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2023.05.29 23:03 RealAd1811 I didn’t show up for the last two shifts of my new part time job, what do I do?
I had a full time remote job and was only making 44k and was struggling to make ends meet, especially when I found out I owed taxes in April. My manipulative mom who is very mentally ill kept offering to give and loan me money but was then angrily demanding immediate favors and errands during my work hours. I was really stressed so I kind of frantically started applying for part time and full time jobs.
I heard back from part time jobs first and took a job for a cashier at the grocery store across the street. They hired me over the phone and I went in for orientation, she said she would call me in a day or two but I didn’t hear back from her for a week until I called her.
She thought this would be my new full time job and that I was not working at all but didn’t seem in a hurry to give me hours. In the meantime I interviewed and received a new full time job working in office. Then I got my schedule for the grocery store after a couple training shifts and I was scheduled to work Thursday through Sunday while I was still working my remote job and starting my new office job that Monday. I hadn’t gotten any of my clothes shopping for the new job yet, they are really strict business professional and I didn’t have anything.
I was really stressed and worked the grocery store Thursday after my remote job, Friday after my remote job, then Saturday and Sunday and went in to the new office job feeling a bit unprepared Monday. I had a horrible headache after my first day of the new job and went home to sleep since I barely slept the night before. Tuesday after my new job I ran around to several stores (3) getting clothes. Wednesday I was supposed to work at the the grocery store after work, but my house was turned upside down and I was so behind on chores and I forgot my phone at home all day. I get off at 4:30 and was supposed to be at the grocery store at 5 but I was so tired I just went home and didn’t go. I was also supposed to go there Friday and I didn’t go either. I had a birthday party after work for a niece Thursday and plans with my boyfriend I hadn’t seen in two weeks Saturday and Sunday and also I hadn’t been able to do my dishes or clean the litter box or do laundry and the house was a wreck, it stunk.
I am an idiot and really over scheduled myself. I feel awful for not showing up at the grocery store. I really don’t want the job… I feel ashamed because my family and boyfriend knew I started the grocery store job. And they’re going to ask about it.
I’m sure I’m fired since I didn’t show up for 2 shifts. I really think it was too much because I was supposed to work 5-10 after work and then go into the office the next morning and I knew I wouldn’t have slept enough and would have been emotionally and mentally exhausted because I already am exhausted with learning a whole new office job.
What should I do? I’m feeling really guilty. I’ve never not showed up to a job before. I’m really ashamed of myself.
TLDR: I got a new part time grocery store cashier job in the midst of starting a new full time office job, and got overwhelmed and didn’t show up the last two shifts for the grocery store job. I feel really guilty and ashamed. What should I do?
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2023.05.29 23:00 kirkydoodle Can anyone interpret this Alvarado Street Bakery bread sell by code?
I paid $7.00 for a loaf of bread yesterday at Rainbow Grocery and opened it today to find mold on top of some of the slices. There is no date of production or sell by date anyone on the package or on the twist tie closing it.
D1201234 is printed on the bag, follwed by "13:22." Can anyone decipher this for me?
I would return the bread to Rainbow but it is extremely inconvenient for me to get there. I like the store (and trusted them - until now) but can only go a few times a year because of their odd location.
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2023.05.29 23:00 HercHuntsdirty My (24F) Girlfriend Of 6 Years Ended Things With Me (26M) - Looking for Advice
I (26M) was recently broken up with by my (24F) girlfriend of 6 years right after opening up to her about how I had been struggling a lot mentally recently. That's not necessarily the cause, but it happens to be a terrible coincidence.
Backstory to the unfortunate mental struggles:
About 10 weeks ago I had a very long night out and woke up extremely hungover. My brother met up with me that night in our parents car and ended up staying with us for a few drinks, so evidently he left the car.
Of course, I woke up and had a boatload of caffeine so I was already on edge a little bit. My brother was still asleep, so my mom asked me if I could quickly drive my dad to the car so he could take it home. No problem, I hopped in my car and drove there with my dad.
On the way home, completely unprovoked and no anxiety prior, I had an insane panic attack. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. I think I’ve only had one panic attack in my life, and for some reason it left me with a very small amount of social anxiety. During this attack, my hands and feet were completely numb and sweating. At first, I had literally no idea what was going on - I thought it was a legitimate health issue. I ended up taking a bit to drive home, but I made it.
Since then, I've just had heightened anxiety. I've had one other panic attack in the past and I eventually got over the lingering anxiety, so I knew it wasn't permanent.
Mental Health Backstory on her end:
To preface this, we both have anxiety/depression in our genetics unfortunately. In fact, her mom spent some time in the hospital when they were young because of how bad it got.
She also apparently had a ton of anxiety from work recently (she's a nurse, I'm in tech).
On my mothers side of the family, my mom, grandma and great grandma have struggled with anxiety their entire lives, some of them taking antidepressants.
Not fun genes for either of us to have, but we persevered!
Our Relationship:
This is what has been getting to me, our relationship was very healthy. We argued probably 2-3 times per year, we spent the majority of days together - as we lived only a 5 minute drive apart. We were both fully a part of each other's families. All of the normal relationship stuff, we were completely engulfed in it. We had also been looking at engagement rings for a bit and ALWAYS talked about our life together.
When I was about 19 before we were together, I used to drunkenly talk about her all of the time to my friends saying "if she ever gets out of the relationship with her boyfriend (at that time) she's the one I'm going for". When I was graduating high school, I went into her class on yearbook day, grabbed her yearbook and wrote my number in it. Long story short, she ended up single and within a month of that happening, we were together.
The "problems" we had over the years that were semi-recurring:
I didn't suggest enough of our plans. I explained to her a number of times that I'd happily go anywhere, I just don't tend to suggest ideas because sometimes she wanted to, other times she didn't. I've lived by the motto "happy wife, happy life" in that relationship, so I tended to go along with whatever she suggested.
We didn't take enough pictures together. I don't really like being in too many pictures and that bothered her.
We didn't travel together enough. This goes back to the anxiety, I hate flying and haven't done it in almost a decade. However, I have an appointment with my doctor in early July where I'm requesting some "emergencies only" anxiety medication to use for that exact scenario. Note - she went on a number of trips over the years with her closest friends. Furthermore, we had done weekend getaways via car together but those apparently don't count. To add, her friends are hopping on planes at least once per month to go somewhere, I think comparison became the thief of joy here.
I didn't tell her I loved her enough or hug her enough. This one is hard for me because I felt like I definitely told her I loved her a lot. She used to occasionally say "do you even love me", semi-joking but also serious, and I always told her of course I did and even though I may not say it a number of times a day, of course I do. I also did a TON of things for her to show how much I cared (ie. she very rarely had to make a lunch for work, I cooked for her almost every day and we don't even live together) The hugging thing is a bit different, as she's always been extremely affectionate and I never really have been. I truly think it comes down to how I was raised, affection just wasn't a huge part of my childhood. (note, that's not a problem for me or anything, I had incredible family/parents, it just wasn't as prominent as it was in her childhood)
I cared a lot about money and how we could set ourselves up to move out. She had taken 5 trips (two of them by train, three by plane) with her friends in the past year and after the 5th one I asked if she planned on slowing down so she could focus on tackling her student debt and so we could start saving to move out, have a wedding etc. Specifically, I wanted us to be in the position where we weren't renting a home, ESPECIALLY given how much money we were making combined. This part kind of confused me because she was the first one to suggest moving out, but when it came time to adjusting the lifestyle to prepare for it, she didn't like the idea. But, I did use it as a crutch for my anxiety to get out of things sometimes and I did open up to her about that. As an example though, I still went with her to the Gucci store and helped her pick out a very expensive purse to celebrate getting her first real nursing job after graduating. I don't feel that I cared about money (especially given the stage we were in in our lives) more than any of my buddies with girlfriends. I wanted us to be set up well for the coming stages of our lives; they were fast approaching. Furthermore, her friends are catching a plane every weekend and are living with their parents but pay cheque to pay cheque with no prospects of ever leaving unless it's renting
The Situation:
About 7-ish weeks ago, a few weeks after my panic attack, my girlfriend was very adamant that we needed to book a trip together. She said we hadn't been on a "real" trip during our relationship (by real, she means getting on a plane). We were sitting down in her bed on my laptop looking at destinations and flights, but I was incredibly anxious about the whole thing. As we were about to book, I broke down and was fully vulnerable to her for one of the first times in the 6 year relationship. I said that I just don't see myself getting onto a plane right now without some kind of medication to calm me down. On top of that, it would stress me out financially a bit, as I'm a full-time masters student and working full time. Plus, it was during my one-week semester break, so I honestly just wanted to relax.
