Are you in (or near or frequently come to) TEXAS, which apparently is the cheating capital of the US, according to science?
And do you feel alone in this weird little world of cheating? Sharing in the comments of Reddit posts not enough to get what you need off your chest or to feel safe and supported? Have an AP but still want some friends (even an alibi partner or two)?
Well, bless your married little heart, there's so many of us out there that we've carved out our own little corner of the internet! We're a fun, women-driven online community for Texan adulterers to hang out, talk, share and feel at home - hell, since we're all close by, even to grab drinks or lunch!
We're focused on friendship, sharing and fun first, and AP searches second - though with a better-than average shot at finding a local, ¿porque no los dos?
And we're looking for more friends all across Texas - DFW, Austin, Houston, El Paso, East Texas, West Texas, wherever - who need a home.
Ladies, we want you if you're Texan, in a bordering state, or find yourself as a temporary one on the regular, and are looking for a community of supportive, sweet and fun women like us to make your way through this crazy world with. Whether we're your main pair of boots, or a fabulous supplement to your cozy favorites. Come find friends and fellow adulterers nearby: We have cold Shiners and local guys ready to make you feel at home, to flirt with and sweep you off your feet. And we vet hard and set rules - like dudes can't message the first week they're on, though you can hit them up - to keep it that way.
Guys - we are serious about community. You're going to wait a week before you're allowed to slide into DMs. You need to come ready to make friends first and not just hook up. You need to be a good guy who knows not to start a conversation with a dick pic. Bonus / front of the line if you've been in a community like this before, but mostly just need you to be someone we're happy to introduce to our girls.
Let's find some hope in a tough place, y'all - message for more details!

Hi everyone, recently joined, great sub with lots of useful information for people who want to move to another country and who are already expats! A bit of my background, I've been working remotely since 2017 and digital nomad since last December again. I'm female in my early 30s from the U.S. I spent 2, 3 months this winter in Thailand, mostly bkk and really liked it. But I'm not sure if I can move there full time because the dating scene is pretty terrible there for women, and it doesn't really have a tech scene. But there are many other advantages like quality of life, easy access to other countries in Asia, pretty easy to make friends if you try.
I'd like to hear your opinion/view on it, what would you do if you were me? And for women who moved to Thailand from the the U.S./Europe and Asia, what have your experiences been so far? Would you recommend moving there? TIA awesome community! :)

I’ve been trying to find more woman friendly/topics for women subs recently and it’s surprisingly kind of difficult to find ones where the community isn’t odd/toxic.
This sub I just happened to come across a couple months ago and the community here is genuinely so warm and safe, so thank you guys <3
And genre and type of sub linked would be perfect! It would be nice to get introduced to new subs

Other than Judith Butler’s Gender Trouble and Bodies That Matter, both of which I think every trans or queer person should read, I really love Jack Halberstam’s In A Queer Time and Place: Transgender Bodies, Subcultural Lives from 2005 and The Queer Art of Failure from 2011 and Susan Stryker’s Gender Outlaws. Currently I’m reading Julia Serano’s Whipping Girl and I feel like I’ve already read it because it has loomed so large in the discourse of our community since it came out in 2007, but too often she’s just erased and her ideas of cissexism and transmisogyny are treated like they just came from the aether; that’s not a dig at anyone, just a sad commentary on how trans women of colour are so often cast aside and made obscure, even if their work isn’t.

Hello gentlemen, apologies for dropping in as an XX chromosome. But I just posted this to that sub and I think it is something that should also be shared with you.
This is something I heard long ago, but has stuck with me with regard to the word “alone.” Which I think is something that can be pretty sensitive for guys for different reasons than it is sensitive for us women. See below:
There is a bit of wordplay that focuses on the word “Alone” - to be alone is not meant to be as stigmatizing as people seem to believe.
If you break down the word, Al One. And to properly spell it, the breakdown would be: “All One. “
An indication that in being alone, you can also be “all one “ - you can be all that you need to be for yourself. You don’t need anything from outside. You can provide all of the things that you need.
Loneliness doesn’t come into it. You can be the ‘all one’ of what you need to be all by yourself.
I don’t think this concept is discussed, offered or even brought up in the male community. And it really should be. Because they should be all one as well.
