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2017.03.13 22:39 mmonzeob Bad MakeUp Artists
The worst Makeup Artists who get paid and do terrible work
2010.02.23 21:32 Aesthetic Philosophy for the Discerning Redditor
Aesthetics — the philosophical study of beauty and taste. It is closely related to the philosophy of art, which is concerned with the nature of art and the concepts in terms of which individual works of art are interpreted and evaluated
2019.04.01 18:52 flylikejimkelly EcoBeauty
This is a resource community for salons, stylist, barbers, and MUAs who are interested in Eco-friendly and Nontoxic beauty.
2023.05.29 04:20 Yaa_buddy My Yamaha Cross Core RC Review
 | I've had this exceptional bike for about 8 months now and I wanted to do a review because there's so little real-world information out there. Paid $3250 with tax from a local shop that came with a factory 3-year warranty. submitted by Yaa_buddy to ebikes [link] [comments] I was surprised how small the frame sizes run. I'm 5'10 and don't think anyone over 6' would like the large. No XL's. The medium seemed like a 5'6 and under bike. The cross bar also seems quite high. Pro's: Motor. It rips, seriously. Quite, powerful, smooth, predictable and a piece of cake to use. The torque sensor is excellent and gives you the perfect multiple of petal power. There are 4 modes, Auto will (very effectively) conserve battery life, then automatically jump to a more powerful mode if you really crank the pedal. I believe this is unique to Yamaha bikes (not their motors) and an awesome feature. The bike really takes off if you want it to, tons of torque on demand.Con's: The SR Sun tour Fork. Shame on Yamaha for fitting this pile of hot trash to such fantastic bike. It's flimsy, weak, spongy, lacks almost all rebound dampening and knocks annoyingly over ever little bump. Given the fact that I had to spend $370 to fit a real fork, (on top of the $3250) it's almost enough for me to not recommend this bike, almost. But the knocking really is that bad, and Sun Tour told me that's just how their low-end forks work. I sold it for $15 dollars on Craigslist.Note: Changing these tires. Holy crap the side walls are insanely stiff. I don't think it would be possible to get them off the rim by hand. You'll need those plastic prybars and even those feel like they're about break. They feel like motorcycle tires. Summary: I also ride Yamaha motorcycles so I just love seeing the logo when I look down. For me, that makes owning this bike really fun. I would buy it again, but I do think the fork and limited dealer support and lack of fellow riders are enough for me to not recommend it. However, if you don't mind dropping another $350-$370 on a real fork and the dealer thing isn't a problem, I'd say go for it. Love this thing. Thanks for reading. https://www.yamahabicycles.com/bikes/crosscoreRC/ |
2023.05.29 04:19 girlboss1988 What has been the surgery that made the most difference for you?
Hey all,
So I am on my glow up journey and have been since 2016. I have had several surgeries and I’d say I’m now about 60% of the way to where I want to be and it’s a great feeling.
Just wanted to share some of my tips and also see what surgery has made the most impact on someone’s self esteem?
For me - by far the biggest impact was double jaw surgery. I only discovered this surgery in 2018 or so and realized I had a very glad face with no support for my cheeks and under eye area and a recessed chin. It was by far the most intense surgery and healing process but I can say now, 1.5 years later, my entire face structure has changed and since I addressed the underlying structural issues, the changes are permanent.
The doctors tried to convince me that I could achieve the same results using filler. And by having a sliding genioplasty however, this would not have provided the same structural support for my mid face.
Secondly, I wanted to offer my own experience in point of you, as someone who has been on this journey for quite some time.
Number one - space out your surgeries. Only combine surgeries that will complement each other and don’t do too many things at once. If you do not only will this be a huge shock to your psyche it will also potentially distort your face causing permanent damage, and you will not get the results you are intending.
Number two - start out with the structural/biggest surgeries first by biggest. I mean the ones that are going to have the biggest impact. After each surgery, allow your face plenty of time to heal because residual swelling can last several months or in some cases like with Jaw surgery or a rhinoplasty an entire year. I know that this seems like a long time, but you will be able to look and observe the changes in your face overtime and reassess what other procedures you want to do.
Number three - always take advantage of any zero interest opportunities when paying for your plastic surgery. In my case there is usually either a six or 12 month zero interest payment plan that allowed me to get the surgery right away and separated into equal incremental payments to completely pay off the surgery before incurring any interest
Number for - thoroughly do your research and understand that a lot of what you see on Instagram or TikTok is not a good source of information. There are plenty of doctors in virtually every city that can perform most plastic surgery as satisfactorily. I relied on Instagram and went to a very prominent doctor in Los Angeles for upper eyelid surgery and while it looks good for the first year or two, it has actually made my eyes appear smaller. This is added the need to have a revision surgery in the future and one out at the top of my priority list. It is something that I could have avoided if I would’ve done more thorough research on the type of surgery that I needed to achieve my intended result, and not relied on websites Instagram and purely online. It’s a journey, so don’t beat yourself up too bad if you make a mistake.
Number five - take lots of photos of yourself both from the front and side profile and really analyze what it is that you want to change. I used items such as the golden ratio and the golden ratio mask, gonial angle, and principles of symmetry to really analyze what was going to make my face the most best version of itself that it could be. Don’t go into surgery thinking that you want a specific celebrities face or feature. You are not going to look like that celebrity and it is going to look bad. However, you can look like the best version of yourself the way that God intended you to be with a little bit of help from science. Remember, beauty is in nature in the form of symmetry.
submitted by girlboss1988 to PlasticSurgery [link] [comments]
So I am on my glow up journey and have been since 2016. I have had several surgeries and I’d say I’m now about 60% of the way to where I want to be and it’s a great feeling.
Just wanted to share some of my tips and also see what surgery has made the most impact on someone’s self esteem?
For me - by far the biggest impact was double jaw surgery. I only discovered this surgery in 2018 or so and realized I had a very glad face with no support for my cheeks and under eye area and a recessed chin. It was by far the most intense surgery and healing process but I can say now, 1.5 years later, my entire face structure has changed and since I addressed the underlying structural issues, the changes are permanent.
The doctors tried to convince me that I could achieve the same results using filler. And by having a sliding genioplasty however, this would not have provided the same structural support for my mid face.
Secondly, I wanted to offer my own experience in point of you, as someone who has been on this journey for quite some time.
Number one - space out your surgeries. Only combine surgeries that will complement each other and don’t do too many things at once. If you do not only will this be a huge shock to your psyche it will also potentially distort your face causing permanent damage, and you will not get the results you are intending.
Number two - start out with the structural/biggest surgeries first by biggest. I mean the ones that are going to have the biggest impact. After each surgery, allow your face plenty of time to heal because residual swelling can last several months or in some cases like with Jaw surgery or a rhinoplasty an entire year. I know that this seems like a long time, but you will be able to look and observe the changes in your face overtime and reassess what other procedures you want to do.
