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2014.10.22 07:38 andres1232 Cute Little Fangs
This is cutelittlefangs, a place for celebrating, well... cute little fangs. We hope you enjoy your time here! This is a subreddit for fans of characters with fangs, such as Tooru from Dragon Maid and Tsuruya from Haruhi Suzumiya.
2010.02.27 05:23 Meades_Loves_Memes r/teenagers
teenagers is the biggest community forum run by teenagers for teenagers. Our subreddit is primarily for discussions and memes that an average teenager would enjoy to discuss about. We do not have any age-restriction in place but do keep in mind this is targeted for users between the ages of 13 to 19. Parents, teachers, and the like are welcomed to participate and ask any questions!
2023.05.29 22:39 AfroGirl597 Afro Fetish
For as long as I can remember since I was around 12-13 I have had a secret thing for afros, especially as I would see it in movies and tv shows growing up, especially Johnny Test, then tried to ignore it for a good 5 years till I was 18 and stumbled on some Afro fanart one weekend on DeviantArt, then I tried to ignore it again because I was feeling so uneasy feeling about it, then sometime last year somewhere on Twitter I saw something about a anime afros calander, then I remembered that weekend of that summer, and remembered some of the nice and friendly comments on DeviantArt such as "Cute", and since last year I decided to turn my ashamed and shattered feelings into something positive followed by that tweet and turn it all into something positive, which I been step by step since last year while keeping it a secret from family members, as I would be feeling uneasy of how they react if they were to find out, but atleast It's nice I can keep my secrets and not have to worry or be feeling uneasy about them, especially when I am here, and on my Facebook profile I made specifically for Afro fanart I find on DeviantArt I admire, and in discord, and in live chatrooms on YouTube are my only outlets and escapes with this fetish. Girls with Afros are so cute and sexy, and sometimes it makes me excited and hard when I think about my long hair turning into a big massive afro, I love afro girls and a girls hair turning into a afro. My family doesn't know about any of this, and has a respect for my privacy and security. Sorry for such a long post, I was holding all of this in for sometime, I can't say how long it's been, but it's been long enough. Sometime last year I made this account specifically for this and all I can say is I'm relieved
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2023.05.29 22:35 Stan_SH17 How to act against my ex's provocations during my zero contact? Why she want to hurt me? Is she going to come back?
Hi everyone. I'm happy to discover this forum, I really feel very lonely in this new and hard fight. I'm gonna make a big summary about my situation. I will appreciate a lot any kind of advice or help. My girlfriend brokeup our 4 year and a half relationship. The main reason, she know a friend that at the beggining she resist to admit that she likes it. So the guy enter in his life just as a friend. And it seems that for almost a year it was just that. Before thath the relation ends, we had a discution about her interes in my self. My ex was in a very dificult period in her life, she has a lot of problems with her family, her mind and the university. So she beggan to neglet the relation. Even when i warned him about the posible concecuences, she didn't do nothing. She just hinted that it wasen't no more confortable to feel that she must hold the relation. So she was angry and sad for our discution and the next day that she was with her friend, she kissed him. Aparrently for the guy that was a surprise. But for her it was a destructive desition. Next day she told me witout stop of criying and saying sorry lots of time. And at the same time, express her desire of broke up. I didn't understand, I was shoked, and my only option was to "accept" the broke up. Since thath, happen a mounth ago and both we suffer a lot. Also we beggin to think in all our mistakes during the relationship. Even knowing that, I was determinate to get back her. I decide to change my life (at that moment me too have to fight lots of problems) and to write a big letter explaing all my changes and the reasons why I think we should comeback. Meanwhile that happen she only express her guilty and confusion. But she tried to convence herself that our time together has come to and end, and know each of us must beggin a new life. I tried to convence that chanching our lifes dosen't mean that we must be separated. So in that time I didn't stop to look for her and to give him small details to convence her. Now I reconize that it was a big mistake.
When she promise me that she has clarify her mind, she express again in person that she dosen't want to be with me. The problem is that it dosen't seem to be a strong desition. Because even in thath condition we have pass a good time. That was a week ago, we kiseed multiples times and we play a lot like if we was boyfriends. My intensión was to make a zero contact and at that moment give my best impresión. And then, when the moment of remember me arrive, she could remeber our last good time together. At the same time I began to realize that it wasen't good to be friend or to talk to someone to I love and I want as a couple, when she dosen't deasire anymore the same thing. She only seemed to be interested in garante our friendship. So at the next day and in our "date" I made and effort to transmite the following: "i cannot want to be with someone that dosen't love me as I do it". And I beggan the zero contact. She only try to speak me the same day and the she didn't said nothing. She kind of proud women. During that days I beggan to fell me better, and I convince myself that my life could be cute witout her. But at the same time, even If i beggan a emotional disconection of her, that dosen't mean that I lost the hope on her. In wich she will reconsidere her desition. Or at least my objetive was to give him some time to think witout preasure and felling my true absence in her life. So after a couple of weeks I could come back in a stronger emotional way and for show with discretion my changes. This time witout fear of being rejected. But then something happen, I put in my social media a picture with my new puppy friday. Also durring this weeks I put some collection photos in facebook of my past, with my family, of my birthaday and even a couple of pictures with her. I think she saw it friday and she became maybe angry or sad, because of that and the zero contact. So she desactive her facebook profile. Is something that she do when she feel bad o she has to think. And the yestarday in the morning she found a stuppid pretext to send me a message, and she said: "Don't worry, its not necesary that you answer me". I ignored that. But at the night, she made something to hurt me. It will take to much time to explain the context.
So I will only say that she found I way to put something in her social media In way that only I understand why it hurts me, meanwhile other found it like a inoccent experience. She try ito put me jelous, but not with a guy, the problem was the WORDS that she chose to describe her experience knowing in a event an "actor" that made the voice of her anime crush, that she knew (because I told her in the past in a relax way and not being jelous, that i feel a bit bad when she post cute and admirable words for him. I said that I will like to be for her that one guy that she announce in her storys as the "love of her life"), it would hurt me. And even more, she thanked publickly in a cute but discrete way to the guy she kissed (apparently still friends). I don't know why, it doesn't seem like it was a date for two. At best, he just gave her the information about the event. In the worst, well she has no respect for the duel of our broke up. So just me I realize that this is kind of a vengence and a way to catch my atention. It just made me very angry, but I dindt do anything.
I think the best think I can do is to ignore her provocations. But I dont know that to do now. She will ever realize of what she is doing hurting me like that? What is she waiting of me? I should change something of my strategy? If didn't do anything, maybe she will get more angry or more sad and will do something more? Bad o good maybe? Whats tells you your own experience about my case? Why she do that and what sould I do? What should I expect?
Sorry for my bad english, I'm not a native speaker and I do my best.
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When she promise me that she has clarify her mind, she express again in person that she dosen't want to be with me. The problem is that it dosen't seem to be a strong desition. Because even in thath condition we have pass a good time. That was a week ago, we kiseed multiples times and we play a lot like if we was boyfriends. My intensión was to make a zero contact and at that moment give my best impresión. And then, when the moment of remember me arrive, she could remeber our last good time together. At the same time I began to realize that it wasen't good to be friend or to talk to someone to I love and I want as a couple, when she dosen't deasire anymore the same thing. She only seemed to be interested in garante our friendship. So at the next day and in our "date" I made and effort to transmite the following: "i cannot want to be with someone that dosen't love me as I do it". And I beggan the zero contact. She only try to speak me the same day and the she didn't said nothing. She kind of proud women. During that days I beggan to fell me better, and I convince myself that my life could be cute witout her. But at the same time, even If i beggan a emotional disconection of her, that dosen't mean that I lost the hope on her. In wich she will reconsidere her desition. Or at least my objetive was to give him some time to think witout preasure and felling my true absence in her life. So after a couple of weeks I could come back in a stronger emotional way and for show with discretion my changes. This time witout fear of being rejected. But then something happen, I put in my social media a picture with my new puppy friday. Also durring this weeks I put some collection photos in facebook of my past, with my family, of my birthaday and even a couple of pictures with her. I think she saw it friday and she became maybe angry or sad, because of that and the zero contact. So she desactive her facebook profile. Is something that she do when she feel bad o she has to think. And the yestarday in the morning she found a stuppid pretext to send me a message, and she said: "Don't worry, its not necesary that you answer me". I ignored that. But at the night, she made something to hurt me. It will take to much time to explain the context.
So I will only say that she found I way to put something in her social media In way that only I understand why it hurts me, meanwhile other found it like a inoccent experience. She try ito put me jelous, but not with a guy, the problem was the WORDS that she chose to describe her experience knowing in a event an "actor" that made the voice of her anime crush, that she knew (because I told her in the past in a relax way and not being jelous, that i feel a bit bad when she post cute and admirable words for him. I said that I will like to be for her that one guy that she announce in her storys as the "love of her life"), it would hurt me. And even more, she thanked publickly in a cute but discrete way to the guy she kissed (apparently still friends). I don't know why, it doesn't seem like it was a date for two. At best, he just gave her the information about the event. In the worst, well she has no respect for the duel of our broke up. So just me I realize that this is kind of a vengence and a way to catch my atention. It just made me very angry, but I dindt do anything.
I think the best think I can do is to ignore her provocations. But I dont know that to do now. She will ever realize of what she is doing hurting me like that? What is she waiting of me? I should change something of my strategy? If didn't do anything, maybe she will get more angry or more sad and will do something more? Bad o good maybe? Whats tells you your own experience about my case? Why she do that and what sould I do? What should I expect?
Sorry for my bad english, I'm not a native speaker and I do my best.
2023.05.29 21:12 Th3BearMinimum 28 [TM4F] Pennsylvania/NY - lookin' for a gf
28 year-old trans guy from rural northern Pennsylvania, here; slim/athletic build, on T 6+ years, hairy as hell, lots of pics on my profile but you'll have to scroll through a bunch of my terrible memes to find them (more pics available if you ask, though).
I'm a professional gardener and landscaper at a golf course, and an amateur vegetable grower and homesteader. Some of my other interests include hiking/camping/anything outdoors, art/DIY, listening to metal/going to concerts, & playing electric guitar poorly. Also occasionally known to do nerd shit, like video games/board games (used to be really into anime/cosplaying too but not so much anymore). Autistic AF so I'm super prone to infodumping about the things I'm passionate about, ideally looking for someone who sees that as a plus?
Been thinking about this a lot lately, and I'm dyin' to find a somewhat local, cute girl (cis or trans okay, idc) to fall in love with and obsess over, ya know? Just really craving some affection/romance with a big scoop of gender validation on the side. But I'm notoriously shy and have trouble initiating conversations with strangers, so dating apps and the like haven't been super effective for me so far, and my back-up strategy of going to local shows, doin' my goofy little two-step dance in the mosh pit, and hoping someone sees it and falls in love with me doesn't seem to be working either (...what I'm saying is, don't be afraid to be somewhat aggressive, I actually really like that)
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I'm a professional gardener and landscaper at a golf course, and an amateur vegetable grower and homesteader. Some of my other interests include hiking/camping/anything outdoors, art/DIY, listening to metal/going to concerts, & playing electric guitar poorly. Also occasionally known to do nerd shit, like video games/board games (used to be really into anime/cosplaying too but not so much anymore). Autistic AF so I'm super prone to infodumping about the things I'm passionate about, ideally looking for someone who sees that as a plus?
