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I am having a mobile body shop come to me to repair a dent on my car, but after checking with my landlord this isn’t allowed. As such, I’m looking to pay someone to let me park my car on their driveway for ~6 hours on a Monday so that the tech has a space to work.
Aside from Prked or Spacer, does anyone have any ideas on where to look for something like this? I know it’s kind of a weird request, but figured you guys might have some ideas. I’m in WeHo if that matters.
I (26M) dated a girl (30F let’s call her Jane) for about 9 months (sept 22). A few times early on she asked me what I was looking for and I’d always say I’m not really looking for anything. As time goes on we hang out a lot (3-5x a week) and we’re super comfortable and close. I never felt pressured or thought about establishing a relationship. I could sense jane like me a lot more than I liked her, she’d text me she misses me, try to plan dates, etc. I stopped seeing other people early March because I realized every time I was with someone I’d just think of Jane. I never told her that, because I was just going with the flow.
Around mid-late April Jane leaves her phone open in front of me with texts from a guy from tinder on it. I don’t say anything since we never talked exclusivity but it ate me alive the entire night and she asked me what is going on. I told her it hurt because I wasn’t seeing anyone and I just assumed after such a long time we were kind of on the same page and that she’s right we’re not exclusive so I can’t really say much about it.
We took a few days break, both felt really shitty and missed each other. She wanted me to be fully committed to her and monogamous, where I wanted to continue to date and be exclusive so I can allow my feelings to open up, I told her I can’t promise anything but that I want to see where it goes. She reluctantly agreed to be exclusive.. after about a week she told me she was unhappy because she compromised her values for me. We took another few day break because I didn’t want to continue seeing her if she was seeing other people.
We got back a few days later after we both really misssed each other again where we were dating freely again. (May 10ish)
Things were going well and I was allowing myself to open up and be more vulnerable and caring for her.
About 10 days later she leaves for a work trip for 5 days and is very distant with me the entire week and didn’t really want to see me when she’s back.
I was leaving Saturday before Memorial Day to visit home and told her I needed to see her before I left.
We had a discussion and she was overthinking our relationship and felt bad I was putting in more effort into seeing her in her neighborhood since she was so busy, rather than her equally visiting me. She was losing feelings and not sure if they were going to come back. She’s still seeing other people. We are both workaholics so we agreeed to put time aside from each other, I was looking to rent an apartment that would be an easier commute since I was apartment hunting anyway, we both wanted to make it work. She admitted she didn’t know if she even wanted a serious relationship with anyone right now, that she has a fear of committing and has self sabotaging behavior. She also admitted she missed having a honeymoon phase with heavy infatuation with me and it felt like we skipped it because we got so comfortable so quickly.
She felt super good after our talk we have super passionate make up sex, agreed to meet Monday on Memorial Day to explore the city and make date night plans for Friday night. Rest of the day and next day Jane texts me a lot and says she misses me and wish she could be with me in my hometown. We agreed on a time to hangout the next day.
Next day comes and Jane calls me that she doesn’t want to continue the relationship and that she lost feelings.
I sent her a long text and she responds she loves all our moments together, loves me as a human, wants me to be happy and loved.
A few days later I ask Jane to meet up and talk she agrees.. we tried to meet up Saturday, it doesn’t work for her any more. We make plans to meet Sunday… she texts me she woke up late, and will see how she feels after her workout class… tells me she needs a mental health day and “appreciates the flexibility”, we agree to meet Monday.
Later in the day I cancelled, because I felt like I didn’t really matter and was a chore, I told her I loved her (I never told her before), apologized for my fear of committing when she wanted me to, I wished things were different and her true colors are starting to show, I’m always open to talking but I won’t always be there like I am now. She responded “ok best of luck”
I went NC until I was drunk and texted her “I missed her in my life” She never responded and I can’t let go.
Any thoughts or advice?
