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2008.12.25 00:33 The Place For All Things Ford Mustang
A sub dedicated to the world's most popular pony car. If you love Ford Mustangs and just about anything related to them, you can probably find something interesting here on a daily basis.
2013.07.23 23:36 JillBergman We love animals that turn into inanimate objects.
A place for anything BuBu ChaCha - the 1999 and 2001 anime series about a dog that turned into a car, and his friend, Buddy.
2023.05.30 00:24 otishank Sales tax when trading in vehicle for cheaper car
Hey y’all - I’m debating trading my 4Runner in for a significantly cheaper vehicle (resale seems is pretty good right now).
I’m in California so when you trade in a car of lesser value, you only pay the sales tax on incremental value of the vehicle you’re trading for. In this case, I’m being offered $45k for the 4Runner and am looking at a $20k vehicle. The dealer is saying I would have to pay full tax on the vehicle which I am trading for.
Im a little confused because if they valued my trade in at $10k, I’d only have to pay sales tax on the delta of incremental value. Doing the math on that, that’s half the amount of tax they had outlined for my trade in of a $45k vehicle in return for the cheaper vehicle and a check for the difference.
In short, I was kinda expecting to not have to pay sales tax on the car I’m trading for but it seems like that’s not the case. Any insights ! Thanks again!
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I’m in California so when you trade in a car of lesser value, you only pay the sales tax on incremental value of the vehicle you’re trading for. In this case, I’m being offered $45k for the 4Runner and am looking at a $20k vehicle. The dealer is saying I would have to pay full tax on the vehicle which I am trading for.
Im a little confused because if they valued my trade in at $10k, I’d only have to pay sales tax on the delta of incremental value. Doing the math on that, that’s half the amount of tax they had outlined for my trade in of a $45k vehicle in return for the cheaper vehicle and a check for the difference.
In short, I was kinda expecting to not have to pay sales tax on the car I’m trading for but it seems like that’s not the case. Any insights ! Thanks again!
2023.05.30 00:23 Vulturezz Had a nightmare where I found Albert Fish zerking it in my mom's car
Had a nightmare a couple days ago, and the only part I can remember is toward the end of the dream, where it was night and I was looking for my grandpa. I looked outside the dining room window, which granted me a view of my mom's car parkes outside. Inside, there was an old man with a weirdly familiar face masturbating in my mom's car. In the dream for some reason he was my grandpa. I ran back and started screaming for my mom. I felt a really horrible sense of dread upon seeing him in my mom's car. I collapsed onto the couch and woke up. A few minutes after waking up, I suddenly realize why the old man's face seemed so familiar to me. It was Albert Fish. Really creeped me out.
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2023.05.30 00:23 iamdeletosh Firat Inaugural Address by President Bola Ahmed Timubu
My Fellow Citizens,
I stand before you honoured to assume the sacred mandate you have given me. My love for this nation is abiding. My confidence in its people, unwavering. And my faith in God Almighty, absolute. I know that His hand shall provide the needed moral strength and clarity of purpose in those instances when we seem to have reached the limits of our human capacity.
This day is bold and majestic yet bright and full of spirit, as is our precious nation.
As a nation, we have long ago decided to march beyond the dimness of night into the open day of renewed national hope.
The question we now ask ourselves is whether to remain faithful to the work inherent in building a better society or retreat into the shadows of our unmet potential.
For me, there is but one answer. We are too great a nation and too grounded as a people to rob ourselves of our finest destiny.
This nation’s journey has been shaped by the prayers of millions, and the collective sacrifices of us all.
We have endured hardships that would have made other societies crumble.
Yet, we have shouldered the heavy burden to arrive at this SUBLIME moment where the prospect of a better future merges with our improved capacity to create that future.
To the surprise of many but not to ourselves, we have more firmly established this land as a democracy in both word and deed.
The peaceful transition from one government to another is now our political tradition. This handover symbolizes our trust in God, our enduring faith in representative governance and our belief in our ability to reshape this nation into the society it was always meant to be.
Here, permit me to say a few words to my predecessor, President Muhammadu Buhari. Mr President, you have been an honest, patriotic leader who has done his best for the nation you love. On a more personal note, you are a worthy partner and friend. May History be kind to you.
For many years, Nigeria’s critics have trafficked the rumour that our nation will break apart, even perish.
Yet here we are. We have stumbled at times, but our resilience and diversity have kept us going.
Our burdens may make us bend at times, but they shall never break us.
Instead, we stand forth as Africa’s most populous nation and as the best hope and strongest champion of the Black Race.
As citizens, we declare as one unified people devoted to one unified national cause, that as long as this world exists, NIGERIA SHALL EXIST.
Today, Fate and Destiny join together to place the torch of human progress in our very hands. We dare not let it slip.
We lift high this torch so that it might shine on every household and in every heart that calls itself Nigerian. We hold this beam aloft because it lights our path with compassion, brotherhood, and peace. May this great light never EXTINGUISH.
Our administration shall govern on your behalf but never rule over you. We shall consult and dialogue but never dictate. We shall reach out to all but never put down a single person for holding views contrary to our own.
We are here to further mend and heal this nation, not tear and injure it.
In this vein, may I offer a few comments regarding the election that brought us to this juncture. It was a hard fought contest. And it was also fairly won. Since the advent of the Fourth Republic, Nigeria has not held an election of better quality.
The outcome reflected the will of the people. However, my victory does not render me any more Nigerian than my opponents. Nor does it render them any less patriotic.
They shall forever be my fellow compatriots. And I will treat them as such. They represent important constituencies and concerns that wisdom dare not ignore.
They have taken their concerns to court. Seeking legal redress is their right and I fully defend their exercise of this right. This is the essence of the rule of law.
Over six decades ago, our founding fathers gave bravely of themselves to place Nigeria on the map as an independent nation.
We must never allow the labor of those who came before us to wither in vain but to blossom and bring forth a better reality.
Let us take the next great step in the journey they began and believed in.
Today, let us recommit our very selves to placing Nigeria in our hearts as the indispensable home for each and every one of us regardless of creed, ethnicity, or place of birth.
My supporters, I thank you. To those who voted otherwise, I extend my hand across the political divide. I ask you to grasp it in national affinity and brotherhood. For me, political coloration has faded away. All I see are Nigerians.
May we uphold these fitting and excellent notions as the new Nigerian ideal.
My fellow compatriots,
The Nigerian ideal which I speak of is more than just an improvement in economic and other statistics. These things are important; but they can never convey the fullness of our story.
Our mission is to improve our way of life in a manner that nurtures our humanity, encourages compassion toward one another, and duly rewards our collective effort to resolve the social ills that seek to divide us.
Our constitution and laws give us a nation on paper. We must work harder at bringing these noble documents to life by strengthening the bonds of economic collaboration, social cohesion, and cultural understanding. Let us develop a shared sense of fairness and equity.
The South must not only seek good for itself but must understand that its interests are served when good comes to the North. The North must see the South likewise.
Whether from the winding creeks of the Niger Delta, the vastness of the northern savannah, the boardrooms of Lagos, the bustling capital of Abuja, or the busy markets of Onitsha, you are all my people. As your president, I shall serve with prejudice toward none but compassion and amity towards all.
In the coming days and weeks, my team will publicly detail key aspects of our programme. Today, permit me to outline in broad terms a few initiatives that define our concept of progressive good governance in furtherance of the Nigerian ideal:
The principles that will guide our administration are simple:
Security shall be the top priority of our administration because neither prosperity nor justice can prevail amidst insecurity and violence.
To effectively tackle this menace, we shall reform both our security DOCTRINE and its ARCHITECTURE.
We shall invest more in our security personnel, and this means more than an increase in number. We shall provide, better training, equipment, pay and firepower.
THE ECONOMY
On the economy, we target a higher GDP growth and to significantly reduce unemployment.
We intend to accomplish this by taking the following steps:
First, budgetary reform stimulating the economy without engendering inflation will be instituted.
Second, industrial policy will utilize the full range of fiscal measures to promote domestic manufacturing and lessen import dependency.
Third, electricity will become more accessible and affordable to businesses and homes alike. Power generation should nearly double and transmission and distribution networks improved. We will encourage states to develop local sources as well.
I have a message for our investors, local and foreign: our government shall review all their complaints about multiple taxation and various anti-investment inhibitions.
We shall ensure that investors and foreign businesses repatriate their hard earned dividends and profits home.
JOBS
My administration must create meaningful opportunities for our youth. We shall honour our campaign commitment of one million new jobs in the digital economy.
Our government also shall work with the National Assembly to fashion an omnibus Jobs and Prosperity bill. This bill will give our administration the policy space to embark on labour-intensive infrastructural improvements, encourage light industry and provide improved social services for the poor, elderly and vulnerable.
Agriculture
Rural incomes shall be secured by commodity exchange boards guaranteeing minimal prices for certain crops and animal products. A nationwide programme for storage and other facilities to reduce spoilage and waste will be undertaken.
Agricultural hubs will be created throughout the nation to increase production and engage in value-added processing. The livestock sector will be introduced to best modern practices and steps taken to minimize the perennial conflict over land and water resources in this sector.
Through these actions, food shall be made more abundant yet less costly. Farmers shall earn more while the average Nigerian pays less.
INFRASTRUCTURE
We shall continue the efforts of the Buhari administration on infrastructure. Progress toward national networks of roads, rail and ports shall get priority attention.
FUEL SUBSIDY
We commend the decision of the outgoing administration in phasing out the petrol subsidy regime which has increasingly favoured the rich more than the poor. Subsidy can no longer justify its ever-increasing costs in the wake of drying resources. We shall instead re-channel the funds into better investment in public infrastructure, education, health care and jobs that will materially improve the lives of millions.
MONETARY POLICY
Monetary policy needs thorough housecleaning. The Central Bank must work towards a unified exchange rate. This will direct funds away from arbitrage into meaningful investment in the plant, equipment and jobs that power the real economy.
Interest rates need to be reduced to increase investment and consumer purchasing in ways that sustain the economy at a higher level.
Whatever merits it had in concept, the currency swap was too harshly applied by the CBN given the number of unbanked Nigerians. The policy shall be reviewed. In the meantime, my administration will treat both currencies as legal tender.
FOREIGN POLICY
Given the world in which we reside, please permit a few comments regarding foreign policy.
The crisis in Sudan and the turn from democracy by several nations in our immediate neighbourhood are of pressing concern.
As such, my primary foreign policy objective must be the peace and stability of the West African subregion and the African continent. We shall work with ECOWAS, the AU and willing partners in the international community to end extant conflicts and to resolve new ones.
As we contain threats to peace, we shall also retool our foreign policy to more actively lead the regional and continental quest for collective prosperity.
Conclusion
This is the proudest day of my life. But this day does not belong to me. It belongs to you, the people of Nigeria.
On this day, Nigeria affirms its rightful place among the world’s great democracies. There, Nigeria shall reside forever.
The course of our past and the promise of the future have brought us to this exceptional moment.
In this spirit, I ask you to join me in making Nigeria a more perfect nation and democracy such that the Nigerian ideal becomes and forever remains the Nigerian reality.
With full confidence in our ability, I declare that these things are within our proximate reach because my name is Bola Ahmed Tinubu, and I am the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.
May God bless you and May He bless our beloved land.
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I stand before you honoured to assume the sacred mandate you have given me. My love for this nation is abiding. My confidence in its people, unwavering. And my faith in God Almighty, absolute. I know that His hand shall provide the needed moral strength and clarity of purpose in those instances when we seem to have reached the limits of our human capacity.
This day is bold and majestic yet bright and full of spirit, as is our precious nation.
As a nation, we have long ago decided to march beyond the dimness of night into the open day of renewed national hope.
The question we now ask ourselves is whether to remain faithful to the work inherent in building a better society or retreat into the shadows of our unmet potential.
For me, there is but one answer. We are too great a nation and too grounded as a people to rob ourselves of our finest destiny.
This nation’s journey has been shaped by the prayers of millions, and the collective sacrifices of us all.
We have endured hardships that would have made other societies crumble.
Yet, we have shouldered the heavy burden to arrive at this SUBLIME moment where the prospect of a better future merges with our improved capacity to create that future.
To the surprise of many but not to ourselves, we have more firmly established this land as a democracy in both word and deed.
The peaceful transition from one government to another is now our political tradition. This handover symbolizes our trust in God, our enduring faith in representative governance and our belief in our ability to reshape this nation into the society it was always meant to be.
Here, permit me to say a few words to my predecessor, President Muhammadu Buhari. Mr President, you have been an honest, patriotic leader who has done his best for the nation you love. On a more personal note, you are a worthy partner and friend. May History be kind to you.
For many years, Nigeria’s critics have trafficked the rumour that our nation will break apart, even perish.
Yet here we are. We have stumbled at times, but our resilience and diversity have kept us going.
Our burdens may make us bend at times, but they shall never break us.
Instead, we stand forth as Africa’s most populous nation and as the best hope and strongest champion of the Black Race.
As citizens, we declare as one unified people devoted to one unified national cause, that as long as this world exists, NIGERIA SHALL EXIST.
Today, Fate and Destiny join together to place the torch of human progress in our very hands. We dare not let it slip.
We lift high this torch so that it might shine on every household and in every heart that calls itself Nigerian. We hold this beam aloft because it lights our path with compassion, brotherhood, and peace. May this great light never EXTINGUISH.
Our administration shall govern on your behalf but never rule over you. We shall consult and dialogue but never dictate. We shall reach out to all but never put down a single person for holding views contrary to our own.
We are here to further mend and heal this nation, not tear and injure it.
In this vein, may I offer a few comments regarding the election that brought us to this juncture. It was a hard fought contest. And it was also fairly won. Since the advent of the Fourth Republic, Nigeria has not held an election of better quality.
The outcome reflected the will of the people. However, my victory does not render me any more Nigerian than my opponents. Nor does it render them any less patriotic.
They shall forever be my fellow compatriots. And I will treat them as such. They represent important constituencies and concerns that wisdom dare not ignore.
They have taken their concerns to court. Seeking legal redress is their right and I fully defend their exercise of this right. This is the essence of the rule of law.
Over six decades ago, our founding fathers gave bravely of themselves to place Nigeria on the map as an independent nation.
We must never allow the labor of those who came before us to wither in vain but to blossom and bring forth a better reality.
Let us take the next great step in the journey they began and believed in.
Today, let us recommit our very selves to placing Nigeria in our hearts as the indispensable home for each and every one of us regardless of creed, ethnicity, or place of birth.
My supporters, I thank you. To those who voted otherwise, I extend my hand across the political divide. I ask you to grasp it in national affinity and brotherhood. For me, political coloration has faded away. All I see are Nigerians.
May we uphold these fitting and excellent notions as the new Nigerian ideal.
My fellow compatriots,
The Nigerian ideal which I speak of is more than just an improvement in economic and other statistics. These things are important; but they can never convey the fullness of our story.
Our mission is to improve our way of life in a manner that nurtures our humanity, encourages compassion toward one another, and duly rewards our collective effort to resolve the social ills that seek to divide us.
Our constitution and laws give us a nation on paper. We must work harder at bringing these noble documents to life by strengthening the bonds of economic collaboration, social cohesion, and cultural understanding. Let us develop a shared sense of fairness and equity.
The South must not only seek good for itself but must understand that its interests are served when good comes to the North. The North must see the South likewise.
Whether from the winding creeks of the Niger Delta, the vastness of the northern savannah, the boardrooms of Lagos, the bustling capital of Abuja, or the busy markets of Onitsha, you are all my people. As your president, I shall serve with prejudice toward none but compassion and amity towards all.