From that day on, our relationship started going downhill. She said she felt extremely disappointed by the whole situation and she couldn't shake the feeling. We then started only hanging out maybe once per week and it was very bland when we did. A couple weeks after that incident, I slept over at her house and I could tell she was genuinely just not happy at that time.
Brief backstory - despite being 26, my mom still gives me a ton of flack if I sleep at her house. It was rare that I got away with it. But, I did it that night anyway because she always asked me to sleep over but I rarely wanted to have to deal with my mom. I thought it would help show her I'm really trying to get better. She also invited me over the following evening and I obviously went.
After that day, I don't think we saw each other for about 2 weeks. I texted her on a Friday evening and said I just don't feel like she wants to be with me anymore. She picked me up so we could talk, and explained that she felt very disappointed about how we were so close to booking the trip and ended up not doing it. She said she needed a break and I was fine with it, I understood where she was coming from.
During this time, I started seeing a therapist. I found one online who was one of the highest rated in my province and was also extremely experienced in marital/pre-marital counselling so I could tell her about the relationship issues I was having along with my anxiety.
Fast forward about 2 more weeks (last weekend) she texted me saying she was ready to talk and picked me up. She said it's probably best if we just end the relationship for the time being. She explained that she felt she had been disappointed a few times over the years and was bottling a lot of things up. She said she needed time to "find herself again" and didn't know if we would get back together at all in the future or not. Then, we sat there talking in her car for another 30 minutes like things were normal so it really threw me off.
I ended up texting her the next day and asked if I could pick her up because I was confused from the night prior since we talked so normally after the breakup conversation. We ended up talking again, sharing some tears and what not, but I kind of understood why she felt she needed to be alone for a bit, even though she didn't know if we would get back together or not. She said that people do this all of the time and sometimes they come back stronger, but if it was meant to be then we'll get back together. I also told her about how much help I'm getting and how I'm setting a goal to take a vacation when I finish my masters in November. She was noticeably happy and asked a lot about how I was talking to my therapist about improving as a person and a (what I thought was soon to be) fiancé. She asked for all of the details about what we talked about in regards to our relationship and was very happy that I was putting that much effort in.
A couple days ago is when she deleted are photos together, but it came right after she posted an Instagram story while out with a friend who has no stability whatsoever. This friend has been on and off with the same guy (who treats her terribly) for as long as we were together. Not to mention, she sleeps around a ton. I can't help but feel like some of this breakup is being influenced by her friends (specifically this one) wanting her to be single like they are out of jealousy or something. Or, they want her to be flying somewhere once a month with them with no plans for the future. My girlfriend has cried to me in the past because she had been brought to places she didn't want to be because her friend wanted to go for a guy. That friend has also been binge drinking several times weekly for years. The following night, her two friends posted a story of her incredibly drunk in the back of a car with her feet out of the window I'm sure in hopes that I would see it. We're grown ass adults, I can't help but feel like that's just not a cool thing to do to your friend in general? I don't care how drunk you are, in fact I expected her to have a night out with her friends and let loose but posting someone else like that is just insanely stupid to me! To put the icing on the cake, one of my long time buddies from high school decided to go for one of her friends and I gave him substantial warnings about her. Within a year, that relationship was completely over with and she was on to the next.
Neither of us were ever the type one to have one-night stands or get around, so I'm not concerned about anything like that during the breakup. If it happens it happens, but I won't be sleeping with anyone until I've put in all of my effort to saving everything we've built. She's only ever been with me and her ex, while I've had a handful more partners before her - but I've experienced enough in my 26 years to know that there was is only one woman for me.
After all of this, I still couldn't shake the feeling that I felt I was being abandoned during the one time in my entire life I've opened up to anyone and really wanted some support. I'm also just having a hard time processing why it happened and how I can salvage it.
I've texted her once per week since the breaks & breakup happened just telling her that I loved her and wished we were going to XYZ events coming up. I also always say in the message that "You don't have to respond or even read it, I just want you to know". I'm having a hard time deciding if I should continue giving her that weekly text or not, but I really do want her to know how much I care and thought we were a dream team.
I just can't help but feel like we had "problems" that were very fixable and were very minor compared to 99% of couples. Her two best friends have had 5+ boyfriends each in the time that we were together and countless one-night stands. Every time they would break up, I'd hear a story from my girlfriend about how terribly they were treated by these guys and we talked about how lucky we are to have each other. There was no forms of jealousy or self-consciousness between us either, neither of us were bothered when we went out alone with our respective friend groups. I also never for a second worried when she travelled with her friends that she'd cheat or something.
This wraps in with why I can't process the breakup. Aside from the few things we argued about here and there (few times a year) it was an incredibly healthy relationship. I had a great relationship with her friends (despite some of the things I've said about them above) and would often times opt to go out drinking with her group over my group of buddies. I acknowledged my shortcomings as a boyfriend (ie. the affection) with my therapist and she's giving me some help with it. Am I crazy for thinking 1. that I can fix what's happened and 2. Part of this breakup might just be her wanting to see how much I actually care?
Anyway, I might add to this if I remember more important points. I just needed to get some of this off my chest. If you've made it this far into my story, thanks for reading!
TL;DR: A very healthy relationship was ended with a trickle down effect of my mental health being poor at the moment, but was healthy otherwise. How can I salvage everything we've built over 6 years?
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2023.05.29 23:00 Big4MBAthrowaway Moving to NYC: Incoming Grad Student
Hi AskNYC subreddit,
I am a male in my mid/late 20s moving to NY for the first time to attend Columbia Business School. After initial due diligence, it looks like UWS/Manhattansville/Morningside is where most people live. I prefer not to live in Harlem, but are there any other locations that have the following attributes?
- Safe
- Has grocery stores (TJs/Whole Foods)
- Decent night life (not exactly clubs, but fun bars)
- Good food
- Near subway
- Near good gyms
I'm looking for a studio/1br in the ~3k range.
Thanks!
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2023.05.29 23:00 Hadeys High Fantasy World Building
Hey, here's a little about me before anything - I live in CET Timezone. I work 7 days a week albeit on my own schedule but irl takes priority, I'll communicate it if I have to be away. I've nearly 8 years of experience across various platforms and games. I normally write multi para (discord limit more or less). I'm a HUGE fan of world building especially with reference images. And I do enjoy good OOC banter once in awhile.
Onto business - I'm currently looking for a long term rp partner, someone I can build a world with from scratch preferably in a fantasy medieval setting (settings like GoT, Witcher, World of Warcraft, LoTR etc) with different cities, towns, fantasy races, creatures, perhaps even our own deities to even much grander scales. I'm looking to write a story, not a one time scene. Themes I'm expecting to be involved can range from very light hearted SOL to potentially dark, so we'll tread with what we both are comfortable with. In terms of what kind of plot I'm looking for, I'd love to discuss this with you when we get to talking, something we both agree, but to help out with that, here are some ideas that could get our brain juices flowing:
Revenge arc
Insurrection / Rebellion
Zero to Hero
Enemies to lovers
Forbidden Fruit
Rise and fall
Enemies to lovers
I'm very very open to discussion, feel free to come with ideas anytime.
I'm very willing to play multiple characters like npc's and such alongside my OC(s), while I would prefer if you could do that, it's not a requirement. I also write in 3rd person (and you have to too). I'm 22 years old and I'd prefer to rp with someone around my age, 18+ only.
That's kind of that for now I guess? Thanks for reading through, I'd love to get in touch with you if this piques your interest. Send me a DM with a short intro about yourself and your favorite snack so I know you've read everything, see you there!
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2023.05.29 22:59 Hadeys High Fantasy World Building
Hey, here's a little about me before anything - I live in CET Timezone. I work 7 days a week albeit on my own schedule but irl takes priority, I'll communicate it if I have to be away. I've nearly 8 years of experience across various platforms and games. I normally write multi para (discord limit more or less). I'm a HUGE fan of world building especially with reference images. And I do enjoy good OOC banter once in awhile.
Onto business - I'm currently looking for a long term rp partner, someone I can build a world with from scratch preferably in a fantasy medieval setting (settings like GoT, Witcher, World of Warcraft, LoTR etc) with different cities, towns, fantasy races, creatures, perhaps even our own deities to even much grander scales. I'm looking to write a story, not a one time scene. Themes I'm expecting to be involved can range from very light hearted SOL to potentially dark, so we'll tread with what we both are comfortable with. In terms of what kind of plot I'm looking for, I'd love to discuss this with you when we get to talking, something we both agree, but to help out with that, here are some ideas that could get our brain juices flowing:
Revenge arc
Insurrection / Rebellion
Zero to Hero
Enemies to lovers
Forbidden Fruit
Rise and fall
Enemies to lovers
I'm very very open to discussion, feel free to come with ideas anytime.
