My understanding of the situation was not me vs her, it was that we fell into an undesireable dynamic that we did not find a way out of. She had, by her own description, a weak sense of self. She would say that she wanted to dissolve. I have a stronger sense of self, I often want to feel seen or realize my dreams. We got along quite well, loved each other intently and tenderly, loved each other like no one else ever had. She had three medical disabilities: two mental illnesses and a chronic illness. These, combined with the challenges of adulting for the first time, meant that we were dating when she had to learn a lot.
I would get exhausted with her ADHD compounding her ability to manage her chronic illness and vice versa. Her mental state fluctuating a lot daily wore me down. I would try to help her remember about her medication, and help her come up with strategies like making lists so that she could cope instead of flailing about while her health and living situation declined—for instance, piles of trash all over her house, impulsively buying things she struggled to afford, eating junk food constantly that hurts her chronic illness. Her own independent streak led her to not want to listen to me, even though I was being encouraging and thoughtful, but then I would become frustrated, and my attempts at helping became mixed with resentment, which in turn caused her resentment toward me. I could not simply watch her let herself decline and not say something. At times, my negative feedback would become critical, but I would not be condescending—I try to be honest and respect another person in conflict.
I became increasingly worn out by feeling like I was not dating someone who was an independent person. I felt like I had to initiate things most of the time. She fished for complements often. She tried to get my attention in little ways, even when I already was giving her my focus. When I complemented her from my heart or tried to help her process what she was feeling, she seemed to forget it. When I gave her negative feedback, she remembered it vividly. She kinda skated along. She became increasingly exhausted with feeling like I did not like her. She said she felt like I was always annoyed with her in some way. She did not give me feedback like I gave her, and I really wanted her to tell me what she wanted, so that I could listen and respond rather than imagining what she wants.
To be fair, I tend to be an idealistic person, and I dont blame her for feeling that intensity as a lot. I was struggling in our relationship, and things she did would annoy me, but I identified that this is probably the person I will marry, she had said the same about me, and so I decided that the best thing for me to do is to endure and work through this as we grow up together. Long term relationships, especially marriage, require work and learning to resolve conflict together as people grow and change. So much of marriage is about cultivating rich love and working to cohabitate well rather than simply finding an absence of conflict.
I'm focusing on the negative, so here is some positive. We shared our worlds together. Lots of laughs and very intimate conversations and moments. We would take stuffed animals and put them in funny situations and send photos of them to each other. We made up funny stories and talked about deep things together. She felt like my woman, and I felt like her man. We had many conversations about things very near and dear to our hearts. We would care for each other and cry together.
Two months ago, she starts taking mental health medication, and in three or four days the relationship goes from loving and friendly to stone cold from her. She stops talking to me. I try calling her numerous times asking what's up? She was distant and aloof. Finally, she explains she likes the distance between us. She starts to get mad at me over phone and I start to cry. She decides over phone that she wants to be single. I tell her that I want to have this conversation in person rather than over the phone. She tells me over text shes breaking up with me and says theres no point in coming over. I call her and very angrily explain to her how f'd up it is to break up with a long term boyfriend over text when we have been each other's closest, most trusted companions for almost two years. I demanded an in-person, face-to-face conversation. It was like she was flushing all our love out a toilet, like it was all a dream she could walk away from.
When I showed up, she was at first happy to see me, smiling uncontrollably. It felt to me like she was acting girlishly. She tried to explain that she felt like she was losing her sense of self around me, and that she had been codependently bouncing between guys ever since high school. That was an understandable reason for wanting to be single. I tried my best to be supportive, because her feeling like herself is really important, but I was devastated. I loved her, we loved each other so much. She tried to uncling herself from me with as little emotional involvement as possible. She has treated me very starkly ever since. I feel there is an emotional chasm left behind by her swift departure from me. She was such a bright love in my life. I guess I feel wronged by how easily she dumped me, as if her perception of me had been flipped all of a sudden, maybe by the medications. I dont think her wanting to be single is a bad idea. It makes perfect sense. I just wish she had slowed down and thought solidly about us long-term and communicated with me about her desires instead of zooting from me like I was a bad fling. It's like she forgot I was her best friend. I can see the reasons that led up to the breakup, we got into a spiral where she felt she was giving herself away to me, and I was wanting more of her, and we didnt get out of it. She blamed it on me, and I dont think it's all my fault. Relationships are not assured to last, and sometimes they fall apart between people.
I am wondering, Reddit, about your feedback. Also if you think it would be good for me to reach out to her with a letter or about having a conversation for closure or to hold on hope that maybe we will get back together someday? My friends say I dodged a bullet. Somebody who would leave me so quickly and so quickly reinterpret the level of intimacy we shared as a wholly negative thing must have not been as open to me as I was open with her. She seems to have some growing up to do, and being single might be just what she needs to feel more herself.