Should i tell them. Itll just upset everyone and not change anything. I dont have the energy to get a job. Hardly the energy to eat. Havent showered or brushed teeth in months. Whats the point of this life? Be confused, work to make just enough to live, then die poor like 99% of people? Have kids? So i can pass on my health issues and mental health clusterfu k to them? What else? Work two jobs and overtime so i can put the downpayment on a house in 30 years? Buy a nicer car that needs repairs and costs money just to have? Travel? I cant afford the gas to go to fuckign taco bell
My family is tired of me "freeloading" and being "lazy". When my parents die ill get half of what they own but god forbid they help me when theyre still alive. Ssris help but didnt fix anything, makes my dick hardly work. Who cares anyway. I went to school, left, had a few jobs, all torture. The only things i look forward to are coffee and cigarettes.
I dont want to get a job. Ill do ok for a week out of fear of failure, then not be reliable employee, get fired and embarassed. I want to tell my family im suicidal so they can understand where im at and stop asking me to get abfucking job and saying "youll be so much happier with a job" and "youll feel so much better about yourself." So what does that say about me now? That i shouldnt feel good about myself because im unemployed? Thats the point of life? Have a job = success and uneployed = failure? Really? What a shit life
I dont want to end it and leave my dog bernie behind. Plus my parents would blame themselves. I dont want that. Considering being homeless so i dont have to see the disappointment in my parents and familys faces every day. If my family wasnt here id have kms by now.
Boohoo poor me, sorry to complain. I dont have anyone to talk to.
I’ve done so much work and made tremendous progress on my anxiety over the past few years. Now it’s all backsliding. 3 months after losing my dog suddenly, I’m having anxiety attacks again :( I just moved to a new apartment closer to the city to be able to see my friends and do distracting activities I love like taking dance classes and skating. I thought I found the perfect spot but within a few days I’m already dreaming of breaking my lease. My walls are so thin, I can literally hear people peeing, and I live next to a family that screams at each other. The teen was blasting rap and shrieking until midnight. I had an anxiety attack. It felt just like the fear radiating through my body when I was laying in bed with my dog waiting for her to have a seizure in the middle of the night. How did I get here in this strange new scary place without my girl? Weren’t we just snuggling cozy in my bed and everything was alright? I don’t feel I’m able to cope well. I regret moving, I regret everything, I just want to run away and hide. But then I know being alone in the woods is lonely and all I think about is my dog. I feel like I’m fucked up beyond repair and I want to give up. I worked so hard to not have anxiety attacks in the pandemic and I even had some completely anxiety-free months this winter right before my dog got gravely ill out of the blue. I’m just so tired and sad. I’m so tired of trying so hard to just exist. I don’t know what to do. I don’t even feel like I can be loud because the lady next door on the OTHER side apparently “complains about everything”. She’s a librarian lol. I need to sob and scream and instead I hide under the blankets and let other people’s rage wash over me.
I had my interview 1 month ago today, got approved, and my status changed to "Oath Ceremony will be scheduled" the same day. It's now been a month and no status updates.
I'm not trying to be impatient or anything, but I want to schedule some international travel and I can't do that until I know my ceremony date.
Is it normal for it to take this long?
I did my biometrics in Raleigh NC, but had my interview scheduled in Norfolk VA.
i recently moved out of my room in an apartment and my roommates had a replacement lined up already knowing i wasn’t gonna renew my lease. i gave them over a week to send my security deposit but with no word i reached out. they only sent me half of it and said the rest was needed for “maintenance” and this is extremely confusing since i did not leave the room in a poor condition at all. for starters, i was never even there out of a 8 month lease i was probably there a total of 2 months off and on. i never used the kitchen and i even installed a new shower head for them. in addition, my room was supposed to be 1200 since i took the single and they shared another as a double. but, they told me the price was 1300 and when were looking for someone to replace me listed the room as 1200. i asked them to send an itemized receipt of the supposed repairs. and that half of my deposit is ridiculous. any suggestions?
The 3 basic parameters of hashtag #Valzubiriagenda:
- We artists and everyone else can write and self-publish art- and artist-related books: memoirs, biographies, art books and art catalogs. Books are forever. Pamphlets and brochures are not books.
- We announce a schedule of increasing prices of our art pieces, which includes quantities (scarcity numbers) per price point and overall (the total quantity of art pieces we might ever make). This helps art traders, art investors and art collectors speculate or even stop speculating and instead join a community of investors working together to hopefully skyrocket to the higher announced prices in a shorter span of time.