Been thinking about this a lot lately, and I'm dyin' to find a somewhat local, cute girl (cis or trans okay, idc) to fall in love with and obsess over, ya know? Just really craving some affection/romance with a big scoop of gender validation on the side. But I'm notoriously shy and have trouble initiating conversations with strangers, so dating apps and the like haven't been super effective for me so far, and my back-up strategy of going to local shows, doin' my goofy little two-step dance in the mosh pit, and hoping someone sees it and falls in love with me doesn't seem to be working either (...what I'm saying is, don't be afraid to be somewhat aggressive, I actually really like that)
2023.05.29 20:15 ricky_pop 30 [m4m] looking for LTR/LDR
I’m on tinder and some dating apps but wanted to see if this worked! Lol I’m from California. I’m latino, 5’6, brown hair and hazel eyes, cute and thickk(big butt) lol I love Nintendo games like Pokémon and animal crossing. Obsessed with Wandavision and Wanda. I love food. I love pop music. you also don’t have to be into all this but it would be nice to share it in common. I like nice talkative guys. I’m a bottom with a high sex drive but it’s all in fun with someone I like not right off the bat either lol . Would love to find a nice guy that loves to chat and talk and wants to date. I have pics on my profile. Dm me..Let’s talk :)
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2023.05.29 20:10 ricky_pop 30 [m4m] looking for LTR/LDR
I’m on tinder and some dating apps but wanted to see if this worked! Lol I’m from California. I’m latino, 5’6, brown hair and hazel eyes, cute and thickk(big butt) lol I love Nintendo games like Pokémon and animal crossing. Obsessed with Wandavision and Wanda. I love food. I love pop music. you also don’t have to be into all this but it would be nice to share it in common. I like nice talkative guys. I’m a bottom with a high sex drive but it’s all in fun with someone I like not right off the bat either lol . Would love to find a nice guy that loves to chat and talk and wants to date. I have pics on my profile. Dm me..Let’s talk :)
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2023.05.29 19:31 Bordergirl69 35[T4M] Sexy fuckable CD ass ready to be mounted after work. Any studs in need? #SanMateo
Door unlocked walk in find me in bed wearing a sexy slutty outfit with my cute premium ass up, you touch or lick it, I kneel down and give you the best deep head ever, then I will turn around bend over and offer you my sexy butt for you to pound nice and deep, talk dirty to me, spank my cute booty, do me the way you want and you can't have at home, all this while str8 p0rn is playing, you have your pleasure, cum loud, slap my ass as a good job, and go back to your regular life with a big smile. I'm a sexy fem curvy (not fat)CD gurl, 35yo, 5 7', 165lbs, sexy pair of legs, talented deep mouth, and a great fuckable ass, natural smooth soft skin, very clean and healthy, std free, HIV-, Covid and Monkey Pox vaccinated, and tested recently, condoms available. I doll up all the way, great hygiene. I'm pretty, fem, and look like a sexy bitch, but I’m very discreet so I WONT send FACE pic out, but believe me I'm worth it. Are you the stud I'm looking for? Then send full stats and pics, be in shape or at least hwp, DDF, married guys get me going, tall older white and black guys to the front, muscle and hung welcome, but everybody can apply. Hosting now for the rest of the day, but the sooner the better. Very convenient spot, easy to find and plenty of parking. Great for those married, bi str8 studs looking for an uncomplicated in and out safe discreet encounter. Sneak away from home, work, wife, gf, and sneak in my bed. Visiting town and bored at home, lunch time, after work or running errands? Then stop by and let's have sexy adult fun. I'm real, are you? What you see is what you get. No drugs, I do not top, and I do not travel. Only serious people, discretion a must, not into too much back and forth, one liners or sexting !Unlock Pics on my profile!!!
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2023.05.29 18:59 aftr_hrs (25F) Was he asking me out? And what should I do?
Last year, around the end is summer, a coworker (30M) had trouble with something, comes to my team for help, I go. I've seen him at the office and I've always thought that he's cute. After that we pass each other around the office a few times and he always sais something along the lines of "hey, I own you a beer!".
Then, there's a work party of his team and mine, at which he once again approaches me about beedrink and when I said I'm not really into drinking, he offers coffee. I'm under the impression he just wants do something nice because I helped him out, and almost 90% sure he has a girlfriend, so I decline as kindly as possible and tell him not to worry about it.
Recently I stumbled upon said coworker's Tinder profile and I start thinking and I realize the girl I though he was with recently had a baby with someone else and I'm like "...WAS HE ASKING ME OUT WHEN HE OFFERED COFFEE?!".
Now I'm hung up on it and can't stop thinking about this. I shared this with a few girl friends and they were all like "Go ask him out for coffee!", but I think more than half an year later is too late, even if he was asking me out? (Which I'm not totally convinced he was?) How do I talk to him about it?
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Then, there's a work party of his team and mine, at which he once again approaches me about beedrink and when I said I'm not really into drinking, he offers coffee. I'm under the impression he just wants do something nice because I helped him out, and almost 90% sure he has a girlfriend, so I decline as kindly as possible and tell him not to worry about it.
Recently I stumbled upon said coworker's Tinder profile and I start thinking and I realize the girl I though he was with recently had a baby with someone else and I'm like "...WAS HE ASKING ME OUT WHEN HE OFFERED COFFEE?!".
Now I'm hung up on it and can't stop thinking about this. I shared this with a few girl friends and they were all like "Go ask him out for coffee!", but I think more than half an year later is too late, even if he was asking me out? (Which I'm not totally convinced he was?) How do I talk to him about it?
2023.05.29 17:58 TallLab1036 An in depth profile of myself.
Hello hello. I hope you enjoy this short introduction of myself.
Some have asked why I've come here to seek this, and really, why are any of us here? We're searching for something that we can't find elsewhere so we've decided to give this a shot.
I've tried other sites without luck and dating is difficult in my area. By that I mean everyone is super country, as in enjoying fishing and listening to country music while complaining about liberals. Or, to phrase it another way - guns, God and Trump. That's a hard pass for me, so this seems like the next step.
A couple of things before I start:
Distance isn't an issue for me. I'm hoping to meet someone and chat to see where things lead, if there's a connection of any sort. If there is, we can move from there. Distance is a relatively small issue if you can find someone who is truly perfect for you, after all.
I should also mention that, for the most part, age isn't an issue. To some extent it will be of course, but I don't mind a bit of an age gap in either direction at all. If it's an issue for you, that's understandable; however, if you think it will be for me, well the only way to really find out is to message me, now isn't it?
I'm open to anyone who sees this and is interested (including those of any experience level) as I don't want to limit myself when I could possibly find chemistry with someone.
Also, while I am in general an emotionally intelligent, nurturing and supportive person, I'm also a massive sadist. To be more specific, I enjoy psychological sadism (although physical sadism is definitely fun too) and that is reflected in my kinks and, to some extent, my personality. While I believe boundaries and limits are to be respected at all times, and I don't enjoy anything if my partner doesn't, I absolutely love teasing, tormenting and torturing my partner in both play and everyday life.
Prepare for a mountain of text! It's a bit long, but I assure you it's worth the read. I decided that since I'm putting myself out there with a post, I want to truly and fully put myself out there and represent myself. I'm hoping that those reading this will recognize the effort that was put into this and get a good feel for who I am as a person. If you feel it's too much, save it for later, skim or even just message me if you would rather get to know me more naturally.
My post is cobbled together from thoughts, beliefs and realizations that I have come upon in my years in the lifestyle (which is why you might see slightly different styles of writing in different parts, this post is taken from my kink profiles and are the sum result of over ten years of experience that I find I still add to every now and then. I try to edit and organize it a bit from time to time, but it's difficult due to the fact that there's so much that I wish to include.)
Long story short, I can be a bit...rambly, sometimes. So apologies in advance for that, although I have recently made great strides in editing my post. So I've got that going for me, which is nice.
While it's certainly a lengthy read, it's not nearly as bad as it seems. I recommend reading the whole thing (obviously since I wrote it), especially if you're interested in getting to know a kinky, geeky and empathetic person.
Now that I've covered that, it's time to get to the part you've been waiting for.
I'm a lighthearted, playful and fairly laid back, yet somewhat serious minded, person who's rather upbeat and probably too curious for his own good. I'm also kind, caring, friendly, sometimes cynical and often sarcastic (although in a lighthearted manner, and never at the expense of others.) There's nothing I love to do more than laugh; I love most things involving humor, although I do believe there's a very fine line between hilarity and stupidity.
Now, for some little bits of trivia about me:
Some bands I enjoy include:
While I enjoy relaxing and watching television, I have trouble watching hour long shows as I can only focus on it for so long before my attention wavers, around that time I start looking at my phone and just waiting for it to be over. It's also why I don't watch too many movies; I need my entertainment bite sized. I'll watch movies every once in a while, but they generally need to be 100 minutes tops (unless it's something I'm super into.).
I have difficulty getting into things that are realistic; they usually need to be fantastical in nature and capture my imagination. My preferred genres are comedy, horror (mainly supernatural, no slashers) and most things involving special powers or abilities, however I can sometimes get into action or drama as well. I also have a love for the world of animation, possibly because they tend to be more creative and aren't limited by reality; it's part of why I'm so partial to anime.
Some shows that I'm fond of are:
Gaming is easily one of my biggest hobbies and has been for many, many years now. I see it as an art form, as a way to tell a story that you can deeply immerse yourself in and get pulled into, something that can captivate you and make you lose all track of time because it's simply so engrossing. It's also a damn good way to have fun and kill time, especially when you're playing with friends. It's a big part of my life and something I have spent quite a bit of time and money on. Some people may be put off by this, but it a part of me that I will not deny or hide; after all, if someone has an issue with that then how compatible could we possibly be?
Some video games that hold a special place in my heart are:
Some board games that I love are:
Bring up video/board/tabletop games, super powers, comics, cartoons, anime, manga, sci-fi, fantasy or technology and I'll happily chat your ear off. I'm quite social and love to talk, however I'm also an introvert so there are plenty of times where the pressure of constant social interactions with others gets to me and I need to take some time to myself to mentally recharge.
As I mentioned, I absolutely adore animals. Seriously, if you want to make me hate a bad guy, have him hurt an animal. Ironically, I'm practically a carnivore. I'm convinced that I would starve if I had to hunt for my own food just because I couldn't bring myself to hurt them.
Speaking of food, I'm a bit of a foodie (I dislike that word, but it's accurate.) I'm all about sauces, seasonings and spices, not to mention a love for anything deep fried. I love experiencing different tastes and textures while trying new things...as long as they're not vegetables. No veggies, except corn and potatoes; those two get a pass as they're amazing. I also enjoy onions and peppers in small quantities in dishes.
I've got a nice guy next door look in that I have no tattoos or piercings, have glasses, stay clean shaven and have a bit of a baby face (as in I look rather young, I often get mistaken for being in my mid 20's). I wouldn't say that with my look I would be called handsome, sexy or hot (however I am often called cute (I've also been called handsome a fair amount, it still feels weird though.) I'm also rather pale due to the fact that I stay indoors most of the time (if you can't tell from that, I'm white.) Because of my appearance, and my friendly and laid back nature, people tend to view me as rather innocent. I suppose that isn't entirely incorrect though, I'll admit that I can be a bit naive at times in regards to people and the world.