I'm very willing to play multiple characters like npc's and such alongside my OC(s), while I would prefer if you could do that, it's not a requirement. I also write in 3rd person (and you have to too). I'm 22 years old and I'd prefer to rp with someone around my age, 18+ only.
That's kind of that for now I guess? Thanks for reading through, I'd love to get in touch with you if this piques your interest. Send me a DM with a short intro about yourself and your favorite snack so I know you've read everything, see you there!
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2023.05.29 22:59 Eeephus375 Enery Web Token Stuck! Please help!
Hi All,
Thank you all for taking the time to read my post and apologies if I am missing any relevant information. I purchased some Energy Web Token a long time ago back in 2020 and it's been sitting in my ledger. I hadn't done anything with it sincing moving it to my ledger nano x. I've updated my ledger but it does not show any balance for my Energy Web Tokens and when I try to transfer the token from the address on mycrypto to the new ledger live energy web address, it repeatedly gives the error
"You denied the transaction signature request, or the transaction signature request timed out. Please confirm the transaction signature."
I tried to enable blind signing but to no avail. I do notice when I try to make the transaction, the ledger tries to open the ethereum app instead of the the energy web token app. I've literally at my wits end trying to access my tokens. I tried scrolling thru the different addresses on metamask but can't seem to find the ledger address the energy web token is stored. If anyone can point me in the right direction or give me any tips, it'd be greatly appreciated.
Thank you all!
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2023.05.29 22:58 Hadeys [M4F] High Fantasy World Building
Hey, here's a little about me before anything - I live in CET Timezone. I work 7 days a week albeit on my own schedule but irl takes priority, I'll communicate it if I have to be away. I've nearly 8 years of experience across various platforms and games. I normally write multi para (discord limit more or less). I'm a HUGE fan of world building especially with reference images. And I do enjoy good OOC banter once in awhile.
Onto business - I'm currently looking for a long term rp partner, someone I can build a world with from scratch preferably in a fantasy medieval setting (settings like GoT, Witcher, World of Warcraft, LoTR etc) with different cities, towns, fantasy races, creatures, perhaps even our own deities to even much grander scales. I'm looking to write a story, not a one time scene. Themes I'm expecting to be involved can range from very light hearted SOL to potentially dark, so we'll tread with what we both are comfortable with. In terms of what kind of plot I'm looking for, I'd love to discuss this with you when we get to talking, something we both agree, but to help out with that, here are some ideas that could get our brain juices flowing:
Revenge arc
Insurrection / Rebellion
Zero to Hero
Enemies to lovers
Forbidden Fruit
Rise and fall
Enemies to lovers
I'm very very open to discussion, feel free to come with ideas anytime.
I'm very willing to play multiple characters like npc's and such alongside my OC(s), while I would prefer if you could do that, it's not a requirement. I also write in 3rd person (and you have to too). I'm 22 years old and I'd prefer to rp with someone around my age, 18+ only.
That's kind of that for now I guess? Thanks for reading through, I'd love to get in touch with you if this piques your interest. Send me a DM with a short intro about yourself and your favorite snack so I know you've read everything, see you there!
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2023.05.29 22:58 potionforharlequin Looking for roommate (Crystal City)
1 bedroom available in a 2 bed/2 bath apartment starting 6/15 for $1100 a month plus wifi and utilities (utilities and wifi usually come out to about $150 a month).
My current roommate is moving into her own place so I’m looking for a new roommate to renew my lease with! The apartment is 1000 sq ft and you’d have your own bedroom and bathroom. The lease is for 12 months and I have two cats so you’d have to be pet friendly (they stay primarily in my room).
The apartment has central aiheat and an in unit washer and dryer. The apartment building is a block from the Crystal City metro and has a pool, gym, and parking garage. Grocery stores, restaurants, shops, and the metro are all within walking distance!
A bit about me! Im a 25 year old training analyst primarily working from home. I love music, reading, gaming, traveling, and animals! I graduated from Catholic University in 2020 so I’ve been in the DC area for about 7 years now.
If you have any questions or are interested in the room, feel free to send me a dm!
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2023.05.29 22:55 The-hippy_hobbit Are charter schools worth it?
I’ll be receiving my credential next month and have been trying to apply to schools. Having a bit of a hard time finding openings near me apart from charter schools. While I don’t know a whole lot about them I have heard that they may not be worth it due to sometimes lower pay, no unions, etc. As a first year teacher should I avoid trying to apply for charter schools?
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2023.05.29 22:54 potionforharlequin Looking for a roommate! (Crystal City area)
1 bedroom available in a 2 bed/2 bath apartment starting 6/15 for $1100 a month plus wifi and utilities (utilities and wifi usually come out to about $150 a month).
My current roommate is moving into her own place so I’m looking for a new roommate to renew my lease with! The apartment is 1000 sq ft and you’d have your own bedroom and bathroom. The lease is for 12 months and I have two cats so you’d have to be pet friendly (they stay primarily in my room).
The apartment has central aiheat and an in unit washer and dryer. The apartment building is a block from the Crystal City metro and has a pool, gym, and parking garage. Grocery stores, restaurants, shops, and the metro are all within walking distance!
A bit about me! Im a 25 year old training analyst primarily working from home. I love music, reading, gaming, traveling, and animals! I graduated from Catholic University in 2020 so I’ve been in the DC area for about 7 years now.
If you have any questions or are interested in the room, feel free to send me a dm!
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2023.05.29 22:54 External_Rock9422 I'm (37m) confused in my wife (34f) and I's marriage.
I'll keep it is brief as I can for a 15 year relationship. A small bit of background: i come from a broken home - parents divorced when I was around 4, both remarried and divorced again as I grew into adulthood. Wife's parents have been married since before she was born, middle class upbringing, some family trauma with close relatives. We both suffer from varying degrees of depression, and she also has a clinically diagnosed anxiety disorder.
The last several (≈5 years) have been tough. Early on in our relationship I was unfaithful in that I had sought out other women online and had several conversations that were not in line with our monogamous relationship terms. I broke the trust and I live with that fact daily. Fast forward to 2018 - my wife befriended a woman who is married to a family friend. I've known this woman's husband since we were kids, and he's a good guy overall IMHO. His wife, my wife's new friend, is quite flirty with anyone in her life from what I had seen. I had to leave town for about a month for a work project (construction). I noticed my wife was tagged/tagging herself with this woman on FB nearly every day I was gone . I asked her point blank via phone if there was anything going on with their relationship, to which she said no. I trust my wife, as she has never shown signs of being unfaithful and is usually a brutally honest person.
I came back from my work trip and something felt off. For the first time in all of the years we had been together, I was compelled to look at her phone. I found screenshots of my wife and this woman's Snapchat conversation, very descriptively detailing their sexual interaction, and my wife confessing how much she enjoyed the experience. At this point I woke up my wife and confronted her about it - pretty much no response, then a solemn "I fucked up" was all she could say.
We have been in and out of marital therapy throughout our relationship. I suggested we find a counselor to help us with the situation, and she begrudgingly agreed. First counselor was a man who happened to be a sex counselor as well (not why I chose him, but a point that my wife latched onto), and she was standoffish and not motivated to put in the work that our counselor was asking us to to. His therapy largely revolved around Gottman's principles, which made sense to me. We went to him for the better part of a year, in which we made some progress but nothing that really healed our relationship.
We have been back in therapy for the better part of a year now, this time with a counselor or her choice. I am 100% committed to our relationship, and am consciously putting in the work to try and prove that I'm here for her. I am the primary bread winner for our family, and recently found out that she had almost $20k in credit card debt from last summer - we separated at her request for approximately 4 months. I did not want to separate, but she did so after much back and forth, I moved into a relatives extra room for the summer. My wife had the house, and we rotated the kids on a schedule that worked for us. With me being the primary income source, I wasn't going to just bend over and let her spend my income however she chose, so I changed all of our auto payments onto a card in my name and told her that groceries would be paid for. I agreed to budget 300 a month for fuel to get the kids to/from their things, and anything additional she needed to come up with. I paid for the car payment, insurance, kids items and activities, her gym membership, etc. My income pays for our commitments with nothing substantial left over, so there was no personal gain for me. I really don't care what the charges are for, so once I found out about the debt, I transferred most of it to an interest free card to be able to make payments reducing the balance without incurring interest charges.
Since coming back together, it's just tumultuous most of the time. It seems like anything I do, it's always wrong. If I clean a bathroom, I should have cleaned the kitchen and she is furious that I don't automatically know what I should be prioritizing. If I give the kids instructions and she doesn't agree, she will outright call the suggestion stupid and tell the kids to do something of her choosing. I've been called a narcissist by her more times than I can count; so much so that I had to ask my own counselor if I would be considered one to which she says 'absolutely not'.