In the coming days and weeks, my team will publicly detail key aspects of our programme. Today, permit me to outline in broad terms a few initiatives that define our concept of progressive good governance in furtherance of the Nigerian ideal:
The principles that will guide our administration are simple:
Nigeria will be impartially governed according to the constitution and the rule of law. We shall defend the nation from terror and all forms of criminality that threaten the peace and stability of our country and our subregion. We shall remodel our economy to bring about growth and development through job creation, food security and an end of extreme poverty. In our administration, Women and youth will feature prominently. Our government will continue to take proactive steps such as championing a credit culture to discourage corruption while strengthening the effectiveness and efficiency of the various anti-corruption agencies.SECURITY
Security shall be the top priority of our administration because neither prosperity nor justice can prevail amidst insecurity and violence.
To effectively tackle this menace, we shall reform both our security DOCTRINE and its ARCHITECTURE.
We shall invest more in our security personnel, and this means more than an increase in number. We shall provide, better training, equipment, pay and firepower.
THE ECONOMY
On the economy, we target a higher GDP growth and to significantly reduce unemployment.
We intend to accomplish this by taking the following steps:
First, budgetary reform stimulating the economy without engendering inflation will be instituted.
Second, industrial policy will utilize the full range of fiscal measures to promote domestic manufacturing and lessen import dependency.
Third, electricity will become more accessible and affordable to businesses and homes alike. Power generation should nearly double and transmission and distribution networks improved. We will encourage states to develop local sources as well.
I have a message for our investors, local and foreign: our government shall review all their complaints about multiple taxation and various anti-investment inhibitions.
We shall ensure that investors and foreign businesses repatriate their hard earned dividends and profits home.
JOBS
My administration must create meaningful opportunities for our youth. We shall honour our campaign commitment of one million new jobs in the digital economy.
Our government also shall work with the National Assembly to fashion an omnibus Jobs and Prosperity bill. This bill will give our administration the policy space to embark on labour-intensive infrastructural improvements, encourage light industry and provide improved social services for the poor, elderly and vulnerable.
Agriculture
Rural incomes shall be secured by commodity exchange boards guaranteeing minimal prices for certain crops and animal products. A nationwide programme for storage and other facilities to reduce spoilage and waste will be undertaken.
Agricultural hubs will be created throughout the nation to increase production and engage in value-added processing. The livestock sector will be introduced to best modern practices and steps taken to minimize the perennial conflict over land and water resources in this sector.
Through these actions, food shall be made more abundant yet less costly. Farmers shall earn more while the average Nigerian pays less.
INFRASTRUCTURE
We shall continue the efforts of the Buhari administration on infrastructure. Progress toward national networks of roads, rail and ports shall get priority attention.
FUEL SUBSIDY
We commend the decision of the outgoing administration in phasing out the petrol subsidy regime which has increasingly favoured the rich more than the poor. Subsidy can no longer justify its ever-increasing costs in the wake of drying resources. We shall instead re-channel the funds into better investment in public infrastructure, education, health care and jobs that will materially improve the lives of millions.
MONETARY POLICY
Monetary policy needs thorough housecleaning. The Central Bank must work towards a unified exchange rate. This will direct funds away from arbitrage into meaningful investment in the plant, equipment and jobs that power the real economy.
Interest rates need to be reduced to increase investment and consumer purchasing in ways that sustain the economy at a higher level.
Whatever merits it had in concept, the currency swap was too harshly applied by the CBN given the number of unbanked Nigerians. The policy shall be reviewed. In the meantime, my administration will treat both currencies as legal tender.
FOREIGN POLICY
Given the world in which we reside, please permit a few comments regarding foreign policy.
The crisis in Sudan and the turn from democracy by several nations in our immediate neighbourhood are of pressing concern.
As such, my primary foreign policy objective must be the peace and stability of the West African subregion and the African continent. We shall work with ECOWAS, the AU and willing partners in the international community to end extant conflicts and to resolve new ones.
As we contain threats to peace, we shall also retool our foreign policy to more actively lead the regional and continental quest for collective prosperity.
Conclusion
This is the proudest day of my life. But this day does not belong to me. It belongs to you, the people of Nigeria.
On this day, Nigeria affirms its rightful place among the world’s great democracies. There, Nigeria shall reside forever.
The course of our past and the promise of the future have brought us to this exceptional moment.
In this spirit, I ask you to join me in making Nigeria a more perfect nation and democracy such that the Nigerian ideal becomes and forever remains the Nigerian reality.
With full confidence in our ability, I declare that these things are within our proximate reach because my name is Bola Ahmed Tinubu, and I am the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.
May God bless you and May He bless our beloved land.
2023.05.30 00:23 Xiemos Old 1080ti Build taking a dump - need help with new build please!
Can anyone recommend me a build for <$2000? I currently have 1440p 60hz monitor but will upgrade it later.
I do mostly gaming. Planning to have Diablo 4 as my new main. Super excited for jt. Also play Mortal Online 2, CSGO and whatever else my buddies get us into.
I’ve been recommended a couple build already. I will put links below. Let me know thoughts on these or if you have better suggestions and or why. Im capable of building the PC but not comfortable picking everything out myself.
https://pcpartpicker.com/list/RJnK6r
https://pcpartpicker.com/list/nX4jfv
I’m located in North Carolina, USA.
Thanks ahead of time
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I do mostly gaming. Planning to have Diablo 4 as my new main. Super excited for jt. Also play Mortal Online 2, CSGO and whatever else my buddies get us into.
I’ve been recommended a couple build already. I will put links below. Let me know thoughts on these or if you have better suggestions and or why. Im capable of building the PC but not comfortable picking everything out myself.
https://pcpartpicker.com/list/RJnK6r
https://pcpartpicker.com/list/nX4jfv
I’m located in North Carolina, USA.
Thanks ahead of time
2023.05.30 00:23 TheRadPonseti RADIO BAM EPISODE #117 "KEVIN DOES PCP / NOVAK DOES HEROIN / BAM IS HOSTING THE VH1 AWARDS"
4/30/07
Radio Bam #117
Bam Margera – Brandon ‘Heroin’ Novak – Chad I Ginsberg – Kevin Margera (Phil’s drug addict brother) – Ryan ‘ShitGoose’ Gee – Bill Bill aka youngunz (Kevin’s daughters boyfriend)
- Bam is taking a shit upstairs so Novak and Chad decide to start the show without him and tells the listeners He's making money while taking a shit.
- Bam skipped last week’s episode, so they played the rerun of Bam yelling at ShitGoose for being a shitty friend.
- Bam immediately calls out Novak for being noticeably high off what appears to be heroin again. He doesn't confirm or deny but claims Kevin smoked PCP earlier too.
- Kevin sounds like he is very under the influence, Bill Bill has already given Bam an Adderall to snort. He’s covered in piercings and tattoos.
- Kevin has an ongoing feud with his neighbors, which stemmed from parking too close to Kevin’s car and calling the police.
- Then in a separate event, the neighbor's nephew parked in the same spot that makes it difficult for Kevin to get his car out again.
- According to some of the neighbors, the car then backed up and hit a sign/post/pole busting out the taillight and then blamed it on Kevin as an angry neighbor getting even from the first failed police report. This one didn't go in Kevin’s favor either.
- Bam went to Buddy Bill’s second ever amateur boxing match in Wilmington Delaware at the Double Tree hotel. One of the other fighters coaches in a separate match started getting fired up on the side of the ring, enough to draw attention of the local authorities on site.
- The 2 police officers asked him to calm down, but he loudly voiced his disagreement to them staying it's his job to fire up his fighter and yell things at him. According to Bam, the police immediately tazed the coach.
- Which then caused the fans to attack the officers, which in turn resulted in more officers rushing the sidelines to disperse the angry crowd. In the end it caused a riot to happen before Buddy Bills match. Bam blames it all on the Wilmington Delaware police department for instigating the riot.
- There was a recent drug bust in Marcus Hook, Kevin’s hometown, Bam runs to grab the daily local to see how many of the mugshots he knows.
- Novak fell on his face during filming earlier, Bam again accuses Novak of doing heroin and checks the back of his phone to see if he hid his drugs where the battery of the phone is. Nothing's there.
- “You’re an awfully clumsy guy for someone who wants pain pills” Chad’s glorious one liner.
- Bam doesn't care if Novak does heroin, he's angry that his friend is lying to him. Chad and Bam begin to really grill Novak on if he is doing heroin again.
- Bam brings up a recent story on how he was supposed to have a ride from Baltimore to Westchester to film with Bam, but lied twice saying he couldn't find a ride. First with his friend Scott, the second with Mandy the on/off girlfriend.
ARTIC MONKEYS –
- Bam claims to have talked with Novak and Kevin of air and they both admitted to doing drugs today. Novak did in the bathroom of ‘Techa' bar.
- Bam is genuinely curious about what it feels like to do PCP, Kevin tried to explain it the best way he can using words. Why would people choose Downers over Uppers with drugs. Seems like Kevin does cocaine and possibly PCP too.
MARK ZAPPA – BROKEN HEARTS ARE FOR ASSHOLES
- Kevin claims he doesn't do PCP, he believes instead he is mentally ill and needs help. Bam and Novak claims he is fucked up on something but they can't figure out what.
- Kevin claims his neighbors are drilling holes and feeding microphones in his walls to listen to him.
- Kevin's son ‘little Kevin’ is currently in jail fort knocking two men out in two punches. The other day he was supposed to be released but the officers then claimed there was confusion with the paperwork and he had to server another year of jail.
- At Jess Margera’s wedding, little Kevin showed up in sweatpants with his heroin addict girlfriend. Little Kevin then proceeds to pick a fight with someone he thought looked like a cop.
- Bam rambles about the crazy stories involving DuPont family again. Bam decides to buy Novak’s belt.
HOOK ME UP WITH THE SHIT THAT KILLED ELVIS – SCOOTER FEAT. JIMMY POP
- Phil calls in to confirm if this is an old episode Or not because he heard Kevin saying he's on PCP
- Missy accidently pocket dialed Bam so they listen in for a bit, but don't hear anything. Novak almost got arrested for wearing small tight shorts that let his balls hang out on each side of them.
- ShitBirdz is getting drunk again with his ‘AA Lowlife’ girlfriend. They were annoying the hell out of Chad while he was setting his new studio, ‘Studio CIG’, at Bams.
- Bam believes MingHags will be the best thing he has released in 10 years, he thinks it's because he doesn't have a MTV executive telling him what he can or can't film.
- Bam discloses that he's hosting the VH1 awards and they’re paying him $70,000 for 2 hours. They start filming in May, if Bam didn't just void the contact by telling the radio his pay.
- April calls into the show to have Boof confirm her actual weight.
- Fanna pranks YoungGunz by texting him on Bam’s phone that they are filming in New Hope, after traveling there, they realize that everyone's in Westchester.
- Bam has had 7 Washington Apples soo far today and he thought he blacked out when he saw that he sent that message to him. Fanna confesses to pulling off the prank using Bams phone.
TOMCRAFT / JIMMY POP - COME GAY BOY
- YoungGunz did the same Skateboard gap that broke Novak's ankles, Novak has physical therapy starting soon for his ankles.
End of show
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Radio Bam #117
Bam Margera – Brandon ‘Heroin’ Novak – Chad I Ginsberg – Kevin Margera (Phil’s drug addict brother) – Ryan ‘ShitGoose’ Gee – Bill Bill aka youngunz (Kevin’s daughters boyfriend)
- Bam is taking a shit upstairs so Novak and Chad decide to start the show without him and tells the listeners He's making money while taking a shit.
- Bam skipped last week’s episode, so they played the rerun of Bam yelling at ShitGoose for being a shitty friend.
- Bam immediately calls out Novak for being noticeably high off what appears to be heroin again. He doesn't confirm or deny but claims Kevin smoked PCP earlier too.
- Kevin sounds like he is very under the influence, Bill Bill has already given Bam an Adderall to snort. He’s covered in piercings and tattoos.
- Kevin has an ongoing feud with his neighbors, which stemmed from parking too close to Kevin’s car and calling the police.
- Then in a separate event, the neighbor's nephew parked in the same spot that makes it difficult for Kevin to get his car out again.
- According to some of the neighbors, the car then backed up and hit a sign/post/pole busting out the taillight and then blamed it on Kevin as an angry neighbor getting even from the first failed police report. This one didn't go in Kevin’s favor either.
- Bam went to Buddy Bill’s second ever amateur boxing match in Wilmington Delaware at the Double Tree hotel. One of the other fighters coaches in a separate match started getting fired up on the side of the ring, enough to draw attention of the local authorities on site.
- The 2 police officers asked him to calm down, but he loudly voiced his disagreement to them staying it's his job to fire up his fighter and yell things at him. According to Bam, the police immediately tazed the coach.
- Which then caused the fans to attack the officers, which in turn resulted in more officers rushing the sidelines to disperse the angry crowd. In the end it caused a riot to happen before Buddy Bills match. Bam blames it all on the Wilmington Delaware police department for instigating the riot.
- There was a recent drug bust in Marcus Hook, Kevin’s hometown, Bam runs to grab the daily local to see how many of the mugshots he knows.
- Novak fell on his face during filming earlier, Bam again accuses Novak of doing heroin and checks the back of his phone to see if he hid his drugs where the battery of the phone is. Nothing's there.
- “You’re an awfully clumsy guy for someone who wants pain pills” Chad’s glorious one liner.
- Bam doesn't care if Novak does heroin, he's angry that his friend is lying to him. Chad and Bam begin to really grill Novak on if he is doing heroin again.
- Bam brings up a recent story on how he was supposed to have a ride from Baltimore to Westchester to film with Bam, but lied twice saying he couldn't find a ride. First with his friend Scott, the second with Mandy the on/off girlfriend.
ARTIC MONKEYS –
- Bam claims to have talked with Novak and Kevin of air and they both admitted to doing drugs today. Novak did in the bathroom of ‘Techa' bar.
- Bam is genuinely curious about what it feels like to do PCP, Kevin tried to explain it the best way he can using words. Why would people choose Downers over Uppers with drugs. Seems like Kevin does cocaine and possibly PCP too.
MARK ZAPPA – BROKEN HEARTS ARE FOR ASSHOLES
- Kevin claims he doesn't do PCP, he believes instead he is mentally ill and needs help. Bam and Novak claims he is fucked up on something but they can't figure out what.
- Kevin claims his neighbors are drilling holes and feeding microphones in his walls to listen to him.
- Kevin's son ‘little Kevin’ is currently in jail fort knocking two men out in two punches. The other day he was supposed to be released but the officers then claimed there was confusion with the paperwork and he had to server another year of jail.
- At Jess Margera’s wedding, little Kevin showed up in sweatpants with his heroin addict girlfriend. Little Kevin then proceeds to pick a fight with someone he thought looked like a cop.
- Bam rambles about the crazy stories involving DuPont family again. Bam decides to buy Novak’s belt.
HOOK ME UP WITH THE SHIT THAT KILLED ELVIS – SCOOTER FEAT. JIMMY POP
- Phil calls in to confirm if this is an old episode Or not because he heard Kevin saying he's on PCP
- Missy accidently pocket dialed Bam so they listen in for a bit, but don't hear anything. Novak almost got arrested for wearing small tight shorts that let his balls hang out on each side of them.
- ShitBirdz is getting drunk again with his ‘AA Lowlife’ girlfriend. They were annoying the hell out of Chad while he was setting his new studio, ‘Studio CIG’, at Bams.
- Bam believes MingHags will be the best thing he has released in 10 years, he thinks it's because he doesn't have a MTV executive telling him what he can or can't film.
- Bam discloses that he's hosting the VH1 awards and they’re paying him $70,000 for 2 hours. They start filming in May, if Bam didn't just void the contact by telling the radio his pay.
- April calls into the show to have Boof confirm her actual weight.