As for politics and religion, I tend to try to stay away from both.
While I believe I'm somewhat in the middle for the former, as I have views from both sides, if I had to choose I'd say I definitely lean way more towards the left. I believe in the greater good, the needs of the many over the needs of the few, in advancing science and finding alternative fuels and materials that don't pollute or destroy our environment in the process, in trying to create a brighter future, etc, etc. I'm definitely not on the far left however, and hate social justice and cancel culture. I'm empathetic and all, but people need to stop getting offended by every tiny thIng and creating problems that don't exist. That's definitely not exclusive to the left, the right is very guilty of it as well.
For the latter, I generally just consider myself not religious as I don't think or care about it too much. If I had to classify it though I'd say I'm agnostic. This means that, while I don't believe in any god or gods, I acknowledge that they might exist. While I'm 99.3̅3̅3̅% certain that there is no grand creator or afterlife, there's no real way we can know for certain. We're a very young and ignorant species, there's much about life and the universe that we are unaware of or don't understand yet.
I just try to focus on being a good person and doing right by others, not for some earthly or heavenly reward, or for a smug sense of self satisfaction, but because it's simply what I want to do. It's who I am and what makes me feel good about myself.
I try my best to live by The Golden Rule (also known as treat others you the way you wish to be treated or do unto others as you would have them do unto you), being guided by own moral compass that directs me in how I interact with others. I always do my very best to make others feel wanted, cared for, appreciated and understood, to give them validation; I never want anyone to feel left out or unwanted, for any reason at all. Perhaps it's from my own difficult childhood, since I felt that way when I was young and don't want others to go through the same things that I did. Whatever the reason, whenever I say or do anything I tend to, without even realizing it, think about how it will affect the other person and the different ways that it could be taken. I strive to treat others with the courtesy and respect that I believe that they deserve.
As I mentioned, I have a strong moral compass. The only problem is, this is true North for my compass; I feel that's the correct way to treat and interact with others, and I believe that's what everyone should do. So when other people don't act in the way that I believe they should, even though I know everyone is different and everyone has different thoughts, feelings and experiences that led them to those (we are the product of our environments after all), it can bother me. I've come to realize that this is due to holding myself to extremely high standards, and often holding other people to the same standards to which I hold myself.
Unfortunately, that can lead to conflicts with others, sometimes over things that they might feel to be insignificant. It doesn't happen very often though as I can recognize whether something is actually a big deal or not and put it to the back of my mind; I wouldn't be a very good friend or partner if I nitpicked over every little thing, now would I? Despite being very much driven by my moral compass, I'm also calm, collected, understanding and logical by nature.
I've realized that I used to put a lot of pressure on myself when interacting with others, trying to be funny and entertaining, overall trying to make sure that they were having a good time and enjoying themselves. If, for whatever reason, I felt that they were bored I ended up trying even harder to keep them engaged and joyful. It was somewhat of a bad habit of mine; I suppose I just felt like I had a personal stake in everyone that I interacted with, a responsibility almost, and didn't want to leave them wanting. I still do this to some extent, but not as much as I used to; as I've grown and matured, and my anxiety has lessened, I've learned to pull back a bit and that I don't need to carry everyone's burden on my shoulders. I still wish to keep people engaged and happy, and still take on more responsibility than I probably should, however I imagine that I'll always be that way; it's just in my nature.
I'm an emotionally intelligent and extremely empathetic person who's well aware of his inner workings due to my introspective nature. I'm easily able to see things from multiple perspectives, which I believe is because of how I process empathy. I don't necessarily feel the exact pain of others, but I mirror it; it's second nature for me to put myself in their position which allows me to understand the plethora of ways they can think and feel. This is something that is a core part of who I am and that I take great pride in.
I feel deeply, which can lead to me taking things to heart and sometimes reading too much into things or overanalyzing them. Thankfully, due to my great experience in emotional control and regulation (which I'm about to go into), I'm generally able to take a step back from my emotions and understand the intent and meaning behind words and actions so there's less of a chance of misunderstanding.
Because I feel so deeply, that caused problems for me when I was younger. My emotions were a swirling vortex, out of control and ready to burst out at any second. Puberty certainly didn't make this any easier either.
It's been said that our personal identity is 80% environmental and 20% genetic. While I might be genetically predispositioned to feeling so deeply, a lot of it likely comes from traumas experienced in childhood and my inability to process them properly. They left scars that I'm still dealing with today, and as a result of said scars, growing up I was diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety, depression and OCD, on top of the ADHD that I already had. However, I'm thankfully in a very good place thanks to a combination of past therapy, current medication and constant reflection.
I've done a lot of work to be able to get a handle on my emotions. Because I got used to having them under such control, I've been told that at times I can come across as kind of indifferent or hard to read. That's one of the reasons that I'm such an upfront, open, honest and expressive person; I want people to be able to understand me and I generally tell exactly what I'm thinking or how something makes me feel so that others can do that.
Honestly, one of my biggest fears is that no one will ever be able to understand me like I understand myself. It's right up there with a fear of the unknown (one is the reasons I don't do deep water, I don't want to fuck with any Cthulhu monsters that are down there) and losing my memories, as in the end we're just a sum of our memories and I don't want to lose who I am.
I never claimed to be perfect; I have my flaws as well, and try to work on them every day to improve myself as a person. Since I've already put so much of myself into my profile, I thought that it was only right to put the negative parts in as well.
While some of these things could certainly be considered negative traits, I believe that they help make me the Dom that I am. Because I AM so compassionate, because I AM so empathetic, because I HAVE been through so much and still keep going, I feel that I can give a sub or a slave what she truly needs to thrive in her environment. Feel free to read more about that below.
When you combine that with my nurturing and empathetic nature this type of relationship is the natural choice for me (more on that next). I believe that's also why I find myself naturally drawn to the weak, the helpless and the damaged. I have an overwhelming desire to heal them, to help and protect them while nurturing them and watching them grow into who I know they can be, which goes with what I was saying before.
A sub knows that her Dom loves her unconditionally and only wants what is best for her. While I do certainly enjoy doing this, I primarily do this to help my sub above all else. I'm a nurturing soul who wishes nothing more than to protect his partner. To take care of her and help her when she needs it. To be her support and her life line. To give her the guidance, structure and discipline she needs to feel fulfilled in life. To set rules and guidelines so that she can move freely within those set limits and be happy. To help her decide what is best for her when she herself doesn't know. To provide the security and comfort of knowing that she is being taken care of and that she has someone she can talk to about anything without any sort of judgment or prejudice. I want her to thrive and become the person that she was always meant to be. I enjoy pushing my sub to explore her boundaries and limits, within reason of course. I simply wish to see her flourish and blossom, to help her become what I know she can be and reach higher plateaus.
I realize the previous paragraphs could sound condescending in some ways, however that couldn't be further from the truth. I see my partner as an equal, someone who simply has different needs that I can fulfill so that they can live a fulfilling life themselves, and in turn by fulfilling those needs of theirs, I feel fulfilled as well. We ultimately form a symbiotic relationship of sorts.
Make no mistake, I have no desire to micromanage every tiny detail of my sub's life, nor form a codependent relationship where she's entirely reliant upon me for her mental and emotional needs. The level and extent of the D/s relationship is decided after long discussion and input from both parties.
Some believe that being a Dom is just telling people what to do and getting what you want while getting off, but it's so much more than that. It's not as easy or simple as it appears, you must always keep what is best for your sub in mind, even if it conflicts with your own immediate or future interests. You must constantly be aware of her needs and desires while providing checks and balances to help her live a life worth living. Anyone can simply give a sub what she wants, it takes a true Dom to say no because you feel that is what is best for her.
At least that's how it should be. There are so many "Doms" out there that don't care about their subs at all, only themselves. They don't care if they're suffering physically or emotionally, they simply use them as toys they can play with and then toss aside when they're bored; they abuse them and hurt them simply because they get a kick out of it. A real Dom/sub relationship is a very special and strong bond, much more so than a vanilla relationship in my opinion. So many people seem to have issues understanding that unfortunately, there's a certain stigma associated with this and preconceptions are formed before they even learn anything about it.
Truthfully, I believe the sub holds the power in the relationship in many ways. She is the one that is choosing to submit after all, to give up her power and control to the Dom. Despite that, she is the one that has control over the power of safe words, that can stop an activity with a single utterance. Her subservience is completely voluntary, something that many people don't seem to think about. It's not simply about someone bossing someone around because they can, it's about someone choosing a partner that they feel is worthy to give their all to.
While the following is my ideal, as I said at the beginning, I'm open to talking to anyone that reads this. However, I'm not particularly interested in "littles" or "brats".
Ideally my partner would be what is typically called an adult babygirl, and I'd like to elaborate on that term since some might not be familiar with it. Essentially it's someone who enjoys the nurturing, loving and structured aspect of a Daddy Dom or DD/lg relationship but isn't a little themselves; meaning that they don't have a mental age that they regress to, among other things. (I don't identify as a Daddy myself, however due to my protective and supportive/nurturing nature you could say I'm Daddy leaning.)
Some people have their entire lives revolve around the lifestyle, going to munches, conventions, parties and attempting to reach out to their community and find a place to belong. That might work for them, but it's of no interest to me. While I'm certainly not opposed to chatting and making friends and connections, I have no desire to be a part of a community. I'm simply seeking one whose ideas and beliefs line up with my own for a symbiotic relationship as I mentioned before
If I had to describe such a relationship, it would definitely be on the lighter side of the spectrum in regards to what daily life would be like. I'm seeking a 24/7 TPE, however I also enjoy being casual with my sub. Perhaps in some ways it's more similar to a vanilla relationship with strong Dom/sub undertones than a typical BDSM relationship.
In my perfect situation, we would still be able to joke around, have fun and be very close and romantic; however there is also the constant understanding that I am in charge, and what I say goes. No matter how much fun we may be having or what we might be doing, she should always know her place, even if it's only in the back of her mind. There are rules in place for her benefit, and if she breaks those rules she will be punished.
By what I say goes, I mean I have the final say in subjects because, as a submissive, she has given the reins of power over to me. She trusts me to make her decisions for her and to do what is best for her, to take care of and protect her. I'm never the type to say "this is how it's going to be, I don't care what you want, end of discussion" as discourse is the only way two people can truly understand one another. I always value my submissive's input and always want her to give her opinion and speak her mind if something is bothering her.
My ideal sub would be one that is loyal and devoted above all else, but also one who is looking for a Dom she can actually have a connection with. One that, not necessarily needs, but craves guidance, support, structure and discipline in their life; whose life does not feel complete without this, like there is a void deep inside her that cannot be filled unless she has a Dom to guide and take care of her, that she can in turn make happy and serve to the best of her ability.
Beyond anything else though, I want to like them as a person before I love them as a sub. My perfect partner would be someone who is intelligent, kind-hearted, earnest, funny and a has a fair touch of dorkiness in her. I want her to be someone that actually has personality, that I can laugh with and talk to for hours upon hours on end and still hate the thought of leaving. Someone that will either indulge my love of games and geekery or join me because she's just as much of a fan of those things as I am. Someone who loves how I tease and torment her, keeping her on the edge and revelling in the pleasure I get from watching her squirm.