- We can use the NFT world, because NFTs provide the tracking (who owns what) and trading.
We can also not be involved with NFTs. Stores and individuals can help sell art using online presence and our catalogs in the stores. If this trends, or once this trends, even expensive art can be sold by neighboring businesses, without exclusivity. Commission systems do not have to be standardized. Art investors can produce their own catalogs to leave at the cafés. Even the cafés can produce their own catalogs.
Valzubiriagenda NFTs NFTs only came about a few years ago. But I had been working on this since the 1990s. I wrote a book,
Valzubiriagenda, along with fellow artist
Silverio Perez, and released it in 2018 (Amazon and elsewhere), tackling everything related to #1 & #2. We'll come up with #3 in a later book/ memoi marketing book.
Any artist, including tangible artists can release 10,000 NFTs if the artist chooses to do so. For tangible artists, the NFT first becomes an Art Commission Contract for sight unseen, yet-to-be made art. Once the art is made, the NFT becomes proof of ownership that the actual, tangible art is theirs.
Warehousing our tangible art Another related idea is that the tangible art may be warehoused by the artist so that the NFT traders continue to trade. This means that even 10-ton 10-foot tall sculptures can be owned and traded by anyone without worrying about shipping, reshipping, scratches, smudges, parts breaking off, etc. The newness of the pieces remain because they are stored by the artist, source, gallery, etc. The art piece gets shipped to the art collector, the ultimate owner.
An artist who makes ceramic coffee mugs - smaller art pieces, can release 10,000 NFTs with a schedule of increasing prices so that NFT traders can trade immediately. The 10,000 coffee mugs can get damaged, so as they are made, they continue to be stored by the artist, until the time when art collectors decide to have the art pieces shipped to them.
Why only now? I decided to write as many book-length memoirs as I can before I came out to promote this.
I'm an artist and an author. Both need time to "master." I would not even fully use "master" on myself, because there's always something new, even to my own art, my own writing and publishing.
I am now claiming that I'm the visual artist who has produced the most artist memoirs in the world. I have 5 on Amazon. I count Valzubiriagenda as both a marketing book and a memoir-of-sorts, because it has a lot of my own life lessons on writing and publishing. I would not care to contest my claim of having the most memoirs. I will release 5 more over the next 3 years.
BARTER! Get help to write, photograph art and publish your books! Anyone can hire 11 ghostwriters for 11 memoirs. If you can make art, but you cannot write, then barter your forever art with those who can help you produce forever books.
I don't feel the pressure of writing and publishing because I feel my focus should be on art students and art experts who would study my art and my books 100 years from now. Don't expect relatives and friends to read your books.
I call myself the Dollman For my NFTs, I am proposing to make dioramas - my original, costumed, bejeweled porcelain dolls in backdrops that will also have precious metals and gemstones. This way I can incorporate precious metals and gemstones in my work, to make sure that people perceive my art as expensive, just in case I myself don't become "famous" - there's no need to get world famous. We are artists and all we need to do is to satisfy the art niche.
Use your laptop now! I will encourage you to start writing your book-length memoir. Write, Edit and then Self-publish it. Get help. Why wait a hundred years for someone to write about you when all you need is a laptop and a nearby coffee shop.
Don't start counting chickens before the eggs hatch. I have encountered a lot of would-be writers who immediately see themselves as bestselling. world famous assets to society. Two even wanted me to sign NDAs (Nondisclosure agreements), because they did not want me to steal their book ideas.
Here's a suggestion. I would not personally do it. From one manuscript can come 2 books: The Original Draft (unedited, with misspellings, considered to be an art piece, scanned pages(?) of your handwritten original effort), and The Final Edition (edited).
PROVENANCE! Another way to enhance our investability, tradability and collectability is
PROVENANCE - how art ownership proceeds through time. The way this can be done is also through publishing books. Everyone can write their memoirs, biographies, art books and art catalogs, including traders, investors and art collectors. In effect, we artists can continue to be included or mentioned in even more books, without any additional effort by us.
You as an investor, reseller, trader, art collector should be able to publish a catalog with 250 works by 250 different artists, but they need to agree to this right from the start - it's your money, you should require them to follow your version of the hashtag
#valzubiriagenda parameters, which preferably should include permission for you to publish their art. Why would you track down 250 artists later?