- Fanna pranks YoungGunz by texting him on Bam’s phone that they are filming in New Hope, after traveling there, they realize that everyone's in Westchester.
- Bam has had 7 Washington Apples soo far today and he thought he blacked out when he saw that he sent that message to him. Fanna confesses to pulling off the prank using Bams phone.
TOMCRAFT / JIMMY POP - COME GAY BOY
- YoungGunz did the same Skateboard gap that broke Novak's ankles, Novak has physical therapy starting soon for his ankles.
End of show
2023.05.30 00:22 G00DKlDMAADCITY Don't go looking for things you don't want to find, and don't ask questions you don't really want the true answer to. Oh and always... ALWAYS trust your gut.
This might end up being fairly long and if so I apologize in advance but I hope this ends up being as cathartic as I’m hoping.
Let’s start at the beginning. I wasn’t a good husband... hell I probably wasn't even a good person. I was selfish, inattentive to her needs, hid a painkiller addiction for many years and a copious amount of other issues. I wasn’t perfect though neither was she. We were happy though and together for a decade. I’ll preface this by saying that I’m the most non-jealous person in the world. I don’t care what you do with your friends, where you do it, and when as long as your honest. For example let’s say one of her friends invited her to go out of town or to do something for a weekend, it was like “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go out of town with insert name here” and vice versa for me “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go hunting with insert name here”. All that being said, again, not jealous AT ALL, but after the divorce and subsequent relationship I think my trust with SO coworkers is irreparably damaged.
His name was Joe, I heard through some of her other coworker friends he had a crush on my wife. Whatever, she got cheated on with her first love and couldn’t even watch movies or shows where someone cheats it would make her so angry. So I never thought twice about her going out with her coworkers. Now again, let me say I was not a good husband towards the end, and it took a long time and a lot of hurt and anger had to be let go to where I finally realized that I don’t fault her for finding solace in the arms of another, because she was a damn good wife, a damn good mother, and an even better husband. And she deserved better. I relapsed after an incredibly awful start to 2018. I went and stayed at my moms and had to go over to the house to get some things. Her and my daughter were gone somewhere but her Apple Watch was there. My gut told me what I already knew, and what I knew was that I shouldn't look through it knowing what I would find. What did I find? That she was filing for divorce the next week and plenty of messages to Joe. I knew it was only a matter of time before they ended up together. Can you guess what happened? I had a decent amount of money saved up so I took a sabbatical from work that ended extending to almost two years
December 2018, Christmas morning. I had a plan, it was foolproof. I was going to facetime my daughter in the morning to tell her how much I loved her and missed her and had a very merry Christmas... and then I was going to go in my backyard and blow my brains out. So thats what I did. I called her, talked to her as best you can to a three year old in the midst of a post present high with her cousins there too. Then I walked out in my backyard with my favorite rifle and sat there. And sat there. And sat there. For six hours. I cried, I wept... I wept for me, for my kid who was going to grow up without her daddy. I wept for my ex-wife who was going to have to explain to my daughter why she wouldn't be able to see her daddy again. I wept for my family and the pain I was about to cause them I begged and screamed to God. That if they were real and I was meant for things in this life that they would show me a fucking sign. Show me ANYTHING that would show me whether this drastic choice would be the right one... or the wrong. For six hours in the freezing cold. Never did get an answer that I could recognize as one. But the thought of my kid calling the person my wife had AT LEAST an emotional affair with, "Dad" made me sick... and made me want to live.
I decided to check into rehab, not for drugs, but so I didn't kill myself. Ive always kind of been a natural leader. I don't know why or what it is about me but people tend to flock towards me and have really either one or two reactions. They either really like me, or they really fucking hate me. Here though everyone really liked me and I was put in charge of running the meetings held there and trying to keep morale of the folks there. And it was a great fucking time. It was a month vacation in a really nice area of the state, I didn't have a phone, only my guitar and the resolve to work through my emotions in a safe place the best way I know how, by writing songs about it. Which is exactly what I did both in the classes, AA Meetings, out of class, didn't matter I was just knocking out song after song. I met a kid in there with a killer voice and a guy around my age who actually was the lead singesongwriter for a local band I was a fan of so it ended up being a really enjoyable experience.. The kid though... he got murdered last year from a drug deal gone wrong. Shot in a car and left to die in the parking lot. I think about him almost every day.
What did I learn? I learned that I shouldn't go looking for things I don't want to find, or ask questions that I really want the true answer to. Or so I thought.
I met K in December 2020 on Hinge. I wasn't sure I was really over my ex wife but then when we met it was love at first sight. And for a guy that didn't think he was ever going to love anyone again it was a major deal. She felt the same it seemed, though I now realize it was probably more of a trauma bond/rebound type situation. Things went really well for the honeymoon phase, it was like we couldn't get enough of each other. She was a cheer coach/art teacher, it was new, it was exciting, the sex was great.. she was great... She had some pretty serious insecurities and abandonment issues though. Her mom dropped her off with what ended up being her adoptive family only to come back a few years later and take her away for a few months, then bring her back and drop her off again. She self sabotages and destroys anything good in her life for fear or being hurt and left by someone again. And she only dated guys that controlled her, treated her like shit, stole from her, etc etc. She took xanax and ambien which when it would kick in at first it seemed she was still cognizant. One night when I was staying over there she had taken it and asked me to look something up in her phone. As soon as I open it I see a text to a coach at the school she taught at that was just really inappropriate shit that made me feel uncomfortable, especially since he was married. I asked her about it when she off work the next day and she just downplayed it as they are wont to do. I let it go but its something I thought of often, especially after it ended.
We moved in together in August of 21. I helped her get a job at a school over on my side of town so we got a really nice apartment close to her work and not far from mine. Thats when things started to change. I'll never forget we were laying in bed on a Friday afternoon, I was about to go pick up my kid. I rolled over towards her side and propped myself up and looked at her for a second and thought how lucky am I, and so thats what I said out loud to her. Its like she recoiled like she got bit by a snake, bolted out of bed and said I was being clingy and essentially ran out the door where she ended up back on the other side of town and had dinner with a gay guy friend. I really didn't know what to do or how to take it so when I picked my kid up I took her over to my moms house and we stayed there until K called and asked me to come home so we could talk. I left my kid with my mom and went over there and she apologized and reiterated how she feels in relationships, the fear of being left, how independent she had to be because of her upbringing and a few other things.
Not long after that she forwarded me an email, I'm not even sure what she meant to send me if she even meant it to send to me because I never got around to asking. It was an email thread with the coach where she said "guess what?", "What? You're gonna have my baby?" "No I got Covid!". I confronted her about it, told her how it made me feel, and while she never really responded to it in a way that made me worry I still strongly disliked it and let her know that. Not long after that as we were laying in bed I saw she was texting someone exceptionally long paragraphs, you know the type, the type when you're first talking to someone and are explaining things about yourself to them? I'll spare the long part but come to find out shes found a new coach to have what appears to be an emotional affair with. Though come to find out this one ended up being physical. She broke up with me in January 22. Told me while I showed her love in a way she didn't know was possible, and treated her in a way nobody had ever treated her before that I was too good for her and deserved better. I tried to change her mind, lord knows I tried, I was madly in love. My kid was in love with her. We talked about a future I never thought possible after my divorce.
I moved out of the apartment and back to my moms until I could find a place. We talked occasionally and I spent so much time reading this sub and others. Posts about how to get her back, how to make her miss me, what to do and what not to do. When my work sabbatical ended I got my old job back. Its a great job, ridiculously easy and the amount of work I actually do compared to my compensation should be illegal. She lost her cheer stipend when we moved back to my side of town since she didn't coach and since we got the apt together I knew what her funds looked like. We got that place because we could afford it together, alone I knew she was going to struggle. And I still wanted her back... what better way to show her that and try to manifest it by just being there for her when she needed me? Little did I know that would be the only time she asked me anything. Only when she needed help, or was having an anxiety attack and needed someone to talk her off the ledge and tell her everything was going to be okay. It was never her asking how I was doing, or my kid, or my dog, or what was going on in my life. Everyone told me what my gut had already told me but I lied to myself over and over. Not long after all this happened I found out she had been seeing the new coach at the new school though she still won't admit it even up to... checks notes today.
March 23 I get my first really big commission check I gave her 10k and we paid off her credit card, some other debt she had, some missed car payments and other bill help. Not long after that she tells me shes going to a cabin nearby where shes from with her sisters and nieces/nephews and asks me to watch her dog which I miss just as much as her so I do it. Mind you previous to this we went through a rough spot and she had blocked me on IG and never unblocked me. One of my cousins still followed her though, she hits me on snapchat saying "oh wow K looks amazing" I say "Oh yeah, does the cabin look nice?" She said "Cabin? Looks like shes at the beach" and sends me a screenshot of her IG post. I do my best FBI investigation and zoom in on her glasses, it appears to be a guy taking the picture based on the reflection from the frames and I kind of have an idea who I think it could be, come to find out, we'll call him JMJ also happens to be in Florida at the same time. So I call her out and tell her she needs to find someone to come get her dog and I'm done with her and her lies. She tells me "Oh my mom and dad are traveling across the country in their RV (WHICH THEY WERE) and so when you sent me that extra money after we paid the bills my sister and I decided to fly to Florida to spend some time with them on Spring Break"
She then breaks down and tells me how shes ruined the relationship with the last genuine person in her life and that when she gets back she'll get her dog and I'll never hear from her again. Master manipulator and while shes an amazing liar to someone who wants with every fiber of his being to believe him, is awful at hiding her lies. What do I do? Well I'm a fucking idiot so you can already imagine what I did. I begged her for once to just be honest with me. For once in our entire two years going back and forth that if she ever did truly love me or respect me for things I did for her that she would be honest. She told shes not dating anyone and doesn't have a boyfriend and that nothing has changed. I told her that even if she was seeing someone and told me about it I would help her out one last time only because I had committed to it. I told myself I was doing it for altruistic reasons, that because of all her issues that if I can do for her what I said I would do for her and that would help her out in her future relationships to show her that not everybody is it out to just fuck her and leave her, that when some people tell you they'll do something for you they mean it and she stops self sabotaging then I did my part.
A couple weeks ago was her 30th birthday. I see if she wants to grab dinner but she says one of her girl teacher friends is taking her to dinner in the galleria area. Check the guys IG story via an anonymous viewer and guess who happens to be at a restaurant in the galleria area? I don't even call her out because at this point Im making a plan. I get another rather large check in July and so we had previously talked about paying off the rest of her debt. She tells me shes going to her parents house for MDW and then that shes going out of town today with one of her old friends to New Orleans. This is when I realize just whats about to happen. Im about to have the answer to the question I thought I was dying to know the answer to. I told myself if he posts an IG story today where hes traveling, there is 0% chance that shes not with him. The first thing I see when I open IG is he posted a story... in Cancun. Then the next picture I see... her phone on the table next to him. Bingo. Send her an email saying "Hey I hope you have fun in Cancun!" and that was it. Almost immediately she texts me asking how I know and figured it out and I just saw red. I immediately opened up IG and sent him a message with texts, receipts, bank transfers, her telling me that she still loves me and we can go take a trip this summer, how many times shes asked me for money and help and the lies shes told me about him. She asks me to stop messaging him and I say that shes forever lost the option to ask ANYTHING of me but realize what Im doing is not the right thing and is hella immature so I send her another email saying I'm sorry and out of respect for her I wont say anything else to him.
Then he sends me a message on IG asking to elaborate more and then told me she told him I owed her a lot of money... I asked how much and for what and he said $2k for bills when we first got together. Thats when I sent him an entire list of all bank transactions through our bank and Apple Pay. Just digital alone, $18.647.00 over the last six months plus another $12,460.00 in cash over the last eight months. Then I realized just how little better this made me feel. In fact I thought I would feel triumphant, and ready to move on and finally be over her and start to heal. Knowing full damn and well keeping her around and helping her was keeping me from being able to heal and move on. I sent her another message telling her I was taking the last part of her birthday gift to her apartment and leaving it in the ottoman outside her door and that because I had already accounted for and mentally prepared for giving her money in July that I still would then I blocked and removed her from IG and anything else that would open up an avenue for contact.
Here we are. Starting NC again... a year and a half after we broke up all because I thought I needed the answers to what I didn't want to find out or know. And that yet again, my gut has yet to lie to me in regards to relationships. What is wrong with me? Why even after all of this do I still want her in my life and want her back? If she called me tomorrow needing help I'd probably still do it. How do I fix myself? I've gotten an entire new wardrobe, an entire home gym so I quit blaming my depression for why I didn't go to the gym, and have tried really hard to focus on myself yet I know deep down everything I'm doing, I'm still doing for hopes of her. I lied to myself and clouded my own gut and mind to listen to my heart when I knew what I already knew yet still felt the need to confirm it.
Its not worth it. IT. IS.NOT. WORTH. IT. Keep that door closed if you don't want to know whats on the other side. Don't open that book if you don't want to see whats written on that last page. If your gut is telling you something, its probably right. Listen to it. When your friends and family are telling you the same thing your gut is telling you, listen to them. Even if its killing you, even if its the last thing you want to do, even if its going to break your heart again and reopen any wounds for you to bleed out again it has to be done. Don't be like me. Don't prolong your suffering for a year and a half for hope that you know isn't going to shake out in your way regardless of what the other person might be telling you.
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Let’s start at the beginning. I wasn’t a good husband... hell I probably wasn't even a good person. I was selfish, inattentive to her needs, hid a painkiller addiction for many years and a copious amount of other issues. I wasn’t perfect though neither was she. We were happy though and together for a decade. I’ll preface this by saying that I’m the most non-jealous person in the world. I don’t care what you do with your friends, where you do it, and when as long as your honest. For example let’s say one of her friends invited her to go out of town or to do something for a weekend, it was like “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go out of town with insert name here” and vice versa for me “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go hunting with insert name here”. All that being said, again, not jealous AT ALL, but after the divorce and subsequent relationship I think my trust with SO coworkers is irreparably damaged.
His name was Joe, I heard through some of her other coworker friends he had a crush on my wife. Whatever, she got cheated on with her first love and couldn’t even watch movies or shows where someone cheats it would make her so angry. So I never thought twice about her going out with her coworkers. Now again, let me say I was not a good husband towards the end, and it took a long time and a lot of hurt and anger had to be let go to where I finally realized that I don’t fault her for finding solace in the arms of another, because she was a damn good wife, a damn good mother, and an even better husband. And she deserved better. I relapsed after an incredibly awful start to 2018. I went and stayed at my moms and had to go over to the house to get some things. Her and my daughter were gone somewhere but her Apple Watch was there. My gut told me what I already knew, and what I knew was that I shouldn't look through it knowing what I would find. What did I find? That she was filing for divorce the next week and plenty of messages to Joe. I knew it was only a matter of time before they ended up together. Can you guess what happened? I had a decent amount of money saved up so I took a sabbatical from work that ended extending to almost two years
December 2018, Christmas morning. I had a plan, it was foolproof. I was going to facetime my daughter in the morning to tell her how much I loved her and missed her and had a very merry Christmas... and then I was going to go in my backyard and blow my brains out. So thats what I did. I called her, talked to her as best you can to a three year old in the midst of a post present high with her cousins there too. Then I walked out in my backyard with my favorite rifle and sat there. And sat there. And sat there. For six hours. I cried, I wept... I wept for me, for my kid who was going to grow up without her daddy. I wept for my ex-wife who was going to have to explain to my daughter why she wouldn't be able to see her daddy again. I wept for my family and the pain I was about to cause them I begged and screamed to God. That if they were real and I was meant for things in this life that they would show me a fucking sign. Show me ANYTHING that would show me whether this drastic choice would be the right one... or the wrong. For six hours in the freezing cold. Never did get an answer that I could recognize as one. But the thought of my kid calling the person my wife had AT LEAST an emotional affair with, "Dad" made me sick... and made me want to live.