Two people who understand that they don’t have to look outward for feeling completely fulfilled inside, make for stronger, better partners.
So gentlemen, a challenge. Begin to be comfortable being alone, and do the work to be All One. Finding that you yourself can provide yourself with everything that you need.
Then you can approach relationships and partnerships with the concept of being equal partners, and understanding that the other person does not have to immolate themselves to be with you, because of all the things you need to make you not feel “alone.”
Make it a movement! Let it take over from the Tate “movement.”
I certainly have done a lot of work for myself in that space. And I am quite happy and currently “alone”. Certainly there are moments where loneliness peeps through. And that is normal and healthy as well. But I don’t have to dwell on it. I can just recognize it, and the fact that life would or could be better with a partner, but not at the cost of myself.

Reliq Health signs six contracts in Calif., Fla., Nev.

2023-06-09 09:06 ET - News Release
Dr. Lisa Crossley reports
RELIQ HEALTH TECHNOLOGIES, INC. ANNOUNCES SIX NEW CONTRACTS IN CA, FL AND NV
Reliq Health Technologies Inc. has signed six new contracts with physician practices in California, Florida and Nevada. These new contracts are expected to add over 3,000 new patients to Reliq's iUGO Care platform by the end of Q1 calendar year 2024, at an average revenue of $65 per patient per month.
"We are very pleased with our continued traction in California, Florida and Nevada," said Dr. Lisa Crossley, chief executive officer at Reliq Health Technologies. "The southern U.S. states are a particularly attractive market segment for Reliq due to demographics. With many older Americans choosing to move south in retirement, there is a very large population of Medicare-covered patients in these states who are eligible for Reliq's services. The three states where we have the largest number of patients -- California, Florida and Texas -- make up over 25 per cent of the total U.S. population, with over 90 million residents. The new clients will be using the iUGO Care remote patient monitoring (RPM), chronic care management (CCM) and behavioural health integration (BHI) modules to improve health outcomes and reduce the cost of care for their chronic disease patients. We expect to add over 3,000 patients to the iUGO Care platform by the end of March, 2024, through these contracts, at an average of $65 per patient per month with an expected 75-per-cent gross margin. All six practices will go live next month."
About Reliq Health Technologies Inc.
Reliq Health Technologies is a rapidly growing global health care technology company that specializes in developing innovative virtual care solutions for the multibillion-dollar health care market. Reliq's powerful iUGO Care platform supports care co-ordination and community-based virtual health care. iUGO Care allows complex patients to receive high-quality care at home, improving health outcomes, enhancing quality of life for patients and families, and reducing the cost of care delivery. iUGO Care provides real-time access to remote patient monitoring data, allowing for timely interventions by the care team to prevent costly hospital readmissions and emergency room visits.
We seek Safe Harbor.
Link: https://www.stockwatch.com/News/Item/Z-C!RHT-3420266/C/RHT

Hey everyone, new to this type of community forum commenting.
The reason my wife and I started going to therapy is because we are effective verbal communicators and have a great time talking to teach other, but my wife very much struggles to communicate compliments, flirtatious feelings, or lovable thoughts. She finds it difficult to want to be “in the mood” physically and has a tendency to lock me out of physical contact for a week or 2 at a time when she knows I have always been a physical lover. She used to be the same but after years has drifted away from showing physical or verbal love for me. This has been a point of contention for years and we finally decided to do something about it.
We started attending couples therapy for our marriage 3 weeks ago. We have had 3 sessions so far and have a 4th planned next week. The therapist has just said a few things that has made both of our eyebrows raise and even my wife is starting to think that this specific therapist may have some type of issue with me personally. She is an older lady who served in the Air Force.
