. I’ll be moving (within town) in a couple months, and there is a 4 day gap between my current lease ending and my new lease beginning. How sketchy would y’all say it is to just keep my possessions in a Uhaul for those few days? Should I bite the bullet and get a storage unit? Looking to save money and moving effort as much as possible. Thanks in advance for your friendly input.

How do you focus your credit card spend?
I currently have all Chase cards, and recently got the Citi AAdvantage card (that gives you admirals club access.)
I have a business that spends about 10,000 on credit cards monthly, and then also spends about 14,000 monthly on direct draft things that I think I can change to mailed checks via Plastiq.
I personally use credit cards a lot.
My question … how do you focus your spend? I was going to try to divert about $12,000/month to AAdvantage so that I can get miles and status. However the status with AA doesn’t seem amazing. After enough spend I can get free extra leg room seats if they exist and the occasional first class upgrade if it’s available. I never check bags, and if I ever did it’s so I frequent the $35 or whatever wouldn’t bother me.
Honestly the Citi AAdvantage credit card I got fixed my flying issues - Admirals club is great, and group 4 boarding at a minimum. That gets me on the plane and comfortable and storage for my carry on.
I know platinum, etc, gets me on the plane a little earlier which I value. And having miles to spend on trips is great. My booking of trips is always random and not based around holidays.
But I also want to focus on hotels, but have no currently loyalty at all. And sometimes the best hotels aren’t in a group. Like the Ludlow in NYC has these insane skybox rooms with like 270’ of floor to ceiling windows with ridiculous NYC views but I don’t think it’s part of any group.
Where I live is a small airport that has United and AA only, and both flights are about the same length and both flights goto one of their biggest hubs. So I only fly to one of those two hubs and then fly out from there.
I noticed anecdotally I tend to end up on American flights more than United. I think it’s because of earlier departures for American.
For hotels, I just considered not doing any spend there and just doing the Hilton card that gets you diamond status and be done with it.
My question - how do you figure out how to direct all your spend between credit card points, flights, and hotels?

For Sale single Paul C Buff Einstein E640 monolight plus softbox and accessories. (*note: calumet small light stand not included in sale, used for demonstration purposes only)
Asking price $325 for the lot, buyer pays shipping
Photo gallery https://imgur.com/a/wz8CQvu
Video of strobe firing https://imgur.com/a/l4cvFG6
Condition / Items Included

• Strobe — rarely used with a lot of life left in the bulb(s) and the unit itself is in good used condition. The reflector has some gunk(?) see photos, slight dent but not seriously deformed.
• Soft box — also rarely used and in like excellent condition. Includes inner diffusion baffle, front diffusion, front velcro grid. no holes or gunk on softbox. Original fabric bag has seen better days but does its job.
• Cyper Sync trigger transmitter + CyberSync transceiver — Works, like new. Just installed fresh battery.
• Adapter Ring — excellent used condition. No dents or issues.
• Westcott Umbrella — Used good condition. Umbrella has retractable stem, can bounce or shoot through.
• Westcott 30" 2 in 1 illuminator Reflector — like new. Has "Sunlight" on one side and Silver reflector on the other. Its a square shape with rounded corners and folds up into small circle bag.

Reason for selling
I have "upgraded" to dyna-lights and have had this in storage for several years. Time to move on.
Housekeeping
All sales final. PayPal G&S buyer pays fee. Open to sales within US buyer pays shipping. Open to local pickup in CA Bay Area. Open to reasonable and serious offers.