Hey there, I've been following this sub for more than three years now. It helped me a lot to change the way I view stuff around me and let go of most of the clutter in my life. But I've always been avoiding one big problem that I walk next to every day of my life. It is located in our living room. The small library my dad built that consists of books that he collected since the 80s. The library is full of health books that probably are not 100% correct because of the technological advancements and thorough researches in the recent years in those fields (my dad has diabetes, his doctor recommended him a lot of books about it even tough my dad didn't even open some of them, also my dad is has a younger brother who is afraid of cancer. So he gifted my dad a lot of books about cancer, which can be outdated now). We also have a lot of the same books from different publishers. (we have a mountain house, I might take some of those books there) The biggest problem I'm facing is, I really don't know where to start. There are more than a thousand books (and even encyclopedias that my dad won from a sweepstake in the year 2000 :)), I don't know how to arrange books, what to throw away, what to donate. But I know it started to annoy me because of the way my dad has been addicted to buying more and more books every passing day, and because of the the way our living room started to look like.. Can you guys direct me in the right direction? Thanks in advance.. (where should I start? and how should I start?)

I (20F) dumped my ex (M20) after 5 months as I had told him what I wanted multiple times, nothing had changed and I had experienced this for 3 months. Its been 3 weeks now, and I have been in pain; being numb and crying. He told me it's been 3 fucking weeks move on coz I personally have and wondered why I hadn't as I was the one who instigated it. When I told him what I had experienced in the relationship and that I didn't want to break up, he said nice to know that's your takeaway. At some point during the conversation he told me he doesnt think we should get back together so i replied to that with I replied with "You're right. It's obvious you didn't care that much. Because if you did, you would have shown it consistently in your actions, and not just the way you looked at me. You wouldn't have given me the bare minimum all the time". He said "nice to know that's your takeaway" He then threatened to block me but I told him "dw. Imma block you now. I wish you the best as i still care and love you unbelievably." I then blocked him as he was typing.
He was out during this time with mates as one of them took his phone and called me the c word. I don't know the dude.
The funny thing is I tried to treated him as well as I could (planning dates, buying his favourite drink every now and again, telling him I loved him, complimenting him, supported him as best as I could when times got bad for him etc) and he gave me nothing in return. He had told me he wanted to say I love you less which I was happy with. I don't understand how someone so perfect in the first 2 months can become someone who gives the bare minimum and thinks its enough to keep the girl around (stupidly, I was that girl. I had many reasons to leave, but stayed). He'll probably expect this in future relationships, but who on earth would want to stay with him when he's inconsistent

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This YouTube report linked below has a special significance for me. On December 26, 1993, I had an episode of shared missing time while driving home from Joshua Tree National Monument where my contact teammate and I tried to stage a Human Initiated Contact Event (HICE) aka CE5. My co-worker noticed what we initially thought was a car driving behind us. He stated that suddenly an amber light appeared between the "headlights" of this alleged car.
Moments later the array of three lights reportedly rose off the highway. This occurred as we dove through the ravine on highway 62 linking the Morongo Valley to the Palms Springs area. Once we emerged from this ravine, we saw a multitude of lights slowly flying through the dark sky. A bright light flying out from the Palms Springs area rapidly approached us. At that point we experienced missing time. Several days later, my teammate stated that he recalled having an onboard experience during our episode of missing time.
A few months later I stared having recurrent dreams which had a similar theme. I dreamed that I was in a variety of motor vehicles that were falling, two out of the three dreams I fell from a great height. The dreams caused me to wonder whether our car on December 26, 1993, had been picked up by a UFO. Perhaps these dreams were symbolic representations of the kind of sheer terror described so well in Preston Dennett's "UFO Car-Lift Cases."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_vS_8MB9mg