Number three - always take advantage of any zero interest opportunities when paying for your plastic surgery. In my case there is usually either a six or 12 month zero interest payment plan that allowed me to get the surgery right away and separated into equal incremental payments to completely pay off the surgery before incurring any interest
Number for - thoroughly do your research and understand that a lot of what you see on Instagram or TikTok is not a good source of information. There are plenty of doctors in virtually every city that can perform most plastic surgery as satisfactorily. I relied on Instagram and went to a very prominent doctor in Los Angeles for upper eyelid surgery and while it looks good for the first year or two, it has actually made my eyes appear smaller. This is added the need to have a revision surgery in the future and one out at the top of my priority list. It is something that I could have avoided if I would’ve done more thorough research on the type of surgery that I needed to achieve my intended result, and not relied on websites Instagram and purely online. It’s a journey, so don’t beat yourself up too bad if you make a mistake.
Number five - take lots of photos of yourself both from the front and side profile and really analyze what it is that you want to change. I used items such as the golden ratio and the golden ratio mask, gonial angle, and principles of symmetry to really analyze what was going to make my face the most best version of itself that it could be. Don’t go into surgery thinking that you want a specific celebrities face or feature. You are not going to look like that celebrity and it is going to look bad. However, you can look like the best version of yourself the way that God intended you to be with a little bit of help from science. Remember, beauty is in nature in the form of symmetry.
2023.05.29 04:19 Observercats Which ethnicity of women do you find most attractive?
submitted by Observercats to polls [link] [comments]2023.05.29 04:19 Zilloclaw The Moonshadow Slave Chapter 1
It was a dark and dangerous night in the Midnight desert, with the Soulfang serpents lurking around, waiting to sink their fangs into a victim to consume their soul.
Luckily, though there was an oasis in the desert, and a new group, Team Zym, was safe inside of it. Two members of this group had been there before, but the rest hadn’t.
“This place is beautiful!” The young King Ezran exclaimed as he took in the oasis; a lush green area contained in a huge magical shield.
“Yes it is,” Ezran’s older half-brother, Callum, agreed.
“Yeah, but we should probably get some rest,” Rayla said.
After their failure to get the clue to the location of Aaravos’s prison from Rex Igneous, the group had gone back to Katolis to think. They had realized that the next clue to Aaravos’s prison was in the possession of the Archdragon of the Ocean, but they needed a guide to that dragon. And while Callum and Rayla had travelled with Nyx the Skywing, they had learned that she knew a lot about the ocean. So they had travelled back into the Midnight Desert to try and find her, but they had had no luck.
So Team Zym had gone to the Oasis and now they settled down to sleep.
Ezran, Bait and Zym slept next to each other.
Rayla and Callum on the other hand, lay apart from each other.
Rayla sighed as she wished she could sleep next to Callum. During their journey to return the Dragon Prince to his mother, they had fallen in love and shared several kisses, but later, Rayla’s lingering anger and grief over the loss of her parents and her mentor at the hands of the ruthless dark mage Lord Viren had led her to leave Callum to seek revenge. She had lied to him that they would look for Viren together, and then left him on his BIRTHDAY of all days.
Callum had already forgiven Rayla, but things were still awkward between them. They both wanted things to go back to the way they were, but they both knew they needed to rebuild the trust between them again.
But it wasn’t just the awkwardness, something else was happening.
Rayla and Callum were both eighteen now; officially adults. They still felt deeply for each other, and something new unfamiliar feeling had awakened within them. A nice warm feeling.
Looking Callum, sleeping so peacefully now, Rayla wanted more than anything to be lie down beside him, but she restrained herself.
Rayla knew that the awkwardness between her and Callum was her fault. She may have had good reasons for leaving, but that did not change the fact that she had deceived and abandoned him. Regret pierced Rayla’s heart as she thought of how her own desire for revenge had almost cost her the one last person who truly loved her. I was so obsessed with revenge that I almost lost him for good, she thought.
Rayla needed to think, and she couldn’t think clearly staring at her handsome prince mage. So she stood up and walked to another place near the edge of the oasis. She sat down upon a log and looked out into the desert, letting her confused thoughts flow through her head. She wanted more than anything than to get back with Callum, but how could she regain his trust?
Furthermore, she couldn’t think of a way to deal with these strange new warm feelings of hers. This… lust. She wanted Callum in a way she had wanted no one before.
Rayla was a beautiful Moonshadow Elf; a type of elf that drew power from the magical energy of the moon. As an elf, she had four fingers on each of her petite hands, dark violet stubby horns and pointed ears that peeked out from underneath her hair. She was slim and willowy with shoulder-length white hair, light pink skin, and purple eyes that had indigo tear-like elven markings underneath them. She wore a braid on the right side of her head. She also wore a form fitting teal and navy bodysuit secured by a black vest, dark brown straps, and a dark brown belt embellished with a silver brooch. The outfit was topped off with thigh-high navy blue boots and bracers. Now that she was eighteen and officially an adult, Rayla’s body had become a bit curvier, and her breasts had grown a little larger and perkier. And with the maturing of her body came new feelings.
A sudden touch on Rayla’s hand startled her. She looked up, expecting to see Callum. But it wasn’t. It was Stella, the female cuddlemonkey she had found and adopted while hunting Viren. “Oh, hey Stella,” Rayla cooed, giving the little primate a gentle touch on the nose. Stella chirped gently, looking at Rayla with huge eyes.
Rayla sighed. “Ah, I don’t know what to do Stella. I want Callum to trust me again, and I… I want him, but I don’t know how to get back with him.”
Stella gently nuzzled Rayla’s four-fingered hand. “Thanks, Stella, but there are problems you can’t nuzzle away,” Rayla said gently, appreciating the gesture, but knowing it could not make her problems go away.
Rayla’s thoughts drifted back to Callum; his handsome face, his powerful magic, and she felt the strange hot feeling in her body again. It seemed to burn like a fire in her skin. What could she do with these feelings?
For a long time, Rayla just sat there, thinking her strange thoughts and feeling her strange feelings.
Then, quite suddenly, Rayla became aware that Stella was not beside anymore. “Stella?” She asked, looking around. When Rayla look over her shoulder, she gasped, her purple eyes widening in shock and horror.
Standing several feet behind her was a huge, green creature, dressed in armor and with a green face like a pig. It was holding Stella tight in its hands and keeping one hand tight over the cuddlemonkey’s mouth to keep her from screaming.
“Hey, let her go!” Rayla cried, leaping to her feet and reaching for her butterfly blades. But before she could even touch them, two long, strong, green arms swung down and wrapped a large, white kerchief around Rayla’s mouth, sealing it shut.