Our typical interaction is short. She often rolls her eyes and scoffs at anything that I say that she doesn't agree with. Often times our conversations start out ok, then by the end she is making several contemptuous statements like "you always", "all of you" etc. During therapy she is visibly confrontational, often replies with "I don't know" to any number of questions our counselor asks. Our counselor has asked her "do you want to be in this relationship?" To which she replies "yeah if things change", but won't fully explain what needs to change. I could be as nice and sweet and try to do something nice for her, just to be met with a cold shoulder. Other days it's well received and noticed.
I am a very patient person most of the time, but I'm at my wits end. I feel like I'm living a means to an end with someone who doesn't value what we've developed together. I don't know where I stand day to day, I don't know if I should trust her, I don't know if I should give this time or start moving towards ending this. I love my wife, but I can't continue to get treated like a pile of 💩 and still provide everything just to not have anything left over for myself. I'm working a full time 6 figure job, and have a side business that I started just to add some income to help payoff the credit card debt. This leaves me literally 2-3 hours per night to spend with my kids, most of the time consumed with making dinner and getting the kids ready for the next day.
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2023.05.29 22:53 dontgiveaderp 32 [M4F] Houston, Texas. Hoping to find a relationship. [Relationship]
I'd like to find someone who captivates me. Someone who I can talk with effortlessly. I want to meet a person who I can include in my daily tasks, and talk with throughout the day. I just want to find someone I can be open with. Platonic conversation or romance. Whatever you are looking for, don't hesitate to message me. I hope to hear from you.
I love a number of things, and hate very little. I'm fairly open to trying new things, but some of the things I enjoy are as follows. I love the outdoors. I've never been camping, but I would like to try it with someone some day. I also love to fish. I mostly fish salt water. I do occasionally fish freshwater though. I like to check out new spots around me, but I mostly fish on the beach. Do you like to fish? What are some of your favorite places to go?
I also enjoy the shooting sports. I primarily target shoot. I take part in a little bit of everything, including rifle, pistol and shotgun. It would be nice to find someone who is into shooting or would like to learn/become more familiar. If you shoot, what do you like to shoot mostly? What's been your favorite gun to shoot so far?
PC games are also a enjoyable pastime for me. I have a variety of games, most of which are on Steam. I have other games on various other stores/services. I enjoy a wide variety of different kind of games, so I'm sure we can find something to play together if you game. What are some of your all time favorite games? What are you currently grinding on that you can't put down? One hobby I discovered later on in life is Magic the Gathering. I play both online on MtG Arena, and with physical cards. Magic has become something I am particularly fond of. Do you play any kind of card/table top games? What's been your favorite so far? If you play Magic, what are some of your favorite deck themes?
Music has always been a part of my life. My tastes are varied, ranging from country, death and black metal, electronic, classic rock, folk, pop punk, and more. Do you have a favorite band? What has been your favorite concert you've been to?
I'm honestly an ambivert. I enjoy doing things outside, as well as spending time indoors. I can veg out all day under the covers curled up in my bed, or I can take a trip somewhere and experience something new. I think my personality is a mix of the best of both worlds. What would the perfect day consist of for you?
As far as my personality is concerned, I would say I am fairly relaxed and laid back. I feel like I am somewhere in the middle between loud and excitable, and shy and quiet. Around people I don't know, I tend to be fairly quiet and to myself. In the company of someone who I am close with, I am more open and free. Do you open right up to people, or does it take a while to become comfortable with someone new?
All I hope for is a connection. It could be platonic, or it could blossom into romance, and commitment. I'm not putting a limit on what I am looking for.
With the prior being said, I am single. I may be interested in changing that with the right person. The idea of commitment excites me. Monogamy is appealing to me. Do you feel satisfied with your social life? What kind of connection are you looking for?
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I appreciate it. I hope you can identify with something I wrote. If you do, please reach out.
P.S. Please feel free to check my post history, and check out a few pictures of my cat if you would like.
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2023.05.29 22:53 dontgiveaderp 32 [M4F] Houston, Texas. Hoping to find a relationship.
I'd like to find someone who captivates me. Someone who I can talk with effortlessly. I want to meet a person who I can include in my daily tasks, and talk with throughout the day. I just want to find someone I can be open with. Platonic conversation or romance. Whatever you are looking for, don't hesitate to message me. I hope to hear from you.
I love a number of things, and hate very little. I'm fairly open to trying new things, but some of the things I enjoy are as follows. I love the outdoors. I've never been camping, but I would like to try it with someone some day. I also love to fish. I mostly fish salt water. I do occasionally fish freshwater though. I like to check out new spots around me, but I mostly fish on the beach. Do you like to fish? What are some of your favorite places to go?
I also enjoy the shooting sports. I primarily target shoot. I take part in a little bit of everything, including rifle, pistol and shotgun. It would be nice to find someone who is into shooting or would like to learn/become more familiar. If you shoot, what do you like to shoot mostly? What's been your favorite gun to shoot so far?
PC games are also a enjoyable pastime for me. I have a variety of games, most of which are on Steam. I have other games on various other stores/services. I enjoy a wide variety of different kind of games, so I'm sure we can find something to play together if you game. What are some of your all time favorite games? What are you currently grinding on that you can't put down? One hobby I discovered later on in life is Magic the Gathering. I play both online on MtG Arena, and with physical cards. Magic has become something I am particularly fond of. Do you play any kind of card/table top games? What's been your favorite so far? If you play Magic, what are some of your favorite deck themes?
Music has always been a part of my life. My tastes are varied, ranging from country, death and black metal, electronic, classic rock, folk, pop punk, and more. Do you have a favorite band? What has been your favorite concert you've been to?
I'm honestly an ambivert. I enjoy doing things outside, as well as spending time indoors. I can veg out all day under the covers curled up in my bed, or I can take a trip somewhere and experience something new. I think my personality is a mix of the best of both worlds. What would the perfect day consist of for you?
As far as my personality is concerned, I would say I am fairly relaxed and laid back. I feel like I am somewhere in the middle between loud and excitable, and shy and quiet. Around people I don't know, I tend to be fairly quiet and to myself. In the company of someone who I am close with, I am more open and free. Do you open right up to people, or does it take a while to become comfortable with someone new?
All I hope for is a connection. It could be platonic, or it could blossom into romance, and commitment. I'm not putting a limit on what I am looking for.
With the prior being said, I am single. I may be interested in changing that with the right person. The idea of commitment excites me. Monogamy is appealing to me. Do you feel satisfied with your social life? What kind of connection are you looking for?
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I appreciate it. I hope you can identify with something I wrote. If you do, please reach out.
P.S. Please feel free to check my post history, and check out a few pictures of my cat if you would like.
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2023.05.29 22:53 dontgiveaderp 32 [M4F] Houston, Texas. Hoping to find a relationship.
I'd like to find someone who captivates me. Someone who I can talk with effortlessly. I want to meet a person who I can include in my daily tasks, and talk with throughout the day. I just want to find someone I can be open with. Platonic conversation or romance. Whatever you are looking for, don't hesitate to message me. I hope to hear from you.
I love a number of things, and hate very little. I'm fairly open to trying new things, but some of the things I enjoy are as follows. I love the outdoors. I've never been camping, but I would like to try it with someone some day. I also love to fish. I mostly fish salt water. I do occasionally fish freshwater though. I like to check out new spots around me, but I mostly fish on the beach. Do you like to fish? What are some of your favorite places to go?
I also enjoy the shooting sports. I primarily target shoot. I take part in a little bit of everything, including rifle, pistol and shotgun. It would be nice to find someone who is into shooting or would like to learn/become more familiar. If you shoot, what do you like to shoot mostly? What's been your favorite gun to shoot so far?
PC games are also a enjoyable pastime for me. I have a variety of games, most of which are on Steam. I have other games on various other stores/services. I enjoy a wide variety of different kind of games, so I'm sure we can find something to play together if you game. What are some of your all time favorite games? What are you currently grinding on that you can't put down? One hobby I discovered later on in life is Magic the Gathering. I play both online on MtG Arena, and with physical cards. Magic has become something I am particularly fond of. Do you play any kind of card/table top games? What's been your favorite so far? If you play Magic, what are some of your favorite deck themes?
Music has always been a part of my life. My tastes are varied, ranging from country, death and black metal, electronic, classic rock, folk, pop punk, and more. Do you have a favorite band? What has been your favorite concert you've been to?
I'm honestly an ambivert. I enjoy doing things outside, as well as spending time indoors. I can veg out all day under the covers curled up in my bed, or I can take a trip somewhere and experience something new. I think my personality is a mix of the best of both worlds. What would the perfect day consist of for you?