One thing to note is that just because I am very friendly (sometimes people are surprised when I begin acting more Dominant, others aren't as they say they can "sense it in the way I present myself", even while being friendly and joking around) doesn't mean that I'm not strict when I have to be. I have no problem at all with enforcing rules and giving out punishments, although it's certainly not my favorite aspect of the relationship. I would prefer to reward, encourage and nurture my sub, however there are times when discipline is necessary; if one feels the need to act up, one must be ready accept the consequences after all.
If I had to describe my style of dominance, or what makes me dominant, I suppose that would be a little tricky. I don't feel the need to control everything, nor do I attempt to, and I have no problem with kicking back and letting others take the reigns in everyday situations if I feel they're more qualified or I just plain don't feel like it. Nor am I the type that "oozes" dominance, I don't care for confrontation and am a very easy going, go with the flow person. What I believe it boils down to is I simply feel comfortable with power and, quite frankly, enjoy it. I bear the burden of leadership well, it comes naturally to me and I thrive when I have the weight of another's life on my shoulders; I have little trouble making hard decisions when I need to. It also helps that my sexual inclinations line up with this nicely. If it doesn't last quite some time and doesn't end with both parties panting and soaked in sweat, I'm not particularly interested in it.
On that note, I have quite the kinky side despite my friendly and charming exterior. I suppose I should list it here because, while certainly not the primary focus of my interest in this, sexual compatibility does factor in to some extent.
My kinks are:
I also believe very strongly in aftercare and safe words as the mental and emotional well being of my partner is very important.
I realize there's no one way to live this lifestyle, but I feel like a lot of what I said should be obvious and general knowledge in regards to this; however from my experience it doesn't seem to be that way too often (not referring to the that are inexperienced in this, more those that do this for the wrong reason), which is why I wanted to share my views in such detail.
I feel like I've rambled on enough already and am dangerously close to having a TL;DR (yeah, I hit that ages ago), so I'll just say that if you're interested in learning more about me and getting to know me, you can give me a message and we'll see where things go. I like to get to know people naturally, just talk with them and see where things lead, whether that be a short chat, a simple friendship or something more. It seems silly to have expectations when you don't even know the person or how you'll get along.
Even if you're nervous or anxious, you think you might not be good enough, doubt my intentions or anything along those lines, still give me a message. After all, what do you have to lose?
Thanks for taking the time to read my little novella, I hope to hear from you soon. So long, and thanks for reading!
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Some have asked why I've come here to seek this, and really, why are any of us here? We're searching for something that we can't find elsewhere so we've decided to give this a shot.
I've tried other sites without luck and dating is difficult in my area. By that I mean everyone is super country, as in enjoying fishing and listening to country music while complaining about liberals. Or, to phrase it another way - guns, God and Trump. That's a hard pass for me, so this seems like the next step.
Distance isn't an issue for me. I'm hoping to meet someone and chat to see where things lead, if there's a connection of any sort. If there is, we can move from there. Distance is a relatively small issue if you can find someone who is truly perfect for you, after all.
I should also mention that, for the most part, age isn't an issue. To some extent it will be of course, but I don't mind a bit of an age gap in either direction at all. If it's an issue for you, that's understandable; however, if you think it will be for me, well the only way to really find out is to message me, now isn't it?
I'm open to anyone who sees this and is interested (including those of any experience level) as I don't want to limit myself when I could possibly find chemistry with someone.
Also, while I am in general an emotionally intelligent, nurturing and supportive person, I'm also a massive sadist. To be more specific, I enjoy psychological sadism (although physical sadism is definitely fun too) and that is reflected in my kinks and, to some extent, my personality. While I believe boundaries and limits are to be respected at all times, and I don't enjoy anything if my partner doesn't, I absolutely love teasing, tormenting and torturing my partner in both play and everyday life.
My post is cobbled together from thoughts, beliefs and realizations that I have come upon in my years in the lifestyle (which is why you might see slightly different styles of writing in different parts, this post is taken from my kink profiles and are the sum result of over ten years of experience that I find I still add to every now and then. I try to edit and organize it a bit from time to time, but it's difficult due to the fact that there's so much that I wish to include.)
Long story short, I can be a bit...rambly, sometimes. So apologies in advance for that, although I have recently made great strides in editing my post. So I've got that going for me, which is nice.
While it's certainly a lengthy read, it's not nearly as bad as it seems. I recommend reading the whole thing (obviously since I wrote it), especially if you're interested in getting to know a kinky, geeky and empathetic person.
Now that I've covered that, it's time to get to the part you've been waiting for.
About me:
I decided to put this part first because I believe that, above all else, the people involved should connect on a personal level and "click", if you will. This tells about who I am and my hobbies and such. If someone can't accept this part of me, how could we possibly get along?I'm a lighthearted, playful and fairly laid back, yet somewhat serious minded, person who's rather upbeat and probably too curious for his own good. I'm also kind, caring, friendly, sometimes cynical and often sarcastic (although in a lighthearted manner, and never at the expense of others.) There's nothing I love to do more than laugh; I love most things involving humor, although I do believe there's a very fine line between hilarity and stupidity.
Now, for some little bits of trivia about me:
- According to the Myers-Briggs system, I'm an INFP. Online tests can give you an idea of where to start, but they're not that reliable and the results can change depending on your mood that day. To truly discover your type requires self-reflection to learn about your cognitive functions, and while doing so I learned a lot about myself. I don't follow it religiously, but I believe there are some elements of truth to it.
- I'm definitely a Type B Personality.
- I'm a hopeless romantic, an old soul who's young at heart, a cynical optimist and a realistic dreamer.
- I'm definitely that type that believes in better safe than sorry, and one of my mottos is "Hope for the best, prepare for the worst." I also tend to do copious amounts of research before any big decision.
- I consider myself to be a very grounded, down to earth and genuine person.
- I'm extremely friendly and believe in treating others with the same respect that you would like to receive and generally try to do what I feel is "right" by others (more on that in a bit.)
- I like to believe in the best of human nature, although I seem to be let down a fair bit. Even so, I don't want to let that stop me.
- I have very strong values and ideals, and an even stronger moral compass.
- I believe people are free to do and believe what they want, so long as they don't harm themselves, harm, cause trouble for or inconvenience others, or attempt to force those beliefs on others.
- I believe that a life lived for others is the only life worth living.
- I believe that there's no point in worrying about things that you can't change. If you let yourself get dragged down by it and obsess over it, you'll find yourself crushed under the weight of all the injustices in the world.
- I've been told (rather often actually) that I have a very nice voice, frequently being told that I should go into radio or be an announcer of some kind. I'm very expressive and my voice reflects that, having lots of highs and lows. Truthfully, I believe it's one of my better features.
- I much prefer talking to typing in general, especially when first getting to know someone as you get a much better idea of their personality. Also, I feel like I come across kind of...stiff in my writing style when that's very much not me, so voice allows me to showcase my truest self.
- I tend to be a confidant of sorts; due to my open and genuine nature and what I've been told is a welcoming...aura, I suppose, people tend to find me easy to talk to and trust, coming to me to confide things and seek out advice. This is something that brings me great happiness and pride as having the trust of others is important to me.
- Promises are very important to me; once I give my word in regards to something I'll keep it, even if I don't particularly want to. As cheesy as it might sound, to me my word is my bond.
- Admittedly, subtlety is not one of my strong points. I'm a very open, upfront and honest person. I'm terrible at lying (I hate doing it and I just give away that I am) and can't keep a straight face to save my life. If I were an actor, I would probably be Jimmy Fallon.
- I welcome people to give me constructive criticism and feedback as I'm constantly looking to improve myself. Yes, that even includes those that message me saying my post is far too long.
- I can't fake a smile to save my life, it has to be genuine for me. One of the many reasons I hate having photos taken of me.
- I find intelligence, humor and kindness to be the most desirable traits in a partner (although being easy on the eyes doesn't hurt.)
- My senses are all very sensitive, and can sometimes overwhelm me when I'm introduced to new stimuli.
- I used to do drugs. I still do, but I used to too. Wait, I'm just kidding, just wanted to throw a little Mitch Hedberg in here. I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. While I have no issue with those who drink, I do tend to avoid smokers and hardcore drug users.
- Despite what the length of my post may say about me, I absolutely hate writing.
- I enjoy visiting places but hate the actual traveling (which is one of the reasons why if I could have one power it would be teleportation [actually if I could have one power it would be the ability to manipulate space and time, however for simplicity's sake I'm just going to say teleportation for now {not Star Trek teleportation though, fuck that.}])
- I hate waiting and I hate making others wait.
- I love the symbolism of trees and what they represent: strength, vitality, protection.
- If I had to rank the seven deadly sins in the order that I'm guilty of from most to least, it would go: Gluttony, Pride, Sloth, Lust, Envy, Greed and Wrath.
- If I were to list the Magic the Gathering colors that I most identify with from most to least, it would go: White, Blue, Green, Red and then Black.
- Growing up I was all about DBZ, Dinosaurs, Gargoyles, Ghostbusters, Ninja Turtles, Pokémon, Power Rangers, Spider-Man & X-Men.
- I absolutely love animals and have two cats of my own, Ivy and Jasmine (there are wonderful stories behind both names), that I love to death. I probably talk to them like people a bit too much.
- I spend far more time living in my head than I should.
- I firmly believe that breakfast offers the best food. I could eat waffles everyday.
- I call Gatorade by their flavors as opposed to their colors.
- I absolutely love when I'm thirsty and soda burns my throat.
- You won't catch me running unless something is chasing me. Partially because I have asthma, but mostly because running is awful.
Some bands I enjoy include:
Adelitas Way, Amaranthe, Breaking Benjamin, Disturbed, Evans Blue, Five Finger Death Punch, Gemini Syndrome, Otherwise, Pop Evil, Sevendust, Shinedown, Shaman's Harvest, State of Mine, Theory of a Deadman, Three Days Grace (before Adam Gontier left)I enjoy other types of music as well, for example another band I like is Bowling for Soup as I love their sense of humor; it's great to see people not taking music so seriously. I'm also a fan of big band music, which I actually have Fallout 3 to thank for. I enjoy classical musical as well and, despite having no real knowledge of it and most of it sounding the same, I find it incredibly relaxing and peaceful.
While I enjoy relaxing and watching television, I have trouble watching hour long shows as I can only focus on it for so long before my attention wavers, around that time I start looking at my phone and just waiting for it to be over. It's also why I don't watch too many movies; I need my entertainment bite sized. I'll watch movies every once in a while, but they generally need to be 100 minutes tops (unless it's something I'm super into.).
I have difficulty getting into things that are realistic; they usually need to be fantastical in nature and capture my imagination. My preferred genres are comedy, horror (mainly supernatural, no slashers) and most things involving special powers or abilities, however I can sometimes get into action or drama as well. I also have a love for the world of animation, possibly because they tend to be more creative and aren't limited by reality; it's part of why I'm so partial to anime.