“HYRAGMMMHHGAMMMMPH!” Rayla sputtered incoherently through her gag. Instinctively, she grabbed it and tried to pull it off, but the creature that was pulling the gag against her lips was too strong. It tied the gag behind the nape of her neck in a VERY hard knot, sealing her mouth tight shut and muffling her voice. “LHH MHH GHH!” Rayla whined through her gag. “LHH MHH GHH! MMMMMMPH!”
The creature behind Rayla seized her arms and forced them behind her back. Then, there was a jingling sound something made of metal and had chains was whipped out. Next moment, there was clicking sound as a pair of iron shackles was slapped onto Rayla’s slender wrists. “OWRMPH!” Rayla gasped through her gag as she felt the cold metal snap onto her wrists. That HURT! She thought.
Rayla was quite helpless now; with her mouth tightly gagged, her wrists cuffed behind the small of her back, and her shoulders held tightly by the creature behind her, she couldn’t move. “GHH OFHH MHH! LHH GHH! MMMMMMMPH!” Rayla whined through her gag, wriggling and thrashing will all her might, but the creature was too strong.
Rayla was able to take one last look at Stella before the creature forced her to turn around, revealing itself to be yet another big, green, armored, two-legged creature with a boar-like face. Before Rayla could do anything, the creature raised its right hand, curled it into a fist, and PUNCHED Rayla square in the forehead!
“OWRMPH!” Rayla grunted through her tight gag as the creature punched her so hard that her white-haired head buckled under the blow. Rayla straightened up. She felt stiff and then dizzy. Her purple eyes rolled in her head and her vision went foggy. Then, very slowly, the beautiful Moonshadow Elf fell to the ground, blacking out before she even hit it.
The two Gamorreans looked down at their new captive with satisfaction. They had been sent by their master to hunt for new slaves, and they had found one.
They looked at each other and smiled in their own hideous way. “Jabba will be pleased,” they said in unison.
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Luckily, though there was an oasis in the desert, and a new group, Team Zym, was safe inside of it. Two members of this group had been there before, but the rest hadn’t.
“This place is beautiful!” The young King Ezran exclaimed as he took in the oasis; a lush green area contained in a huge magical shield.
“Yes it is,” Ezran’s older half-brother, Callum, agreed.
“Yeah, but we should probably get some rest,” Rayla said.
After their failure to get the clue to the location of Aaravos’s prison from Rex Igneous, the group had gone back to Katolis to think. They had realized that the next clue to Aaravos’s prison was in the possession of the Archdragon of the Ocean, but they needed a guide to that dragon. And while Callum and Rayla had travelled with Nyx the Skywing, they had learned that she knew a lot about the ocean. So they had travelled back into the Midnight Desert to try and find her, but they had had no luck.
So Team Zym had gone to the Oasis and now they settled down to sleep.
Ezran, Bait and Zym slept next to each other.
Rayla and Callum on the other hand, lay apart from each other.
Rayla sighed as she wished she could sleep next to Callum. During their journey to return the Dragon Prince to his mother, they had fallen in love and shared several kisses, but later, Rayla’s lingering anger and grief over the loss of her parents and her mentor at the hands of the ruthless dark mage Lord Viren had led her to leave Callum to seek revenge. She had lied to him that they would look for Viren together, and then left him on his BIRTHDAY of all days.
Callum had already forgiven Rayla, but things were still awkward between them. They both wanted things to go back to the way they were, but they both knew they needed to rebuild the trust between them again.
But it wasn’t just the awkwardness, something else was happening.
Rayla and Callum were both eighteen now; officially adults. They still felt deeply for each other, and something new unfamiliar feeling had awakened within them. A nice warm feeling.
Looking Callum, sleeping so peacefully now, Rayla wanted more than anything to be lie down beside him, but she restrained herself.
Rayla knew that the awkwardness between her and Callum was her fault. She may have had good reasons for leaving, but that did not change the fact that she had deceived and abandoned him. Regret pierced Rayla’s heart as she thought of how her own desire for revenge had almost cost her the one last person who truly loved her. I was so obsessed with revenge that I almost lost him for good, she thought.
Rayla needed to think, and she couldn’t think clearly staring at her handsome prince mage. So she stood up and walked to another place near the edge of the oasis. She sat down upon a log and looked out into the desert, letting her confused thoughts flow through her head. She wanted more than anything than to get back with Callum, but how could she regain his trust?
Furthermore, she couldn’t think of a way to deal with these strange new warm feelings of hers. This… lust. She wanted Callum in a way she had wanted no one before.
Rayla was a beautiful Moonshadow Elf; a type of elf that drew power from the magical energy of the moon. As an elf, she had four fingers on each of her petite hands, dark violet stubby horns and pointed ears that peeked out from underneath her hair. She was slim and willowy with shoulder-length white hair, light pink skin, and purple eyes that had indigo tear-like elven markings underneath them. She wore a braid on the right side of her head. She also wore a form fitting teal and navy bodysuit secured by a black vest, dark brown straps, and a dark brown belt embellished with a silver brooch. The outfit was topped off with thigh-high navy blue boots and bracers. Now that she was eighteen and officially an adult, Rayla’s body had become a bit curvier, and her breasts had grown a little larger and perkier. And with the maturing of her body came new feelings.
A sudden touch on Rayla’s hand startled her. She looked up, expecting to see Callum. But it wasn’t. It was Stella, the female cuddlemonkey she had found and adopted while hunting Viren. “Oh, hey Stella,” Rayla cooed, giving the little primate a gentle touch on the nose. Stella chirped gently, looking at Rayla with huge eyes.
Rayla sighed. “Ah, I don’t know what to do Stella. I want Callum to trust me again, and I… I want him, but I don’t know how to get back with him.”
Stella gently nuzzled Rayla’s four-fingered hand. “Thanks, Stella, but there are problems you can’t nuzzle away,” Rayla said gently, appreciating the gesture, but knowing it could not make her problems go away.
Rayla’s thoughts drifted back to Callum; his handsome face, his powerful magic, and she felt the strange hot feeling in her body again. It seemed to burn like a fire in her skin. What could she do with these feelings?
For a long time, Rayla just sat there, thinking her strange thoughts and feeling her strange feelings.
Then, quite suddenly, Rayla became aware that Stella was not beside anymore. “Stella?” She asked, looking around. When Rayla look over her shoulder, she gasped, her purple eyes widening in shock and horror.
Standing several feet behind her was a huge, green creature, dressed in armor and with a green face like a pig. It was holding Stella tight in its hands and keeping one hand tight over the cuddlemonkey’s mouth to keep her from screaming.