I decided to check into rehab, not for drugs, but so I didn't kill myself. Ive always kind of been a natural leader. I don't know why or what it is about me but people tend to flock towards me and have really either one or two reactions. They either really like me, or they really fucking hate me. Here though everyone really liked me and I was put in charge of running the meetings held there and trying to keep morale of the folks there. And it was a great fucking time. It was a month vacation in a really nice area of the state, I didn't have a phone, only my guitar and the resolve to work through my emotions in a safe place the best way I know how, by writing songs about it. Which is exactly what I did both in the classes, AA Meetings, out of class, didn't matter I was just knocking out song after song. I met a kid in there with a killer voice and a guy around my age who actually was the lead singesongwriter for a local band I was a fan of so it ended up being a really enjoyable experience.. The kid though... he got murdered last year from a drug deal gone wrong. Shot in a car and left to die in the parking lot. I think about him almost every day.
What did I learn? I learned that I shouldn't go looking for things I don't want to find, or ask questions that I really want the true answer to. Or so I thought.
I met K in December 2020 on Hinge. I wasn't sure I was really over my ex wife but then when we met it was love at first sight. And for a guy that didn't think he was ever going to love anyone again it was a major deal. She felt the same it seemed, though I now realize it was probably more of a trauma bond/rebound type situation. Things went really well for the honeymoon phase, it was like we couldn't get enough of each other. She was a cheer coach/art teacher, it was new, it was exciting, the sex was great.. she was great... She had some pretty serious insecurities and abandonment issues though. Her mom dropped her off with what ended up being her adoptive family only to come back a few years later and take her away for a few months, then bring her back and drop her off again. She self sabotages and destroys anything good in her life for fear or being hurt and left by someone again. And she only dated guys that controlled her, treated her like shit, stole from her, etc etc. She took xanax and ambien which when it would kick in at first it seemed she was still cognizant. One night when I was staying over there she had taken it and asked me to look something up in her phone. As soon as I open it I see a text to a coach at the school she taught at that was just really inappropriate shit that made me feel uncomfortable, especially since he was married. I asked her about it when she off work the next day and she just downplayed it as they are wont to do. I let it go but its something I thought of often, especially after it ended.
We moved in together in August of 21. I helped her get a job at a school over on my side of town so we got a really nice apartment close to her work and not far from mine. Thats when things started to change. I'll never forget we were laying in bed on a Friday afternoon, I was about to go pick up my kid. I rolled over towards her side and propped myself up and looked at her for a second and thought how lucky am I, and so thats what I said out loud to her. Its like she recoiled like she got bit by a snake, bolted out of bed and said I was being clingy and essentially ran out the door where she ended up back on the other side of town and had dinner with a gay guy friend. I really didn't know what to do or how to take it so when I picked my kid up I took her over to my moms house and we stayed there until K called and asked me to come home so we could talk. I left my kid with my mom and went over there and she apologized and reiterated how she feels in relationships, the fear of being left, how independent she had to be because of her upbringing and a few other things.
Not long after that she forwarded me an email, I'm not even sure what she meant to send me if she even meant it to send to me because I never got around to asking. It was an email thread with the coach where she said "guess what?", "What? You're gonna have my baby?" "No I got Covid!". I confronted her about it, told her how it made me feel, and while she never really responded to it in a way that made me worry I still strongly disliked it and let her know that. Not long after that as we were laying in bed I saw she was texting someone exceptionally long paragraphs, you know the type, the type when you're first talking to someone and are explaining things about yourself to them? I'll spare the long part but come to find out shes found a new coach to have what appears to be an emotional affair with. Though come to find out this one ended up being physical. She broke up with me in January 22. Told me while I showed her love in a way she didn't know was possible, and treated her in a way nobody had ever treated her before that I was too good for her and deserved better. I tried to change her mind, lord knows I tried, I was madly in love. My kid was in love with her. We talked about a future I never thought possible after my divorce.
I moved out of the apartment and back to my moms until I could find a place. We talked occasionally and I spent so much time reading this sub and others. Posts about how to get her back, how to make her miss me, what to do and what not to do. When my work sabbatical ended I got my old job back. Its a great job, ridiculously easy and the amount of work I actually do compared to my compensation should be illegal. She lost her cheer stipend when we moved back to my side of town since she didn't coach and since we got the apt together I knew what her funds looked like. We got that place because we could afford it together, alone I knew she was going to struggle. And I still wanted her back... what better way to show her that and try to manifest it by just being there for her when she needed me? Little did I know that would be the only time she asked me anything. Only when she needed help, or was having an anxiety attack and needed someone to talk her off the ledge and tell her everything was going to be okay. It was never her asking how I was doing, or my kid, or my dog, or what was going on in my life. Everyone told me what my gut had already told me but I lied to myself over and over. Not long after all this happened I found out she had been seeing the new coach at the new school though she still won't admit it even up to... checks notes today.
March 23 I get my first really big commission check I gave her 10k and we paid off her credit card, some other debt she had, some missed car payments and other bill help. Not long after that she tells me shes going to a cabin nearby where shes from with her sisters and nieces/nephews and asks me to watch her dog which I miss just as much as her so I do it. Mind you previous to this we went through a rough spot and she had blocked me on IG and never unblocked me. One of my cousins still followed her though, she hits me on snapchat saying "oh wow K looks amazing" I say "Oh yeah, does the cabin look nice?" She said "Cabin? Looks like shes at the beach" and sends me a screenshot of her IG post. I do my best FBI investigation and zoom in on her glasses, it appears to be a guy taking the picture based on the reflection from the frames and I kind of have an idea who I think it could be, come to find out, we'll call him JMJ also happens to be in Florida at the same time. So I call her out and tell her she needs to find someone to come get her dog and I'm done with her and her lies. She tells me "Oh my mom and dad are traveling across the country in their RV (WHICH THEY WERE) and so when you sent me that extra money after we paid the bills my sister and I decided to fly to Florida to spend some time with them on Spring Break"
She then breaks down and tells me how shes ruined the relationship with the last genuine person in her life and that when she gets back she'll get her dog and I'll never hear from her again. Master manipulator and while shes an amazing liar to someone who wants with every fiber of his being to believe him, is awful at hiding her lies. What do I do? Well I'm a fucking idiot so you can already imagine what I did. I begged her for once to just be honest with me. For once in our entire two years going back and forth that if she ever did truly love me or respect me for things I did for her that she would be honest. She told shes not dating anyone and doesn't have a boyfriend and that nothing has changed. I told her that even if she was seeing someone and told me about it I would help her out one last time only because I had committed to it. I told myself I was doing it for altruistic reasons, that because of all her issues that if I can do for her what I said I would do for her and that would help her out in her future relationships to show her that not everybody is it out to just fuck her and leave her, that when some people tell you they'll do something for you they mean it and she stops self sabotaging then I did my part.
A couple weeks ago was her 30th birthday. I see if she wants to grab dinner but she says one of her girl teacher friends is taking her to dinner in the galleria area. Check the guys IG story via an anonymous viewer and guess who happens to be at a restaurant in the galleria area? I don't even call her out because at this point Im making a plan. I get another rather large check in July and so we had previously talked about paying off the rest of her debt. She tells me shes going to her parents house for MDW and then that shes going out of town today with one of her old friends to New Orleans. This is when I realize just whats about to happen. Im about to have the answer to the question I thought I was dying to know the answer to. I told myself if he posts an IG story today where hes traveling, there is 0% chance that shes not with him. The first thing I see when I open IG is he posted a story... in Cancun. Then the next picture I see... her phone on the table next to him. Bingo. Send her an email saying "Hey I hope you have fun in Cancun!" and that was it. Almost immediately she texts me asking how I know and figured it out and I just saw red. I immediately opened up IG and sent him a message with texts, receipts, bank transfers, her telling me that she still loves me and we can go take a trip this summer, how many times shes asked me for money and help and the lies shes told me about him. She asks me to stop messaging him and I say that shes forever lost the option to ask ANYTHING of me but realize what Im doing is not the right thing and is hella immature so I send her another email saying I'm sorry and out of respect for her I wont say anything else to him.
Then he sends me a message on IG asking to elaborate more and then told me she told him I owed her a lot of money... I asked how much and for what and he said $2k for bills when we first got together. Thats when I sent him an entire list of all bank transactions through our bank and Apple Pay. Just digital alone, $18.647.00 over the last six months plus another $12,460.00 in cash over the last eight months. Then I realized just how little better this made me feel. In fact I thought I would feel triumphant, and ready to move on and finally be over her and start to heal. Knowing full damn and well keeping her around and helping her was keeping me from being able to heal and move on. I sent her another message telling her I was taking the last part of her birthday gift to her apartment and leaving it in the ottoman outside her door and that because I had already accounted for and mentally prepared for giving her money in July that I still would then I blocked and removed her from IG and anything else that would open up an avenue for contact.
Here we are. Starting NC again... a year and a half after we broke up all because I thought I needed the answers to what I didn't want to find out or know. And that yet again, my gut has yet to lie to me in regards to relationships. What is wrong with me? Why even after all of this do I still want her in my life and want her back? If she called me tomorrow needing help I'd probably still do it. How do I fix myself? I've gotten an entire new wardrobe, an entire home gym so I quit blaming my depression for why I didn't go to the gym, and have tried really hard to focus on myself yet I know deep down everything I'm doing, I'm still doing for hopes of her. I lied to myself and clouded my own gut and mind to listen to my heart when I knew what I already knew yet still felt the need to confirm it.
Its not worth it. IT. IS.NOT. WORTH. IT. Keep that door closed if you don't want to know whats on the other side. Don't open that book if you don't want to see whats written on that last page. If your gut is telling you something, its probably right. Listen to it. When your friends and family are telling you the same thing your gut is telling you, listen to them. Even if its killing you, even if its the last thing you want to do, even if its going to break your heart again and reopen any wounds for you to bleed out again it has to be done. Don't be like me. Don't prolong your suffering for a year and a half for hope that you know isn't going to shake out in your way regardless of what the other person might be telling you.
2023.05.30 00:22 STR3D731 So many grails in one spot.
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2023.05.30 00:22 Dhruv01810 Buying a Used Tesla from a Dealership vs. Tesla's Website
Hi all - I posted here a few weeks ago to ask for some advice about used Tesla Model S purchasing, and I got great feedback. Now, I'm set on getting a Tesla, but I found out recently that you can actually buy a used Tesla from Tesla's own website. Has anyone had some experience with this? I'm mostly concerned that there are no real pictures of the vehicle and, to the best of my knowledge, you cannot test drive or even see the car before it's delivered. To add to that, I don't see a 30-day/X mile return policy like Carmax, and I see that the "car will exhibit cosmetic imperfections". As it's used, I don't mind the odd clear-coat scratch or scuff on the interior, but it seems like quite a gamble if I cannot see it and I cannot see pictures of it beforehand.
For reference, I am looking at a 2020 Model S Performance. Thanks in advance for the advice!
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For reference, I am looking at a 2020 Model S Performance. Thanks in advance for the advice!
2023.05.30 00:22 mangame11 Smoking meth
People need to chill out about meth.
We all understand that smoking meth is bad for you. So is sugar, red meat, bacon, beer, etc. the gas you burn in your car creates poison that gets vented out for everyone to breathe.
But people who smoke meth are the target of so much ire compared to people who indulge in the other things I listed. Even people who smoke marijuana will opine about how stupid it is to smoke meth and how anyone who does must be an idiot.
People like meth. They’re a pleasant thing if you have a taste for them. Leave people alone.
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We all understand that smoking meth is bad for you. So is sugar, red meat, bacon, beer, etc. the gas you burn in your car creates poison that gets vented out for everyone to breathe.
But people who smoke meth are the target of so much ire compared to people who indulge in the other things I listed. Even people who smoke marijuana will opine about how stupid it is to smoke meth and how anyone who does must be an idiot.
People like meth. They’re a pleasant thing if you have a taste for them. Leave people alone.
2023.05.30 00:22 icefall5 Suggestions near the Alps for one day?
I'm currently in Munich for a few days. We have tickets for a tour of Neuschwanstein on the day we leave town, but we didn't realize how far away it is and now I'm trying to reorganize things a bit.
We'll probably be renting a car and starting our day in Munich, ultimately taking a train from Munich to Frankfurt at the end of the day (though this could change).
Our original plan was to drive to Garmisch-Partenkirchen to go to the top of Zugspitze first thing in the morning, then head to Neuschwanstein for our 1:50pm tour, then drive back and catch the train to Frankfurt.
This seems like it'll be stressful to manage all in one day though. If we skip the Neuschwanstein tour, then we could do this part of the trip on a different day and not have to worry about the train ride to Frankfurt on the same day.
If we do that, would you recommend still seeing Neuschwanstein? Should we see/do anything else down in the Alps region instead? We want to see the mountains, but we probably won't have the time to do any significant hikes as it's just a day trip.
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We'll probably be renting a car and starting our day in Munich, ultimately taking a train from Munich to Frankfurt at the end of the day (though this could change).
Our original plan was to drive to Garmisch-Partenkirchen to go to the top of Zugspitze first thing in the morning, then head to Neuschwanstein for our 1:50pm tour, then drive back and catch the train to Frankfurt.
This seems like it'll be stressful to manage all in one day though. If we skip the Neuschwanstein tour, then we could do this part of the trip on a different day and not have to worry about the train ride to Frankfurt on the same day.
If we do that, would you recommend still seeing Neuschwanstein? Should we see/do anything else down in the Alps region instead? We want to see the mountains, but we probably won't have the time to do any significant hikes as it's just a day trip.
2023.05.30 00:21 G00DKlDMAADCITY Don't go looking for things you don't want to find, and don't ask questions you don't really want the true answer to. Oh and always... ALWAYS trust your gut.
This might end up being fairly long and if so I apologize in advance but I hope this ends up being as cathartic as I’m hoping.
Let’s start at the beginning. I wasn’t a good husband... hell I probably wasn't even a good person. I was selfish, inattentive to her needs, hid a painkiller addiction for many years and a copious amount of other issues. I wasn’t perfect though neither was she. We were happy though and together for a decade. I’ll preface this by saying that I’m the most non-jealous person in the world. I don’t care what you do with your friends, where you do it, and when as long as your honest. For example let’s say one of her friends invited her to go out of town or to do something for a weekend, it was like “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go out of town with insert name here” and vice versa for me “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go hunting with insert name here”. All that being said, again, not jealous AT ALL, but after the divorce and subsequent relationship I think my trust with SO coworkers is irreparably damaged.
His name was Joe, I heard through some of her other coworker friends he had a crush on my wife. Whatever, she got cheated on with her first love and couldn’t even watch movies or shows where someone cheats it would make her so angry. So I never thought twice about her going out with her coworkers. Now again, let me say I was not a good husband towards the end, and it took a long time and a lot of hurt and anger had to be let go to where I finally realized that I don’t fault her for finding solace in the arms of another, because she was a damn good wife, a damn good mother, and an even better husband. And she deserved better. I relapsed after an incredibly awful start to 2018. I went and stayed at my moms and had to go over to the house to get some things. Her and my daughter were gone somewhere but her Apple Watch was there. My gut told me what I already knew, and what I knew was that I shouldn't look through it knowing what I would find. What did I find? That she was filing for divorce the next week and plenty of messages to Joe. I knew it was only a matter of time before they ended up together. Can you guess what happened? I had a decent amount of money saved up so I took a sabbatical from work that ended extending to almost two years
December 2018, Christmas morning. I had a plan, it was foolproof. I was going to facetime my daughter in the morning to tell her how much I loved her and missed her and had a very merry Christmas... and then I was going to go in my backyard and blow my brains out. So thats what I did. I called her, talked to her as best you can to a three year old in the midst of a post present high with her cousins there too. Then I walked out in my backyard with my favorite rifle and sat there. And sat there. And sat there. For six hours. I cried, I wept... I wept for me, for my kid who was going to grow up without her daddy. I wept for my ex-wife who was going to have to explain to my daughter why she wouldn't be able to see her daddy again. I wept for my family and the pain I was about to cause them I begged and screamed to God. That if they were real and I was meant for things in this life that they would show me a fucking sign. Show me ANYTHING that would show me whether this drastic choice would be the right one... or the wrong. For six hours in the freezing cold. Never did get an answer that I could recognize as one. But the thought of my kid calling the person my wife had AT LEAST an emotional affair with, "Dad" made me sick... and made me want to live.