As far as my personality is concerned, I would say I am fairly relaxed and laid back. I feel like I am somewhere in the middle between loud and excitable, and shy and quiet. Around people I don't know, I tend to be fairly quiet and to myself. In the company of someone who I am close with, I am more open and free. Do you open right up to people, or does it take a while to become comfortable with someone new?
All I hope for is a connection. It could be platonic, or it could blossom into romance, and commitment. I'm not putting a limit on what I am looking for.
With the prior being said, I am single. I may be interested in changing that with the right person. The idea of commitment excites me. Monogamy is appealing to me. Do you feel satisfied with your social life? What kind of connection are you looking for?
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I appreciate it. I hope you can identify with something I wrote. If you do, please reach out.
P.S. Please feel free to check my post history, and check out a few pictures of my cat if you would like.
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2023.05.29 22:53 dontgiveaderp 32 [M4F] Houston, Texas. Hoping to find a relationship.
I'd like to find someone who captivates me. Someone who I can talk with effortlessly. I want to meet a person who I can include in my daily tasks, and talk with throughout the day. I just want to find someone I can be open with. Platonic conversation or romance. Whatever you are looking for, don't hesitate to message me. I hope to hear from you.
I love a number of things, and hate very little. I'm fairly open to trying new things, but some of the things I enjoy are as follows. I love the outdoors. I've never been camping, but I would like to try it with someone some day. I also love to fish. I mostly fish salt water. I do occasionally fish freshwater though. I like to check out new spots around me, but I mostly fish on the beach. Do you like to fish? What are some of your favorite places to go?
I also enjoy the shooting sports. I primarily target shoot. I take part in a little bit of everything, including rifle, pistol and shotgun. It would be nice to find someone who is into shooting or would like to learn/become more familiar. If you shoot, what do you like to shoot mostly? What's been your favorite gun to shoot so far?
PC games are also a enjoyable pastime for me. I have a variety of games, most of which are on Steam. I have other games on various other stores/services. I enjoy a wide variety of different kind of games, so I'm sure we can find something to play together if you game. What are some of your all time favorite games? What are you currently grinding on that you can't put down? One hobby I discovered later on in life is Magic the Gathering. I play both online on MtG Arena, and with physical cards. Magic has become something I am particularly fond of. Do you play any kind of card/table top games? What's been your favorite so far? If you play Magic, what are some of your favorite deck themes?
Music has always been a part of my life. My tastes are varied, ranging from country, death and black metal, electronic, classic rock, folk, pop punk, and more. Do you have a favorite band? What has been your favorite concert you've been to?
I'm honestly an ambivert. I enjoy doing things outside, as well as spending time indoors. I can veg out all day under the covers curled up in my bed, or I can take a trip somewhere and experience something new. I think my personality is a mix of the best of both worlds. What would the perfect day consist of for you?
As far as my personality is concerned, I would say I am fairly relaxed and laid back. I feel like I am somewhere in the middle between loud and excitable, and shy and quiet. Around people I don't know, I tend to be fairly quiet and to myself. In the company of someone who I am close with, I am more open and free. Do you open right up to people, or does it take a while to become comfortable with someone new?
All I hope for is a connection. It could be platonic, or it could blossom into romance, and commitment. I'm not putting a limit on what I am looking for.
With the prior being said, I am single. I may be interested in changing that with the right person. The idea of commitment excites me. Monogamy is appealing to me. Do you feel satisfied with your social life? What kind of connection are you looking for?
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I appreciate it. I hope you can identify with something I wrote. If you do, please reach out.
P.S. Please feel free to check my post history, and check out a few pictures of my cat if you would like.
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2023.05.29 22:51 Fullmoon-nostars I can’t stop resenting my family. Help
I’m (30f) the oldest of 8 kids. My parents had me when they when they were 14f and 17m. Two years after they had my twin brothers, 5 years later my sister, a year later my brother, when I was 13 my twin sisters. My parents had my final sibling, brother,when I was 22.I’ve always had to watch them constantly. My twin brothers were non verbal and not much help so it was constantly stressful. After I got out of school I had to catch a bus to pick them up and walk them home even though my mother was home and could have done it. Fast forward to the worst month of my life when I was 15 my parents took me to the hospital and dropped me off because I needed to have surgery. I sat in that waiting room for over an hour just to be told that I had to have a parent with me. Then on the way home my boyfriend called me to tell me my house was on fire. My twin brothers died on site, and my brother and sister were taken to the hospital where they later died of smoke inhalation. While me and my entire family were waiting in the hospital, my younger cousins kept asking me how could I leave them alone, why would o go to the store. I corrected them that I was in the hospital but my grandmother and mother shushed me. They were telling people that I was at home with them and I left to get snacks putting the blame on me so I guess they wouldn’t get in trouble for negligence. My twin sisters were with my mother at the time somewhere else during the fire, I’m not sure where. It was very devastating.
This is the bulk of my resentment. There is a lot more but I’ll put the main issues instead of all.
As the oldest I was beat the most for basically acting like a child. I was beat when my twin sisters were born because I came home late after my math teacher locked all of us in her class room for detention because a few of them were talking.
When I was 14 my parents wanted my sibling to go to summer camp but didn’t trust the owner so made me work there for $10 a day (from 8am -3pm) and my mother said it was too much money for me and made me give her my $50 dollars at the end of the week. I then had to ask her for a few dollars of my own money each day when I wanted to go to the store for snacks. She did this again when I was 16-18 when I was babysitting my cousins for money because she didn’t like that I bought a $30 bra.
There are foods I don’t like, like pork chops, and my mother will constantly put in on my plate even thought she’ll ask me what I want and I say everything but pork chops. And she’ll say what? Pork chops are good then get upset when I throw them away. Yet with my siblings she respects there wishes, even going so far as to make them separate meals from the main meals because they don’t like cheese or peppers.
There was an incident where I was 17 and there was pancake mix on the counter and she woke me up from my sleep to ask me why I didn’t clean up after myself. I said it wasn’t me because it wasn’t. And she condescendingly, said, “well, I guess the ghosted I did it then”. I said I don’t even like chocolate chip pancakes and she said I was a liar because I always eat them when she puts them on my plate, but I’ve never gone out my way to make them myself or buy them from any restaurant. I don’t hate them. I just tolerated them. I recently visited home and she put three blueberry pancakes on my plate, I initially thought they were regular, and I ate half of one, and I was disappointed. I stopped eating them and just ate the rest of the food. She looked at my plate and said I don’t know why you’re not eating that like you don’t eat food ( as a dig about my weight gain)
When I was 12 I got very curvy, and she would constantly compare herself to me.”when I was your age I wasn’t as big as you. “ both my parents would tell me I was fat and I believed them. My friend would come over and my mother would say she was so slim and I should be like my friend. So I started making myself throw up like my friend.
In 12th grade, I babysit constantly for application money to colleges. I paid every single one, and I got excepted into so many art schools. I had all my acceptance letters posted on my wall, and my parents came in excited because I got a conditional acceptance letter to a nursing school. ( they opened it) and when I said that I want it to go to one of the art schools that I was accepted into they and my grandmother burst out laughing at me. But fast forward today my mother is helping my sisters pick out the best art school for them.
When I was 26 I started to gain a lot of weight and she told me they were always joking when they called me fat and now I actually am.
When I turned 19 they became more controlling because they didn’t like my boyfriend and I had a curfew for 10:30. Never had a curfew before. My mother would berate me and say he was a bitch and lame, even though she never met him. I found out I was pregnant and I ended up not telling my parent. They told me if I ever got pregnant they baby could stay but I had to leave and at the time I was no longer allowed to go into the fridge. So I got a secret abortion. I really didn’t want to but my mother was right about my boyfriend. They then told me they wanted me to start paying rent with a curfew in place, not being allowed to go into the fridge, having no privacy( they opened my mail and go through my belongings), and still having to pick my sisters up from school ( the entire time my mom did not work so could pick up her own kids), so I decided to just join the marines. I left 6 months laters.
Additionally my parents tried to open a lead case for me behind my back. There was a letter in my name from the city of nerwak. Real official looking, my dad saw me with it and took it from me and told me that anything from the city with my name on it belongs to him. Unfortunately, they had just made the cut off, so nothing could be done.
Now that I’m 30 with ptsd my mother still acts the same way. I come to visit my sisters and brother once of so a year and they beg me to move back. My mom reached out to link her arm with mine and I jerked away from her. She looked hurt and asked why I did that. I didn’t really know at the time but since my last visit, I’ve been thinking about all of this stuff and I hate to live in the past. But it’s hard watching her say one thing to me, but then another to my siblings. I always had to walk to school and my parents told my siblings. They drove all their children to school and when I corrected them, they were genuinely confused. they told my siblings They never beat their kids and I said that y’all beat me and they claim to not remember that. They won’t even let my sister walk to the corner store three blocks away and she’s 17 and yet my middle school is 7 blocks past that store and I walked there everyday.