“Hey, let her go!” Rayla cried, leaping to her feet and reaching for her butterfly blades. But before she could even touch them, two long, strong, green arms swung down and wrapped a large, white kerchief around Rayla’s mouth, sealing it shut.
“HYRAGMMMHHGAMMMMPH!” Rayla sputtered incoherently through her gag. Instinctively, she grabbed it and tried to pull it off, but the creature that was pulling the gag against her lips was too strong. It tied the gag behind the nape of her neck in a VERY hard knot, sealing her mouth tight shut and muffling her voice. “LHH MHH GHH!” Rayla whined through her gag. “LHH MHH GHH! MMMMMMPH!”
The creature behind Rayla seized her arms and forced them behind her back. Then, there was a jingling sound something made of metal and had chains was whipped out. Next moment, there was clicking sound as a pair of iron shackles was slapped onto Rayla’s slender wrists. “OWRMPH!” Rayla gasped through her gag as she felt the cold metal snap onto her wrists. That HURT! She thought.
Rayla was quite helpless now; with her mouth tightly gagged, her wrists cuffed behind the small of her back, and her shoulders held tightly by the creature behind her, she couldn’t move. “GHH OFHH MHH! LHH GHH! MMMMMMMPH!” Rayla whined through her gag, wriggling and thrashing will all her might, but the creature was too strong.
Rayla was able to take one last look at Stella before the creature forced her to turn around, revealing itself to be yet another big, green, armored, two-legged creature with a boar-like face. Before Rayla could do anything, the creature raised its right hand, curled it into a fist, and PUNCHED Rayla square in the forehead!
“OWRMPH!” Rayla grunted through her tight gag as the creature punched her so hard that her white-haired head buckled under the blow. Rayla straightened up. She felt stiff and then dizzy. Her purple eyes rolled in her head and her vision went foggy. Then, very slowly, the beautiful Moonshadow Elf fell to the ground, blacking out before she even hit it.
The two Gamorreans looked down at their new captive with satisfaction. They had been sent by their master to hunt for new slaves, and they had found one.
They looked at each other and smiled in their own hideous way. “Jabba will be pleased,” they said in unison.
2023.05.29 04:17 dearcsona Something that puzzled me
So I loved the movie. I though Hallie was amazing in it. Her voice was perfect and her facial expressions in so many of sequences reflected the essence of Ariel so well. I loved her beautiful sisters too and that we got to see a bit more of them then the cartoon. However one thing I wondered…did Triton have babies with like seven different met women? He only mentioned Ariel’s deceased mother in the story. Or do we think mermaid genetics work differently? Was this touched on? I know it’s literally just a fantasy movie..and such a special one at that. I can’t wait to see it again…but I’ve wondered if Triton was supposed to be some kind of major playboy of the seven seas or something.
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2023.05.29 04:17 Beautiful-Stomach656 I am so scared for my next session on Tuesday, is there any hope anyone can give me about being able to work things out with my therapist?
Posts from earlier in the week:
https://www.reddit.com/CPTSD/comments/13r0r50/a_day_later_it_hurts_to_be_alive_every_second_its/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1
https://www.reddit.com/TalkTherapy/comments/13q1rj9/i_am_suicidal_after_having_a_major_rift_and/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1
(There are links with posts to more history in there but this is the most recent updates)
Literally all I want from my therapist is the bare minimum that everything I’ve read said is important an necessary in terms of having a good relationship, good connection, good bond between therapist & client:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201612/the-importance-the-relationship-in-therapy?amp
https://www.family-institute.org/behavioral-health-resources/importance-relationship-therapist
https://www.apa.org/monito2019/11/ce-corner-relationships
https://fherehab.com/learning/therapeutic-alliance-with-your-therapist/#:~:text=This%20is%20the%20high%2Dlevel,or%20the%20subject%20of%20therapy.
https://counsellingtutor.com/basic-counselling-skills/therapeutic-relationship-in-counselling/#:~:text=Forming%20a%20therapeutic%20relationship%20is,processes%20are%20being%20adhered%20to.
I seriously don’t want anything out of the ordinary, just the concepts that are recurring in posts like this. Something that is a genuine connection, being genuinely cared about, and receiving genuine compassion and support.
It just scares me because it seems like she’s trying to say even that is too much, but I don’t even understand how that could be possible. If that’s too much for her, then the basics of doing the job of therapist are too much for her.
I don’t know what to do or say to make this not seem insane anymore. I know I just want normal shit. I just want this to resolve because it’s the basic bare minimum.
I just want some hope. If she can’t give me even the basic minimums or won’t even try to aspire to, it’s just rehashing all the emotional abandonment and neglect that I received from my growing up. And makes it worse after my therapist encouraged all this maternal transference and attachment, and then abandons me the same way.
Please help me hope. I’m so scared.
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https://www.reddit.com/CPTSD/comments/13r0r50/a_day_later_it_hurts_to_be_alive_every_second_its/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1
https://www.reddit.com/TalkTherapy/comments/13q1rj9/i_am_suicidal_after_having_a_major_rift_and/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1
(There are links with posts to more history in there but this is the most recent updates)
Literally all I want from my therapist is the bare minimum that everything I’ve read said is important an necessary in terms of having a good relationship, good connection, good bond between therapist & client:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201612/the-importance-the-relationship-in-therapy?amp
https://www.family-institute.org/behavioral-health-resources/importance-relationship-therapist
https://www.apa.org/monito2019/11/ce-corner-relationships
https://fherehab.com/learning/therapeutic-alliance-with-your-therapist/#:~:text=This%20is%20the%20high%2Dlevel,or%20the%20subject%20of%20therapy.
https://counsellingtutor.com/basic-counselling-skills/therapeutic-relationship-in-counselling/#:~:text=Forming%20a%20therapeutic%20relationship%20is,processes%20are%20being%20adhered%20to.
I seriously don’t want anything out of the ordinary, just the concepts that are recurring in posts like this. Something that is a genuine connection, being genuinely cared about, and receiving genuine compassion and support.
It just scares me because it seems like she’s trying to say even that is too much, but I don’t even understand how that could be possible. If that’s too much for her, then the basics of doing the job of therapist are too much for her.
I don’t know what to do or say to make this not seem insane anymore. I know I just want normal shit. I just want this to resolve because it’s the basic bare minimum.
I just want some hope. If she can’t give me even the basic minimums or won’t even try to aspire to, it’s just rehashing all the emotional abandonment and neglect that I received from my growing up. And makes it worse after my therapist encouraged all this maternal transference and attachment, and then abandons me the same way.
Please help me hope. I’m so scared.