I decided to check into rehab, not for drugs, but so I didn't kill myself. Ive always kind of been a natural leader. I don't know why or what it is about me but people tend to flock towards me and have really either one or two reactions. They either really like me, or they really fucking hate me. Here though everyone really liked me and I was put in charge of running the meetings held there and trying to keep morale of the folks there. And it was a great fucking time. It was a month vacation in a really nice area of the state, I didn't have a phone, only my guitar and the resolve to work through my emotions in a safe place the best way I know how, by writing songs about it. Which is exactly what I did both in the classes, AA Meetings, out of class, didn't matter I was just knocking out song after song. I met a kid in there with a killer voice and a guy around my age who actually was the lead singesongwriter for a local band I was a fan of so it ended up being a really enjoyable experience.. The kid though... he got murdered last year from a drug deal gone wrong. Shot in a car and left to die in the parking lot. I think about him almost every day.
What did I learn? I learned that I shouldn't go looking for things I don't want to find, or ask questions that I really want the true answer to. Or so I thought.
I met K in December 2020 on Hinge. I wasn't sure I was really over my ex wife but then when we met it was love at first sight. And for a guy that didn't think he was ever going to love anyone again it was a major deal. She felt the same it seemed, though I now realize it was probably more of a trauma bond/rebound type situation. Things went really well for the honeymoon phase, it was like we couldn't get enough of each other. She was a cheer coach/art teacher, it was new, it was exciting, the sex was great.. she was great... She had some pretty serious insecurities and abandonment issues though. Her mom dropped her off with what ended up being her adoptive family only to come back a few years later and take her away for a few months, then bring her back and drop her off again. She self sabotages and destroys anything good in her life for fear or being hurt and left by someone again. And she only dated guys that controlled her, treated her like shit, stole from her, etc etc. She took xanax and ambien which when it would kick in at first it seemed she was still cognizant. One night when I was staying over there she had taken it and asked me to look something up in her phone. As soon as I open it I see a text to a coach at the school she taught at that was just really inappropriate shit that made me feel uncomfortable, especially since he was married. I asked her about it when she off work the next day and she just downplayed it as they are wont to do. I let it go but its something I thought of often, especially after it ended.
We moved in together in August of 21. I helped her get a job at a school over on my side of town so we got a really nice apartment close to her work and not far from mine. Thats when things started to change. I'll never forget we were laying in bed on a Friday afternoon, I was about to go pick up my kid. I rolled over towards her side and propped myself up and looked at her for a second and thought how lucky am I, and so thats what I said out loud to her. Its like she recoiled like she got bit by a snake, bolted out of bed and said I was being clingy and essentially ran out the door where she ended up back on the other side of town and had dinner with a gay guy friend. I really didn't know what to do or how to take it so when I picked my kid up I took her over to my moms house and we stayed there until K called and asked me to come home so we could talk. I left my kid with my mom and went over there and she apologized and reiterated how she feels in relationships, the fear of being left, how independent she had to be because of her upbringing and a few other things.
Not long after that she forwarded me an email, I'm not even sure what she meant to send me if she even meant it to send to me because I never got around to asking. It was an email thread with the coach where she said "guess what?", "What? You're gonna have my baby?" "No I got Covid!". I confronted her about it, told her how it made me feel, and while she never really responded to it in a way that made me worry I still strongly disliked it and let her know that. Not long after that as we were laying in bed I saw she was texting someone exceptionally long paragraphs, you know the type, the type when you're first talking to someone and are explaining things about yourself to them? I'll spare the long part but come to find out shes found a new coach to have what appears to be an emotional affair with. Though come to find out this one ended up being physical. She broke up with me in January 22. Told me while I showed her love in a way she didn't know was possible, and treated her in a way nobody had ever treated her before that I was too good for her and deserved better. I tried to change her mind, lord knows I tried, I was madly in love. My kid was in love with her. We talked about a future I never thought possible after my divorce.
I moved out of the apartment and back to my moms until I could find a place. We talked occasionally and I spent so much time reading this sub and others. Posts about how to get her back, how to make her miss me, what to do and what not to do. When my work sabbatical ended I got my old job back. Its a great job, ridiculously easy and the amount of work I actually do compared to my compensation should be illegal. She lost her cheer stipend when we moved back to my side of town since she didn't coach and since we got the apt together I knew what her funds looked like. We got that place because we could afford it together, alone I knew she was going to struggle. And I still wanted her back... what better way to show her that and try to manifest it by just being there for her when she needed me? Little did I know that would be the only time she asked me anything. Only when she needed help, or was having an anxiety attack and needed someone to talk her off the ledge and tell her everything was going to be okay. It was never her asking how I was doing, or my kid, or my dog, or what was going on in my life. Everyone told me what my gut had already told me but I lied to myself over and over. Not long after all this happened I found out she had been seeing the new coach at the new school though she still won't admit it even up to... checks notes today.
March 23 I get my first really big commission check I gave her 10k and we paid off her credit card, some other debt she had, some missed car payments and other bill help. Not long after that she tells me shes going to a cabin nearby where shes from with her sisters and nieces/nephews and asks me to watch her dog which I miss just as much as her so I do it. Mind you previous to this we went through a rough spot and she had blocked me on IG and never unblocked me. One of my cousins still followed her though, she hits me on snapchat saying "oh wow K looks amazing" I say "Oh yeah, does the cabin look nice?" She said "Cabin? Looks like shes at the beach" and sends me a screenshot of her IG post. I do my best FBI investigation and zoom in on her glasses, it appears to be a guy taking the picture based on the reflection from the frames and I kind of have an idea who I think it could be, come to find out, we'll call him JMJ also happens to be in Florida at the same time. So I call her out and tell her she needs to find someone to come get her dog and I'm done with her and her lies. She tells me "Oh my mom and dad are traveling across the country in their RV (WHICH THEY WERE) and so when you sent me that extra money after we paid the bills my sister and I decided to fly to Florida to spend some time with them on Spring Break"
She then breaks down and tells me how shes ruined the relationship with the last genuine person in her life and that when she gets back she'll get her dog and I'll never hear from her again. Master manipulator and while shes an amazing liar to someone who wants with every fiber of his being to believe him, is awful at hiding her lies. What do I do? Well I'm a fucking idiot so you can already imagine what I did. I begged her for once to just be honest with me. For once in our entire two years going back and forth that if she ever did truly love me or respect me for things I did for her that she would be honest. She told shes not dating anyone and doesn't have a boyfriend and that nothing has changed. I told her that even if she was seeing someone and told me about it I would help her out one last time only because I had committed to it. I told myself I was doing it for altruistic reasons, that because of all her issues that if I can do for her what I said I would do for her and that would help her out in her future relationships to show her that not everybody is it out to just fuck her and leave her, that when some people tell you they'll do something for you they mean it and she stops self sabotaging then I did my part.
A couple weeks ago was her 30th birthday. I see if she wants to grab dinner but she says one of her girl teacher friends is taking her to dinner in the galleria area. Check the guys IG story via an anonymous viewer and guess who happens to be at a restaurant in the galleria area? I don't even call her out because at this point Im making a plan. I get another rather large check in July and so we had previously talked about paying off the rest of her debt. She tells me shes going to her parents house for MDW and then that shes going out of town today with one of her old friends to New Orleans. This is when I realize just whats about to happen. Im about to have the answer to the question I thought I was dying to know the answer to. I told myself if he posts an IG story today where hes traveling, there is 0% chance that shes not with him. The first thing I see when I open IG is he posted a story... in Cancun. Then the next picture I see... her phone on the table next to him. Bingo. Send her an email saying "Hey I hope you have fun in Cancun!" and that was it. Almost immediately she texts me asking how I know and figured it out and I just saw red. I immediately opened up IG and sent him a message with texts, receipts, bank transfers, her telling me that she still loves me and we can go take a trip this summer, how many times shes asked me for money and help and the lies shes told me about him. She asks me to stop messaging him and I say that shes forever lost the option to ask ANYTHING of me but realize what Im doing is not the right thing and is hella immature so I send her another email saying I'm sorry and out of respect for her I wont say anything else to him.
Then he sends me a message on IG asking to elaborate more and then told me she told him I owed her a lot of money... I asked how much and for what and he said $2k for bills when we first got together. Thats when I sent him an entire list of all bank transactions through our bank and Apple Pay. Just digital alone, $18.647.00 over the last six months plus another $12,460.00 in cash over the last eight months. Then I realized just how little better this made me feel. In fact I thought I would feel triumphant, and ready to move on and finally be over her and start to heal. Knowing full damn and well keeping her around and helping her was keeping me from being able to heal and move on. I sent her another message telling her I was taking the last part of her birthday gift to her apartment and leaving it in the ottoman outside her door and that because I had already accounted for and mentally prepared for giving her money in July that I still would then I blocked and removed her from IG and anything else that would open up an avenue for contact.
Here we are. Starting NC again... a year and a half after we broke up all because I thought I needed the answers to what I didn't want to find out or know. And that yet again, my gut has yet to lie to me in regards to relationships. What is wrong with me? Why even after all of this do I still want her in my life and want her back? If she called me tomorrow needing help I'd probably still do it. How do I fix myself? I've gotten an entire new wardrobe, an entire home gym so I quit blaming my depression for why I didn't go to the gym, and have tried really hard to focus on myself yet I know deep down everything I'm doing, I'm still doing for hopes of her. I lied to myself and clouded my own gut and mind to listen to my heart when I knew what I already knew yet still felt the need to confirm it.
Its not worth it. IT. IS.NOT. WORTH. IT. Keep that door closed if you don't want to know whats on the other side. Don't open that book if you don't want to see whats written on that last page. If your gut is telling you something, its probably right. Listen to it. When your friends and family are telling you the same thing your gut is telling you, listen to them. Even if its killing you, even if its the last thing you want to do, even if its going to break your heart again and reopen any wounds for you to bleed out again it has to be done. Don't be like me. Don't prolong your suffering for a year and a half for hope that you know isn't going to shake out in your way regardless of what the other person might be telling you.
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Let’s start at the beginning. I wasn’t a good husband... hell I probably wasn't even a good person. I was selfish, inattentive to her needs, hid a painkiller addiction for many years and a copious amount of other issues. I wasn’t perfect though neither was she. We were happy though and together for a decade. I’ll preface this by saying that I’m the most non-jealous person in the world. I don’t care what you do with your friends, where you do it, and when as long as your honest. For example let’s say one of her friends invited her to go out of town or to do something for a weekend, it was like “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go out of town with insert name here” and vice versa for me “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go hunting with insert name here”. All that being said, again, not jealous AT ALL, but after the divorce and subsequent relationship I think my trust with SO coworkers is irreparably damaged.
His name was Joe, I heard through some of her other coworker friends he had a crush on my wife. Whatever, she got cheated on with her first love and couldn’t even watch movies or shows where someone cheats it would make her so angry. So I never thought twice about her going out with her coworkers. Now again, let me say I was not a good husband towards the end, and it took a long time and a lot of hurt and anger had to be let go to where I finally realized that I don’t fault her for finding solace in the arms of another, because she was a damn good wife, a damn good mother, and an even better husband. And she deserved better. I relapsed after an incredibly awful start to 2018. I went and stayed at my moms and had to go over to the house to get some things. Her and my daughter were gone somewhere but her Apple Watch was there. My gut told me what I already knew, and what I knew was that I shouldn't look through it knowing what I would find. What did I find? That she was filing for divorce the next week and plenty of messages to Joe. I knew it was only a matter of time before they ended up together. Can you guess what happened? I had a decent amount of money saved up so I took a sabbatical from work that ended extending to almost two years
December 2018, Christmas morning. I had a plan, it was foolproof. I was going to facetime my daughter in the morning to tell her how much I loved her and missed her and had a very merry Christmas... and then I was going to go in my backyard and blow my brains out. So thats what I did. I called her, talked to her as best you can to a three year old in the midst of a post present high with her cousins there too. Then I walked out in my backyard with my favorite rifle and sat there. And sat there. And sat there. For six hours. I cried, I wept... I wept for me, for my kid who was going to grow up without her daddy. I wept for my ex-wife who was going to have to explain to my daughter why she wouldn't be able to see her daddy again. I wept for my family and the pain I was about to cause them I begged and screamed to God. That if they were real and I was meant for things in this life that they would show me a fucking sign. Show me ANYTHING that would show me whether this drastic choice would be the right one... or the wrong. For six hours in the freezing cold. Never did get an answer that I could recognize as one. But the thought of my kid calling the person my wife had AT LEAST an emotional affair with, "Dad" made me sick... and made me want to live.
I decided to check into rehab, not for drugs, but so I didn't kill myself. Ive always kind of been a natural leader. I don't know why or what it is about me but people tend to flock towards me and have really either one or two reactions. They either really like me, or they really fucking hate me. Here though everyone really liked me and I was put in charge of running the meetings held there and trying to keep morale of the folks there. And it was a great fucking time. It was a month vacation in a really nice area of the state, I didn't have a phone, only my guitar and the resolve to work through my emotions in a safe place the best way I know how, by writing songs about it. Which is exactly what I did both in the classes, AA Meetings, out of class, didn't matter I was just knocking out song after song. I met a kid in there with a killer voice and a guy around my age who actually was the lead singesongwriter for a local band I was a fan of so it ended up being a really enjoyable experience.. The kid though... he got murdered last year from a drug deal gone wrong. Shot in a car and left to die in the parking lot. I think about him almost every day.
What did I learn? I learned that I shouldn't go looking for things I don't want to find, or ask questions that I really want the true answer to. Or so I thought.
I met K in December 2020 on Hinge. I wasn't sure I was really over my ex wife but then when we met it was love at first sight. And for a guy that didn't think he was ever going to love anyone again it was a major deal. She felt the same it seemed, though I now realize it was probably more of a trauma bond/rebound type situation. Things went really well for the honeymoon phase, it was like we couldn't get enough of each other. She was a cheer coach/art teacher, it was new, it was exciting, the sex was great.. she was great... She had some pretty serious insecurities and abandonment issues though. Her mom dropped her off with what ended up being her adoptive family only to come back a few years later and take her away for a few months, then bring her back and drop her off again. She self sabotages and destroys anything good in her life for fear or being hurt and left by someone again. And she only dated guys that controlled her, treated her like shit, stole from her, etc etc. She took xanax and ambien which when it would kick in at first it seemed she was still cognizant. One night when I was staying over there she had taken it and asked me to look something up in her phone. As soon as I open it I see a text to a coach at the school she taught at that was just really inappropriate shit that made me feel uncomfortable, especially since he was married. I asked her about it when she off work the next day and she just downplayed it as they are wont to do. I let it go but its something I thought of often, especially after it ended.