Our first session she asked how we worked through arguments and communicated on a day to day. I’m extremely easy going, well articulated, speak from the heart, I speak honestly, but a soft kind of honest, not brutally honest. I incorporate positive communication skills I learn through various media and relationships coaching advice I come across. My wife says exactly what she feels she needs to say and doesn’t go into depth when talking about our relationship. She can carry a conversation for hours about the various feminine, economic, cultural, and societal issues, but simply asking what I mean to her is left with blank states and blinks. After telling my therapist this information, she described and I quote, “The pussification of man”. Saying that I needed to be more masculine. I described that not only do I compliment my wife in a variety of ways, but crush any insecurities she feels with overwhelming support. I am constantly trying to touch my wife in sexual and non sexual ways. I feel like I’m trying to do everything right, but the therapist said that I had too much feminine energy simply from hearing the behaviors I just described. She didn’t go into detail on how to be masculine, just that I was too feminine. She had very little to say to my wife the whole session, and made it sound like I wasn’t doing enough when my wife will tell anyone that I put in more effort than her.
Our second session we got on the topic of how my wife’s work was incredibly demanding, how she had to deal with coworkers who would verbally catcall or say things when she would bend over to pick stuff up (she’s in the army so guys are feral). My wife explained how she hates dealing with men like that, so me being soft is a feature, not a bug. The therapist then began talking about how society has everything backwards and will cheer for feminine men and masculine women, but that it “doesn’t work” in a marriage. She said that traditional gender roles give us guidance on who should be leading and initiating.
The 3rd session we talked about an incident that happened last weekend. My wife tends to drink a lot at parties and gets very touchy feely. We have had conversations about it repeatedly and I have told her it’s not a good look for a married woman to be touching and play fighting all over men. We had a close friend at the house and she was drinking and swimming with him. I have known this guy for years. He is my best friends soon to be brother in law, and my wife’s best friends brother. I went upstairs because as usual my wife was too touchy and I was frankly sick of having to ask her to chill. My bother was out there with them too, but went to bed because he was too drunk. The guy my wife was swimming with got black out drunk and assaulted her. He held her against a wall and stuck his tongue in her mouth without consent. She waited 2 days to tell me, but we dealt with it quick. We told our therapist about everything that happened, how we had conversations for years about boundaries before this and how I had already been asking her to keep distance at parties, and the first thing my therapist said was “why did you ever think it was okay to leave your wife alone with another man?”. Didn’t talk about my wife taking 15+ shots every party, being all over other men when I asked her not to, but kept questioning my actions. The entire session she focused on what I needed to do from now on and how communicating to her how uncomfortable it made me was the “single persons” way to approach the situation instead of the “married way”. She also told my wife what the guy did to her “wasn’t an assault” because our therapist had dealt with being raped and an unwanted kiss wasn’t really an assault if we just stopped viewing it as an assault.
After the session my wife said she was surprised because it seems like our therapist really has it out for me. I don’t over drink, I don’t flirt with women at parties or touch them, I communicate and do as many nice things for my wife as I can, but the therapist makes me out to be the issue. My wife wanted ways to deal with stress and be a better wife, but this lady is bent on taking shots at me. Are we wasting our money and should go elsewhere or is it just me that is the problem and I refuse to understand? Neither of us are getting much out of this. Small nuggets of advice, but she really hates my personality or something.

My PIMI husband (who i am leaving) live and breathe to make jokes about women or say things as bold as "women have it easy" "the Incel community are the way they are because they're treated bad" and my favorite "woman would rather chat with friends then have hobbies".......
AT THIS POINT I CANT tell if its the community we were raised it, social media, or personality. Which I hear things from the platform that are constantly sexist but they always twist it "I know this sounds harsh sisters but this isn't what this means" etc.....
I am a 25 F, (yes, a touch feminist for good fucking reason) a PIMO for the last three years. My husband, who I have deicide to divorce, at least if I'm forced to be a PIMO, I can be on my own rather then have a prejudice, sexist man PIMI breathing down my neck forever.
What do you think? Does the org unintentionally support this behavior? Are men my age a dying breed of just showing respect for struggle or women?

I know this one will be unpopular and I’ll likely be downvoted to shit for it.
All the signs were there that I’m a lesbian. I came out to myself in my early to mid twenties and fell in love with a woman in my mid twenties. I’ve dated a few women since.
However it’s not easy to find a soulmate. The dating pool for lesbians is small. And on top of that, with the political climate being heavy with lgbtqia+ currently, I have to see if our values even align. The lgbtqia+ is divided with many choosing to leave the community because of it. Lesbian bars/clubs have lessened to, what, zero is it (in the USA)? Lesbian dating apps are full of men and couples looking for a third.