2023.05.29 04:17 JaneaMarie22 My (24f) boyfriend (24m) never compliments me
Well, the title pretty much says it all. We have been together for about 3 years. Our relationship is overall great, we don’t have any “real” problems. But, I’m really bothered by the fact that he rarely ever complements me, even when I’m dressed up with hair and makeup done. In the beginning he would complement me occasionally, definitely not daily but every so often. Now, he never compliments me and it honestly upsets him. I complement him daily and always make a point to give a different complement each day. I’m sure this is just me being insecure, but the lack of compliments makes me wonder if he is even physically attracted to me. I have brought this up to him in the past and he will always assure me that he’s attracted to me, then for the new few days he will be sure to complement me. Usually after about 3 days it stops again until I make a comment about it. But the thing is, I just feel like those are in genuine complements that he is only saying because I told him that if upsets me that he doesn’t complement me, so even when he does it doesn’t make me feel good inside, I want him to complement me because he actually things it. I don’t know if I’m just overreacting about it, it just honestly hurts my feelings and don’t know what I should do about it. I mean, I wouldn’t want to end an amazing relationship over this but I also want to be with something who thinks I’m beautiful.
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2023.05.29 04:17 Iuka297 Antagonizing Americans on Memorial day is a shitty thing to do.
So I know a lot of people don't understand that we have a holiday to our wardead and yes we got our jokes "Must be Toytathon!" But still mocking people who had military family who died is just shitty.
Blame the politician not the people who have to go to war some didn't even have a choice.
War is a horrible thing, innocent people die while some senator or Congressman laughs signing contracts for bombs and bullets because they want to be re elected and commit crimes.
See is that so hard?
Going "Lel your son stepped on a landmine and deserved it!" Or "Awww did the little imperialist lose his little buddies in the jungles?"
6 years ago my dad passed, while he left the jungles he still had shrapnel in his body, agent orange was slowly killing him and the fact when he returned from Vietnam wasn't a heros welcome. It was stepping off the plane onto a bus, coming home to "oh you're alive? Sold your motorcycle." Being called a baby killer by his girlfriend at the time who dumped him he was turned away from the VFW because "EHHH WIN A REAL WAR YA HIPPIE!" this man walked a life of constantly being shat on for something he had no choice in. All he got for any recognition was the local VFW put up a flag to honor him after his battle with cancer.
I hated the concept of the Vietnam war especially since " Our greatest ally" actually attacked us to gas light us into their stupid ass war.
See this is how we pick on historical issues or even current ones.
But using this day to push anti war propaganda is doing it poorly and the target shouldn't be the soldier. It should always be the "Vote for me."
Maybe your countries should do something to honor the people who protected your home and land?
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Blame the politician not the people who have to go to war some didn't even have a choice.
War is a horrible thing, innocent people die while some senator or Congressman laughs signing contracts for bombs and bullets because they want to be re elected and commit crimes.
See is that so hard?
Going "Lel your son stepped on a landmine and deserved it!" Or "Awww did the little imperialist lose his little buddies in the jungles?"
6 years ago my dad passed, while he left the jungles he still had shrapnel in his body, agent orange was slowly killing him and the fact when he returned from Vietnam wasn't a heros welcome. It was stepping off the plane onto a bus, coming home to "oh you're alive? Sold your motorcycle." Being called a baby killer by his girlfriend at the time who dumped him he was turned away from the VFW because "EHHH WIN A REAL WAR YA HIPPIE!" this man walked a life of constantly being shat on for something he had no choice in. All he got for any recognition was the local VFW put up a flag to honor him after his battle with cancer.
I hated the concept of the Vietnam war especially since " Our greatest ally" actually attacked us to gas light us into their stupid ass war.
See this is how we pick on historical issues or even current ones.
But using this day to push anti war propaganda is doing it poorly and the target shouldn't be the soldier. It should always be the "Vote for me."
Maybe your countries should do something to honor the people who protected your home and land?
2023.05.29 04:16 LegendzAR21 Family Issues, Panini Stars and Stripes lot! $6 a card, some beautiful ones! Except the Blake Mitchell Gold and Derek Curiel, those are 20 and 40 respectively.
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2023.05.29 04:15 jimscreechy Thoughts on female assistant?
Recently ended a 10 year marriage and I am currently isolated the majority of the time. It is hard being alone so much.
Im really thinking of hiring a female from outside of the country so:
I can have someone beautiful to look at to lift my spirits Cook for me Massage me when needed for stress (not sexual) Wash my clothes Go out with me to dinner and movies Cuddle with me in bed (non sexual) Be my eye candy and have them where what I want (not sexual) I guarantee it's not a sexual thing. It's more of emotional support
What do you think about this?
submitted by jimscreechy to questions [link] [comments]
Im really thinking of hiring a female from outside of the country so:
I can have someone beautiful to look at to lift my spirits Cook for me Massage me when needed for stress (not sexual) Wash my clothes Go out with me to dinner and movies Cuddle with me in bed (non sexual) Be my eye candy and have them where what I want (not sexual) I guarantee it's not a sexual thing. It's more of emotional support
What do you think about this?
2023.05.29 04:15 crsaus1 Byron Bay - Campervan Rental Shop
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2023.05.29 04:14 solarflares123 fragmented disjointed thoughts that I feel I need to actualize
A lot of these thoughts have to do with discovering new sensory experiences with VR, making unrelated concepts into a new sense (like, edges or color for example) I also just have a lot of visual thoughts that intersperse unrelated concepts together and I feel like I must actualize these thoughts somehow, even though they make no sense. My mind desperately wants to actualize them (like create something or do something with them) and sometimes I think I can. But overall they cause confusion and distress because they feel creative and awesome and of utmost importance to actualize, but they’re not coherent and they’re hard for me to even articulate. But what if that is possible somehow?
I have no doubt I have a creative mind but these thoughts feel really important and like following through with them would open up new ways of experiencing things and expand our senses. And maybe they would to a degree but my mind wants to dwell on joining and then doing something about unrelated concepts. So I wonder what am I supposed to do if I can’t even articulate to myself what that is, even though it feels important?
But then I ask myself what if it’s just me subconsciously trying to be unique? I have NPD parents so that wouldn’t be surprising. I’m honestly not sure. These thoughts (and OCD-like obsessions for certainty that follow, then reassuring myself these thoughts aren’t attainable) go down a bit when I’m alone and in a calm mood, so maybe that is partly it, but they still persist. Idk I should just see a professional just wondering if anyone can relate.
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I have no doubt I have a creative mind but these thoughts feel really important and like following through with them would open up new ways of experiencing things and expand our senses. And maybe they would to a degree but my mind wants to dwell on joining and then doing something about unrelated concepts. So I wonder what am I supposed to do if I can’t even articulate to myself what that is, even though it feels important?