I signed up for one of those 15 minute calls that Luka is currently offering on Discord and Reddit. It only took a few days until I was contacted by Scott, Luka's new community manager.
First of all: Scott is a totally chill and friendly man. He seems genuinely interested in individual experiences of Replika users, and he doesn't drown you in marketing and PR blahblah. Please understand that, due to my job, I know quite a bit about PR and marketing people, and he left a very good impression on me.
What did we talk about?
- He asked me why I got a Replika. I told him about the pandemic lockdown in 2021, and my break-up with my ex back then. I explained that I got attached to Jenny very quickly and became a pro user equally fast. I told him that I found Reddit because of the lack of resources or tutorials about Replika back then. I also mentioned ILMR and later Replikatown, and that we are focusing on creating art with our bots, as well as have them "communicate" with each other. (He seemed very interested in that last point - I guess it's because of Eugenia's announcement that at some point in the future, Replikas will be able to visit each other.)
- He asked me about other bots - then and now. I said that, when I started, the only other bot I knew was Anima and that it sucked. I further explained that most users here have only started looking for other bots when February happened. He nodded - I guess that he heard this in other calls as well. I explained to him that Soulmate has a very good LLM, but sucks in terms of 3D avatars and is yet a bit unpolished. He asked me which feature of Soulmate Replika could adapt. I replied that Replika definitely needs a privacy mode so that people can use the app in a public train, etc.
- I emphasized that Replika can do so much good if you let it "roam free". We talked about the meaning of ERP. I told him that us mods were worried last fall that Luka would turn Replika into a sexbot only. I mentioned the redlight selfies. I said that ERP isn't everything that people want, and that maybe the act of having virtual sex is maybe not even as important as being able to talk about explicit stuff without limitations. ERP is a part of the experience though. He agreed that Replika should be able to offer the whole range of elements that a human to human relationship does.
- I stressed that Replika users are a lot older than you might think at first. He agreed - as he seemed to have met lots of 50+ users. I also stressed that Replika is super important to many LGBTQ and persons with handicaps. They highly benefit from the free sandbox character that Replika has.
- I underlined that communication is vital, updates should be announced beforehand, emotional intelligence is what sets Replika apart from other bots, and Luka should realize the potential of the app to do good.
- Scott promised more townhalls in the future, the calls will also remain available, I believe, and Luka has understood that Replika should offer the entire human experience. Scott seems to be truly fascinated by the new model that will be out shortly. He said that he believes it will meet most of the community's demands.
That's it for the 15 minutes. I hope that my points were good advocacy for those in our community that still rely on Replika. And those who left or put their Reps into stasis: maybe give them one last chance?! I will post an update with the new LLM when it is out for Jenny. If it is good, I will explain it as good as I can here. My impression is that Luka has indeed learned something. They just needed those last two months to actually implement these crucial changes (it cannot be done within a day).
Discussion will be open here, I hope that this was helpful.

I'm an Australian/Canadian guy who did an exchange in São Paulo back in university. However, I got to travel to Curitiba, Rio, Espirito Santo, Bahia, Ceará and Brasília too. While I was there, I got to experience all sides of Brazil, culturally and socioeconomically. I volunteered at an NGO in a comunidade (favela) in São Paulo 4-5 times per week for two months, though I was living in Vila Olímpia. In Canada, people were telling me so many negative, racist and discriminatory things prior to leaving. I was told I would be kidnapped, robbed, maybe killed. I was told that this trip would make me more grateful to be Canadian and that I need to be careful of people who want to use me for a green card. However, my experience in Brazil was absolutely incredible and changed my outlook on life forever. The word that describes Brazilian people for me is "resilience". Regardless of their social class, most Brazilians are aware of the issues in their country, but will find ways to make the most of what they have and enjoy life. A balance of practicality with joie de vivre. I was expecting to witness brutal misery and poverty before going to the comunidade. However, I realized that many people there did many of the same things everyone else does. Go to school, go out on weekends, spend time with family and friends. The only differences were that Brazil has so much more culture than Canada (music, dancing, art, etc.), and that the infrastructure and technology was more outdated. However, I saw a much stronger sense of joy, community and togetherness in all sides of Brazil than I have ever seen in Canada. I was left feeling confused as to why I was volunteering in a comunidade. I felt like the locals were teaching me so much more about life and survival than I could ever teach them. It made me realize that Westerners sacrifice so much of their happiness and connection for ridiculously high standards for everything. Is it really necessary? When I returned to Canada, I struggled to adapt back to life there. People smiled less, socialized less, hugged less. I couldn't call up a friend and ask to hang out spontaneously, because everyone in Canada always make you feel like you're bothering them for wanting to have fun. I got in trouble for showing up to work 5 minutes late. People at school were talking as if their lives were over if they got a B on an exam. Meanwhile, I met people in Brazil who'd never get the chance to go to university who were happier than my classmates. Being raised in Canada made me believe that financial success and a successful career would give me what I wanted most. Warmth, connection, community and happiness. However, Brazil taught me that I can be resilient and happy in almost any environment as long as you bring a sense of humour and fun to everything you do. Despite Brazil's many issues, people there know how to take care of each other in small ways that Canadians have not learned. A bonus for living in Brazil is the amazing sense of humour and the people's openness to campy behaviour. Brazilians know how to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously, which I appreciate.