Finding the sort of love I want is like nearly impossible.
About a year ago I met a guy. What I felt for him was platonic but at the time I was questioning whether I could actually be with a guy. I let him know before we started dating that I thought I was a lesbian. I’ve been honest with him throughout the whole relationship.
At this point in time I was honestly wondering if I was a lesbian or if I just felt disgusted by men because of how they are towards women. I knew plenty of straight women who didn’t like men but still couldn’t help their sexuality. So maybe I was just basing my feelings of men off of the patriarchy’s hold on heterosexual relationships.
So I gave it a try. And I’m definitely not into him the way I am with women. But it is nice having someone. It’s nice not having to wade through the mess that is lesbian dating. It’s nice having someone there to go through life with, even if it’s platonic.
I’m in my thirties. And I have to be realistic about where I’m at in life. He’s there for me in ways that I appreciate.
The woman I fell for was like lightning in a bottle. It was amazing. But was a once in a lifetime sort of love.
I’m sure people will be very judgmental of this. But I honestly want to have someone I can go through life with, even if it’s a platonic partner that’s a guy.

I will preface this by normally being 99% sure this girl would be into me but whenever something like school, work or church is involved I get a bit skittish because I would have to see them every week after lol. Because she's a regular member of our church, I'm really unsure of whether she's just being really welcoming so I feel comfortable because I mentioned i'm newer to the city and that I didn't have too many good friends. Another factor is that we are both minorities (Korean) and one of my friends said its possible that's another reason why she's also being really friendly as there aren't too many who live around us. I've also not dated anyone since the end of college because I've been moving around a lot, which really contributes to my nervousness and uncertainty about the situation.
I've been going to this smaller church for a few weeks and apparently she's a regular member for years but had been out since this past Sunday. There was a barbeque happening afterwards until around 7 and while everyone was eating and playing volleyball and such, we sat out and just talked for a few hours with her and another one of her friends. Seemed like the vibes were good so I asked her for her socials. She mentioned she went to a local gym so I dmed her the next day asking her for details and it was just a short conversation, but then she ended up double texting me around nighttime about a topic we talked about during the bbq. I gave her my number and we've been talking every day since, anywhere from 2-4 hours a day. The conversations at night would always be me saying for her to let me know about something, such as if she were gonna be free the next day and she has been messaging me first around midday and just leading it into a conversation, where we would text intermittently while at work then nonstop around dinner til we both sleep. We met in person yesterday to gym together, then ended up walking to a couple cafes for a few hours just talking until I had to leave for another scheduled dinner. We were supposed to have a dinner today because I'm flying out of state until next week but she ended up having to reschedule for next week which was a huge bummer for me.
While that all sounds great, there's a few things making me apprehensive. For one, I just started attending the church just a few weeks ago. I didn't intend on going just to meet women, but the situation just sort of turned out and I really don't wanna look like the dude who just strolled in to "pick up chicks" and leave. I've been told a lot have the looks of a fuckboy which really doesn't help which is why I'm being cautious and it's a good community that I don't wanna start off on the wrong foot. Because of that, I would really want to be 100% sure before I start actively pursuing this, as I tend to get consumed kinda quickly by crushes and I wouldn't want myself to go through that for someone I misinterpreted feelings from. I also threw out some flirting fishing lines, like when mentioning upcoming movies or shows how I would love to watch them but didn't have anyone to watch with or when talking about drinking or smoking how it would be nicer to smoke with someone else but never really get the response I'm used to lol. She also brought up a her exes a couple times in passing which I felt normally wasn't an amazing sign (nothing crazy, just how we bumped into him at church and a couple funny stories).
However, I can't ignore how it feels like we're literally texting nonstop past 7 or 8 and she instantly replies and our conversations are deep and meaningful. We're both fit and fairly attractive mid 20s Koreans. Our meeting on Wednesday in person was a 1-on-1 at the gym where we saw a couple of our church friends but she insisted that we just work out with each other and didn't mind being seen working out together like that, and the cafes afterwards really felt like a mini-date though neither of us said it was and I was too nervous to go for a hand hold or anything like that because at that point I've known her for literally 3 days. She asks me about things normally I would associate with probing a relationship, like our astrology compatibility/mbti types etc, and has asked about my height (even though we've hung out in person twice by then lol).