But then I ask myself what if it’s just me subconsciously trying to be unique? I have NPD parents so that wouldn’t be surprising. I’m honestly not sure. These thoughts (and OCD-like obsessions for certainty that follow, then reassuring myself these thoughts aren’t attainable) go down a bit when I’m alone and in a calm mood, so maybe that is partly it, but they still persist. Idk I should just see a professional just wondering if anyone can relate.
2023.05.29 04:14 Michitoki Ethiopian opal pendant
 | I'm new to collecting and just got this new pendant. It's got a clear body color. The backplate is oxidized black. 8 ct, 19x13mm. I think the play or color is beautiful but I'm not sure what I'm looking at. Can you guys tell me anything more about the stone from looking at it? submitted by Michitoki to Opals [link] [comments] |
2023.05.29 04:13 aknp Question about outside outlet
Hi! I am trying to set up an inflatable spa (from wave spas) that uses an regular 110/120v outlet, however when I plug it into the outlet on our patio, it blows the fuse and shuts off the fountain we have on the patio (separate outlet about 12 feet away).
What can do about this? Is this a solvable situation on my own? In case this matters, the plug for the motor is too long for my outlet housing so I can plugged it into an outdoor smart plug to extend the outlet to accommodate the size of the motor plug.
You can likely tell with this question, but I have very little knowledge about how not to overload a breaker. Thanks in advance for any advice.
submitted by aknp to askanelectrician [link] [comments]
What can do about this? Is this a solvable situation on my own? In case this matters, the plug for the motor is too long for my outlet housing so I can plugged it into an outdoor smart plug to extend the outlet to accommodate the size of the motor plug.
You can likely tell with this question, but I have very little knowledge about how not to overload a breaker. Thanks in advance for any advice.
2023.05.29 04:12 Raijinili [WEBTOON] Titles becoming Daily Pass on 2023 June 29
(Previous post: [WEBTOON] Titles becoming Daily Pass on 2023 May 25)
Currently, 6 titles have the banner "This series will become a Daily Pass series on June 29th, 2023." (sorted from oldest):
I will update if there are more (and I expect there to be more). I plan to trigger a scan every day after 02:00, or (if I miss it) before 02:00 the next day. I am not doing dailypassme anymore because Reddit has a limit of 3 notifications per comment.
Asian titles tend to lock at 07:00 UTC on that day (19 hours earlier). Western titles tend to lock the next day at 02:00 UTC (the time when Daily Pass resets). There have been no Western titles that locked in the past few months.
Tip: The day before a title locks, you can use the Download feature for all of the chapters, giving you thirty more days to read them. You won't be able to use the Like and Comment features, and the UI for downloaded chapters seems to be an earlier version (which you might prefer). Note that downloading takes time and can fail, so watch this process.
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Currently, 6 titles have the banner "This series will become a Daily Pass series on June 29th, 2023." (sorted from oldest):
- Meow Rangers - 88 episodes, latest Apr 28, 2023.
- 7FATES: CHAKHO - 53 episodes, latest May 19, 2023.
- A Chance At Last - 69 episodes, latest May 16, 2023.
- Write to Your Heart! - 55 episodes, latest May 2, 2023.
- The Most Ordinary Girl - 55 episodes, latest May 3, 2023.
- Principal's Livestream - 49 episodes, latest May 12, 2023.
Asian titles tend to lock at 07:00 UTC on that day (19 hours earlier). Western titles tend to lock the next day at 02:00 UTC (the time when Daily Pass resets). There have been no Western titles that locked in the past few months.
Tip: The day before a title locks, you can use the Download feature for all of the chapters, giving you thirty more days to read them. You won't be able to use the Like and Comment features, and the UI for downloaded chapters seems to be an earlier version (which you might prefer). Note that downloading takes time and can fail, so watch this process.
Additional warnings
- True Beauty (>227 chapters) is in its epilogue episodes, and it seems there are only five weeks left.
- Limited Time Unlock: Look out for weekly events that partially unlock Daily Pass titles (about half the episodes, up to 120?). This is only available on the app. See more info in the a post. The details keep changing and we'll need to write up a single page on a site to get through all of them.
- Tangential: In 2023 February, I went through all the Daily Pass titles and checked which ones had ad unlocks available.
2023.05.29 04:12 Cody0290 [WTB] Dual Comm Comtacs, Placard Tubes
Looking for a pair of coyote dual comm peltors (3,5, or 6s), nato wired. $500 ish shipped (negotiable), PP G&S only
And looking for any color Lunar Concepts placard tubes. Multicam is preferred, but I'm desperate now. $50
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And looking for any color Lunar Concepts placard tubes. Multicam is preferred, but I'm desperate now. $50
2023.05.29 04:11 autotldr Xi more of a threat to democracies than Putin,says ex-Canada PM
This is the best tl;dr I could make, original reduced by 55%. (I'm a bot)
Summary Source FAQ Feedback Top keywords: Harper#1 election#2 Government#3 Canadian#4 Trudeau#5
Post found in /worldnews.
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Former Canadian Prime Minister Stephen Harper believes that China's paramount leader is more of a long-term threat to democracies around the world than Russian President Vladimir Putin.
"Xi Jinping is a much more long-term, serious threat than Putin," Harper said, as per the outlet Globe and Mail, which obtained a recording of his speech.
His comments came days after the special rapporteur appointed by the Government of Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau to investigate Chinese interference in the elections stated that while foreign governments were attempting to influence voters and candidates, there was no need for a public inquiry.
The special rapporteur was appointed on March 6 after a series of reports in the outlets Globe and Mail and Global News that Beijing may have tried to influence Federal elections in Canada.
On February 17, the Globe and Mail noted, "China employed a sophisticated strategy to disrupt Canada's democracy in the 2021 federal election campaign as Chinese diplomats and their proxies backed the re-election of Justin Trudeau's Liberals - but only to another minority government - and worked to defeat Conservative politicians considered to be unfriendly to Beijing." That report was based on intelligence documents.
An even higher number, 57 per cent, felt Trudeau and his Government had "Been evasive on the matter of foreign interference." Two-thirds of those sampled believed China "Likely tried to interfere in Canadian elections."
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2023.05.29 04:10 casperjammer The whole 'my generation's hiphop is better' debate
Full disclosure, I am 43, look probably 15 years younger, but doesn't mean I haven't lived through it.
The way I see it, I am just not interested in hiphop these days. These days being since about 2013 or so. You can do the math. I grew up in a quite multi racial family and community very young, but moved to a place that was very white. This didn't affect me as much, because my racial fluidity facilitates that, buy nonetheless I could be considered an 'other'. Music on the other hand always had an undercurrent in my life, reggae, classical, Michael Jackson were my earliest memories in the early 80s. I'm not sure how hiphop in its own infancy found me, but those early days were The Fat Boys, Beastie Boys, Big Daddy Kane. Soon, MTV took hold before I was 10 and all sorts of music were coming into my cable box in a very 1980s kind of way. Then De La Soul and Paul's Boutique happened, Tipper Gore led a crusade about Explicit Lyrics, and Def Jam was in full effect and Tribe came into focus.