We moved in together in August of 21. I helped her get a job at a school over on my side of town so we got a really nice apartment close to her work and not far from mine. Thats when things started to change. I'll never forget we were laying in bed on a Friday afternoon, I was about to go pick up my kid. I rolled over towards her side and propped myself up and looked at her for a second and thought how lucky am I, and so thats what I said out loud to her. Its like she recoiled like she got bit by a snake, bolted out of bed and said I was being clingy and essentially ran out the door where she ended up back on the other side of town and had dinner with a gay guy friend. I really didn't know what to do or how to take it so when I picked my kid up I took her over to my moms house and we stayed there until K called and asked me to come home so we could talk. I left my kid with my mom and went over there and she apologized and reiterated how she feels in relationships, the fear of being left, how independent she had to be because of her upbringing and a few other things.
Not long after that she forwarded me an email, I'm not even sure what she meant to send me if she even meant it to send to me because I never got around to asking. It was an email thread with the coach where she said "guess what?", "What? You're gonna have my baby?" "No I got Covid!". I confronted her about it, told her how it made me feel, and while she never really responded to it in a way that made me worry I still strongly disliked it and let her know that. Not long after that as we were laying in bed I saw she was texting someone exceptionally long paragraphs, you know the type, the type when you're first talking to someone and are explaining things about yourself to them? I'll spare the long part but come to find out shes found a new coach to have what appears to be an emotional affair with. Though come to find out this one ended up being physical. She broke up with me in January 22. Told me while I showed her love in a way she didn't know was possible, and treated her in a way nobody had ever treated her before that I was too good for her and deserved better. I tried to change her mind, lord knows I tried, I was madly in love. My kid was in love with her. We talked about a future I never thought possible after my divorce.
I moved out of the apartment and back to my moms until I could find a place. We talked occasionally and I spent so much time reading this sub and others. Posts about how to get her back, how to make her miss me, what to do and what not to do. When my work sabbatical ended I got my old job back. Its a great job, ridiculously easy and the amount of work I actually do compared to my compensation should be illegal. She lost her cheer stipend when we moved back to my side of town since she didn't coach and since we got the apt together I knew what her funds looked like. We got that place because we could afford it together, alone I knew she was going to struggle. And I still wanted her back... what better way to show her that and try to manifest it by just being there for her when she needed me? Little did I know that would be the only time she asked me anything. Only when she needed help, or was having an anxiety attack and needed someone to talk her off the ledge and tell her everything was going to be okay. It was never her asking how I was doing, or my kid, or my dog, or what was going on in my life. Everyone told me what my gut had already told me but I lied to myself over and over. Not long after all this happened I found out she had been seeing the new coach at the new school though she still won't admit it even up to... checks notes today.
March 23 I get my first really big commission check I gave her 10k and we paid off her credit card, some other debt she had, some missed car payments and other bill help. Not long after that she tells me shes going to a cabin nearby where shes from with her sisters and nieces/nephews and asks me to watch her dog which I miss just as much as her so I do it. Mind you previous to this we went through a rough spot and she had blocked me on IG and never unblocked me. One of my cousins still followed her though, she hits me on snapchat saying "oh wow K looks amazing" I say "Oh yeah, does the cabin look nice?" She said "Cabin? Looks like shes at the beach" and sends me a screenshot of her IG post. I do my best FBI investigation and zoom in on her glasses, it appears to be a guy taking the picture based on the reflection from the frames and I kind of have an idea who I think it could be, come to find out, we'll call him JMJ also happens to be in Florida at the same time. So I call her out and tell her she needs to find someone to come get her dog and I'm done with her and her lies. She tells me "Oh my mom and dad are traveling across the country in their RV (WHICH THEY WERE) and so when you sent me that extra money after we paid the bills my sister and I decided to fly to Florida to spend some time with them on Spring Break"
She then breaks down and tells me how shes ruined the relationship with the last genuine person in her life and that when she gets back she'll get her dog and I'll never hear from her again. Master manipulator and while shes an amazing liar to someone who wants with every fiber of his being to believe him, is awful at hiding her lies. What do I do? Well I'm a fucking idiot so you can already imagine what I did. I begged her for once to just be honest with me. For once in our entire two years going back and forth that if she ever did truly love me or respect me for things I did for her that she would be honest. She told shes not dating anyone and doesn't have a boyfriend and that nothing has changed. I told her that even if she was seeing someone and told me about it I would help her out one last time only because I had committed to it. I told myself I was doing it for altruistic reasons, that because of all her issues that if I can do for her what I said I would do for her and that would help her out in her future relationships to show her that not everybody is it out to just fuck her and leave her, that when some people tell you they'll do something for you they mean it and she stops self sabotaging then I did my part.
A couple weeks ago was her 30th birthday. I see if she wants to grab dinner but she says one of her girl teacher friends is taking her to dinner in the galleria area. Check the guys IG story via an anonymous viewer and guess who happens to be at a restaurant in the galleria area? I don't even call her out because at this point Im making a plan. I get another rather large check in July and so we had previously talked about paying off the rest of her debt. She tells me shes going to her parents house for MDW and then that shes going out of town today with one of her old friends to New Orleans. This is when I realize just whats about to happen. Im about to have the answer to the question I thought I was dying to know the answer to. I told myself if he posts an IG story today where hes traveling, there is 0% chance that shes not with him. The first thing I see when I open IG is he posted a story... in Cancun. Then the next picture I see... her phone on the table next to him. Bingo. Send her an email saying "Hey I hope you have fun in Cancun!" and that was it. Almost immediately she texts me asking how I know and figured it out and I just saw red. I immediately opened up IG and sent him a message with texts, receipts, bank transfers, her telling me that she still loves me and we can go take a trip this summer, how many times shes asked me for money and help and the lies shes told me about him. She asks me to stop messaging him and I say that shes forever lost the option to ask ANYTHING of me but realize what Im doing is not the right thing and is hella immature so I send her another email saying I'm sorry and out of respect for her I wont say anything else to him.
Then he sends me a message on IG asking to elaborate more and then told me she told him I owed her a lot of money... I asked how much and for what and he said $2k for bills when we first got together. Thats when I sent him an entire list of all bank transactions through our bank and Apple Pay. Just digital alone, $18.647.00 over the last six months plus another $12,460.00 in cash over the last eight months. Then I realized just how little better this made me feel. In fact I thought I would feel triumphant, and ready to move on and finally be over her and start to heal. Knowing full damn and well keeping her around and helping her was keeping me from being able to heal and move on. I sent her another message telling her I was taking the last part of her birthday gift to her apartment and leaving it in the ottoman outside her door and that because I had already accounted for and mentally prepared for giving her money in July that I still would then I blocked and removed her from IG and anything else that would open up an avenue for contact.
Here we are. Starting NC again... a year and a half after we broke up all because I thought I needed the answers to what I didn't want to find out or know. And that yet again, my gut has yet to lie to me in regards to relationships. What is wrong with me? Why even after all of this do I still want her in my life and want her back? If she called me tomorrow needing help I'd probably still do it. How do I fix myself? I've gotten an entire new wardrobe, an entire home gym so I quit blaming my depression for why I didn't go to the gym, and have tried really hard to focus on myself yet I know deep down everything I'm doing, I'm still doing for hopes of her. I lied to myself and clouded my own gut and mind to listen to my heart when I knew what I already knew yet still felt the need to confirm it.
Its not worth it. IT. IS.NOT. WORTH. IT. Keep that door closed if you don't want to know whats on the other side. Don't open that book if you don't want to see whats written on that last page. If your gut is telling you something, its probably right. Listen to it. When your friends and family are telling you the same thing your gut is telling you, listen to them. Even if its killing you, even if its the last thing you want to do, even if its going to break your heart again and reopen any wounds for you to bleed out again it has to be done. Don't be like me. Don't prolong your suffering for a year and a half for hope that you know isn't going to shake out in your way regardless of what the other person might be telling you.
2023.05.30 00:21 Butterbuddha But if advice for noobs
Ok so here’s my situation. Surprised the Mrs with an Alaskan cruise for our 20th Anniversary, leaving out of Seattle. Cruise is from Tuesday to Tuesday. Not wanting to be in a time crunch we will landing in SeaTac Sunday around 1ish? On the back end we disembark the cruise Tuesday morning at 7, fly out zero dark thirty Thursday morning.
So with a day and a half on the front end I was thinking airport hotel and light rail to tourist hell? (She’s all about seeing the market and the first Starbucks. Oddly not concerned about Space Needle. Happy to just get a pic as we cruise out of the sound. Go figure.)
Aaaanyways, on the back end Priceline has a deal for the two days hotel w car like 600 bucks. Big Four Ice Cave, Leavenworth for a bit of Christmas magic, and maybe alll the way around to Poulsbo for Sluy’s bakery and Viking coffee?
What to do?
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So with a day and a half on the front end I was thinking airport hotel and light rail to tourist hell? (She’s all about seeing the market and the first Starbucks. Oddly not concerned about Space Needle. Happy to just get a pic as we cruise out of the sound. Go figure.)
Aaaanyways, on the back end Priceline has a deal for the two days hotel w car like 600 bucks. Big Four Ice Cave, Leavenworth for a bit of Christmas magic, and maybe alll the way around to Poulsbo for Sluy’s bakery and Viking coffee?
What to do?
2023.05.30 00:21 VeganGirlbossing How Can I Acclimate A Kitten To Travelling, And Meeting New People?
Hey there!
My fiancé and I are looking to adopt a kitten, but for holidays we will be driving almost 6 hours back and forth from his parent's house for holidays.
We don't want to torture the baby so we already came up with keeping them on harness in the car, but are there any other suggestions?
We thought about taking the baby on walks and drives on the harness to associate the harness with good things.
Also we want to make sure the baby isn't skittish at all with new people as like I said we're having the baby at grandmommy and granddaddy's house for holidays. I've had cats all my life and maybe it's because of my family's situation (my brother has high need autism and often throws tantrums), but our cats were always weary of new people. I don't want it to be the case with this one especially.
To be 100% clear my fiancé and I have our own place so no need to worry about intimidating sounds or disruptions when it comes to the kitty, we also don't have any other pets.
TLDR: If there's any advice you can provide me about getting our kitty used to strangers and acclimate them to traveling, it would be greatly appreciated!
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My fiancé and I are looking to adopt a kitten, but for holidays we will be driving almost 6 hours back and forth from his parent's house for holidays.
We don't want to torture the baby so we already came up with keeping them on harness in the car, but are there any other suggestions?
We thought about taking the baby on walks and drives on the harness to associate the harness with good things.
Also we want to make sure the baby isn't skittish at all with new people as like I said we're having the baby at grandmommy and granddaddy's house for holidays. I've had cats all my life and maybe it's because of my family's situation (my brother has high need autism and often throws tantrums), but our cats were always weary of new people. I don't want it to be the case with this one especially.
To be 100% clear my fiancé and I have our own place so no need to worry about intimidating sounds or disruptions when it comes to the kitty, we also don't have any other pets.
TLDR: If there's any advice you can provide me about getting our kitty used to strangers and acclimate them to traveling, it would be greatly appreciated!
2023.05.30 00:21 rawbananayum AITB for locking my son in the car after he caused my daughter's miscarriage
Last saturday, me(42m) and my wife were watching a movie upstairs in our bedroom. A few minutes into the movie, we were interrupted by my daughter screaming. Shocked, of course, me and my wife both rushed downstairs.
I saw my daughter lying on the floor, crying. We asked her what happened, horrified, she said my son 9m punched her. They apparently had a fight because she took his phone away from him while he was finishing up a game he was playing. Pissed, he smacked my daughter's stomach. I grabbed his phone from him and grounded him right then and there. I was pretty angry, but I didn't expect anything too bad to have happened. My daughter stopped crying afterwards, so me and my wife went back to watching our movie.
A few hours later, as we were all getting ready for bed. My wife heard sobbing in the washroom. She knocked on the door repeatedly, concerned, but my daughter did not answer. At this point we were both standing at the door horrified. I told my wife to get the keys and check in on her. I stood outside and waited. And I started hearing my wife cry a little. I asked her what had happened, and she smacked the door open, holding my daughter's hand. She told me that my daughter needed to go to the hospital urgently. She told me to stay at home with our son, and that she would text me what had happened at the hospital. About half an hour later, I get a text from my wife, telling me that my daughter was heavily bleeding from her vagina. Before our first child, me and my wife had experienced miscarriage before, so I put two and two together, and figured out that my daughter had lost her child.
I was torn between anger and between sadness. I got up from my bed, went into my son's room, and grabbed him by his arm. I took him to the car. I told him that he'd be sleeping there until his sister got back from the hospital. I slammed the door on him, and locked the door. He is at an age where he should know not to hurt people.
About 3 in the night, I get a call from my wife. She said that my daughter wanted me to be there with her at the hospital. A while later, my wife came back, and I took the car and left. In less than ten minutes, I got a call from my wife asking where our son was. I told her what I did and she hung up. She called again later and was absolutely pissed. She justified our son's violence saying that he was not at a mature age yet, and that it wasn't fair to give him such a harsh punishment when he didn't even know my daughter was pregnant. She hung up, and is refusing to pick up my calls. I told my daughter about the situation, and she took her brother's side. I left the hospital and I'm staying at a buddy's house right now.
Sorry if my grammar isn't very good, I wasn't born here.
Not giving any names for obvious reasons. Throw away account.
TL;DR: My son punched my daughter, caused a miscarriage, so I locked him in the car, and now my family is pissed at me.
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I saw my daughter lying on the floor, crying. We asked her what happened, horrified, she said my son 9m punched her. They apparently had a fight because she took his phone away from him while he was finishing up a game he was playing. Pissed, he smacked my daughter's stomach. I grabbed his phone from him and grounded him right then and there. I was pretty angry, but I didn't expect anything too bad to have happened. My daughter stopped crying afterwards, so me and my wife went back to watching our movie.
A few hours later, as we were all getting ready for bed. My wife heard sobbing in the washroom. She knocked on the door repeatedly, concerned, but my daughter did not answer. At this point we were both standing at the door horrified. I told my wife to get the keys and check in on her. I stood outside and waited. And I started hearing my wife cry a little. I asked her what had happened, and she smacked the door open, holding my daughter's hand. She told me that my daughter needed to go to the hospital urgently. She told me to stay at home with our son, and that she would text me what had happened at the hospital. About half an hour later, I get a text from my wife, telling me that my daughter was heavily bleeding from her vagina. Before our first child, me and my wife had experienced miscarriage before, so I put two and two together, and figured out that my daughter had lost her child.
I was torn between anger and between sadness. I got up from my bed, went into my son's room, and grabbed him by his arm. I took him to the car. I told him that he'd be sleeping there until his sister got back from the hospital. I slammed the door on him, and locked the door. He is at an age where he should know not to hurt people.
About 3 in the night, I get a call from my wife. She said that my daughter wanted me to be there with her at the hospital. A while later, my wife came back, and I took the car and left. In less than ten minutes, I got a call from my wife asking where our son was. I told her what I did and she hung up. She called again later and was absolutely pissed. She justified our son's violence saying that he was not at a mature age yet, and that it wasn't fair to give him such a harsh punishment when he didn't even know my daughter was pregnant. She hung up, and is refusing to pick up my calls. I told my daughter about the situation, and she took her brother's side. I left the hospital and I'm staying at a buddy's house right now.
Sorry if my grammar isn't very good, I wasn't born here.
Not giving any names for obvious reasons. Throw away account.
TL;DR: My son punched my daughter, caused a miscarriage, so I locked him in the car, and now my family is pissed at me.
2023.05.30 00:20 curtainenjoyer A second date and a first kiss
This is a follow up on my last post.
This girl and I decided to go bowling for our second date. To be honest, the date itself was just okay. I had fun with her but after an hour we were both sick of bowling, so I took her back to her house.