What do you think of the situation, and also how would you proceed? Remember that we've known each other since literally just this sunday, and I don't wanna make it look like a hit and run at church but at the same time if there is something there then I don't want to just let it fizzle out because at this point in my life I'm hoping to settle down with someone.

I’m very liberal myself and quite a radical liberal at that. I am very involved in my local queer community as most of my friends are queer themselves so I try to be be best ally I can be. I personally don’t think I agree with having trans women in women’s sports. As a female who grew up playing hockey, I have played against trans athletes and they absolutely dominated, it was actually scary going up against them. This is the only time I haven’t been supportive of trans inclusivity because I feel that including the minority will ruin sports for the majority. This feels like it’s very contrary to all of my beliefs but as someone with personal experience playing against trans women,this is how I feel.
Im curious about what other liberals think about this issue? Also, please keep it respectful, not everyone has to agree on this (it is a controversial topic) but we can still be respectful.

An actor everybody is pretty much somewhat familiar with, Rowan Atkinson that plays Mr Bean recently made an about 10 minute press release speech and statement. It was directly concerning the freedom of the people of the United Kingdom to merely express themselves, to perform the very human act of communicating and sharing. https://youtu.be/xUezfuy8Qpc
The fact that the U.K is unfortunately by law a tyrannical state that dishes out criminal punishment to anyone who says anything anyone finds offensive, no literally they actually have laws that get you arrested for posting normal song lyrics and other mundane normal usage posts. It's from a recent yet slightly older law from 25 years ago, and it enables anyone to be charged with hate speech for saying or since the advent of social media posting anything anyone ever finds offensive.
I wish it were otherwise but unfortunately these authoritarian tyrannical laws are also present... in Australia and you have probably forgotten but they were on full display in 2019... when the Pharmaceutical companies became the wealthiest and most profitable companies on Earth... the same companies that sponsor Political Parties,... and Television advertisements,... Social Media companies (like the one your on now) and literally run the tests and produce all medical scientific papers (studies, theories, hospitals, physicians on payroll, fund entire hospitals and livelihoods... etc. etc.) The best example I can remember of the absolute Tyranny Australia was under is a case whereby a pregnant women in Victoria was arrested for writing on a Facebook post that she was against lockdowns and supported the protests against them... the Police came and arrested her... for 'Hate Speech'... it luckily enough got picked up media companies (TV stories and articles). Luckily. So the police, after dragging this pregnant woman kicking and screaming out of her apartment (not exactly literally) let her go without charge. Only out of the fear of public ridicule and hatred that would have emerged. She was lucky that happened. Very very lucky. And there is no way she should have had to have been 'lucky' for merely making a post on Facebook. Had it not been picked up by media companies, that pregnant woman could have still been in prison to this very day (though possibly and likely house arrest or community service).
America simply does not have this problem as written into the very constitution as the 1st Amendment to their constitution by the founding fathers in all of their wisdom, intelligence, good faith and if your religious like they where, filled with divine enlightenment wrote it such that the Government in America has no ability to write any law to restrict people's rights to express themselves (Freedom of Speech), restrict the press (because back then they lacked smart phones, social media and all modern technology, which should be obvious but perhaps it is not and is difficult for people today to even begin to imagine life back then despite it being very loosely similar to today's world) and finallu restrict people's religious freedoms (written in reverse order to this because they were all wise God loving, humble, noble and brave men.
America's 1st Amendment is the only Freedom of Speech law written into its very constitution in the entire world, it is the reason that America is referred to as 'Land of the Free' and the second part of that phrase, 'Home of the Brave.'. As for protests, peaceful assembly had always been constitutionally protected, not violent assembly so riots and revolution is still very much illegal and is met with lethal counter force every time. [As a side note, if peaceful assembly fails to prevent America becoming a Tryrannical State, then the 2nd Amendment is the fail-safe. As the wisdom of the founding fathers literally argued and intendeded]
Australia does not have that phrase and frankly I feel that every Australian that knows that, feels a deep unspoken, subconscious shame over that fact and far more importantly that all Australians simply do not have the constitutional right to even speak their minds freely, as every human being alive desires.