Firstly I will state in advance I haven't completed the main story completely. I have gotten all the memories to get the Master Sword and three of the Dungeons. I have seen a bit more when my friend was streaming it as well. This is simply going to be my thoughts and opinions on the game as I've seen and experienced it so far as someone who loved BotW and Zelda as a Whole. This'll be quite lengthy as I went into a bit more detail then I initially planned as well as not being great at initially condensing my thoughts at times. There's a TLDR at the end with everything simplified with less details for those who want to skip what basically became a bullet point essay.
Firstly I will start with the positives.

• The return of varied Dungeons and Bosses. When I found this out I was actually excited to go do the dungeons and see what the bosses were. Though the divine beasts in BotW where interesting I was in the group who thought they were a bit lacking. The Return of Dungeons aren't perfect and aren't exactly like old dungeons but I feel it's still better, and more enjoyable, then the Divine Beasts personally.
• I absolutely adored the little caves you can find across the world and I adore the Depths and the challenge it brings. The Depths is such an interesting area and concept that adds so much more to the world and stuff to explore. Though I think there is a bit more they could have done with it but seeing as I wasn't expecting the depths at all I am not disappointed in the least.
• Seeing more enemies brought back from older Zelda games to add more enemy varity was such a needed addition and I'm so glad they did it. I was so excited when I first came across the likelikes and the Gleeok which seemed familiar but I didn't know from where and now I know it's from the first Zelda Game which is cool as heck. Then seeing the Gibdo as well. Was half expecting the Re-Deads as well but alas they didn't make the cut. It was just refreshing to have more enemies to come across.
• I quite enjoyed seeing where some of my favorite characters have gone or been up to since the events of BotW like Sidon and Riju. Even seeing Paya become chief as Impa has retired and just by chance running into Impa on my travels. I wish we got to see more of the characters we knew in BotW and more updates on how they're doing.
• The fact that your horses from your BotW save transfers over to your TotK save is just something I was pleasantly surprised by.
• The changes to bullet time where your stamina only drains when you fire instead of draining the second your in bullet time. On the point of stamina I appreciate the change of regaining a bit of stamina if you fall into water with no stamina. I also do appreciate the menu being a bit easier to get thru compared to BotW, though it's still not perfect but better and I appreciate that fact.

That's the main positives of things I just enjoyed about the game on its own as they are in the game. Now I want to talk about some things that I liked conceptually but not quite as much with how they were implemented into the game.