No exclusive contracts If you're a café, you can call for artists, and come up with a book with for example, 30 artists, with a chapter devoted to each artist's profile and images of the artist's art.
You can distribute your catalogs to businesses and individuals near and far and online.
The book
Valzubiriagenda even cites that funeral homes and janitors closets can sell art, with or without exclusivity. Airline catalogs can include million dollar art pieces. Car manufacturers, showrooms and even car repair shops can sell art as well. Everyone should be able to do this, anywhere in the world, especially not just because of the pandemic, but right now, we are in really bad economies.
What's with the name #Valzubiriagenda I was into conspiracy theories in 2018, and this term,
"The Mandela Effect," was popular. I had read many times that an artist coined the term, but I had to research online, for her name, many times, before remembering it. I'm not good at remembering names. It took me a year and a half to finally tell you that
Fiona Broome coined "The Mandela Effect."
I also thought I might have to research trademarks and copyrights just to come up with a generic name. So I decided on
"Valzubiriagenda." I was not really sure at first, but I decided to use it as the title for my book (with co-authoartist
Silverio Perez) so that there would be no turning back and I can move on.
Am I a FUTURIST? Someone I recently met this May 2022 just called me a futurist.
In the 1990s, I proposed to a pension fund that they can raise billions of dollars, especially for emergencies, or as needed, or out of desperation, if the pension fund purchases a quantity of art from an artist who not only has a current, reasonable price, but an announced future price that the artist wants to reach.
That future price would obviously be higher than the current price. The art commission contract for multiple art pieces can be taken to the fund's financial lender for a loan. The higher future price can be used for financing purposes.
The pension fund's treasurer, a publicly elected official, said this idea might work, but we had to keep this a secret and discuss this some more, because other pension funds might copy and do this prematurely. This idea had to come from the two of us. The treasurer needed his votes and I needed credentials.
Added into the pot was my idea that I, as the artist, will also write one book-length artist memoir. This was and still is a strong factor, because the leadership and marketing books I had read then mentioned a strong tip. If you want to advance in your field, write a full-length book that is related to the field.
Unfortunately, the elected official, the treasurer of the pension fund, who was also a friend, passed away - he was old and had ailments. At that point in time, I cannot just approach another pension fund treasurer to share this idea with.
I realized I had to write a few memoirs. I needed to set an example for other artists, so I needed to write more than one memoir. Then I felt I should also make ready another book - the how-to of what I'm up to. I wrote
Valzubiriagenda, which was a memoir of sorts. I knew how long it would take me to write a book, so I had to make sure I can also consider this book a memoir.
In 2008, I imagined that someone like Bernie Madoff, or a fund like Lehman Brothers, would be desperate enough to use this to save themselves and their companies. I was not ready. I had only written 1 manuscript for a memoir.
In 2012, I released
Dollman the Musical, A Memoir of an Artist as a Dollmaker. Once again, I was not ready because writing it depressed me a little, and I knew I had to write more.
In 2014, I released 3 memoirs, and re-released
Dollman the Musical. Besides releasing regular books, I released special editions of the 4 books, which had a
"Special Secret Insert for Bankers," which explains my ideas of an announced schedule of exponentially increasing prices, to satisfy investors, and the publication of artist memoirs, to satisfy art collectors.
In 2014, I also issued out a press release. Google
"Can Billion Dollar Artist Save Investors and World Economy Valentino Zubiri PRWeb August 19 2014" and you will see the press release.
What I did was stake a claim on my ideas. I did not promote my books and the press release. I just wanted them to stay online, like a sleeping giant or a dormant volcano. I even designed 3 of the book covers to look like indie books from the 1980s. I was planting the seeds, thinking they will eventually grow and bear fruit in the future.
In 2015, I was interviewed by
Richard Syrett, about one of my memoirs,
Hocus Pocus Lately. This book is my memoir with paranormal stories. I could have pursued promoting my paranormal stories, but I wanted to be known first as a visual artist and memoirist, so I allowed myself one interview related to
Hocus Pocus Lately. Richard Syrett has(had?) his own syndicated radio show,
The Conspiracy Show with Richard Syrett, about the paranormal. He also guest hosts on
Coast to Coast AM, another internationally syndicated show about the paranormal.