As Rowan Atkinson stated 'Hate Speech' is not real. It is a term used to silence, censor and remove power from whomever those in power disagree and dislike or are offended by. There are seemingly endless examples from history of the evil deeds of enactment of those disliked by existing powers for example, Galileo (ostracised and persecuted by the church and all religious folk for merely stating he believed that the sun was the center of the Galaxy and not the Earth), Nikola Tesla (defamed by the work of Tomas Edison and countless people trying to claim his inventions as their own by way of patent theft and lies for the purpose of advertising like don't by an American organisation NPR over the discovery of radio), (Jesus Christ himself by his crucifixion by my Ancestors, the Romans) and as the last example, the NAZI's by locking up any intellectuals that disagreed or dared critisize any of their doctrine and propoganda, their torture of anyone condemned for death by way of countless sadistic and grotesque torture methods, and some though quite few, for scientific discovery purposes, their burning of the books followed in time by bodies, and lastly their brutal slaughter of the Jews, no evidence of wrongs but only stirring words and speeches from their beloved demagogue, Adolf Hitler and gigantic amounts of absolute propoganda distributed to the masses, orchestrated by NAZI Propoganda Chief Joseph Goebbels and his team. (Which every highschool student should have, though potentially didn't, have already learned from Highschool History class, at least in every Public School, Private Schools may be permitted a different curriculum.) Offensive caused by speech has only 1 solution. More Free speech, Rowan Atkinson a famous actor that has probably more wealth than this entire subreddit conveyed this message, and it would seem as an absolute truth as far as I can tell.
I have written this in hopes of sparking and pasing wisdom and knowledge into whoever needs to have read this. And hopefully you will pass this type of message on yourself from now on. Australia needs the Right of Freedom of Speech written into its very constitution. As demonstrated during COVID19 it needed it years ago but now even more than ever.
And to those that would say it will do nothing but allow mass disinformation, manipulation and mislead people, I would say this, history has proven you absolutely dead wrong on that statement and sentiment, the only solution to offense from speech is more Free Speech and if you silence, censor or try more modern trends of the same kind known as deplatforming or cancelling, then all you do, all you achieve, everything you are trying to stop will only be made stronger, more resilient and more popular then ever before. As examples, take Jesus Christ, he has the Roman equivalent of being hung drawn and quartered, he was crucified, publicly executed like a lamb to the slaughter to send a message of absolute obedience being required to the rest of the herd. Yet because of that Christianity exploded and has been far more viral than COVID19 or any viral video has ever been to date. And for modern times look at Tucker Carlson, deplatformed by pressure from Pharmaceutical companies, lawsuits from shitty voting machine companies and pathologically idealogically fanatic ex employees in lawsuits. Tucker Carlsons show on Fox was the most popular show on Fox News and it drew in about 2 million people every night to watch it... after he was fired... is now getting 35+ million on the regular after he started up on Twitter. I do so imagine that actuall that will be an understatement in the coming future as currently he's on his 2nd episode ever. The 'Streisand Effect' in full unbridled, unstoppable force.
Every Australian deserves the right to express themselves freely, meaning free of all Government persecution and all possible Government and legal persecution. This is and has always been a left wing idea, as the rule of Tyrants; Dictators, kings Pharaohs, Caesar's, Shoguns, Kahns, Lords, Nobles Knights and Emperors have always, always been majority perpetuated by people with conservative temperaments, whereas free thinkers, creative and imaginative people are the minority of people perpetuating the rule of Tyrants.