We got back and I got out of the car and started to walk her to the door when she stopped and looked at me. She sort of stumbled over her words but said “so what now?”
At first I just hugged her. Then she gave me the same look she did when we left each other last time and so I went for it. I was weirdly not that nervous, I had expected to basically be too scared to move when the time came. I won’t go into detail but the kiss itself was fine. I very quickly realized I had no idea what I was doing haha.
After the kiss she pulled away and went inside kind of quickly. She said something about how her neighbors would see. I thought that was weird but when I turned around there was a car coming and I know her parents wouldn’t approve so I get it. She hasn’t ghosted me since this so I’m pretty sure she was telling the truth there lol.
Anyway, that was that. I got in my car and drove home.
I don’t know how or what to feel now. I feel happy that I’ve had my first kiss of course, but idk how to feel about the girl. I’m obviously attracted and I definitely like her enough to be friends with her, but do I like her enough to get more serious? I guess I’ll just have to try to spend more time with her and find out.
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This girl and I decided to go bowling for our second date. To be honest, the date itself was just okay. I had fun with her but after an hour we were both sick of bowling, so I took her back to her house.
We got back and I got out of the car and started to walk her to the door when she stopped and looked at me. She sort of stumbled over her words but said “so what now?”
At first I just hugged her. Then she gave me the same look she did when we left each other last time and so I went for it. I was weirdly not that nervous, I had expected to basically be too scared to move when the time came. I won’t go into detail but the kiss itself was fine. I very quickly realized I had no idea what I was doing haha.
After the kiss she pulled away and went inside kind of quickly. She said something about how her neighbors would see. I thought that was weird but when I turned around there was a car coming and I know her parents wouldn’t approve so I get it. She hasn’t ghosted me since this so I’m pretty sure she was telling the truth there lol.
Anyway, that was that. I got in my car and drove home.
I don’t know how or what to feel now. I feel happy that I’ve had my first kiss of course, but idk how to feel about the girl. I’m obviously attracted and I definitely like her enough to be friends with her, but do I like her enough to get more serious? I guess I’ll just have to try to spend more time with her and find out.
2023.05.30 00:20 WTF_Conservatives AITA for not letting my ex take our daughter and move in with her new boyfriend?
I don't even know where to start. My ex and I co parent a wonderful 9 year old daughter. I am not my daughter's biological father (I found out she was not mine when she was three- I left my ex but stayed in the life of my daughter because I was already dad and the bio father was not interested).
We share 50/50 custody and have been able to co-parent effectively other than the last year. About 18 months ago my ex got mad at me for having concerns about issues when she was parenting- I won't go into detail but our ability to co-parent broke down. She took me to court and tried to force a DNA test and have my name removed from the birth certificate to where my daughter basically wouldn't have a dad. My daughter was 7.5 years old at this time- and I've been dad since before she was born.
I got an attorney and long story short... It did not go well for her. At all. The hearing officer was disgusted by what she was attempting to do as my daughter knew me as dad and we had an EXTREMELY close relationship. I'm a good dad. And I was able to prove it. I basically got to dictate the terms of a parenting plan, my child support was drastically lowered from what I was paying and I was allowed to claim my daughter every other year for taxes.
After the parenting plan was put in place we patched things up and got into a good rhythm of co-parenting like we once had. There was no more threatening to keep my daughter from me and my ex respected me as a co-parent a lot more because she is terrified of going back to court again. I have proof of her drinking and driving one time with my daughter in the car (a voice recording of her admitting it) as well as a few other issues that have happened since going to court.
Fast forward to a couple months ago. My ex meets a guy and starts spending a lot of time with him. From what my daughter and ex tell me... He is a pretty legit guy. I have no reason to have an issue with him. I hear nothing but positive stuff about him from my daughter. Well after dating about 8 weeks my ex tells me that she is going to move into his house about 1.5 hours away with my daughter. This would involve uprooting her from everything she's known, moving her farther away from me and having her change schools to a much more inferior school.
My ex has a terrible track record with guys and has been in several abusive relationships... One of the men beat her so bad that he was one of my states most wanted fugitives for what he did to her. But this was all before my daughter was born (He's my daughter's biological father).
I told my ex that because the relationship has only been going on for 8 weeks... She was free to move in with him but my daughter would not be joining them and we would have to rethink the custody arrangement to where I have primary physical if they moved forward. My ex became irate and told me that her boyfriend who she is very much in love with is threatening to leave her if they don't move in together because of the distance between them.
That was another red flag. That the relationship is so fragile that this could cause a breakup. I'm terrified that my ex is going to get herself in a position where she lives with this guy, there's violence or fighting and she can't escape. And my daughter would witness all of this. Because that's the history my ex has with relationships. Every other relationship other than ours has had violence in it.
I told my ex that she should renew her lease and I will renew mine... And a year from now if they are still together and happy- I would be willing to move to that city as well to make it all easy for everyone and our daughter and I would not contest my daughter living there.
Part of me feels like I am being inappropriate and controlling by basically dictating my ex's relationship terms. But the other part of me feels like my concerns are legitimate. And that my daughter's life should not be uprooted for a relationship that is only 8 weeks old... In it's infancy. I feel like I have a moral responsibility to kind of put guard rails on some of the decisions my ex makes when it effects my daughter due to her terrible decisions in the past. I have sacrificed a lot in life to make sure my daughter has a stable life and have always made myself the most stable person around her... It's why we have such a close relationship.
I know it's a long story... And there is more to it.... But am I being a controlling asshole here? I want my ex to be happy- she deserves that. But I also have to watch out for my kiddo.
I am using the threat of legal action to control my ex. That's a fact. And I'm not at all afraid to follow through with it.
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We share 50/50 custody and have been able to co-parent effectively other than the last year. About 18 months ago my ex got mad at me for having concerns about issues when she was parenting- I won't go into detail but our ability to co-parent broke down. She took me to court and tried to force a DNA test and have my name removed from the birth certificate to where my daughter basically wouldn't have a dad. My daughter was 7.5 years old at this time- and I've been dad since before she was born.
I got an attorney and long story short... It did not go well for her. At all. The hearing officer was disgusted by what she was attempting to do as my daughter knew me as dad and we had an EXTREMELY close relationship. I'm a good dad. And I was able to prove it. I basically got to dictate the terms of a parenting plan, my child support was drastically lowered from what I was paying and I was allowed to claim my daughter every other year for taxes.
After the parenting plan was put in place we patched things up and got into a good rhythm of co-parenting like we once had. There was no more threatening to keep my daughter from me and my ex respected me as a co-parent a lot more because she is terrified of going back to court again. I have proof of her drinking and driving one time with my daughter in the car (a voice recording of her admitting it) as well as a few other issues that have happened since going to court.
Fast forward to a couple months ago. My ex meets a guy and starts spending a lot of time with him. From what my daughter and ex tell me... He is a pretty legit guy. I have no reason to have an issue with him. I hear nothing but positive stuff about him from my daughter. Well after dating about 8 weeks my ex tells me that she is going to move into his house about 1.5 hours away with my daughter. This would involve uprooting her from everything she's known, moving her farther away from me and having her change schools to a much more inferior school.
My ex has a terrible track record with guys and has been in several abusive relationships... One of the men beat her so bad that he was one of my states most wanted fugitives for what he did to her. But this was all before my daughter was born (He's my daughter's biological father).
I told my ex that because the relationship has only been going on for 8 weeks... She was free to move in with him but my daughter would not be joining them and we would have to rethink the custody arrangement to where I have primary physical if they moved forward. My ex became irate and told me that her boyfriend who she is very much in love with is threatening to leave her if they don't move in together because of the distance between them.
That was another red flag. That the relationship is so fragile that this could cause a breakup. I'm terrified that my ex is going to get herself in a position where she lives with this guy, there's violence or fighting and she can't escape. And my daughter would witness all of this. Because that's the history my ex has with relationships. Every other relationship other than ours has had violence in it.
I told my ex that she should renew her lease and I will renew mine... And a year from now if they are still together and happy- I would be willing to move to that city as well to make it all easy for everyone and our daughter and I would not contest my daughter living there.
Part of me feels like I am being inappropriate and controlling by basically dictating my ex's relationship terms. But the other part of me feels like my concerns are legitimate. And that my daughter's life should not be uprooted for a relationship that is only 8 weeks old... In it's infancy. I feel like I have a moral responsibility to kind of put guard rails on some of the decisions my ex makes when it effects my daughter due to her terrible decisions in the past. I have sacrificed a lot in life to make sure my daughter has a stable life and have always made myself the most stable person around her... It's why we have such a close relationship.
I know it's a long story... And there is more to it.... But am I being a controlling asshole here? I want my ex to be happy- she deserves that. But I also have to watch out for my kiddo.
I am using the threat of legal action to control my ex. That's a fact. And I'm not at all afraid to follow through with it.
2023.05.30 00:19 Party-Invite-5070 Question about SMOG and ABS
Posting this for my aunt. She has a 2005 Toyota Camry LE V6 with about 89,000 miles. The car battery died about 2 months ago and she had it replaced. Just a few days ago, the Camry failed the Smog test due to OBD2 not being ready. I helped her drive about 150 miles. When I took her car to Autozone, the scan showed codes C0210 and C0215 for ABS sensor wiring. I took it to OReilly a couple blocks away for a second scan and the employee said there is nothing wrong with the car and all the codes were cleared (e.g., O2, evap).
Questions:
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Questions:
- Is the car clear for SMOG?
- Why is there a difference between the Autozone and OReilly scans? Will the ABS codes be an issue with clearing SMOG? (When the car is started, no ABS or check engine lights are on)
- What are some fixes for C0210 and C0215?
2023.05.30 00:19 visenya567 After an amusing few years, depending how long you've been following, am I the only one offially bored and over the Harkle drama?
It's been around 6 years since I've been following this train wreck, after the engagement interview (cringe) and what is there left to snark on?
The "car crash" fiasco was so embarrassing even Meghan refused to show up at the Grazies to accept her "award".
Her fashion is usually the same. Not always, but often it is a nice outfit, execution however, fit and size etc. is unfortunate.
The kids exist, why they don't want to show them is anyone's guess. But, not really my business and in the grand scheme of things, the children are of no interest to me and deserve their privacy.
Meghan has been exposed as anything but this feministic (did I just make up a word, lol), humanitarian trying to change the world for the better. On the contrary, thanks to her own actions, more people have woken up and are publicly mocking her.
Harry, though I believe he is responsible for his own actions and at times he is worse than Meghan, is spiralling and it is sad to watch.
They officially have no connection to the royals anymore and have become such a laughing stock to the world, it is just embarrassing now.
I'm at a point where I check out the sub every few days/weeks but there really isn't anything worth commenting on. Some sinners are coming up with ridiculous conspiracy theories - which unfortunatly are on level with the sussex squad - just trying to keep the snark going and unfortunatly it makes us all look bad and it really isn't fun anymore.
I don't know how you all feel, but I'm starting to think, maybe it's time to move on. Am I alone?
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The "car crash" fiasco was so embarrassing even Meghan refused to show up at the Grazies to accept her "award".
Her fashion is usually the same. Not always, but often it is a nice outfit, execution however, fit and size etc. is unfortunate.
The kids exist, why they don't want to show them is anyone's guess. But, not really my business and in the grand scheme of things, the children are of no interest to me and deserve their privacy.
Meghan has been exposed as anything but this feministic (did I just make up a word, lol), humanitarian trying to change the world for the better. On the contrary, thanks to her own actions, more people have woken up and are publicly mocking her.
Harry, though I believe he is responsible for his own actions and at times he is worse than Meghan, is spiralling and it is sad to watch.
They officially have no connection to the royals anymore and have become such a laughing stock to the world, it is just embarrassing now.
I'm at a point where I check out the sub every few days/weeks but there really isn't anything worth commenting on. Some sinners are coming up with ridiculous conspiracy theories - which unfortunatly are on level with the sussex squad - just trying to keep the snark going and unfortunatly it makes us all look bad and it really isn't fun anymore.
I don't know how you all feel, but I'm starting to think, maybe it's time to move on. Am I alone?
2023.05.30 00:19 BeanNCheeze [Breeds] Large dog Recommendation - Active person
Introuduction
1) Will this be your first dog? If not, what experience do you have owning/training dogs?
Lots of training experience. I have a current medium german Shepard mix dog that is very well trained and I started at 0 with.
Before this I did dog training with my other dogs when I was younger.
2) Do you have a preference for rescuing a dog vs. going through a reputable breeder?
Repudable breeder
3) Describe your ideal dog.
The dog must be capable of being good with cats, dogs, children and everyone.
Eager to please and very reliable off leash. Lovable and cuddly.
low coat maintenace
Ideally they can run 3 miles every other day. (I run 4-6 miles daily but plan on definitely lowering to 3 miles)
Quiet breed
4) What breeds or types of dogs are you interested in and why?
• Labrador Good dog, I like the English lab. Checks off most of my boxes. Im cautious because of the exercise they need. Very loving dog.
Smaller size of the english is a con. Not much else.
• Rottweiler Quiet breed. I love the bulk look. Smart breed for training. 3 mile run is possible (max) Good with everyone if socialized well. I like the indifference they have towards others (more focus on me and my family). Lovable. Food motivated. They’re energy needs sounds perfect for me. Good hiker. Good with kids and other animals.
Stuborness is a con for me
• Doberman Elegant look. Can keep up with my runs. Velcro. Lovable. Off leash potential. Love the focus on handler. Potential for separation anxiety and vocalness are cons for me.
leaning away from this one.
5) What sorts of things would you like to train your dog to do?
Basic obedience, running, hiking, impeccable recall for off leash. Holding things on there back pack.
6) Do you want to compete with your dog in a sport (e.g. agility, obedience, rally) or use your dog for a form of work (e.g. hunting, herding, livestock guarding)? If so, how much experience do you have with this work/sport?
No, he would be purely a companion
Care Commitments
7) How long do you want to devote to training, playing with, or otherwise interacting with your dog each day?
He would be with me 8+ hours a day (work from home), running buddy (45min - 1hr 15min), 30 min training in morning.
This would be an average day. Random play throughout the day. I love controlled rough play with my dog. (with toys)
8) How long can you exercise your dog each day, on average? What sorts of exercise are you planning to give your dog regularly and does that include using a dog park?
9) How much regular brushing are you willing to do? Are you open to trimming hair, cleaning ears, or doing other grooming at home? If not, would you be willing to pay a professional to do it regularly?
low grooming. Brushing when needed no trimming
Personal Preferences
10) What size dog are you looking for?
large
11) How much shedding, barking, and slobber can you handle?
moderate shedding
quiet breed
low slobber max
12) How important is being able to let your dog off-leash in an unfenced area?
Very. I take my current dog to open areas and plan on also taking this dog.
Dog Personality and Behavior
13) Do you want a snuggly dog or one that prefers some personal space?
Snuggly
14) Would you prefer a dog that wants to do its own thing or one that’s more eager-to-please?
Eager to please.
15) How would you prefer your dog to respond to someone knocking on the door or entering your yard? How would you prefer your dog to greet strangers or visitors?
Kind to everyone. But also very fine with indifference / alert. No unecessary agresion.
16) Are you willing to manage a dog that is aggressive to other dogs?
No
17) Are there any other behaviors you can’t deal with or want to avoid?
18) How often and how long will the dog be left alone?
4 hours on average. 8 hours on rare days.
This would be as an adult. Puppy gets much more time.
19) What are the dog-related preferences of other people in the house and what will be their involvement in caring for the dog?
Partner would be involved in training interacting with the dog. She loves dogs of all sizes. Vet tech.
20) Do you have other pets or are you planning on having other pets? What breed or type of animal are they?