Some shows that I'm fond of are:
Animation: Adventure Time, American Dad, Archer, Avatar: The Last Airbender, Bob's Burgers, Bojack Horseman, [China, IL], Disenchantment, Futurama, HarmonQuest, Harvey Birdman: Attorney at Law, King of the Hill, Metalocalypse, Mike Tyson Mysteries, Mr. Pickles, Rick and Morty, Robot Chicken, South Park, Superjail, Ugly Americans, Venture Bros.I definitely binge my shows, I like to wait for a season (or preferably an entire series) to be done before I jump into it. I'm also the type that's fine watching something just once. If I ever feel the need to watch it again it will be many, many years later. This extends to games as well, I generally need things with replayability such as MOBA's or Rogue-likes.
Live-action: Arrested Development, Better Call Saul, Breaking Bad, Carnivàle, Dexter, Eureka, Friends, Game of Thrones, The Good Place, House, The Lost Room, Monk, The Muppets (2015 series), The Office, Parks and Rec, Psych, Stargate, Stranger Things, Walking Dead, Warehouse 13, Wilfred
Gaming is easily one of my biggest hobbies and has been for many, many years now. I see it as an art form, as a way to tell a story that you can deeply immerse yourself in and get pulled into, something that can captivate you and make you lose all track of time because it's simply so engrossing. It's also a damn good way to have fun and kill time, especially when you're playing with friends. It's a big part of my life and something I have spent quite a bit of time and money on. Some people may be put off by this, but it a part of me that I will not deny or hide; after all, if someone has an issue with that then how compatible could we possibly be?
Some video games that hold a special place in my heart are:
Action/Adventure: Alan Wake, Assassin's Creed, Bastion, Batman: Arkham Asylum, Bayonetta, Brütal Legend, Bully, Darksiders, Dark Souls (first one), Deadly Premonition, Dead Space, Devil May Cry (3 & 5), Enslaved: Odyssey to the West, Heavy Rain, Hellblade, Infamous, Last of Us, Legend of Zelda (A Link to the Past, Ocarina of Time, Majora's Mask, Wind Waker), Luigi's Mansion, Metal Gear Solid (Twin Snakes, 3, 4 & 5), Ninja Gaiden (2004), Overlord, Phantom Crash, Resident Evil 2 remake, Saint's Row 2, The Saboteur, TMNT: Turtles in TimeNot only that, but I've also gotten into tabletop gaming, including both board and pen and paper games (such as Dungeons and Dragons.) I initially got into the latter as an exercise to strengthen my creative muscles but found it was a fun way to goof off with friends. For the former, it's almost gotten to the point that I enjoy them more than most video games as it provides an experience that you don't get anymore; friends gathered around and competing against one another or cooperating against a common foe, something that's disappeared with the advent of the internet.
Fighting: Anarchy Reigns, Blazblue (series), DBZ: Budokai, Dragon Ball Fighterz, Marvel vs Capcom (2 & 3), Mortal Kombat (9 & 11), Soul Calibur 3, Super Smash Bros. Melee
MOBA: Dota 2, Guardians of Middle Earth, Heroes of the Storm
Rogue-like: Binding of Isaac, Crypt of the Necrodancer, Darkest Dungeon, Dead Cells, Don't Starve, FTL, Monster Train, Slay the Spire
RPG: Bravely Default, Dragon Age (Origins and Inquisition), Dragon's Dogma, Elder Scrolls (Oblivion and Skyrim), Fable (1 & 2), Fallout (3 & New Vegas), Final Fantasy (IX, X & Tactics Advance), Grim Dawn, Mass Effect 2, Pillars of Eternity (series), Pokémon (Red, Blue, Yellow, Gold, Silver & Stadium), Star Wars: Knights of the Old Republic, Suikoden 2, Tyranny, The Witcher (2 & 3)
Shooter: Bioshock (series), Battlefield Bad Company (1 & 2), The Darkness, Deep Rock Galactic, Gears of War (1 & 3), Left 4 Dead, Shadowrun (2007 FPS), Team Fortress 2 (when it first came out, it's a little much now), Vanquish
Simulation: Animal Crossing (first one), Doki Doki Literature Club, Harvest Moon, Life is Strange, Pokémon Snap, Tabletop Simulator
Strategy: Civilization (3 & 4), Endless Legend, Magic the Gathering: Duels of the Planeswalkers (2012 & 2013), Portal, Star Wars: Galactic Battlegrounds, Warcraft 3
Some board games that I love are:
BANG! The Dice Game, Dead of Winter, Dice Throne, Epic Spell Wars, King of New York, Lords of Waterdeep, Munchkin, Pandemic, Red Dragon InnI enjoy reading as well, although I find it difficult to find a book that can keep my focus and really draw me in like I crave. I'm constantly on the prowl for new material, and my favorite genres would probably be apocalyptic/post-apocalyptic, dystopian, horror and dark fantasy/grimdark, although I'm certainly in the market for something that has a good element of humor to it as well. If you have any recommendations, I'd absolutely love to hear them!
Bring up video/board/tabletop games, super powers, comics, cartoons, anime, manga, sci-fi, fantasy or technology and I'll happily chat your ear off. I'm quite social and love to talk, however I'm also an introvert so there are plenty of times where the pressure of constant social interactions with others gets to me and I need to take some time to myself to mentally recharge.
As I mentioned, I absolutely adore animals. Seriously, if you want to make me hate a bad guy, have him hurt an animal. Ironically, I'm practically a carnivore. I'm convinced that I would starve if I had to hunt for my own food just because I couldn't bring myself to hurt them.
Speaking of food, I'm a bit of a foodie (I dislike that word, but it's accurate.) I'm all about sauces, seasonings and spices, not to mention a love for anything deep fried. I love experiencing different tastes and textures while trying new things...as long as they're not vegetables. No veggies, except corn and potatoes; those two get a pass as they're amazing. I also enjoy onions and peppers in small quantities in dishes.
I've got a nice guy next door look in that I have no tattoos or piercings, have glasses, stay clean shaven and have a bit of a baby face (as in I look rather young, I often get mistaken for being in my mid 20's). I wouldn't say that with my look I would be called handsome, sexy or hot (however I am often called cute (I've also been called handsome a fair amount, it still feels weird though.) I'm also rather pale due to the fact that I stay indoors most of the time (if you can't tell from that, I'm white.) Because of my appearance, and my friendly and laid back nature, people tend to view me as rather innocent. I suppose that isn't entirely incorrect though, I'll admit that I can be a bit naive at times in regards to people and the world.
As for politics and religion, I tend to try to stay away from both.
While I believe I'm somewhat in the middle for the former, as I have views from both sides, if I had to choose I'd say I definitely lean way more towards the left. I believe in the greater good, the needs of the many over the needs of the few, in advancing science and finding alternative fuels and materials that don't pollute or destroy our environment in the process, in trying to create a brighter future, etc, etc. I'm definitely not on the far left however, and hate social justice and cancel culture. I'm empathetic and all, but people need to stop getting offended by every tiny thIng and creating problems that don't exist. That's definitely not exclusive to the left, the right is very guilty of it as well.
For the latter, I generally just consider myself not religious as I don't think or care about it too much. If I had to classify it though I'd say I'm agnostic. This means that, while I don't believe in any god or gods, I acknowledge that they might exist. While I'm 99.3̅3̅3̅% certain that there is no grand creator or afterlife, there's no real way we can know for certain. We're a very young and ignorant species, there's much about life and the universe that we are unaware of or don't understand yet.
I just try to focus on being a good person and doing right by others, not for some earthly or heavenly reward, or for a smug sense of self satisfaction, but because it's simply what I want to do. It's who I am and what makes me feel good about myself.
I try my best to live by The Golden Rule (also known as treat others you the way you wish to be treated or do unto others as you would have them do unto you), being guided by own moral compass that directs me in how I interact with others. I always do my very best to make others feel wanted, cared for, appreciated and understood, to give them validation; I never want anyone to feel left out or unwanted, for any reason at all. Perhaps it's from my own difficult childhood, since I felt that way when I was young and don't want others to go through the same things that I did. Whatever the reason, whenever I say or do anything I tend to, without even realizing it, think about how it will affect the other person and the different ways that it could be taken. I strive to treat others with the courtesy and respect that I believe that they deserve.
As I mentioned, I have a strong moral compass. The only problem is, this is true North for my compass; I feel that's the correct way to treat and interact with others, and I believe that's what everyone should do. So when other people don't act in the way that I believe they should, even though I know everyone is different and everyone has different thoughts, feelings and experiences that led them to those (we are the product of our environments after all), it can bother me. I've come to realize that this is due to holding myself to extremely high standards, and often holding other people to the same standards to which I hold myself.
Unfortunately, that can lead to conflicts with others, sometimes over things that they might feel to be insignificant. It doesn't happen very often though as I can recognize whether something is actually a big deal or not and put it to the back of my mind; I wouldn't be a very good friend or partner if I nitpicked over every little thing, now would I? Despite being very much driven by my moral compass, I'm also calm, collected, understanding and logical by nature.
I've realized that I used to put a lot of pressure on myself when interacting with others, trying to be funny and entertaining, overall trying to make sure that they were having a good time and enjoying themselves. If, for whatever reason, I felt that they were bored I ended up trying even harder to keep them engaged and joyful. It was somewhat of a bad habit of mine; I suppose I just felt like I had a personal stake in everyone that I interacted with, a responsibility almost, and didn't want to leave them wanting. I still do this to some extent, but not as much as I used to; as I've grown and matured, and my anxiety has lessened, I've learned to pull back a bit and that I don't need to carry everyone's burden on my shoulders. I still wish to keep people engaged and happy, and still take on more responsibility than I probably should, however I imagine that I'll always be that way; it's just in my nature.
I'm an emotionally intelligent and extremely empathetic person who's well aware of his inner workings due to my introspective nature. I'm easily able to see things from multiple perspectives, which I believe is because of how I process empathy. I don't necessarily feel the exact pain of others, but I mirror it; it's second nature for me to put myself in their position which allows me to understand the plethora of ways they can think and feel. This is something that is a core part of who I am and that I take great pride in.
I feel deeply, which can lead to me taking things to heart and sometimes reading too much into things or overanalyzing them. Thankfully, due to my great experience in emotional control and regulation (which I'm about to go into), I'm generally able to take a step back from my emotions and understand the intent and meaning behind words and actions so there's less of a chance of misunderstanding.
Because I feel so deeply, that caused problems for me when I was younger. My emotions were a swirling vortex, out of control and ready to burst out at any second. Puberty certainly didn't make this any easier either.
It's been said that our personal identity is 80% environmental and 20% genetic. While I might be genetically predispositioned to feeling so deeply, a lot of it likely comes from traumas experienced in childhood and my inability to process them properly. They left scars that I'm still dealing with today, and as a result of said scars, growing up I was diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety, depression and OCD, on top of the ADHD that I already had. However, I'm thankfully in a very good place thanks to a combination of past therapy, current medication and constant reflection.
I've done a lot of work to be able to get a handle on my emotions. Because I got used to having them under such control, I've been told that at times I can come across as kind of indifferent or hard to read. That's one of the reasons that I'm such an upfront, open, honest and expressive person; I want people to be able to understand me and I generally tell exactly what I'm thinking or how something makes me feel so that others can do that.
Honestly, one of my biggest fears is that no one will ever be able to understand me like I understand myself. It's right up there with a fear of the unknown (one is the reasons I don't do deep water, I don't want to fuck with any Cthulhu monsters that are down there) and losing my memories, as in the end we're just a sum of our memories and I don't want to lose who I am.