Tl;dr boyfriend had been shitty about moving in before and i feel too hurt to let him move in right now, even if he might have to move in with his parents.
I’ve (35F) been with my boyfriend (34M) for over four years. We’d been planning on moving in together in February of this year, with his lease ending the end of that month. He rents an apartment, I own my home (with a mortgage). He lost his job in late January and had severance until end of April. In early February we were talking about some big purchase of his he wanted to make and I made a joke that “well the mortgage needs to get paid too.” He lost his shit.
We had a huge fight and almost broke up. I told him I thought we were going to split total shared living expenses by income. Since he’s unemployed it would be zero, but when he has a job his share would only be like 1/4. I’d obviously be responsible for all improvements and repairs. I also offered a lease. He said he’d rather die than see a red cent go to benefit me. He said his current landlord fucks him over but he’d never fuck his landlord. He called me some names and drove off.
We reconciled with the requirement that we go to couples therapy. I thought we’d been making progress but a few weeks ago we had another huge fight out of nowhere where he brought up everything he’s ever had an issue with in our relationship. Me preventing him from getting fancy jobs in New York or Europe (my job requires state licensure and isn’t easy to move quickly); me being cheap and exploiting him cause we split costs of going out and travel 50/50; I’m making money emotional by expecting a contribution to living expenses; and so on.
I was totally caught off guard. I thought we’d been making such good progress in therapy, but he said only I thought that cause he just said what the therapist and I want to hear cause I’m controlling and we will do what I want anyway. I told him to go and was about ready to end it, but our therapist talked me down.
And now it’s been a month and his severance has run out and getting a job is harder than he thought, I guess. He says he can’t afford his apartment next month. I said I thought his parents were paying for it (as they’ve done when he’s been unemployed before) but apparently not. He thinks he’s going to have to move his stuff into storage and move to Chicago with his family until he gets a job again.
I told him that was rough and I’d miss him, and asked if he needed help moving into the storage unit. He said it was fine and he had it handled, but seemed mad that I didn’t offer to let him move in.
I just don’t feel it’s safe emotionally or smart in any way to let him move in now. Like even I deserve to live with someone who wants to do that to build a life with me, not from fear of being homeless. He’s been apathetic at best about moving in for years (since I bought the house in 2019), and I thought we’d progressed past that. At least until it turned out he thought he’d live with me for free, or maybe $150 worth of utilities. He says he understands my point now, but seems to forget that when he’s mad.
At the same time I feel like a piece of shit. I’ve supported him through so much, but now that he’s facing homelessness I’m balking. Even if it makes me the worst girlfriend ever, I just feel too hurt and wounded to be ready to live together. I don’t feel like I can trust him right now. Should I let him move in?

I've been using the WQXGA 2560x1600 resolution for a decade (decades?) now, and it's too much of a jolt to work at any other res including 2560x1440, which isn't tall enough. In the last few years there's been some laptops that came with a 2560x1600 screen, and that's what I'm looking for since I think the prices have fallen enough that I can afford one.
Use case will actually be more of a thin client setup where it will simply rdp over an ipsec tunnel to another system doing the heavy lifting, so the only thing that really needs to be good on the unit is the screen, keyboard, a bit of storage, and battery life. Even ram can be as little as 4/8GB as long as win7 or some flavor of linux can install on it that has an l2tp ipsec client and an rdp client. A keyboard with numpad and a larger screen (16-17") is a requirement as it's already going to be a pain to be without my model M and trackman wired.
I know there were models made by LG, Lenovo, Dell, Asus, MSI and others that have the screen (as that's usually the limiting spec), and I'm open to any manufacturer except the generic knockoff stuff (if they even made something this nice). For budget I'm trying to keep under ebay prices.
Now there is an upgrade to 2560x1600--WQUXGA 3840x2400 which I've seen in the wild that I could also potentially use since it is also 16:10, but I believe it would be too expensive right now unless someone is getting rid of one in a 'divorce sale' or other sale at an insanely good price. Still, if someone has one feel free to PM me about it.
Since I've mentioned 16:10, the predecessor to 2560x1600 was 1920x1200, but it is too low of a resolution for my use case so unfortunately those are out (unless win10 iot rdp 'scaling' of 2560x1600 onto 1920x1200 is good, but I never looked into that--feel free to enlighten me via PM if it is an option though).
Payment by Paypal and I can cover shipping to 94010 via a prepaid UPS label. Cash if local--which would be awesome because I could really use it this week.
Several purchases on homelabsales and heatware under the same user name as well as HardForum and ServeTheHome. :)
I'm sure I've missed a thing or two on my first post, so feel free to reply and I'll update the post with corrections/additions. Thank you in advance!
TL;DR - Want 2560x1600 16-17" screen laptop with full size keyboard under ebay prices with a working screen, keyboard, storage, and battery.

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Over the years I've noticed a pattern in my life with periods of stability and then everything goes sideways. I've found strength in resilience and have a knack for rebuilding and coming back stronger.
But right now I'm stuck. I'm unhappy and discontent with where I'm at and I feel like I'm in this spiral that really took a nose dive today. Homeless, hardly working, hardly paying bills, I'm just coasting and it doesnt feel good.
But there's this nagging feeling that I could still turn things around. Sometimes, I wish I could just crawl under a rock for a while and let the world go on without me. What's more likely though is that I'll pack up and move somewhere cheaper outside of California.
Part of me is tempted to hit the road again just exploring and seeing where life takes me but gas isn't cheap and my wallet isn't exactly overflowing. Sometimes I think about selling my car, packing my stuff into a storage unit and flying somewhere where my money will stretch further but that feels like pressing the reset button again.
If anyone out there has any advice or suggestions or just wants to chat, I'm all ears. Thanks for taking the time to read this.