In 2018, I released
Valzubiriagenda (co-authored by artist
Silverio Perez, a fellow artist). Finally, this book is "the how-to of what I'm to."
I'm going to end this with some strangeness. In 1986, a lady at a religious gathering went into a trance and left a good number of messages. Supposedly, anyone who got into a trance would have messages, but once the trance was over, the person would not remember what was said.
I was not part of the group, but the lady turned her head to face me. She "foretold" that whatever I would decide to do in the future, it will take time, but it will be the right thing. This is one of my stories in one of my memoirs,
Hocus Pocus Lately. The Tulipmania of 1634-37 I discovered that there was this incident of rare tulips becoming collectible during the Dutch Golden Age. There were tulips so rare and so well-desired that their prices equaled to that of a house. You can read more about this online (Wikipedia) or watch a few YouTube videos about it.
Here is the most useful idea that I gleaned from the Tulipmania. The tulip bulbs remained safe inside nurseries. The traders were carrying the deeds of ownership to the tulip bulbs.
Then NFTs came to the forefront I started learning PHP, an HTML scripting language, and MySQL, the database that PHP can connect to in the background, in 1999, when there were only 3 books about PHP and MySQL at the bookstores.
By 2014, I was trying to figure out how to make the "ledger," or database that can be used to update ownership and who can be contacted. If we are trading art, then the art ownership should be updated.
Then NFTs came about. This can be used as our ledger. Everyone can immediately trade NFTs of future, yet-to-be made art pieces, especially because it takes time to make tangible art.
NFTs actually went a step ahead, by allowing digital art to be traded.
The only setback with NFTs, in my opinion, is that it still lacks a commission system for resellers and representatives.
For example, if a café wants to represent me, then they can promote me at their café and on their online pages. If I make one piece of art that will be exclusively represented by a gallery, then that commission will be different and more specific. As ownership is transferred, the subsequent owners should be able to reset the commission. We should also have the option of giving commissions to hundreds of representatives at one time with different percentages if need be.
The recent crypto crash Lately, we have observed that NFTs and cryptocurrencies have been behaving like the stock market and other markets. They have been fluctuating.
I believe that it is time for a trend which discourages fluctuation of prices.
I have also seen YouTube videos where social influencers are encouraging us to be on the lookout for exponentially profitable ventures, because we have all seen this happen with the exponential increase of Bitcoin and Ethereum.
Let's see if #Valzubiriagenda trends We can announce present and future art prices. The galleries won't do this (yet?) because they follow a more traditional approach to the business of art.
We have a choice of using incrementally or exponentially increasing prices. We still reserve the right to change things in the future, so everyone should know to follow the latest update.
If this trends, if you as an artist simply announces that you will write an artist memoir, or that you will include the future works in future art books, you might have more art traders, investors and collectors approaching you.
Get your pen, paper and calculator Imagine yourself as an artist, where you are right now. Let's just say you still do not have a book about yourself and your art yet. Imagine now that you have a memoir out there. Don't you think it makes sense to charge more than what you are charging now? Writing and publishing books is just the beginning. I'm just standardizing this approach. The books also say to do other related projects. In my case, getting
Dollman the Musical onstage is one idea. You will have other related projects, but the publication of memoirs, biographies, art books and art catalogs will help all of us.
You can also imagine that a law firm that has meeting rooms, with someone who wants to form a local #valzubiriagenda group, can have meetings. A local café can do the same. Local photographers for your art, writers, editors, book designers, proofreaders and others can join in.
I suggest have printed books to share. 15 copies of your memoir or art books will be better than an e-reader or laptop or your phone to show. These gadgets can be stolen, sabotaged, broken, have coffee spilled on them, etc. 15 printed books means simultaneously showing to 15 people. You can even give them away to potential resellers, investors, traders and collectors.
When it rains, it pours, as in the days of Noah There's a saying, "When it rains, it pours." There is a negative interpretation and a positive interpretation.
Negative: When trouble comes, they cascade to even more.