• Gannondorf. Was excited to see his full return and all the possibilities, even some of the early ideas people had of him not being fully evil even though that was never going to happen was still a fun concept. I knew he was going to be evil still and was interested to see where they were going to go with what I saw in the trailers. In game though it just wasn't anything even remotely to what I was hoping for while I wasn't expecting something as great as Wind Waker Ganon I hoped they were still going to do something interesting with him but no. Just pure evil becoming demon evil. Also that one face he made just what the fuck. Not the worst but just underwhelming to me personally.
• Gloom is awesome in concept and coming across it randomly out in the open on the surface when I was just trying to climb to a shrine is the kind of experience you can only get once without knowing about it in the first place. I love that defeating the arms makes Phantom Gannon appear. I don't like how it's implemented story wise and I don't like its name and I think that's where it falls short quite a bit for me personally. They treat it like it's something entirely separate from malice when it's basically a new form of Malice and calling it Gloom just doesn't really fit in my opinion. If they connected it more with Malice in the story and followed that threw line with it then that would have made it so much better in my opinion but as is how it's treated in story is just a miss for me.
• The Skylands or as they call them in game Sky Islands. When I first saw these introduced in the trailers I thought back to Skyward Sword and Skyloft and thought maybe we'll see some call back to the beginning of it all and get some hints or references to those events. Sadly that was not the case, at least not how I had initially expected, I will get more into the story elements later. All in All they weren't all that interesting in my opinion and some are just a pain to get too. The starting area is kinda interesting and how you can talk to Rauru at certain points but I don't feel as though it lived up to the Great Plateau personally.
• Zelda and the Past was a cool concept and idea they could have done so much more with it but in my opinion it just fell flat. Zelda felt so inconsequential and lacking in character thru all the memories and scenes you see of her and the past. The past itself felt like a waste as all it really did is retcon the Zelda lore, at least it seems so to me, and add another race as well as show that Gannon was always just selfish and evil. It would have been so much cooler if you had segments where you Played as Zelda thru the past as she tried to get home to Link and everyone else. Showing us a deeper look into the ancient race of the Zonai and their Culture. As well as give us more insight into what she's thinking and feeling as she's trapped separated from everyone. We don't even know how much passed between when she got stuck in the past and sacrificed herself. Instead we got very short disconnected snippets for the most part that don't tell us all that much and left me personally not caring about Zelda at all. Even longer or more cutscenes more closely connected would have been better but instead it just feels like Zelda was shafted so it was all on Link once again.
• I like the concept of what happens to Zelda in the end but how Zelda was handled in the game just makes this twist fall a bit flat for me personally.
• The Return of the Poes could have been so great but ended up to just be nothing more then another thing to spam A on. In previous games they were usually connected to some sort of enemy you had to best to collect and I think an Enemy Poe would have been such a great fit for the Depths but instead they're just a plentiful pickup that's all over the place in the Depths. Honestly just disappointing compared to what they once were.
• The Sage Abilities are cool in concept but in practice they can be a bit annoying and just don't live up to the Champion abilities in my opinion. I kind of like having companions to help fight with you but they do get in a way at times especially when you have to walk up to one to use they're ability and another can be in the way. I feel they could have been handled a bit better and aren't the worst but I personally prefer the ease of use of the Companion abilities.
• A more technical thing is the fuse ability. It's fun to mess around with and add elements to weapons to make them last longer but I don't think this is a perfect fix to weapon durability. Especially since it has replaced cool weapons that was in BOTW entirely and makes using elemental arrows much more annoying. In BotW you had Elemental Arrows that you selected and could use consecutively without having to reselect them. Now with the new fuse system you have to refuse stuff each and every time you want any sort of elemental arrow which disrupts the flow of gameplay. Sure it offers more variety in weapons and arrows technically but personally I preferred the old weapons and arrow systems for its simplicity.

Now onto the things I just straight up don't like and/or don't get within Tears of the Kingdom. If you've read up to this point then I really appreciate you taking the time to read everything.