For a very long time I was convinced they hated me. I don’t know how to move past all this
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2023.05.29 22:50 ThickCommunity4290 Sephora Licensed Beauty Advisor
Hi! does anyone have any experience being a licensed beauty advisor? There’s a position open near me and i wanted to hear about others experience
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2023.05.29 22:50 London-Roma-1980 NON CONFERENCE MATCHDAY 10 RESULTS
Strap in, everyone, because we have a long road ahead of us. In addition to the NINE games between Top 25 teams, FOUR upsets happened. That's right, the Top 25 was below .500 in its entirety today. So let's see how they did it.
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#1 UCLA 90, #9 Syracuse 79. The key to beating a 2-3 zone is to shoot over it. Fortunately for the Bruins, they can.
Reggie Miller had 25 points and led an onslaught that included 13 three-pointers as the Bruins (10-0) took out the Orange (8-2) to maintain their winning streak, now at 47 games and counting.
"The shots were falling tonight," Miller said after the game. "We got what we wanted in terms of looks, and we got them to go in."
In addition to Miller's 5 three-pointers, Russell Westbrook had 3, Kiki Vandeweghe had 2, and Gail Goodrich, Kevin Love, and Jrue Holiday each had one. Syracuse, for their part, shot well, with Carmelo Anthony hitting six threes on his own to get to 22 total points, but it wasn't enough.
"They're #1 for a reason," Orange coach Jim Boeheim said.
#8 Michigan 68, #4 Duke 61. The Power Five have been cracked.
Michigan's defense held Duke to 29% shooting and Juwan Howard led the way with 16 points as the Wolverines (9-1) stunned the Blue Devils (8-2) before a court-storming crowd at Michigan Court.
"This is why you play the game," Howard said amidst a crowd of fans. "We shook up the world tonight. We wanted this one. You beat Duke, you've done good!"
Grant Hill led the Devils with 13 points, but the entire team struggled.
"We were cold tonight," Hill said. "Props to Michigan; their defense smothered us. Not much you can do."
#3 Kentucky 67, #2 North Carolina 64. Who do you call on when you have everyone? Someone's bound to be open, and such was the case here.
Louie Dampier found Devin Booker in the corner as time expired, and the Wildcats (9-1) stunned the Tar Heels (8-2) to send them to their second last-second defeat of the non-conference season.
"We ran a pick and roll off the ball to get [Michael] Jordan off of me and get me open," Booker said, recounting the final play. "Louie knew where I was, he got the pass off after driving for the double... everything just fell into place."
Both teams turned up the defense in this one. Dan Issel led Kentucky with 15 points, while Jordan led North Carolina with 13. Outside shooting was particularly hard to go by, as Booker's winner was only the fifth three-pointer of the game combined.
"We did almost everything right," Tar Heels coach Dean Smith said after the game. "Almost."
#5 Kansas 75, #14 Arizona 59. The top teams have shown anyone can step up at any time. Kansas proved it tonight.
Kirk Hinrich caught fire, getting 20 points with five three-pointers, as the Jayhawks (9-1) knocked off the Wildcats (7-3) to produce a potential future matchup with Kentucky.
"We've been seeing how other teams have done," Hinrich said. "It's important we keep winning. We want that last one seed when the dust settles."
Mike Bibby had 15 points, but also committed 8 turnovers as JoJo White's defense proved to be too much for him.
"I had a bad day," Bibby admitted. "This loss is on me."
Arkansas 90, #23 Iowa 83. Are they going to be ranked now? It's not certain what else has to be done.
Joe Johnson went off for 24 points and the full-court pressure held Fred Brown to 5 points as the Razorbacks (8-2) pulled off their second straight top-25 upset, this time knocking off the Hawkeyes (7-3).
"We're just going to keep playing the way we're capable of and we'll be in good shape," Johnson said. "We got off to a slow start, but now we're showing the world what we're capable of."
Don Nelson led the Hawkeyes with 18 points.
#12 Connecticut 92, #21 Alabama 80. A quick rise to the top by the Tide made people wonder if the SEC would have a wild race. Now, it looks like this Tide is receding.
Andre Drummond had 19 points and 15 rebounds to lead the Huskies (8-2) to a big road win over the Tide (7-3) that may solidify them as favorites in the Big East.
"We had an advantage inside, and we knew we could use it," Huskies coach Jim Calhoun said after the game. "We needed this win, you know? A chance to show the Big East still goes through us."
Alabama attempted to turn up the pace against the big men of Connecticut, but Kemba Walker and Ray Allen were able to break the press on offense. On defense, super sub Richard Hamilton helped slow down the opposition, getting 4 steals in the second half.
Latrell Sprewell led the Tide with 18 points.
#9 Notre Dame 67, #17 DePaul 65, OT. Most of the game was a battle inside. But it was outside shooting from a very unlikely source that won the game.
John Paxson hit two three-pointers late in overtime to lead the Fighting Irish (8-2) to an overtime victory over the Blue Demons (7-3).
"All of our players can contribute," coach Digger Phelps told reporters after the game. "We hear a lot about Adrian Dantley and Bill Laimbeer, but we're a team of stars. We feel we can beat anyone."
With the game tied at 58 nearing the end of regulation, George Mikan looked to have won the game with a hook shot. However, before he could shoot, he was whistled for a three-second violation. Paxson's heroics in overtime then meant the difference.
"I lost track of time," a dejected Mikan said in the locker room. "I'm sorry, Blue Demon fans."
#25 Illinois 66, #19 Georgetown 56. Illinois coach Lou Henson wanted to focus on defense as much as offense. It's safe to say his team was ready to respond.
A focused effort held Allen Iverson scoreless on the day as the Illini (8-2) stunned the Hoyas (7-3) in a defensive struggle with neither team able to get open shots most of the day.
"That's what I was hoping for," Henson said after the game. "We wanted to get our defensive strength before we faced teams like Ohio State, Michigan, Michigan State, Minnesota... I think today we showed we can win ugly as well as win beautifully."
Derek Harper, who led all scorers with 17 points, was the primary responsibility, but Iverson found himself constantly double-teamed with Donnie Freeman and Deron Williams. While Iverson did wind up with 9 assists, the shutout clearly bothered him, as he picked up a late technical foul arguing a no-call.
"We need to work on getting Allen involved more," Hoyas coach John Thompson admitted. "You can't just win inside in this game."
Cincinnati 81, #18 LSU 60. Maybe the adjustment from the AAC to the Big XII will be easier than we were led to believe.
Oscar Robertson had a triple-double with 13 points, 11 rebounds, and 12 assists, while Jack Twyman had 21 points as the Bearcats (8-2) stunned everyone by trouncing the Tigers (7-3) in front of the Cats' home fans.
"That was an incredible win," Bearcats coach Ed Jucker said after the game. "They kept talking about their starting five, but today we showed you need a lot of depth to get anywhere. We got that depth and we got a chance to win it all. I hope Kansas is paying attention -- they're not sweeping us this season."
Defense also proved to be a big deal. Robertson and Nick Van Exel constantly switched off on Pete Maravich, holding the scoring machine to only 8 points on the day. Bob Pettit was able to take some advantage to score 17 points, but the Tigers had no help from the bench, as the Cats' bench outscored the Tigers' reserves 21-3.
"Gotta be more than the first five," center Shaquille O'Neal said after the game. "We can only do so much and if one of us is in trouble, we gotta get stepping up."
#15 Southern Cal 78, #16 Maryland 55. Don't sleep on the Trojans now. When they're going against teams in the second and third tier, they are deadly.
Bill Sharman led all scorers with 24 points as the Trojans (8-2) steamrolled the Terrapins (7-3) to make a statement about their goals for this season.
"We think we can steal a Final Four spot," coach Sam Barry said after the game. "Today proved we have the talent to do it. If the shots fall, we can beat anyone."
Gene Shue led the Terrapins with 13 points.
#6 Michigan State 61, #13 Texas 60. The Longhorns seem to be willing to live and die by Kevin Durant. The Spartans knew it when it mattered.
Draymond Green knocked away a pass intended for Durant on the final play of the game to preserve a victory for the Spartans (8-2) over the Longhorns (7-3) on the road in a critical matchup.
"We saw where they were going, we knew they had one big star and if we denied him, we didn't think anyone else could step up," Green said after the game. "I know how to beat Durant, we know how to win the game, and we're just that good."
Magic Johnson had 14 points and 7 assists to lead the Spartans. Durant, for his part, led all scorers with 21 points, but couldn't get the last two, as Avery Bradley's inbound was knocked away.
"Close isn't good enough in crunch time," Durant said to reporters.