I never claimed to be perfect; I have my flaws as well, and try to work on them every day to improve myself as a person. Since I've already put so much of myself into my profile, I thought that it was only right to put the negative parts in as well.
While some of these things could certainly be considered negative traits, I believe that they help make me the Dom that I am. Because I AM so compassionate, because I AM so empathetic, because I HAVE been through so much and still keep going, I feel that I can give a sub or a slave what she truly needs to thrive in her environment. Feel free to read more about that below.
My Beliefs:
If I had to break down why this all appeals to me to one reason, to put it simply, I'd have to say that I'm the kind of person who wants to be needed. I find that, overall, I feel more driven and fulfilled if I know that I have someone that depends on me. If I have someone whose best interests I must keep in mind, who I need to protect and care for, I feel a greater sense of purpose than the humdrum rumblings of everyday life.When you combine that with my nurturing and empathetic nature this type of relationship is the natural choice for me (more on that next). I believe that's also why I find myself naturally drawn to the weak, the helpless and the damaged. I have an overwhelming desire to heal them, to help and protect them while nurturing them and watching them grow into who I know they can be, which goes with what I was saying before.
A sub knows that her Dom loves her unconditionally and only wants what is best for her. While I do certainly enjoy doing this, I primarily do this to help my sub above all else. I'm a nurturing soul who wishes nothing more than to protect his partner. To take care of her and help her when she needs it. To be her support and her life line. To give her the guidance, structure and discipline she needs to feel fulfilled in life. To set rules and guidelines so that she can move freely within those set limits and be happy. To help her decide what is best for her when she herself doesn't know. To provide the security and comfort of knowing that she is being taken care of and that she has someone she can talk to about anything without any sort of judgment or prejudice. I want her to thrive and become the person that she was always meant to be. I enjoy pushing my sub to explore her boundaries and limits, within reason of course. I simply wish to see her flourish and blossom, to help her become what I know she can be and reach higher plateaus.
I realize the previous paragraphs could sound condescending in some ways, however that couldn't be further from the truth. I see my partner as an equal, someone who simply has different needs that I can fulfill so that they can live a fulfilling life themselves, and in turn by fulfilling those needs of theirs, I feel fulfilled as well. We ultimately form a symbiotic relationship of sorts.
Make no mistake, I have no desire to micromanage every tiny detail of my sub's life, nor form a codependent relationship where she's entirely reliant upon me for her mental and emotional needs. The level and extent of the D/s relationship is decided after long discussion and input from both parties.
Some believe that being a Dom is just telling people what to do and getting what you want while getting off, but it's so much more than that. It's not as easy or simple as it appears, you must always keep what is best for your sub in mind, even if it conflicts with your own immediate or future interests. You must constantly be aware of her needs and desires while providing checks and balances to help her live a life worth living. Anyone can simply give a sub what she wants, it takes a true Dom to say no because you feel that is what is best for her.
At least that's how it should be. There are so many "Doms" out there that don't care about their subs at all, only themselves. They don't care if they're suffering physically or emotionally, they simply use them as toys they can play with and then toss aside when they're bored; they abuse them and hurt them simply because they get a kick out of it. A real Dom/sub relationship is a very special and strong bond, much more so than a vanilla relationship in my opinion. So many people seem to have issues understanding that unfortunately, there's a certain stigma associated with this and preconceptions are formed before they even learn anything about it.
Truthfully, I believe the sub holds the power in the relationship in many ways. She is the one that is choosing to submit after all, to give up her power and control to the Dom. Despite that, she is the one that has control over the power of safe words, that can stop an activity with a single utterance. Her subservience is completely voluntary, something that many people don't seem to think about. It's not simply about someone bossing someone around because they can, it's about someone choosing a partner that they feel is worthy to give their all to.
What I'm looking for:
I'm not here looking for a booty call or one night stand, but to find a potential partner in crime, possibly for life if a connection is made. More than anything, I simply wish to find someone who looks at me the way this girl looks at her prom date.While the following is my ideal, as I said at the beginning, I'm open to talking to anyone that reads this. However, I'm not particularly interested in "littles" or "brats".
Ideally my partner would be what is typically called an adult babygirl, and I'd like to elaborate on that term since some might not be familiar with it. Essentially it's someone who enjoys the nurturing, loving and structured aspect of a Daddy Dom or DD/lg relationship but isn't a little themselves; meaning that they don't have a mental age that they regress to, among other things. (I don't identify as a Daddy myself, however due to my protective and supportive/nurturing nature you could say I'm Daddy leaning.)
Some people have their entire lives revolve around the lifestyle, going to munches, conventions, parties and attempting to reach out to their community and find a place to belong. That might work for them, but it's of no interest to me. While I'm certainly not opposed to chatting and making friends and connections, I have no desire to be a part of a community. I'm simply seeking one whose ideas and beliefs line up with my own for a symbiotic relationship as I mentioned before
If I had to describe such a relationship, it would definitely be on the lighter side of the spectrum in regards to what daily life would be like. I'm seeking a 24/7 TPE, however I also enjoy being casual with my sub. Perhaps in some ways it's more similar to a vanilla relationship with strong Dom/sub undertones than a typical BDSM relationship.
In my perfect situation, we would still be able to joke around, have fun and be very close and romantic; however there is also the constant understanding that I am in charge, and what I say goes. No matter how much fun we may be having or what we might be doing, she should always know her place, even if it's only in the back of her mind. There are rules in place for her benefit, and if she breaks those rules she will be punished.
By what I say goes, I mean I have the final say in subjects because, as a submissive, she has given the reins of power over to me. She trusts me to make her decisions for her and to do what is best for her, to take care of and protect her. I'm never the type to say "this is how it's going to be, I don't care what you want, end of discussion" as discourse is the only way two people can truly understand one another. I always value my submissive's input and always want her to give her opinion and speak her mind if something is bothering her.
My ideal sub would be one that is loyal and devoted above all else, but also one who is looking for a Dom she can actually have a connection with. One that, not necessarily needs, but craves guidance, support, structure and discipline in their life; whose life does not feel complete without this, like there is a void deep inside her that cannot be filled unless she has a Dom to guide and take care of her, that she can in turn make happy and serve to the best of her ability.
Beyond anything else though, I want to like them as a person before I love them as a sub. My perfect partner would be someone who is intelligent, kind-hearted, earnest, funny and a has a fair touch of dorkiness in her. I want her to be someone that actually has personality, that I can laugh with and talk to for hours upon hours on end and still hate the thought of leaving. Someone that will either indulge my love of games and geekery or join me because she's just as much of a fan of those things as I am. Someone who loves how I tease and torment her, keeping her on the edge and revelling in the pleasure I get from watching her squirm.
One thing to note is that just because I am very friendly (sometimes people are surprised when I begin acting more Dominant, others aren't as they say they can "sense it in the way I present myself", even while being friendly and joking around) doesn't mean that I'm not strict when I have to be. I have no problem at all with enforcing rules and giving out punishments, although it's certainly not my favorite aspect of the relationship. I would prefer to reward, encourage and nurture my sub, however there are times when discipline is necessary; if one feels the need to act up, one must be ready accept the consequences after all.
If I had to describe my style of dominance, or what makes me dominant, I suppose that would be a little tricky. I don't feel the need to control everything, nor do I attempt to, and I have no problem with kicking back and letting others take the reigns in everyday situations if I feel they're more qualified or I just plain don't feel like it. Nor am I the type that "oozes" dominance, I don't care for confrontation and am a very easy going, go with the flow person. What I believe it boils down to is I simply feel comfortable with power and, quite frankly, enjoy it. I bear the burden of leadership well, it comes naturally to me and I thrive when I have the weight of another's life on my shoulders; I have little trouble making hard decisions when I need to. It also helps that my sexual inclinations line up with this nicely. If it doesn't last quite some time and doesn't end with both parties panting and soaked in sweat, I'm not particularly interested in it.
On that note, I have quite the kinky side despite my friendly and charming exterior. I suppose I should list it here because, while certainly not the primary focus of my interest in this, sexual compatibility does factor in to some extent.
My kinks are:
Anal, begging, biting, blowjobs, body worship, bondage, choking, cock worship, consensual non-consent, creampies, crying (the good kind), cumplay, deepthroating, degradation, desperation, dirty talking, face fucking, facials, free use, hair pulling, hole stretching (basically pushing my partner to her limits), humiliation, hypnosis, name calling, objectification, orgasm control (which includes edging, forced orgasms, orgasm denial and ruined orgasms), public play (in a discreet manner), slapping, spanking, spitting and teasing.One thing I feel I should mention is that the acts of degradation and humilation are limited to play time and only sexual in nature, never attacking my partner in any way.
I also believe very strongly in aftercare and safe words as the mental and emotional well being of my partner is very important.
I realize there's no one way to live this lifestyle, but I feel like a lot of what I said should be obvious and general knowledge in regards to this; however from my experience it doesn't seem to be that way too often (not referring to the that are inexperienced in this, more those that do this for the wrong reason), which is why I wanted to share my views in such detail.
Even if you're nervous or anxious, you think you might not be good enough, doubt my intentions or anything along those lines, still give me a message. After all, what do you have to lose?
Thanks for taking the time to read my little novella, I hope to hear from you soon. So long, and thanks for reading!
2023.05.29 17:44 SariayaPaige 35 [F4F] women/couples into trans women. Needing to find my people ❤️ 💕
I have been having a really hard time finding women I vibe with. I feel there is nobody who is into trans women physically and I am losing hope. I am located in Illinois but willing to relocate so could start something online.
I am loving, confident, fun, silly, outgoing, caring, compassionate and I will do anything I can to please my partner. I am a caregiver by choice in my career - registered nurse. I love to care for others and I love opening up and offering myself to others wants and needs.
I am open to anyone 20+ as long as we can vibe. I feel like I often have a younger attitude as I am trying to relive my college days in a way I am sad I missed out on. About me: I am a registered nurse in an emergency room, my hobbies and interests include fashion, video games, shopping, traveling domestic and international, I love cuddling, Netflix/entertainment in general, and fantasizing about how amazing life would be if I were more beautiful. I have 3 sisters and come from a pretty conservative family. I can’t stand Donald Trump and no I don’t need any negative messages about why. If you are a Trumper please refrain from messaging me (I doubt there’s many here anyways). I tend to have sexual desires, fantasies, and just daydream about dates and things I wish could happen. I can also totally refrain from this is if this is nothing you’re interested in but I wouldn’t mind having a BFF 👯♀️ to share experiences and secrets with. I think a relationship is best started as a friendship then grows, so let’s just chat and see where things go.
I love pets but don’t have any of my own, taking care of myself is a big enough responsibility 😆. I have plenty of other interests and would love to make friends or more seeing if it goes that way. If you want to be friends or just think I’m cute let’s chat 😘 (pics in my profile).
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I am loving, confident, fun, silly, outgoing, caring, compassionate and I will do anything I can to please my partner. I am a caregiver by choice in my career - registered nurse. I love to care for others and I love opening up and offering myself to others wants and needs.