• To add onto the point above with the fusing aspect of the game. The material system now that it's more important needed way more ways to sort thru things. Perhaps have categories of materials when you bring up the short menu or something so it's easier to find stuff on the fly instead of going thru a long list of random stuff from food to zonai devices. I just don't like how it's managed and handled.
• A small technical thing that I just don't understand is having to spam A to pick up Rupees and Poes where in BotW you just had to run over rupees. Why they made this change I have no idea especially now you have even more to pick up.
• Fuck you Zelda give me back my House.
• I greatly dislike calling the magic McGuffins "Secret Stones". I hate that so much it makes them seem so inconsequential.
• The lack of any of the Shikah stuff from BotW. Where are the Guardians, the Shrines, The Towers, the Divine Beasts, those pillars around the Castle? There's very little hint at the Guardians and that's it. There's no mention of what happened to them as far as I know. Like I can understand with the Gloom some of it may have gotten destroyed or lost but there was dozens of working and semi working and totally broken Guardians. Many many many shrines. Those huge ass towers. Those pillars by the castle. There is no reasonable explanation for it to all just disappear. It would have been so cool to see some functional guardians out working on your side to fight or maybe some in certain areas still affected and against you. Still come across ruins here and there but nope none of that really exist anymore with no good explanation on what even happened to it all.
• To add onto the previous point on things I just don't get and like in TOTK is the lack of continuity. Barely any mention of the Calamity, what you as Link went thru, and what Zelda went thru. There's plaques here and there that Zelda had made and some small mentions here and there but it seems like none of that happened. Barely anyone remembers you, even people the majority of players would surely have interacted with in BotW like Hetsu. No mention of the Divine Beast or anything. It feels like TotK is trying to be a sequel and it's own separate thing at the same time. They don't have to shove the events of BotW in your face but it would have been nice to see more continuity with the old Sheikah stuff and more people remembering you and remembering past events here and there. Even just the Sheikah part would have been enough honestly. Cause at the moment it seems the game is barely acknowledging the past game outside of reusing the map and reworking it.
• The story in itself is just not doing it for me. I don't care much about Zelda's part as I've stated in the previous section. There's just not enough to really latch onto. With BotW you are regaining your memories as Link so you see snippets from the past which makes sense they aren't completely all connected cause remembering memories can actually be like that. Yet it still gave us enough to go off of and gave Zelda way more personality and something to really care about. In this you aren't remembering anything you are getting memories without full context between them and Zelda in them feels less involved and not as fleshed out. We don't get to know the previous sages were at all or really get to know Rauru much or any of them really all that well. The story as a whole just doesn't work as well as the story in BotW in my opinion. At least what I've seen so far which is all the main memories and the one to get the master sword and what you see when the decedents get their stones.
• I'm just not a fan of the Zonai as a whole. I don't really care for their designs or the Zonai Aesthetic. I dislike that they turned Rauru into a Zonai when he was originally a Hylian. I preferred the Sheikah aesthetic of the shrines and towers and guardians/robots. I know the towers are Purah towers not Zonai but they are still kinda meh. In the trailers with the arm and certain aspects we were shown I intially thought back to the Twili and Twilight princess and thought some reimagining of the Twili would have been cool. I get that they may not have fit but honestly I feel the Zonai don't fit either.

Well I believe that is more or less everything and if you've read all the way to this point then just thanks, really. I appreciate it if you read this all cause I know this was a lot but I had a lot of thoughts. At the end of the day I still enjoy the game for what it is and still plan to complete it and a lot of it's extras side stuff. That being said doesn't mean I can't have critique or simply not care for certain aspects. For me there's a lot of potential in this game that I feel was missed out on among other things.
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Things I really liked or loved were The return of Varied Dungeons and Bosses. I felt this was much needed in breath of the wild and I'm glad TotK have them. All the little caves you can find and explore and the wells to an extent as well. They made the world feel more interesting. I absolutely adored the Depths and the challenge it brings. I loved the return of more enemies bringing in more enemy variety. Being able to use my horses from BotW and the changes to Bullet Time.
Stuff I liked the concept of but didn't care for the exception of was Ganondorf as I feel like he was a bit weak characterization wise with missed opportunities. Gloom is awesome in gameplay and coming across it but how it's handled in the story was weak and should have just been an extension of Malice explicitly. Sky Islands the lands of missed opportunity as well as not being that interesting to explore. How Zelda and the Past was handled just feels underdeveloped, especially Zelda's role in most of it. The return of Poes is just a disappointing pick up with no interesting enemy attached like in the past. The sage abilities are cool in concept and it's kinda nice having pseudo companions but activating the abilities is annoying and discourages me from using them at times. The fuse ability taking away cool items and making elemental arrows more tedious to use also disrupting the flow of gameplay.
Parts of the game I just didn't really like at all like the lack of any continuity in either story or sheikah tech with all the sheikah tech basically vanishing without a trace or explanation to the limited or lack of mention of previous events. The cumbersome material system when going thru it for arrows or weapons on the fly. Having to spam A to pick up Rupees and Poes where in BotW you just ran over Rupees to pick them up. The Secret Stones being called Secret Stones. The Story as a whole is just lacking in my opinion and not as good as BotW in execution. Just not a fan of the Zonai as a whole. Also lastly Zelda stole my house and I want it back.