• 2 Cats • 1 female german shepard mix (shes very kind to everyone)
21) Will the dog be interacting with children regularly?
Not regularly. But will see them regularly and long term, yes.
22) Do you rent or plan to rent in the future? If applicable, what breed or weight restrictions are on your current lease?
no, I own a home
23) What city or country do you live in and are you aware of any laws banning certain breeds?
California, and Yes.
24) What is the average temperature of a typical summer and winter day where you live?
55 F
No snow ever
Additional Information and Questions
25) Please provide any additional information you feel may be relevant.
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1) Will this be your first dog? If not, what experience do you have owning/training dogs?
Lots of training experience. I have a current medium german Shepard mix dog that is very well trained and I started at 0 with.
Before this I did dog training with my other dogs when I was younger.
2) Do you have a preference for rescuing a dog vs. going through a reputable breeder?
Repudable breeder
3) Describe your ideal dog.
The dog must be capable of being good with cats, dogs, children and everyone.
Eager to please and very reliable off leash. Lovable and cuddly.
low coat maintenace
Ideally they can run 3 miles every other day. (I run 4-6 miles daily but plan on definitely lowering to 3 miles)
Quiet breed
4) What breeds or types of dogs are you interested in and why?
• Labrador Good dog, I like the English lab. Checks off most of my boxes. Im cautious because of the exercise they need. Very loving dog.
Smaller size of the english is a con. Not much else.
• Rottweiler Quiet breed. I love the bulk look. Smart breed for training. 3 mile run is possible (max) Good with everyone if socialized well. I like the indifference they have towards others (more focus on me and my family). Lovable. Food motivated. They’re energy needs sounds perfect for me. Good hiker. Good with kids and other animals.
Stuborness is a con for me
• Doberman Elegant look. Can keep up with my runs. Velcro. Lovable. Off leash potential. Love the focus on handler. Potential for separation anxiety and vocalness are cons for me.
leaning away from this one.
5) What sorts of things would you like to train your dog to do?
Basic obedience, running, hiking, impeccable recall for off leash. Holding things on there back pack.
6) Do you want to compete with your dog in a sport (e.g. agility, obedience, rally) or use your dog for a form of work (e.g. hunting, herding, livestock guarding)? If so, how much experience do you have with this work/sport?
No, he would be purely a companion
Care Commitments
7) How long do you want to devote to training, playing with, or otherwise interacting with your dog each day?
He would be with me 8+ hours a day (work from home), running buddy (45min - 1hr 15min), 30 min training in morning.
This would be an average day. Random play throughout the day. I love controlled rough play with my dog. (with toys)
8) How long can you exercise your dog each day, on average? What sorts of exercise are you planning to give your dog regularly and does that include using a dog park?
9) How much regular brushing are you willing to do? Are you open to trimming hair, cleaning ears, or doing other grooming at home? If not, would you be willing to pay a professional to do it regularly?
low grooming. Brushing when needed no trimming
Personal Preferences
10) What size dog are you looking for?
large
11) How much shedding, barking, and slobber can you handle?
moderate shedding
quiet breed
low slobber max
12) How important is being able to let your dog off-leash in an unfenced area?
Very. I take my current dog to open areas and plan on also taking this dog.
Dog Personality and Behavior
13) Do you want a snuggly dog or one that prefers some personal space?
Snuggly
14) Would you prefer a dog that wants to do its own thing or one that’s more eager-to-please?
Eager to please.
15) How would you prefer your dog to respond to someone knocking on the door or entering your yard? How would you prefer your dog to greet strangers or visitors?
Kind to everyone. But also very fine with indifference / alert. No unecessary agresion.
16) Are you willing to manage a dog that is aggressive to other dogs?
No
17) Are there any other behaviors you can’t deal with or want to avoid?
- Separation anxiety
- Loud breeds
- Anxious
- aggresive
18) How often and how long will the dog be left alone?
4 hours on average. 8 hours on rare days.
This would be as an adult. Puppy gets much more time.
19) What are the dog-related preferences of other people in the house and what will be their involvement in caring for the dog?
Partner would be involved in training interacting with the dog. She loves dogs of all sizes. Vet tech.
20) Do you have other pets or are you planning on having other pets? What breed or type of animal are they?
• 2 Cats • 1 female german shepard mix (shes very kind to everyone)
21) Will the dog be interacting with children regularly?
Not regularly. But will see them regularly and long term, yes.
22) Do you rent or plan to rent in the future? If applicable, what breed or weight restrictions are on your current lease?
no, I own a home
23) What city or country do you live in and are you aware of any laws banning certain breeds?
California, and Yes.
24) What is the average temperature of a typical summer and winter day where you live?
55 F
No snow ever
Additional Information and Questions
25) Please provide any additional information you feel may be relevant.
- No additional information.
2023.05.30 00:18 Ok-Potential-4560 Transferring a vehicle purchase
Hi folks! My partner financed a car in his name for me. My credit at the time was not good, but now it’s fantastic. I make all the payments on the car. How do I go about refinancing the car? What’s the best way to achieve this?
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2023.05.30 00:18 throwaway_my_s0ul MIL Implied I am Cheating to my Child
so, a little backstory:
I was a SAHM for 9 years. I took care of my kids, the house, did crafts and hobbies, and kept to myself. I had no friends but my husband and my kids.
Eventually I started going to college. I did online for as long as possible because my husband didn't want me going in person. That ran out and I had to finish the last few semesters in person. I met people, became friends so we could help each other with homework.
I tried soo soo hard to be friends with other women there. They acted like I was competition and shunned me. My field has few women, so I became casual friends with some of the guys. Eventually, we started playing video games online like 3 or 4 of us twice a week. I never neglected my family duties to do so. Once I graduated, I never saw these guys again in person, but we still play games.
During covid especially, I was stuck in the house with my agitated husband because the kids were around him 24/7 interrupting his video games and being loud. I was so lonely during that time. I couldn't talk to him about anything I felt, so I escaped by playing games with my friends and trying so hard to never want to go home. There would be days I'd park my car in a parking lot and sit there and cry, just so no one would see me.
I also went back to work my final year of college and made a few female friends that way. I hadn't hung out with another woman without kids in 10 years, so when I was invited to hang it was this huge deal.
My MIL was shocked saying "youre going without your husbands?" and just fully unsupportive of it. Or the time I wanted to go to a concert but my husband didn't, so he stayed home with the kids and I went alone. His mom couldn't fathom that and she always has an opinion on everything I do.
I've tried to keep in touch with the female friends, but one quit being my friend because I was complaining about my marriage too much and the other the last time we hung out, barely spoke to me so I dont have a friendship with her anymore.
I took my kids out today and my oldest daughter (12) tells me that she told her grandmother about my online guy friends and the grandmother told her "I hope your momma doesn't mess up with one of these guys and hurt your daddy". basically Implying im cheating with them even though we only ever play online.
My husband also plays games. He raids twice a week on a game with a mixture of guys and girls he plays with, but nothing is ever said about him. He also works at a job where he's the only man in a women dominated position.
If you read my profile you'll know that we are getting a divorce. My choice and it's mostly his lack of contribution to the home, his insane jealousy and controlling behavior, his lack of accountability, his sexual coersion..
Its been over a month since I've told him, I got my half of the house money in, and will soon be looking for a place. I was hoping he would tell his own mother, but it seems like he's stalling or waiting for me to do it.
My MIL is not one from he'll, I quite like her most of the time, but her true colors come out in situations like this or how she butts into our marriage. I confided in her a few times about her sons emotional.and verbal abuse and she brushed it off.
She had told me that I should just love him enough, pray for him, and everything would be ok. A few times she would reschedule our family lunches because she said she couldn't bear to see how he treats me, so instead she'll just not come as to not agitate him.
There was one time she stuck up for me, but it was super mild when he threw a temper tantrum at a restaurant because it was his birthday and I was too swamped with work, school, the kids, etc to make his birthday cake the day of his birthday so he made a big show and ordered a slice at the restaurant. She had defended me saying I was super busy, but I can tell she's terrified of him.
She knows I've been really unhappy for 5 years. A few weeks ago he bought a dog knowing I'd be the one taking care of it alone while hes at work and she came in the kitchen and quietly hugged me saying "Im.so sorry he did that" but of course won't say a word to her precious son.
I know once the cat is out of the bag that she will be on my case thinking I'm cheating, because neither of our two families think my reasons are "good enough" to divorce.
Since I won't have to deal with her too much longer in such a close manner at least, should I just let this go?
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I was a SAHM for 9 years. I took care of my kids, the house, did crafts and hobbies, and kept to myself. I had no friends but my husband and my kids.
Eventually I started going to college. I did online for as long as possible because my husband didn't want me going in person. That ran out and I had to finish the last few semesters in person. I met people, became friends so we could help each other with homework.
I tried soo soo hard to be friends with other women there. They acted like I was competition and shunned me. My field has few women, so I became casual friends with some of the guys. Eventually, we started playing video games online like 3 or 4 of us twice a week. I never neglected my family duties to do so. Once I graduated, I never saw these guys again in person, but we still play games.
During covid especially, I was stuck in the house with my agitated husband because the kids were around him 24/7 interrupting his video games and being loud. I was so lonely during that time. I couldn't talk to him about anything I felt, so I escaped by playing games with my friends and trying so hard to never want to go home. There would be days I'd park my car in a parking lot and sit there and cry, just so no one would see me.
I also went back to work my final year of college and made a few female friends that way. I hadn't hung out with another woman without kids in 10 years, so when I was invited to hang it was this huge deal.
My MIL was shocked saying "youre going without your husbands?" and just fully unsupportive of it. Or the time I wanted to go to a concert but my husband didn't, so he stayed home with the kids and I went alone. His mom couldn't fathom that and she always has an opinion on everything I do.
I've tried to keep in touch with the female friends, but one quit being my friend because I was complaining about my marriage too much and the other the last time we hung out, barely spoke to me so I dont have a friendship with her anymore.
I took my kids out today and my oldest daughter (12) tells me that she told her grandmother about my online guy friends and the grandmother told her "I hope your momma doesn't mess up with one of these guys and hurt your daddy". basically Implying im cheating with them even though we only ever play online.
My husband also plays games. He raids twice a week on a game with a mixture of guys and girls he plays with, but nothing is ever said about him. He also works at a job where he's the only man in a women dominated position.
If you read my profile you'll know that we are getting a divorce. My choice and it's mostly his lack of contribution to the home, his insane jealousy and controlling behavior, his lack of accountability, his sexual coersion..
Its been over a month since I've told him, I got my half of the house money in, and will soon be looking for a place. I was hoping he would tell his own mother, but it seems like he's stalling or waiting for me to do it.
My MIL is not one from he'll, I quite like her most of the time, but her true colors come out in situations like this or how she butts into our marriage. I confided in her a few times about her sons emotional.and verbal abuse and she brushed it off.
She had told me that I should just love him enough, pray for him, and everything would be ok. A few times she would reschedule our family lunches because she said she couldn't bear to see how he treats me, so instead she'll just not come as to not agitate him.
There was one time she stuck up for me, but it was super mild when he threw a temper tantrum at a restaurant because it was his birthday and I was too swamped with work, school, the kids, etc to make his birthday cake the day of his birthday so he made a big show and ordered a slice at the restaurant. She had defended me saying I was super busy, but I can tell she's terrified of him.
She knows I've been really unhappy for 5 years. A few weeks ago he bought a dog knowing I'd be the one taking care of it alone while hes at work and she came in the kitchen and quietly hugged me saying "Im.so sorry he did that" but of course won't say a word to her precious son.
I know once the cat is out of the bag that she will be on my case thinking I'm cheating, because neither of our two families think my reasons are "good enough" to divorce.
Since I won't have to deal with her too much longer in such a close manner at least, should I just let this go?
2023.05.30 00:18 Grouchy_Income_7589 PC US NAMALSK DayZGone Namalsk Hardcore Survival #1 (1/1) - 1PP
Welcome to DayZGone Namalsk - an exhilarating first person survival experience like no other! No Base Building, or Cars! Dive into a post-apocalyptic world set on the frozen wasteland of Namalsk, where unforgiving weather conditions and bloodthirsty zombies are just the beginning of your challenges. We have added some additional mods below all while still keeping the Vanilla aspect of the game.
🎒 Military Overhault Pack: Unleash your inner warrior with a complete overhaul of military-grade equipment. Discover new weapons, gear, and clothing options that will make you a force to be reckoned with including the AR-15 and the AKSR.
🔫 VSWeaponry: Prepare to arm yourself with an extensive arsenal of weapons, courtesy of the VSWeaponry mod. From powerful assault rifles to precision sniper rifles and devastating shotguns, this mod brings an exciting variety of firearms to the game. Each weapon is meticulously crafted with attention to detail, ensuring a realistic and immersive combat experience yet also keeping a balanced level between all weapons.
🙅♂️ No Force Weapon Raise: Say goodbye to accidental weapon raises and enjoy smoother, more immersive gameplay. No more frustrating interactions when you need to stay quiet and undetected.
📦 Stack More Items: Maximize your carrying capacity and make the most of your limited inventory space. Stack More Items allows you to stack essential resources efficiently, ensuring you're always prepared for the harshest of conditions.
👕 Windstrides Clothing Pack: Customize your character's appearance with a diverse range of stylish clothing options. Protect yourself from the elements while expressing your unique style in this frozen, unforgiving world.
Join DayZGone Namalsk now and embark on a thrilling journey of survival, where every decision matters. Test your skills, form alliances, scavenge for supplies, and fight to stay alive in this brutal, immersive DayZ experience.
SERVER INFORMATION:
Max Players- 42
IP- 37.10.124.212:24000
Restarts- Every 4 hours.
Mods- Community Framework, Community Online Tools, Advanced Weapon Scopes, DayOne, Military Overhault Pack, No Force Weapon Raise, Stack More Items, Windstrides Clothing Pack.
Playstyle- PvP, PvE, RP.
First Person Only!
Discord: https://discord.gg/a8uc95Ms5s
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🎒 Military Overhault Pack: Unleash your inner warrior with a complete overhaul of military-grade equipment. Discover new weapons, gear, and clothing options that will make you a force to be reckoned with including the AR-15 and the AKSR.
🔫 VSWeaponry: Prepare to arm yourself with an extensive arsenal of weapons, courtesy of the VSWeaponry mod. From powerful assault rifles to precision sniper rifles and devastating shotguns, this mod brings an exciting variety of firearms to the game. Each weapon is meticulously crafted with attention to detail, ensuring a realistic and immersive combat experience yet also keeping a balanced level between all weapons.
🙅♂️ No Force Weapon Raise: Say goodbye to accidental weapon raises and enjoy smoother, more immersive gameplay. No more frustrating interactions when you need to stay quiet and undetected.
📦 Stack More Items: Maximize your carrying capacity and make the most of your limited inventory space. Stack More Items allows you to stack essential resources efficiently, ensuring you're always prepared for the harshest of conditions.
👕 Windstrides Clothing Pack: Customize your character's appearance with a diverse range of stylish clothing options. Protect yourself from the elements while expressing your unique style in this frozen, unforgiving world.
Join DayZGone Namalsk now and embark on a thrilling journey of survival, where every decision matters. Test your skills, form alliances, scavenge for supplies, and fight to stay alive in this brutal, immersive DayZ experience.
SERVER INFORMATION:
Max Players- 42
IP- 37.10.124.212:24000
Restarts- Every 4 hours.
Mods- Community Framework, Community Online Tools, Advanced Weapon Scopes, DayOne, Military Overhault Pack, No Force Weapon Raise, Stack More Items, Windstrides Clothing Pack.
Playstyle- PvP, PvE, RP.
First Person Only!
Discord: https://discord.gg/a8uc95Ms5s