NC State 74, #20 Minnesota 65. Last year, the Wolfpack were controversially sent to the NIT despite going 18-14 in the toughest schedule in the country. If they keep winning, they may take it out of the committee's hands when all is said and done.
JJ Hickson had 5 blocks of Kevin McHale on the day and David Thompson scored 20 as the Wolfpack (8-2) stunned the Golden Gophers (7-3) to pick up a road win.
"We deserve to be ranked, and we deserve to be in the [NIBL] tournament," Thompson said after the game. "We've said all year our goal is to be undeniable. If we qualify for selection, we're going to make sure they have to take us. That means winning a lot in non-con, and that's what we're doing."
With Thompson driving and causing collapses of the defense, the outside shooters also had their chances. Spud Webb and Tom Gugliotta hit three three-pointers each over the Gopher defense.
"This was a bad day," said McHale, who despite being blocked led the Gophers with 14 points.
Villanova 79, #24 UNLV 78. Villanova likes to play slower, while UNLV likes to speed it up. Villanova, it turned out, did just enough to keep the Rebels from getting the win.
Randy Foye had 20 points and Kyle Lowry blocked Ricky Sobers' last second putback attempt as the Wildcats (8-2) held off the Runnin' Rebels (6-4) to most likely knock the last mid-major out of the Top 25.
"Our backcourt carried this one," Villanova coach Jay Wright said after the game. "We wanted to show that Paul [Arizin] had backup, and that's what we were able to get. Everyone played their role, and we kept this team -- a very good offensive team -- to just enough to take the win.
On the final play, Sobers inbounded to leading scorer Shawn Marion (18 points). His three pointer was off the mark, and in the scramble, Sobers got the loose ball. He tried a quick shot to beat the horn, but Lowry was ready.
*****
HOW THE TOP 25 FARED - UCLA 90, 7. Syracuse 79
- North Carolina 64, 3. Kentucky 67
- Kentucky 67, 2. North Carolina 64
- Duke 61, 8. Michigan 68
- Kansas 75, 14. Arizona 59
- Michigan State 61, 13. Texas 60
- Syracuse 79, 1. UCLA 90
- Michigan 68, 4. Duke 61
- Notre Dame 67, 17. DePaul 65, OT
- Indiana 83, Louisiana Tech 57
- Ohio State 87, Saint John's 59
- Connecticut 92, 21. Alabama 80
- Texas 60, 6. Michigan State 61
- Arizona 59, 5. Kansas 75
- Southern Cal 78, 16. Maryland 55
- Maryland 55, 15. Southern Cal 78
- DePaul 65, 9. Notre Dame 67, OT
- LSU 60, Cincinnati 81
- Georgetown 56, 25. Illinois 66
- Minnesota 65, NC State 74
- Alabama 80, 12. Connecticut 92
- Florida 63, California 60
- Iowa 83, Arkansas 90
- UNLV 78, Villanova 79
- Illinois 66, 19. Georgetown 56
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2023.05.29 22:47 Illustrious_Match946 Is anyone in the closet ? As trans?
Has anyone gone through ANYTHING like this?
Hi my name is Dakota . IRL I use he/him they/them . But online right now I use she/her. Was diagnosed with gender dysphoria as a young teen. But never pushed to transition because I was unaware (toxic therapist that didn’t wanna tell me I was experiencing GD bc they thought I was too young) . As I got older , the dysphoria became too intense , and went back to therapist office I did when I was younger. And found in the notes that I was diagnosed with GD . Which made SENSE!!!! Anyway my whole life I’ve tried to love and accept myself as a man. But it just never worked. To the point I would adopt toxic masc traits to kind of make myself “believe” I was a man.
Flash forward to now where I’m aware that I’m trans and have the longing to transition . But no one told me once that veil is lifted , the flood gates open , and your dysphoria goes from 1-100 real quick. Any coping methods or advice for someone who is coming out in the near future but isn’t in a safe place to do it yet???? Like I have imposter syndrome like no one’s business . I hate myself and my body 10x more now because now I’m aware of my dysphoria .
PS I’d love to make some new trans friends 🥰 I need to surround myself with my people !
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2023.05.29 22:44 SwordfishWarm5607 Drinking in public, legal advice
Long story short me and a group of friends went to an outdoor concert yesterday afternoon, we had quite a few cocktails at the event and after our DD picked us up and brought us home. On the way home we stopped by a big box retail store for groceries. For some inebriated reason I decided to open a beer from the cooler and bring it inside and consume it as we shopped. I did so with a napkin wrapped around so you could not see the label. We shopped for about 30 mins uneventfully, and I threw away the can as we walked out. We were overall tamed and nobody said anything to us or gave us any thought. Obviously this is incredibly stupid and risky behavior and Im ashamed of these actions. Im just curious of what possible charges could result of this or how likely I could be charged after the fact. Thank you so much
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2023.05.29 22:44 Kyeonji A tip from a somewhat decent player
Why do players constantly push main? I seriously don't get it, there's usually a minimum of 2 alternative methods to reaching either point, payload, or push bot. But NEARLY everyone seems to have this unnatural, masochist drive to push main regardless of the situation. Then they'll proceed to fight at the choke point for minutes.
This is significantly worse when the enemy team runs bastion or a relatively decent widow. They'll run into the bastion, the literal dps that shreds health. Consider taking height, consider not pushing bastion, consider waiting until he's not an actual moble minigun that will, more than likely, annihilate you before you even pull that trigger. Hell, a pocket bastion + zen means do not push into him. Same with widow, abuse the potential of them lacking object permanence. Some people will forget about you if you're not actively in their LOS.
Regarding widow, do not shoot her venom mine if you intend on flanking her. It still tells her that you're, at the very least, nearby. If you are going to destroy it, then fine do so, but take another position to at least confuse her. Believe me, from bronze - plat you can abuse the hell out of people who do not pay attention to their surroundings.
The single most important piece of advice; switch. Waiting to use your ult just so you can switch, isn't always the best option if you're actively losing the match. If there's a phara, don't just wait for your second DPS to swap, you have to take the initiative, you can't expect your partner to do so because they're probably expecting you to swap. Take control of your games.
Be an opportunist, there's always 1 player in your match that isn't on their best game. Find them, constantly kill them. Why? You'll change a 5v5 into a 4v5 constantly, that will significantly increase your chances of winning. If it's a support, that's even better because more than likely, their support will waste resources and time to assist their own support. Now you've turned a 4v5 into a 3v5 and your enemy team is starving for support, heals, or damage/speed boost.
Be the threat not the victim. Let's assume you're a support player, even better, let's assume you're Ana. How many options to deal damage do you have? Is it just your rifle? Nope, you have your sniper and your anti-nade. For a large portion of the time, your anti-nade isn't going to be helpful to your team, especially now at 60 HP heals, that's useless. However, do you know what's more useful? Denying the enemy the chance to get heals, they'll either back off or die and that's what you want. You want to be the threat, be the inconvenience to the point that they'll overextend just to kill you.
Ignore the tank, as a support or dps player, don't always dump your resources on the tank because for a large percentage of the time. All that damage is getting healed, supports are addicted to healing their tanks and partially for their DPS (assuming their DPS isn't just railing your team on a Sunday), so ignore that tank, find that one dude who isn't paying attention to you and screw them over, bonus points if it's the support that's pocketing the tank.
Use cover, please, I'm begging you to not just stand out in the open. Try sticking near a wall or behind a car, so long as there's something between you and the enemy. You will not believe how useful it is to just hide behind a pillar while a DPS has a hard on for your eventual demise. Move around the pillar, make it hard for them to hit you.
Change angles when you're in an active exchange between someone. Combine this with using cover and you can, more than likely, bamboozle someone. The concept of changing angles can also maximize your threat level, not only can you find other ways of targeting the slacking player, but you'll make it more difficult for the other DPS to secure a kill if they can't consistently find you.
Have an escape plan if you plan on flanking, you need to know where you can safely escape to regroup, where your enemies can pop up, and more importantly what cheeky angles can you claim.
Health packs, they're scattered all over the map and you're more than likely near one at all times. If you're a DPS, please use them to ease how much resources/time your support has to use on you. If you're behind your support, find a health pack because the last thing you want is for your support to not be looking at their enemy and teammates and risk someone dying because they had to give you attention. It's so much easier to ask for this if you're at least in front of your support or within their LOS.
Speaking of LOS (Line of sight) something extremely important is understanding it. LOS isn't just "Can my Ana see me" but also "Can my enemy see me" a lot of abilities rely on LOS. If you can't see it, then it more than likely won't kill you.