We here in Australia critisize China for authoritarianism and tyranny when there is weakness in our own ranks. 'Those in glass houses should not throw stones' - some famous person, 'never lay cannonfire on your enemy with a glass cannon' -me. Western countries, especially our home country Australia's true colours, true laws and beliefs of of Australian people were broadcasted for the world to see during covid. And they paint a very dark authoritarian picture of our nation to the world, something China is more than smart enough to take advantage of... and much to our chagrin they are and have been since Covid ended for us. Chinese propoganda, their Television Channels, all Chinese State OWNED... all of them constantly bring up how Australia, England and America all were even worse if not just as bad as China was during Covid19, and as the best and most convincing propoganda always is... its harrowingly mostly true. (Only, partly mostly thankfully) but domestic Chinese TV isn't the most important propoganda outlet taking the easy win by using our sins in their propoganda... no, that would be the Confucius Institute in Australian Universities. China's unelected ruling communist party (communist in name only these days, just a full bull authoritarian tyranny is their ideology nowadays) main propoganda outlet in Australia is a Chinese University group called the Confucius Institute (I could be wrong about the name and I've spent too long writing this to be bothered to look it up). They target young, impressionable Chinese men and women when they are studying abroad in Australia's universities, our most popular young adult Chinese attraction, I dare say, maybe even 'Global young adult Asian attraction' as I once met a man from Tibet who said exactly that in a course I had to take for my construction job (white card). The Confucius Institute goal is promote CCP propoganda via demonising the way Australia and all Western countries are so that as few young people ever believe in the ideals of Democracy and want to return to China, such that the CCP can perpetuate its tyrannical rule over China forever. Idealogically brainwash 'loose ends' - Mafia Terminology if you understand. They thanks to what happened to Australia under the Lib/Nats Coalition 2019 to late 2022 they distribute and spread half truths about Australia and countless other lies about every part and aspect of life in Australia as well as pay members of their organisation to organise pro China protests, (sign holders and chanters) in Australian Universities, footage of this circulated sparsely in Australian media and articles during 2014-2018 roughly though probably a bit before too. They actively seek out and target specifically ethnically Chinese and often try to emotionally blackmail them, incite fear into them, speak exclusively their propoganda to then and rarely but almost certainly literally blackmail them using the threat of violence, torture and death of their families back in China. Naturally there's no direct evidence of that claim except for Chinese Father and Husband in England that was blackmailed (husband of high ranking shipping Port official wife) they abducted his wife and child and forced the wife read a script to the husband over the phone (utilised emotional and physical blackmail and just directly veiled and unveiled threats, I recommend you look up interviews from the husband) and if you look up the articles of the Confucius Institute from IDK 2011-2018 and have the ability to interpret from what the articles found you can tell the Confucius Institute, only has 1 purpose, to try and perpetuate the CCP's rule of China and stop and protest against their rule, specifically stopping Tiananmen Square type protests from ever happening again. The Tianamen Square Massacre was a global well known proverbial black eye to China that severely hampered every nation's diplomatic relations with China for close to half a century, and the CCP didn't like that as even Tyrants love swimming in money, also the CCP loves stealing technology through trade espionage, China's MAG Lev trains and their entire car industry is built off stolen technology from Western companies dumb enough to deal with companies owned by the CCP. Naturally the Chinese who have been or are being 'convinced' by the Confucius Institute are always the biggest promoters of Anti Freedom ideas, especially the death of Freedom of Speech via hate speech crime laws such as: incitement of violence laws (Victoria mainly), offensive Tweets, Facebook Posts, Instagram Posts,,, Goddamn Reddit posts all hopefully being made illegal and the Liberals God awful rich persons almost exclusive digital world referee, The new E-Safety Commisioner. And like all the God awful Tyrant Commissioner's from TV shows and books if the E-Safety commisoner ever... EVER gets in the hands of the Liberals again it will be used against the normal people of Australia to beat the collective will of normal free thinking Australian's to the ground if not to death. Only complete dumbass Liberal Supporters usually dumb beer drinking sky news watchers (usually fossils) and Young Adult Chinese University Students support ANY of the laws and speech referees I just mentioned.
Again please war h the video I linked at the tiop and if the Politcal State of the U.K interests you for whatever reason then I recommend: Count Dankular (his second channel) the first person in Scottish History tried and found guilty of 'Hate Speech'... from a freakin comedy video. Where he's mocking the very thing they charged him for supporting [funny pug salute video as a direct hint]), Jonathan Pie (excellent wit, fantastic satirist and insult wordsmith wizard, also very yelly, I like him) and lastly full Aussie Jordan Shanks himself, the namesake of this subreddit, FriendlyJordies. Whenever he actually gets round to covering the U.K his analysis is excellent.
Also a guy from YouTube channel Sargon of Akkad though... fair warning, his videos are really boring but he is quite very articulate.