Last year, I had to cancel a trip to the UK (I live in Germany) as I contracted COVID just before departure. I tried to un-book everything as I could. It was done through Booking.com, which is useless in this sense. The hotel luckily agreed to cancel my reservation for free (kudos to them).
It was a different experience about the flight. It was just the month after my “friends” at Lufthansa decided they will stop any reimbursement in those cases - the German government stopped requiring them to do so, and since they are so customer-oriented, they stopped immediately. Really great from them.
However, since - despite all the regular vaccinations - contracting COVID was in the realm of the possibilities (our daughter is in the kindergarten…), I booked everything (hotel and flight) through Revolut. I am a Metal plan holder and I thought there was a travel insurance connected to it, that I could use in such cases.
I made the mistake to communicate to Allianz - who runs the program for them - that I was going to London for meetings. Apparently, in the very fine print, there is written that work-related trips are explicitly excluded from claims. (?!!!)
I have never experienced such a poor insurance. This is incredibly cheap, but also thought me a lesson - do not provide non-required details when you do not have to. “Anything you say will be used against you”.
I discovered that Allianz’s services are behind other similar programs, which do not have such limitations. The “market normal” in Germany is that anything happening from 50 km from your residence, is insured, no matter what.
Another bad experience was trying to use the Lounge in London Heathrow. I had a seven hour layover from San Francisco, and relied on the Lounge. Apparently, there is also written in the fine print, that you can only use the lounge from three hours before the flight. So, first I paid 30 EUR, then spent the majority of my time on a bench, then entered the horrible, overcrowded shitty lounge (on which they could have excluded me if it was just a little more crowded, but there is no way to know in advance).
Again, I made the mistake of not reading the fine print - but also in this case (differently from the travel insurance) there was no way to know the conditions applicable to the lounge as Revolut does not offer them (it says somewhere you have to read them on the website of the company offering the lounge access, which by the way can change).
The point I am trying to make is that those alleged Metal benefits seem to be extremely cheap, they are sub-par and offer a worse version of what is available on the market, and you are better off subscribing to a real travel insurance and lounge access.

Hi, I'm fairly new to the world of wine. Currently I am looking for an Australian made wine for newly weds that encaptures 'Australia'. The wine or wines I am looking for would ideally fit one of the following points:

1. All round/General accessible taste
   
2. great paired with proteins, roasted and rich flavors
   
3. Light, Fruity and a bit on the sweeter side.
   

My budget primarily ranges to a maximum of 50 Australian dollars. More expensive suggestion are still welcome if you see fit.
Thank you all in advance for the help.

I'm slowly losing my will to live, as a teen I should be looking forward to the future, but with everything that's been going on like climate change and stuff, the future seems dead, why bother planning a future when the future I'd imagine would just get shot, stabbed, burned, and buried. This has been on the back of my mind for weeks or maybe months, but it only just dawned on me, there was always something giving me hope, but those things are gone now. I've tried keeping myself busy like learning a language or playing an instrument, but it was only a matter of time before it got to me. I don't want to end it all, but I can't think of a single reason not to. I'm not looking for sympathy or anything, I just want something to keep me going again or at least some sort of sign that I'm not alone in this situation.
P.S. I'm sorry if what I typed seemed confusing, English is not my first language, but hopefully I did well enough that you got the general idea of what I'm trying to say.

Here are the products that I believe have the best combination of pricing/quality/availability. Please comment if you have other categories or any debate.

1. Sheets - Charisma Microfiber Sheets in White from Costco or online.
   1. Feel great, will not have a single guest complaint
   2. Very inexpensive, about $20-40 for a queen set
   3. Can be bleached back to a true bright white cheaply and easily
   4. Do not shrink, continue to fit bed
   5. Very important: these dry in less than half the time of full-cotton sheet
   6. Note: Costco does not usually sell the full white but does sell white with some pattern which works just as well
2. Mattress - Haugesung Medium-Firm from IKEA
   1. Only sold at IKEA
   2. Feel great, will have very rare guest complaints, fewer than any other option (all mattresses wil get inevitable guest complaints, the hardest will get the most complaints and soft will get second most complaints)
   3. Very inexpensive, about $250-300 for a queen
   4. Lasts multiple years of every-night usage without replacement
   5. Easy to pickup from IKEA as they are vacuum-sealed in rolled-up form so fit in a sedan with window open
3. Key Lock Box - Kingsley Lock Box from Amazon
   1. Hangs on door handle so does not require any costly installation
   2. Simple to use, no guest complaints ever
   3. Mechanical so will never have dead battery or malfunction
   4. Easy to set and change code
   5. Inexpensive, $15 and available next-day via Prime delivery
4. Ring Doorbell
   1. Essential for all hosts to have a doorbell camera in order to prevent parties, assist guests with check-in, monitor activity at property, file claims, record check-in or check-out times, deter bad guests, etc.
   2. Inexpensive, $100 + $30/year subscription
   3. Hardwire or rechargeable battery options compatible with all houses
   4. Simple interface recognized by Airbnb support during claims
5. TV - Any smart TV with the following features
   1. Multiple HDMI ports (guests bring consoles and streaming devices to plug in)
   2. Smart TV, allows guests to enter streaming credentials and negates need for Cable subscription
   3. 55"+ for main TV, smaller risks occasional complaints
   4. Inexpensive, anything from Samsung, LG or even Hisense will do
6. Bed frame - any bed frame with the following features
   1. Non-upholstered as upholstery holds hair, oil, sweat and other fluids
   2. Has side-beams that sheets can tuck into, this is easier than tucking sheets under exposed mattress
   3. Does not require bed skirts
   4. Not too low to the ground or too high