Positive: When opportunity comes knocking, more follow suit. We can assume that if one gets our art because of #valzubiriagenda, more want to do it now, because of the rising prices, and FOMO - fear of missing out. What will they lose if they miss the boat?
As I have said earlier, if the #valzubiriagenda trends, if you announce a future memoir or art catalog, you might have an increase of investors, traders and art collectors who would want to check you out. You might encourage more sales. Just remember to write and publish that memoir and art catalog.
There's this saying, "As in the days of Noah." Imagine Noah, building his ark, with members of his own family, putting all his time and effort into it. Noah was a nice guy. I'm sure every once in a while a neighbor offered him coffee, or chai latte, or whatever refreshing drink they might have back then.
Here's the lesson to be learned. Just because they offered him some type of bubble tea drink, or coca cola, they still didn't make it to the ark. Rubbing shoulders with actors does not make you an actor. I have told my artist friends to write their memoirs. They told me that once they see me succeed, after all these many years of seeing my seemingly useless efforts, then they will write their memoirs and follow the road that I had paved for them.
Good luck to them, but if I were you, act now, get my art or make art. Support the 5-year old artist whose parent promised to release a comprehensive art catalog. If you get that 5-year old's art, and mine, I would be honored to be in the same art catalog that you will produce. I'm already successful at that point. You have gotten the mission just right.
I have already claimed to have written the most book-length artist memoirs in the world. Dethrone that claim. Barter. Use ghostwriters. Success to me means facing God one day and saying, I wrote my memoirs and left the world a legacy of books and art. I will not tell God, smiling and proudly, that I encouraged a run for my art by announcing a schedule of exponentially increasing prices that reached 9 figures. I'm sure God knows we had fun.
JOIN THIS GROUP
If you want to try out #valzubiriagenda, in any capacity, join this group. Let others know about this group as well.
If you are an artist, you can let everyone know here that you will produce your memoir, art catalogs, etc. It's okay if you don't know how to go about publishing yet, I will discuss this. Please be honorable enough to produce what you promise to produce.
If you want to meet fellow artists, investors, resellers, etc., join us here.
If you are a book writer, editor, proofreader; if you can photograph art pieces; if you are a book designer, etc., join us here. Let us know if you charge, barter for art, or both.
If you have your own tips and knowledge to share, join us here.
If you have underaged artists you are managing (parents, etc.) join us here.
Join this group if you want to sell works. Post your works. You web links. I'm sure I will.
You can announce meetings in your area. You might have meeting rooms, a café, restaurant, etc. where people can meet. In the future, you can have the regular show and tell, where books can be shown and shared.
Thanks for reading. Please let me know if I need to edit some parts. Please share and join this group.
- Valentino Zubiri, Dollman, Artist, Memoirist Underaged artists are welcome here, so please be mindful of your language. We cannot post your adult-oriented art pieces, but you can direct us to a separate page or community. There will be limits to your posts, and there will be adult-oriented art that we cannot allow to be posted.
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Valentino Zubiri, Dollman, artist & memoirist At the moment I'm trying to figure out if I should switch to iphone since I'm coming from a samsung s21 ultra that died on me in barely two years. I'm very bitter about samsung right now since the repair cost is huge and the warranty expired two months ago. I'm seriously considering switching to iphone in the hopes that it will last me at least 4 5 years. The problem is... I see a LOT of people on internet switching from iPhone to Samsung s23 ultra and I am conflicted. I'm very much afraid that if I buy an s23 I will face the same issues as with the s21, but what are the chances that the same will happen with an iPhone? Is it more durable, does it have better software and hardware than the android? Ecosystems aside, I'm really curious if anyone got fed up with Android, since the majority of YouTube seems to favor it over the iPhone lately.
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Should I just cancel all my PT appointments until I’m 4 to 6 weeks postop?
I just picked up an insanely great deal on a Gazelle Pro (i7-4710MQ) but was told the center of the trackpad is worn. I'll be fine with using a mouse and saw somebody on one of the boards posted a script as a workaround, so I should be fine either way. But in your experience, is getting it properly repaired worth the expense? If not, anybody have recommendations on a mouse they prefer? All thoughts welcome...thanks!