I am open to anyone 20+ as long as we can vibe. I feel like I often have a younger attitude as I am trying to relive my college days in a way I am sad I missed out on. About me: I am a registered nurse in an emergency room, my hobbies and interests include fashion, video games, shopping, traveling domestic and international, I love cuddling, Netflix/entertainment in general, and fantasizing about how amazing life would be if I were more beautiful. I have 3 sisters and come from a pretty conservative family. I can’t stand Donald Trump and no I don’t need any negative messages about why. If you are a Trumper please refrain from messaging me (I doubt there’s many here anyways). I tend to have sexual desires, fantasies, and just daydream about dates and things I wish could happen. I can also totally refrain from this is if this is nothing you’re interested in but I wouldn’t mind having a BFF 👯♀️ to share experiences and secrets with. I think a relationship is best started as a friendship then grows, so let’s just chat and see where things go.
I love pets but don’t have any of my own, taking care of myself is a big enough responsibility 😆. I have plenty of other interests and would love to make friends or more seeing if it goes that way. If you want to be friends or just think I’m cute let’s chat 😘 (pics in my profile).
2023.05.29 17:44 DrivenandDistracted Help me find this bag!
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2023.05.29 17:43 SariayaPaige 35 [F4F] illinois/online - women who are into trans women, message me 😘
I have been having a really hard time finding women I vibe with. I feel there is nobody who is into trans women physically and I am losing hope.
I am loving, confident, fun, silly, outgoing, caring, compassionate and I will do anything I can to please my partner. I am a caregiver by choice in my career - registered nurse. I love to care for others and I love opening up and offering myself to others wants and needs.
I am open to anyone 20+ as long as we can vibe. I feel like I often have a younger attitude as I am trying to relive my college days in a way I am sad I missed out on. About me: I am a registered nurse in an emergency room, my hobbies and interests include fashion, video games, shopping, traveling domestic and international, I love cuddling, Netflix/entertainment in general, and fantasizing about how amazing life would be if I were more beautiful. I have 3 sisters and come from a pretty conservative family. I can’t stand Donald Trump and no I don’t need any negative messages about why. If you are a Trumper please refrain from messaging me (I doubt there’s many here anyways). I tend to have sexual desires, fantasies, and just daydream about dates and things I wish could happen. I can also totally refrain from this is if this is nothing you’re interested in but I wouldn’t mind having a BFF 👯♀️ to share experiences and secrets with. I think a relationship is best started as a friendship then grows, so let’s just chat and see where things go.
I love pets but don’t have any of my own, taking care of myself is a big enough responsibility 😆. I have plenty of other interests and would love to make friends or more seeing if it goes that way. If you want to be friends or just think I’m cute let’s chat 😘 (pics in my profile).
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I am loving, confident, fun, silly, outgoing, caring, compassionate and I will do anything I can to please my partner. I am a caregiver by choice in my career - registered nurse. I love to care for others and I love opening up and offering myself to others wants and needs.
I am open to anyone 20+ as long as we can vibe. I feel like I often have a younger attitude as I am trying to relive my college days in a way I am sad I missed out on. About me: I am a registered nurse in an emergency room, my hobbies and interests include fashion, video games, shopping, traveling domestic and international, I love cuddling, Netflix/entertainment in general, and fantasizing about how amazing life would be if I were more beautiful. I have 3 sisters and come from a pretty conservative family. I can’t stand Donald Trump and no I don’t need any negative messages about why. If you are a Trumper please refrain from messaging me (I doubt there’s many here anyways). I tend to have sexual desires, fantasies, and just daydream about dates and things I wish could happen. I can also totally refrain from this is if this is nothing you’re interested in but I wouldn’t mind having a BFF 👯♀️ to share experiences and secrets with. I think a relationship is best started as a friendship then grows, so let’s just chat and see where things go.
I love pets but don’t have any of my own, taking care of myself is a big enough responsibility 😆. I have plenty of other interests and would love to make friends or more seeing if it goes that way. If you want to be friends or just think I’m cute let’s chat 😘 (pics in my profile).
2023.05.29 16:07 ivan_sandwich Cursed request
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2023.05.29 15:43 HariSeldon1517 Fake reddit accounts of "hot girls" are spam following me. Is there anything I can do about it?
Lately I have been spammed with notifications of new reddit followers that turn out to be newly created reddit accounts with zero karma, with a cute girl in the profile pic, and in her main page asking to subscribe to her onlyfans account.
I have blocked every single occurrence but this is getting tiresome. Is there anything I can do other than individually blocking each one?
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I have blocked every single occurrence but this is getting tiresome. Is there anything I can do other than individually blocking each one?
2023.05.29 11:35 iinattanii Lo karlo baat
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2023.05.29 11:08 2H1N3Y Did i overreact?
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2023.05.29 04:57 PrincessMouseBear I'm ashamed. I wanted English breakfast (long post sorry)
 | TW: Transphobia submitted by PrincessMouseBear to VaushV [link] [comments] Tldr; I'm a lonely idiot and a cis American (29F), and my online crush was a cis English dude (35M). It blew up in my face. I thought I was following the advice of "disengage" from normies, and be a normal, chill, left-leaning person, but it failed spectacularly. I thought things were going well. From the start, he said he was smart, and he seemed very motivated, in-shape, and an all around interesting, well-traveled person.He had some quippy thing on his profile about how according to some evangelical North Carolinian on the Plane to the UK, he was going to hell (Cute, STEM, atheist, bad boy~~~).... At the start, I jokingly informed him I was a broke socialist (bc he's in finance) and I "hoped we could still be friends." He had a sort of sarcastic demeanor, but in a cool way. However, he kept bringing up a trans people out of nowhere and being generally ignorant, but I thought like in the same way my grandma would. I know some STEM dudes especially may have emotional blindspots or a slight arrogance debuff, so I waived it off. He was a normie and generally apolitical. I would normally poke fun at him, or England, or ignore it and change the subject. Besides, maybe it was just a cultural thing, and plus we were just talking to each other as people. I pretty much NEVER brought up these issues first -- it was always him signaling at something and me responding. After a while the things he said started to sound like something out of 2016, but I was just being sensitive. He's just a workaholic dude who "doesn't get the trans thing."He shared the link to this vintage movie upload on youtube that looked really beautiful. In the description it showed that he helped with piecing together the audio so that this lost media could be available again. Then he brought up that the person who spearheaded the project was "transsexual." This again told me he was kinda ignorant, but collaborating with trans people on his off time. He was outside the sphere and he just didn't have the right language is all. Then it went to shit.He casually pointed out her breasts and misgendered her. I jokingly said something like "you can't help you live on TERF island and you're brain-broken on this issue, but you don't mean anything bad." Like, I was giving him the benefit of the doubt. He corrected me and said he wasn't a TERF, and by that, he meant he was an avid Jordan Peterson fan. Yeah, he wasn't insulted by being called a TERF. He was insulted that I would dare insinuate he was feminist by any stretch of the imagination. At this point I just wanted it to stop. There was literally nothing I could say to this guy. I told him forget it, and I wanted to talk about English breakfast instead. I know it was illogical, but my knee-jerk reaction was to just beg that we go roll it back and talk about happy things again. I had been crushing on this guy and looking at his shirtless photos like 24/7. He instead asked me "what is a woman?" and I reacted emotionally and said basically "You and every debate bro (wants to know that)" He called me stupid and went off on me. I said that we might disagree on language around this, and that its a personal issue to me because my friends were trans. I told him I wasn't prepared to argue, and that I had plenty of MALE sources he could have a look at if he wanted to see them. Maybe then there would be a chance in hell? (he didn't). He said he didn't want to argue. He wanted THE definition. He assured me that it wasn't just my stance that was stupid. It was me and how I was "ignoring definitions." He asked if I went to University (maybe a passive aggressive, English way of calling me a dumbass, I guess). He was "concerned" that the oxford dictionary was "pressured" into changing the definition of woman to be more inclusive . I told him I know he didn't mean any greater harm to anyone, but that language has power over all other institutions and the definition should change, and who cares? After that I was blocked -- it was over. I have no desire to talk to this guy again. However, I feel ashamed that I was weak and avoidant on my values beliefs. It was in an effort to be optically pleasant to an "apolitical" person that I was horny for. I'm sorry y'all. **Edit- reddit got rid o my precious line breaks so I put em back https://preview.redd.it/gp8nzqcedq2b1.png?width=1058&format=png&auto=webp&s=0fcd3aa4cc64043ff8506d84d54b0ae90874f674 |
2023.05.29 04:55 Kooky_Pie_2428 Is This A Scam?
I need help. This girl friended me on Facebook and we started chatting in messenger. We talked for a few days and then she asked me if I could trust her. Then she told me she needed help with her IRA to receive her funds. She told me she was notified to verify her receiver and said she could make me her receiver and the money would be paid out to me. Then she said it would require my ID, ssn and "selfie" verification. I told her no I wasn't comfortable giving out that information. If this is a scammer, they are really smart. The profile is over two years old with multiple photos of her. It's not a drop dead beautiful girl, but a slightly thick cute girl. I also noticed that "she" doesn't answer my messages right away despite being online, which kinda indicates "she" is talking to someone else.
So what do you guys think? Please let me know.
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So what do you guys think? Please let me know.
2023.05.29 04:12 octo8octo8octo8 Broken up with because I don’t drink alcohol.. am I crazy?
I was dumped because I don’t (can’t!) drink alcohol. Am I crazy for being upset?
Context: I’m almost 26, living in NYC. I met a 30 year old man on Hinge about 5 months ago, beginning of January. We hit it off right away, always had lots of fun together, shared the same viewpoints on many things, amazing sexual chemistry, etc. He’s a great person, super sweet, great job, always treated me respectfully, I truly could not complain… he was the first guy I really connected with since my ex (I was in a relationship for 8 years (!) that ended in 2021, we lived together too, so trust me I already know breakups suck).
I had on my Hinge profile that I don’t drink alcohol. I told him I don’t drink before we ever met in person, and on our first date he asked me why and I told him the truth: that alcohol makes my body feel really shitty and anxious. I used to drink in high school and some in college, and at times I really wish I could now, but sadly it doesn’t agree with my body anymore. I have some chronic health conditions that factor into this and just simply don’t make it fun for me. He was understanding, so that was that. Things kept progressing and going well, and a few months later (beginning of April), he asked if I wanted to be exclusive, and of course I said definitely, yes! He talked about how he hadn’t felt a connection with someone like this in a long time, and I felt the same way. I was feeling really optimistic.
One of the times we hung out, he invited me to a friend’s birthday party at a bar. Just FYI, I’m not a completely sober person, I do consume weed occasionally - usually edibles. And I have NO ISSUE with people drinking alcohol. I’ve gone on a bunch of dates in bars where the guy will have a few drinks and I don’t, and we always have a nice time. Like I said, I wish I could participate and have a glass of wine at the end of the day, I really do. I don’t mind going to bars, I can have fun regardless. And when I went to this bar party with him, I took an edible before, he of course drank at the party, and we had a great time!
Fast forward to now. We met up for what I thought was a usual hangout, but he told me he wanted to talk about how he’s feeling worried we’re not compatible because he drinks very regularly with his friends for fun, and obviously I don’t drink. He said it never bothered him initially, that he only started feeling this way the past month. During this convo we were both crying, here are some of the things he said:
• He said this was the only reason he wanted to end things, and that it wasn’t bothering him before he asked to be exclusive
• He acknowledged that I even told him I don’t drink from the very beginning, and that I’ve never been judgmental of his drinking or people who do - both of which, yup, are true!