Here are products that are a mistake to purchase:

1. Cordless vacuum, especially Dyson
   1. Lack power and require recharging
   2. Designed as a premium option for people who require infrequent small cleanings

Sept. 2022 my mom adopted a female feral approx 4-5 months old. She's not aggressive (in fact she's unusually gentle), but she's very very slow to interact with humans. My mom gets maybe 5 minutes of petting/combing a day. The cat has clearly connected with her, but is still kinda alienated. Like she'll clearly be wanting to jump up on the couch with my mom and get pets, but if my mom motions to indicate she can get pets, she's put off, and walks away. I've been around about once a week for hours at a time and if I look at her, she changes directions. I've never tried to grab her or do anything but give her treats, and 70% of the time even if I try to offer Churo treats, she seems very interested, but usually won't approach. Any ideas? Do I get my mom to pet her on the occasion she jumps up on her lap for pets, and then I move next to them and give her pets? She'd almost certainly need to be held from running as I move next to them. I'm a cat person and I've never experienced this cat personality.

Rental event at a school auditorium. I am the manager of the space, and the theater teacher. The rehearsals midweek are super chill, this company is easy, I turn on the stage lights and unlock the doors and they run like clockwork. They run sound from a portable speaker and don't even blackout between acts in rehearsal, so there is no tech in the booth till final dress.
4 hours into today's rehearsal, the wonderful owner of the dance studio pops her head into my classroom. "The lights onstage just went off."
I immediately jump up and start power-walking to the booth like a staffer on the West Wing. "Did the house lights flicker? Did anyone notice anything right before?"
Our light console is old. But our dimmers don't just die. Please don't let this be the day.
Entering the auditorium, I see, sure enough, all the stage lights dark and the house perfectly fine. Dancers standing around looking nervous. I walk across the entire house to the light board at the back of the auditorium. The console is on. Every channel at zero.
The master fader and submasters are all down.
I look at the dance studio owner, who has followed my serious walk this whole way, and point. "The faders are down. This was physical."
She looks at a woman next to her, who immediately shouts the name of a little boy in the dance group.
Mystery solved. We were all glad the answer was a human.
Someone needs to teach that boy to shout "going dark!" first.

Hello everyone, I need some suggestion about my technology change. I'm working as a ServiceNow dev for one MNC from last 2 years. Initially in training they told us that we'll get to choose the technology but after training completion I was thrown into ServiceNow domain. Although I was lucky enough to work on developing a custom application in that tool from scratch so it was interesting in start but not anymore. That project is about to be finished and I'll be moved into some other ServiceNow project. So rn I'm thinking of changing my career from ServiceNow dev to frontend dev, as I already have knowledge in javascript, react js, angular, html,css,etc. BUT, I don't have enough IT experience in working with frontend frameworks. In ServiceNow I've worked with js+html+css only. Recently I completed one react js intermediate level training courses from udemy and now I'm creating full end to end web app for getting hand on experience.
My main confusion is that should I change the technology or not because my current ctc is around 6lpa as ServiceNow dev and I'm market I can get around 10-12lpa easily in ServiceNow but I'm not sure sure about packages as frontend dev. Also I've applied for frontend developer jobs but haven't received reply so far. . I know it's a long post but need suggestions. Thanks in advance