Now, we need to understand how certain ults (ultimate) work and possible ways of countering or minimizing the damage that you may receive. I, by no means, am a professional. I ranked at diamond5 on console as support, but I have experience in Overwatch 1 and now Overwatch 2. So, here's the deal and let's start with some common DPS ults (excluding phara because let's be honest, you're either consistently eliminating her or constantly getting eliminated by her. It's really just a good luck situation, and no, it's not a skill issue verticality in OW is just horrendou)
Anyways, let's start with Junkrat and I'll be honest, you're probably not going to destroy his tire, so here's what you should do. Run away from your team, stay away from everyone but don't extend to the enemy side. If you can make Junkrat kill 1 person that's better than him getting a full team kill.
For 76, abuse cover to break LOS because again, his ability requires LOS and a frustrated 76 may will overextend to maximize his ult. That's fine, you can capitalize this assume you have someone nearby. The same applies to Cass, B.O.B, Blizzard (Mei not the company), Sojourn, and surprisingly Sombra's EMP
Reaper will, more than likely, wraith form his way into an ult or teleport. If you see this, just back off from him since you REALLY do not want to fight him up close to begin with.
Bastion is tricky since it really depends on what kind of bastion you're going up against. Most will full dump their ult in one spot in some small circle, for this, you'll have to be quick in response and just run. If you have a more patient bastion that tracks, this is when you'll DEFINITELY need to be on your A-game for reacting. Don't jump, just run forward, not backwards, please do not run backwards you're significantly slower when moving backwards compared to moving forward. Pick a direction, move there, watch where he's targeting and move the immediate moment you see red (or whichever color you see). Since it's a circle, you only really need to move in a straight line in either direction, again, make sure you're moving FORWARD. Do not stop moving, but do not move in a single, constant, direction. For example, move forward when the first artillery comes, then quickly move left or right with the second, move the opposite direction for the third. (If you're feeling cheeky and know bastion will dump a full artillery in one spot, you can give it a moment before moving, it's a really short moment so stick to your A-game)
Now, let's chat about Mei, Sym, and Torb. These three dominate metal ranks, bronze, silver, gold, platinum, diamond(?). For Mei, you do not want commit a push unless she used her wall. Now, assuming she's using her self heal, ice block or whatever, just ignore it and find something else to kill. Mei is effectively not a threat while in ice block, she does not exist until she comes out and by then you'd want to kill at LEAST 1 or 2 of her teammates.
Sym is like bastion, it depends on which one you're up against but, understand this, most players have repeatable habits, some good, some bad. You'll have a Sym that's solely dedicated to securing and preventing your team from securing point, push bot, or payload. Here's what you'll do, first figure out where Sym Sentry Turret is located (It'll either be all clumped up in one spot, or spread out). Next, find a different angle, Sym has 3 turrets and together they will shred you regardless of who you are, once you find them take it out ASAP. I'll make it an important note that this isn't law, overwatch is a game where a lot of odd things can happen, but if you have an opportunity do destroy the turret. Torb functions the same as well so the rule tip applies, find turret, eliminate turret, then eliminate Torb.
Now you might be saying, "But Kyeonji, what if Sym lasers me with a max out laser because nobody could stop her?" Or "What if Torb gets all angry and red and spew his shotgun sludge at me?" Well good question voice in my head, for Sym it's honestly going to be an aim and decision skill check. If her laser is max and you know this, keep distance and just rail her from there (assuming you have range, if not, switch to get range). If it's Torb, you'll have to either capitalize on your range, wait for overload to be on cooldown, or punish him after he uses overload. (You can also bait it by just getting some cheeky pokeshot, they'll usually pop overload when they're either half health or near death, when that happens you can full commit).
Now, as far as I know there are a couple of tanks that people have difficulties dealing with, so I'll list some counter plays for some tanks, but honestly they can be applied to most, if not, all tanks. For now, let's do Zarya. This one is very easy, don't shoot her bubble, or at least try not to constantly shoot it UNLESS she's near death. The moment she pops bubble, swap targets. Your teammate may not be aware of this, but as long as YOU don't contribute to Zarya damage boost, then you're at least minimizing how much damage Zarya will output.
Winston, oh boy this is a tough one. I'll be honest, you'll have to counter Winston most of the time, especially if it's a good Winston. Your average Winston will go after your support, this is when you'd NEED to back up your support. Winston is HEAVILY reliant on his jump skill, this is what you need to keep an eye on. If you see Winston jump, track him, find him, and punish him as quickly as possible. To better assist in this, try and stick near your support or preferably, suggest that your support swap to a more mobile one that can, hopefully, distant themselves from Winston.
D.va is a game sense check, typically you'll run into a somewhat repeatable D.va gameplay style. But, there's 1 thing you NEED to pay attention to and it's Defense matrix above all else. This will mess you up, deny some of your abilities, or downright make you useless. So, you'll have these options; you can either dump your abilities AFTER D.va defense matrix isn't being used, or swap to a Hero that D.va can't consistently deny abilities. Mei is a good option as her primary fire denies Defense matrix, it slows her down to make it easier to land headshots, plus wall can deny her escape. Other options include, Zarya, Rein, Winston, Sym, Echo (You'll have to time your abilities with D.va Defense matrix), Doomfist (You're gonna have to be really smart about this one, don't full focus D.va, but abuse her endless shotgun to max your rocket punch, you can also stun her out of bunny rocket), Brigitte (keep moving, swap between attacking and shielding to maximize your self-heal against her endless shotgun, stun her out of bunny rocket, rinse, repeat), Moira (keep moving, try not to rely too much on your orbs as she can deny it with Defense matrix, disengage if she uses bunny rocket if necessary, just don't risk it)
The remaining tanks that oppress others in metal ranks can be dealt with following these steps. Junker queen wants to get close to you or pull you to her, deny this by keeping distance and prioritizing her support, abuse cover if you're struck by jagged dagger, so instead of being pulled to Junker queen, you'll be pulled into a wall which is safer than Junker queen (although the wall won't dom you like Junker would so... Gotta sacrifice something for the W).
Orisa, same as Junker queen, prioritize support because you're probably not going to kill a fully pocketed orisa. If you can't reliably eliminate Orisa's support, then time your abilities with hers. What you're looking out for is mostly fortify, it's not worth dumping resources into it. Now, Javelin blocks both projectiles and melee damage, so you're either going to have to take that javeline, or swap to Sym, Mei, Zarya, Winston, Doom, or Brigitte to at the very least inconvenience Orisa during javeline spin. Why you may ask? Well, here's a list of abilities that Orisa javeline spin cannot block: Sentry Turret, Rocket Punch, Shield Bash, Swift Strike I wouldn't recommend relying on Genji to deal with Orisa), Accretion (You may find value with Sigma if Orisa keeps shooting at your kinetic grasp, but again, wouldn't really recommend), Deployed Turret (Insane right?), Petal platform (Get creative), and Immortality field (Helps if you have a Kiriko as protection suzu isn't protecting you from the javeline)
Reinhart, mister big boy, destroyer of galaxies, the big daddy. This one is easy, keep distance, Rein is mainly melee and really does want to close the distance. So, take height and unleash hell but don't shoot that shield, swap angles because you're just wasting both time and resources on something that, unless you're boosted by Mercy, isn't going away anytime soon, again you can ignore this if he's near death.
Ramatra, Sigma, and Doomfist. This one is tough, so let's start with Ramatra. Again, try to not dump your resources on the shield, ignore him while he's blocking unless he's near death. Ramatra, like Rein, also wants to fight you at close-range, so naturally you'll want to abuse range which also applies to his ult.
Sigma follows this as well, but he's more mid-range, instead what you're really looking for is the timing between Kinect grasp being online or offline, capitalize that moment and again, avoid shooting the shield.
Doomfist is where you're dancing with cooldown and movement. The Doomfist combo is rocket punch, hand cannon, melee. Of course, Doomfist has a lot of mobility so what you're looking for is the gap between his cooldown. If you can position yourself in an inconvenient position where Doomfist will either die due to being too deep into enemy line, or forcing him to expend all of his ability and having no escape. Like Ramatra, ignore him while blocking as to not boost his rocket punch. (Unless you can CC [Crowd Control] him with Sombra, Sigma's accretion, Rein charge, Javeline, Sleep dart, hook).
Anyways, this is a pretty long post. So I'll end it with this note. None of these is by any means an iron-clad law that must be followed, Overwatch isn't linear and every player is different. However, every Hero, including their abilities, has a weakness which is exactly why swapping exist. If your opponent isn't aware of these weaknesses, capitalize on it. Be aware of your surroundings, don't be afraid to swap if you're losing to another play. You can lose the battle, but at the end of the day you want to, hopefully, win the match. Don't be afraid of your opponents, make them afraid of you. Be the threat and make them submit. Good luck out there Heroes and if you found this helpful, share it with others. If you have questions, suggestions, criticism, then share them don't be afraid to speak your mind.
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