What I am getting at was a steady growth of hiphop and splintering in terms of tone, regionalism, racially, and voice. At this point by 1991 or so hiphop was technically about as old as me, but still considered a fad to America at large but still ballooning in terms of its own culture.
I soon became entranced by the likes of Nirvana, Bad Brains, Rage, Alice in Chains, and taking up playing the guitar and being a 13 yr old whose favorite show was In Living Color, also believed that rap wasn't real music, as I was learning instrumentation but before understanding sampling and how crucial and traversely fundamental hiphop took its roots from. Again, at this point, I have maybe a 6 year window of hiphop-ness in elementary school and Fab 5 Freddy on Saturday nights..that kind of remained the same until about 95 or 96. So, admittedly I kinda missed in the moment some of the seminal 93-96 stuff because I was on my teenage journey. But, that came to an end once I found DJ Krush. Enter DJ Shadow. ENDTRODUCING...The rest is history down the rabbit hole and mind expansion to hiphop and music at large. Started reading URB magazine which was the biggest informant of my world view of every genre. I think I 1st heard of Eminem in the back pages of the Invizibl Skratch Piklz issue in the fall of 1997 when I started university and bought my 1st pair of turntables 6 months later.
Again, circling back. I think it's a progressive, subjective conception of what you think is good, but it takes time. BUCK65, anticon, GZA, Peanut Butter Wolf, Prince Paul, Aceyalone, Cut Chemist, Deftones, all are early inspirational artists that keep evolving.
This shit now. What the fuck is a Lil Yachty, Lil Xan, Post Malone, or any other wannabe pre school vocabulary rapper who mumbles and has tattoos of cookies on their face. Get the fuck off my lawn. What progressions am I seeing? None. That's why Toro Y Moi or old Daft Punk is better than Ice Spice or your crazy Kanye now.
submitted by casperjammer to hiphop101 [link] [comments]
The way I see it, I am just not interested in hiphop these days. These days being since about 2013 or so. You can do the math. I grew up in a quite multi racial family and community very young, but moved to a place that was very white. This didn't affect me as much, because my racial fluidity facilitates that, buy nonetheless I could be considered an 'other'. Music on the other hand always had an undercurrent in my life, reggae, classical, Michael Jackson were my earliest memories in the early 80s. I'm not sure how hiphop in its own infancy found me, but those early days were The Fat Boys, Beastie Boys, Big Daddy Kane. Soon, MTV took hold before I was 10 and all sorts of music were coming into my cable box in a very 1980s kind of way. Then De La Soul and Paul's Boutique happened, Tipper Gore led a crusade about Explicit Lyrics, and Def Jam was in full effect and Tribe came into focus.
What I am getting at was a steady growth of hiphop and splintering in terms of tone, regionalism, racially, and voice. At this point by 1991 or so hiphop was technically about as old as me, but still considered a fad to America at large but still ballooning in terms of its own culture.
I soon became entranced by the likes of Nirvana, Bad Brains, Rage, Alice in Chains, and taking up playing the guitar and being a 13 yr old whose favorite show was In Living Color, also believed that rap wasn't real music, as I was learning instrumentation but before understanding sampling and how crucial and traversely fundamental hiphop took its roots from. Again, at this point, I have maybe a 6 year window of hiphop-ness in elementary school and Fab 5 Freddy on Saturday nights..that kind of remained the same until about 95 or 96. So, admittedly I kinda missed in the moment some of the seminal 93-96 stuff because I was on my teenage journey. But, that came to an end once I found DJ Krush. Enter DJ Shadow. ENDTRODUCING...The rest is history down the rabbit hole and mind expansion to hiphop and music at large. Started reading URB magazine which was the biggest informant of my world view of every genre. I think I 1st heard of Eminem in the back pages of the Invizibl Skratch Piklz issue in the fall of 1997 when I started university and bought my 1st pair of turntables 6 months later.
Again, circling back. I think it's a progressive, subjective conception of what you think is good, but it takes time. BUCK65, anticon, GZA, Peanut Butter Wolf, Prince Paul, Aceyalone, Cut Chemist, Deftones, all are early inspirational artists that keep evolving.
This shit now. What the fuck is a Lil Yachty, Lil Xan, Post Malone, or any other wannabe pre school vocabulary rapper who mumbles and has tattoos of cookies on their face. Get the fuck off my lawn. What progressions am I seeing? None. That's why Toro Y Moi or old Daft Punk is better than Ice Spice or your crazy Kanye now.
2023.05.29 04:10 jimscreechy Thoughts on hiring a female personal assistant
I recently came out of a 10 year marriage and I am currently isolated the majority of the time. It is hard being alone so much. We have kids but we split the time between each parent 50/50.
I am really thinking of hiring a female from outside of the country so:
I can have someone beautiful to look at to lift my spirits Cook for me Massage me when needed for stress (not sexual) Wash my clothes Go out with me to dinner and movies Cuddle with me in bed (non sexual) Be my eye candy and have them where what I want (not sexual) I guarantee it's not a sexual thing. It's more of emotional support
I understand all of this sounds weird but it's really about paying for someone's time and offering emotional support.
What do you think about this? Has anyone done anything similar?
submitted by jimscreechy to nostupidcsquestions [link] [comments]
I am really thinking of hiring a female from outside of the country so:
I can have someone beautiful to look at to lift my spirits Cook for me Massage me when needed for stress (not sexual) Wash my clothes Go out with me to dinner and movies Cuddle with me in bed (non sexual) Be my eye candy and have them where what I want (not sexual) I guarantee it's not a sexual thing. It's more of emotional support
I understand all of this sounds weird but it's really about paying for someone's time and offering emotional support.
What do you think about this? Has anyone done anything similar?