• He said the fact he feels this way is so stupid, and how he doesn’t even know if he’s making the right decision (he basically wanted me to convince him that it could work out—he kept asking me what I would do if I was him in this position)
• Kept saying ‘please don’t hate me’, and even asked me if I think this is a stupid reason to breakup
• That when we’re together, he doesn’t care that I don’t drink and he’s happy, but then when we’re apart it will bother him and he’ll think about it
• Asked me if I’ve had this issue before, and I answered honestly and said no, people typically don’t care that I don’t drink and he said “yeah cause they’re probably acting like grown men and not a 14 year old like me” …ok
• That it’s sad to him that we can’t ever just have a bottle of wine together
• That he thinks he would be a ‘bad influence’ on me if we stayed together and I kept choosing not to drink
• That he’s having trouble meshing his ‘two worlds’, meaning, I assume, his hobby of getting drunk with friends, and then him being with me who doesn’t drink
I do know that the industry he works in is quite toxic and drinking is a big part of what his coworkers do for fun, partially because of how shitty the industry culture is. I also know that drinking is a big part of NYC culture. But I also can’t help but wonder if he uses alcohol to mask deeper issues that he has (he said something like, ‘when I’m alone it’s like baseline, shitty, and then with you, I’m happy’ which was kind of concerning). Especially considering how much he views alcohol as apparently being THIS important in his life, and when he’s with friends it seems like that’s usually the main activity. Why should it matter so much if I’m not drinking but others are? Couldn’t we do other things together? We had even made a list of cute things we wanna do together! I feel like his friends wouldn’t even care if I’m not drinking, so long as I’m having fun and not being judgmental, which has always been the case.
It seems like us having fun by the means of not being sober together (specifically through the method of alcohol) is this huge marker of importance to him, and I can’t understand why. And to reiterate—he’s 30 years old. Soon enough his friends will probably start wanting to shift priorities, start families, etc. So this feels a bit immature to me at this age, but maybe I’m just not understanding something here. But if I’m being honest, I definitely picked up on a few other immature things about him through the months.
Please tell me… am I crazy for being super upset that this is why he ended things? I’m just really sad, disappointed, and frustrated, because I feel like if you say you haven’t had a connection with someone like this in a while, then why does me not drinking really matter? It feels like such a silly reason to throw something away that really could have lasted.
And this whole thing has made me feel so defective and like an outcast for not being a drinker because I know it’s such a part of our culture, especially when you’re young and living in NYC. This whole thing just sucks.
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Context: I’m almost 26, living in NYC. I met a 30 year old man on Hinge about 5 months ago, beginning of January. We hit it off right away, always had lots of fun together, shared the same viewpoints on many things, amazing sexual chemistry, etc. He’s a great person, super sweet, great job, always treated me respectfully, I truly could not complain… he was the first guy I really connected with since my ex (I was in a relationship for 8 years (!) that ended in 2021, we lived together too, so trust me I already know breakups suck).
I had on my Hinge profile that I don’t drink alcohol. I told him I don’t drink before we ever met in person, and on our first date he asked me why and I told him the truth: that alcohol makes my body feel really shitty and anxious. I used to drink in high school and some in college, and at times I really wish I could now, but sadly it doesn’t agree with my body anymore. I have some chronic health conditions that factor into this and just simply don’t make it fun for me. He was understanding, so that was that. Things kept progressing and going well, and a few months later (beginning of April), he asked if I wanted to be exclusive, and of course I said definitely, yes! He talked about how he hadn’t felt a connection with someone like this in a long time, and I felt the same way. I was feeling really optimistic.
One of the times we hung out, he invited me to a friend’s birthday party at a bar. Just FYI, I’m not a completely sober person, I do consume weed occasionally - usually edibles. And I have NO ISSUE with people drinking alcohol. I’ve gone on a bunch of dates in bars where the guy will have a few drinks and I don’t, and we always have a nice time. Like I said, I wish I could participate and have a glass of wine at the end of the day, I really do. I don’t mind going to bars, I can have fun regardless. And when I went to this bar party with him, I took an edible before, he of course drank at the party, and we had a great time!
Fast forward to now. We met up for what I thought was a usual hangout, but he told me he wanted to talk about how he’s feeling worried we’re not compatible because he drinks very regularly with his friends for fun, and obviously I don’t drink. He said it never bothered him initially, that he only started feeling this way the past month. During this convo we were both crying, here are some of the things he said:
• He said this was the only reason he wanted to end things, and that it wasn’t bothering him before he asked to be exclusive
• He acknowledged that I even told him I don’t drink from the very beginning, and that I’ve never been judgmental of his drinking or people who do - both of which, yup, are true!
• He said the fact he feels this way is so stupid, and how he doesn’t even know if he’s making the right decision (he basically wanted me to convince him that it could work out—he kept asking me what I would do if I was him in this position)
• Kept saying ‘please don’t hate me’, and even asked me if I think this is a stupid reason to breakup
• That when we’re together, he doesn’t care that I don’t drink and he’s happy, but then when we’re apart it will bother him and he’ll think about it
• Asked me if I’ve had this issue before, and I answered honestly and said no, people typically don’t care that I don’t drink and he said “yeah cause they’re probably acting like grown men and not a 14 year old like me” …ok
• That it’s sad to him that we can’t ever just have a bottle of wine together
• That he thinks he would be a ‘bad influence’ on me if we stayed together and I kept choosing not to drink
• That he’s having trouble meshing his ‘two worlds’, meaning, I assume, his hobby of getting drunk with friends, and then him being with me who doesn’t drink
I do know that the industry he works in is quite toxic and drinking is a big part of what his coworkers do for fun, partially because of how shitty the industry culture is. I also know that drinking is a big part of NYC culture. But I also can’t help but wonder if he uses alcohol to mask deeper issues that he has (he said something like, ‘when I’m alone it’s like baseline, shitty, and then with you, I’m happy’ which was kind of concerning). Especially considering how much he views alcohol as apparently being THIS important in his life, and when he’s with friends it seems like that’s usually the main activity. Why should it matter so much if I’m not drinking but others are? Couldn’t we do other things together? We had even made a list of cute things we wanna do together! I feel like his friends wouldn’t even care if I’m not drinking, so long as I’m having fun and not being judgmental, which has always been the case.
It seems like us having fun by the means of not being sober together (specifically through the method of alcohol) is this huge marker of importance to him, and I can’t understand why. And to reiterate—he’s 30 years old. Soon enough his friends will probably start wanting to shift priorities, start families, etc. So this feels a bit immature to me at this age, but maybe I’m just not understanding something here. But if I’m being honest, I definitely picked up on a few other immature things about him through the months.
Please tell me… am I crazy for being super upset that this is why he ended things? I’m just really sad, disappointed, and frustrated, because I feel like if you say you haven’t had a connection with someone like this in a while, then why does me not drinking really matter? It feels like such a silly reason to throw something away that really could have lasted.
And this whole thing has made me feel so defective and like an outcast for not being a drinker because I know it’s such a part of our culture, especially when you’re young and living in NYC. This whole thing just sucks.
2023.05.29 02:14 Kind-Ad-4341 230528 JAY CHANG 1:1 FAN CALL
2023.05.29 01:34 Hallucino_jen Just going to leave this here…
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2023.05.28 23:58 _x4u_ Found finally someone I like. I can’t even remember his name
I’m a total piece of shit fr. I was using this app (which name I won’t say cus crap and doesn’t deserve people attentions lol) when suddenly I was banned. Literally my last message was to a dude who was bothering me to give him my number, his 6 late messages were that OVER AND OVER AGAIN and I said “Stop. I don’t give it” JUST THAT. Went to see my other chats, while I was watching TV too and when I look to my phone back, surprise! banned 😎 I’m not saying he got me banned, nah pretty sure when you report someone your profile and chat stops showing for them but it really annoyed me how that asshole was being annoying towards me (probably other women/matches too) and he is still in the app and me, that I had (and was having) plenty of nice messages I get suspended. Just because? Cmon.
The thing is. I paid for a month sub and I used passport. I was talking with a lovely dude from America, and yea I can’t remember his name. There’s no way I found him. He had pictures of him in the gym, a cute selfie, a deer pic, a car one, a forest…I swear I can remember all the pics and his bio too! which was “I’m the funniest person I know” He was talking to me all the time and even said sorry if he didn’t reply too fast. I literally crushed so hard. And now? Now nothing cus I’m stupid. He asked for my snap but since I had bad experiences I said no CUS I THOUGHT ILL BE ABLE TO KEEP TALKING WITH HIM THERE. I’m a fucking idiot. i’ll never see him again. And maybe now he thinks I unmatched. I wish he knew I was banned cus I don’t want him to think otherwise
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The thing is. I paid for a month sub and I used passport. I was talking with a lovely dude from America, and yea I can’t remember his name. There’s no way I found him. He had pictures of him in the gym, a cute selfie, a deer pic, a car one, a forest…I swear I can remember all the pics and his bio too! which was “I’m the funniest person I know” He was talking to me all the time and even said sorry if he didn’t reply too fast. I literally crushed so hard. And now? Now nothing cus I’m stupid. He asked for my snap but since I had bad experiences I said no CUS I THOUGHT ILL BE ABLE TO KEEP TALKING WITH HIM THERE. I’m a fucking idiot. i’ll never see him again. And maybe now he thinks I unmatched. I wish he knew I was banned cus I don’t want him to think otherwise
2023.05.28 22:41 Th3BearMinimum 28 [T4F] PA/NY - lookin' for a gf
28 year-old trans guy from rural northern Pennsylvania, here; slim/athletic build, on T 6+ years, hairy as hell, lots of pics on my profile but you'll have to scroll through a bunch of my terrible memes to find them (more pics available if you ask, though).
I'm a professional gardener and landscaper at a golf course, and some of my interests include outdoors/nature, hiking/camping, art/DIY, vegetable gardening/homesteading, listening to metal/going to concerts, & playing electric guitar poorly. Also occasionally known to do nerd shit, like video games/board games (used to be really into anime/cosplaying too but not so much anymore). Autistic AF so I'm super prone to infodumping about the things I'm passionate about, ideally looking for someone who sees that as a plus?
Been thinking about this a lot lately, and I'm really dyin' to find a somewhat local, cute girl to fall in love with and obsess over, ya know? But I'm notoriously shy and have trouble initiating conversations with strangers, so dating apps and the like haven't been super effective for me so far (what I'm saying is, don't be afraid to be somewhat aggressive, I actually really like that)
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I'm a professional gardener and landscaper at a golf course, and some of my interests include outdoors/nature, hiking/camping, art/DIY, vegetable gardening/homesteading, listening to metal/going to concerts, & playing electric guitar poorly. Also occasionally known to do nerd shit, like video games/board games (used to be really into anime/cosplaying too but not so much anymore). Autistic AF so I'm super prone to infodumping about the things I'm passionate about, ideally looking for someone who sees that as a plus?
Been thinking about this a lot lately, and I'm really dyin' to find a somewhat local, cute girl to fall in love with and obsess over, ya know? But I'm notoriously shy and have trouble initiating conversations with strangers, so dating apps and the like haven't been super effective for me so far (what I'm saying is, don't be afraid to be somewhat aggressive, I actually really like that)