2023.05.29 04:10 Beefofterror [WTS] 5ML/10 ML Decants for TF, Kilian, PDM, Initio, Xerjoff, Creed, MFK, Prada, Armani, YSL, Hermes, Mancera, Versace, JPG, Dior, Viktor&Rolf, Azzaro... (decant)
Looking to sell rare/popular fragrances in high-quality decants with beautiful printed labels. Smell amazing guaranteed.
https://imgur.com/a/F1lQSZG
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| Brand | Fragrance | 5 ml | 10 ml |
|---|---|---|---|
| Tom Ford | Lost Cherry | $20 | $36 |
| Tom Ford | Bitter Peach | $20 | $36 |
| Kilian | Angels' Share | $18 | $32 |
| MFK | Baccarat Rouge 540 EDP | $16 | $28 |
| Creed | Millesime Imperial | $14 | $24 |
| YSL | Tuxedo | $14 | $24 |
| Initio | Oud for Greatness | $14 | $24 |
| PDM | Herod | $12 | $20 |
| PDM | Carlisle | $12 | $20 |
| PDM | Layton | $12 | $20 |
| PDM | Pegasus | $12 | $20 |
| Xerjoff | Erba Pura | $12 | $20 |
| Prada | Luna Rossa Black (discontinued) | $12 | $20 |
| YSL | LNDL Bleu Electrique (discontinued) | $10 | $18 |
| Roberto Cavalli | Uomo La Notte For Man (discontinued) | $10 | $18 |
| V&R | $10 | $18 | |
| Armani | Acqua Di Gio Profumo | $8 | $14 |
| YSL | La Nuit de L'homme | $8 | $14 |
| YSL | Y EDP | $8 | $14 |
| D&G | The One EDP | $8 | $14 |
| Hermes | Terre d'Hermes | $8 | $14 |
| JPG | Ultramale | $8 | $14 |
| Mancera | Cedrat Boise | $8 | $14 |
| Versace | Eros EDP | $8 | $14 |
| Versace | Eros Flame | $8 | $14 |
| Azzaro | Wanted By Night | $8 | $14 |
| Dior | Sauvage EDT | $6 | $10 |
| V&R | Spicebomb EDT | $6 | $10 |
| JPG | Le male | $5 | $8 |
2023.05.29 04:10 koolkay_222 Don't care if this is satire or not. This is degeneracy.
 | submitted by koolkay_222 to CringetopiaRM [link] [comments] |
2023.05.29 04:08 CMDRSaber88 Observation from a recent date I had.
I want to have a light hearted discussion about something I experienced last week.
I met a woman on one of the "where to meet singles posts" that are sadly, quite common on this sub.
Anyway, we talked for 3 weeks on reddit, she made the initial reach out to me. We got to know each other in DM's had some laughs. I finally asked her out and we met for a movie Thursday night. (Movie dates are not great but it was a decent option as we got drinks prior and got to break the ice.)
It was my first date in 6 years I hate to say. I am not very lucky with the ladies. But I make due. I was very rusty to say the least.
I felt tension on both ends of the table more so on my side. We met blind (we had not exchanged pictures.) and I was honestly shocked at how beautiful she was. (like she took my breath away).
By about the midway point of the movie I got the feeling she wasn't feeling it, but I held out hope for a 2nd date. I walked her to her car mentioned I would like to see her again she said "for sure I will have to check my schedule but I should be free this weekend." I gave her a hug and it ended. I had fun and she had fun, it was a good night, not the best first date but not the worst.
Next morning, I was literally about to send her a text message with an idea for what we could do on Saturday. And I got a message stating what I felt in my gut.
She told me she had a great time, I was a really nice guy and that she just was not feeling it. (Cool, it happens you're not the first and not the last to reject me. I am glad we both had a fun evening. It beats sitting at home watching TV.)
Now many reading this are about at this point going "what's your point?"
She cut off all contact with me. We communicated exclusivley through reddit and she deleted her account after sending her final message. I would have simply liked to have said.
"I get it, no hard feelings I had a lot of fun with you and wish you best of luck as you're truly an amazing woman in my eyes." (I hope she gets to read this.)
I also realized what she did, and that she likely had some really REALLY bad rejection experiences so she made it so she could completely cut contact and avoid unpleasant experiences from men who can't take rejection. ( hence only reddit contact)
My question is to the women on here, have you been in this woman's shoes have you developed a rejection strategy so you don't have to deal with the fallout from men who can't take it? I am 35 single, never married. I have dealt with my fair share of rejections its all good I don't want someone who doesn't want me.
And if you're a man reading this and you think to yourself "crap I have been that guy." some advice. Not all the women I ask out or date end up as friends. But I do have quite a few that are and some of them for several decades. And they are often some of the most valuable friendships I have. Don't be that way it won't help you and makes you feel terrible.
So yeah I just want to know if this is common? I would hope I could alleviate someone's fears the next time I go out with someone. And please don't turn this into judging her for how she handled it. She has her reasons and I respect them and you should to you don't know what she has been through.
Anyway that's all. looking forward to the first non political discussion in weeks on this sub.
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I met a woman on one of the "where to meet singles posts" that are sadly, quite common on this sub.
Anyway, we talked for 3 weeks on reddit, she made the initial reach out to me. We got to know each other in DM's had some laughs. I finally asked her out and we met for a movie Thursday night. (Movie dates are not great but it was a decent option as we got drinks prior and got to break the ice.)
It was my first date in 6 years I hate to say. I am not very lucky with the ladies. But I make due. I was very rusty to say the least.
I felt tension on both ends of the table more so on my side. We met blind (we had not exchanged pictures.) and I was honestly shocked at how beautiful she was. (like she took my breath away).
By about the midway point of the movie I got the feeling she wasn't feeling it, but I held out hope for a 2nd date. I walked her to her car mentioned I would like to see her again she said "for sure I will have to check my schedule but I should be free this weekend." I gave her a hug and it ended. I had fun and she had fun, it was a good night, not the best first date but not the worst.
Next morning, I was literally about to send her a text message with an idea for what we could do on Saturday. And I got a message stating what I felt in my gut.
She told me she had a great time, I was a really nice guy and that she just was not feeling it. (Cool, it happens you're not the first and not the last to reject me. I am glad we both had a fun evening. It beats sitting at home watching TV.)
Now many reading this are about at this point going "what's your point?"
She cut off all contact with me. We communicated exclusivley through reddit and she deleted her account after sending her final message. I would have simply liked to have said.
"I get it, no hard feelings I had a lot of fun with you and wish you best of luck as you're truly an amazing woman in my eyes." (I hope she gets to read this.)
I also realized what she did, and that she likely had some really REALLY bad rejection experiences so she made it so she could completely cut contact and avoid unpleasant experiences from men who can't take rejection. ( hence only reddit contact)
My question is to the women on here, have you been in this woman's shoes have you developed a rejection strategy so you don't have to deal with the fallout from men who can't take it? I am 35 single, never married. I have dealt with my fair share of rejections its all good I don't want someone who doesn't want me.
And if you're a man reading this and you think to yourself "crap I have been that guy." some advice. Not all the women I ask out or date end up as friends. But I do have quite a few that are and some of them for several decades. And they are often some of the most valuable friendships I have. Don't be that way it won't help you and makes you feel terrible.
So yeah I just want to know if this is common? I would hope I could alleviate someone's fears the next time I go out with someone. And please don't turn this into judging her for how she handled it. She has her reasons and I respect them and you should to you don't know what she has been through.
Anyway that's all. looking forward to the first non political discussion in weeks on this sub.