All Australians deserve the Right of Freedom of Speech. And unfortunately, on Reddit in particular I see far too many Tyrannical Speech Law sympathisers which I personally find truly disgusting and as much as I hate the authoritarian ideas you spout, I will defend your right to say and spread them. If your a real FriendlyJordies fan or agree with his ideas and rhetoric than I already know you support all Australians Right of 'Free Speech'.

I am NOT OP. Original post by u/lazybear90 in tifu
Hi all. This is my first time posting here, please let me know if I made any mistakes.
Trigger warnings: none I think
Mood spoiler: overwhelmingly wholesome
Original post: May 26, 2023
This happened in February of last year, but my friends have been telling me I need to post this story online … so here goes nothing:
My wife and I (both 31 years old, at the time) moved into a new three-unit apartment building in San Francisco. One of our neighbors is a 70-something year old retired veteran, we’ll call him Joe. For context, Joe is a white American guy and he’s also a devout Hindu priest. One day I run into Joe in my hallway, and he tells me about this charity he manages for a community in Bangladesh. I wanted to support my neighbor and the charity, so I ask Joe to send me the GoFundMe link.
The next day at work, I go on the GoFundMe page and donate $150. Or so I thought. Moments later, I get a text on my phone warning me of an unusually large transaction on my credit card. I’m confused and swipe to open the text message. It says I have made a payment of $15,041 to GoFundMe. Immediately I’m sweating. How could I have donated FIFTEEN THOUSAND DOLLARS? I spend the next 10-15 minutes retracing my steps, and finally I realize my credit card starts with the numbers 4 and 1. It seems I had accidentally started typing my credit card information while my cursor was still in the donation box, and just like that 150 became 15041. Yikes.
I call GoFundMe’s support line in a panic, and when I finally connect with a human I explain what happened. “No need to worry”, he tells me, they will initiate a refund of the transaction which should process in 3-7 business days. That’s a huge relief. But then I ask the agent if the charity will be able to see the donation on the GoFundMe page until it is refunded. “What do you mean?” the agent asks me. “What do YOU mean what do I mean?” was my response. “Will they be able to see the $15,041 donation?!” Unfortunately, yes, the agent tells me. They will be able to see it until the refund process is complete. I tell him that’s a big problem, as the entire GoFundMe had hardly raised that much at that point. Surely they will notice their fundraiser doubling overnight?
My plan was to knock on Joe’s door the following morning to give him the full story, so that he could pass it along to his contacts in Bangladesh. But when I woke up the next morning, I looked at my phone and saw I had 40+ notifications on Facebook. Someone had sent me a friend request, had liked many of my old posts, and had sent me many messages. Immediately I was concerned when I saw that the individual messaging me had a Hindu name, but I never could have imagined what I saw when I opened his first message…
The man had sent me a video of himself from Bangladesh, surrounded by dozens of impoverished and hungry people holding bags of food, thanking me BY NAME (Michael) for my generous donation. A big round of applause for Michael. At this point, I’ve leapt out of my bed and I’m pacing. Part of me wants to scream, part of me wants to crack up laughing. I start swiping through the man’s messages, and it is picture after picture after picture of poor Bangladeshis thanking me for my kind donation. Literally hundreds of photos of frail, elderly, disabled, and malnourished individuals holding signs with my name. Thank you, Michael. Thank you, Michael. I've uploaded a portion of the video, and a few photos, for you guys to see here: https://imgur.com/gallery/tROXniV
Editor's note: Photo descriptions
1: a screenshot of the GoFundMe page with Michael's $15,041 donation made and highligted.
2: a video of people holding food bags, and a man in the middle saying thank you to Michael.
3: two men with their food bags, with a sign that says "Thank you dear Michael for your kind help".
4: eight people with their food bags and a sign that says "Thanks dear Michael for your kind".
5: a lot of people gatherered, holding their hands in the air with their food bags at their feet.
6 through 11 contain different people with their food bags and one of the previous signs.
12: several people gathered for a selfie taken by the man from the video who thanks Michael.
13: same picture as 5.
14 and 15: more people with their food bags and the same signs.
Needless to say, I couldn’t live with myself just donating $150 after seeing how the community responded to the $15,041. I decided the least I could do was to add a zero, and so I donated $1,500 once the original donation was refunded. The charity’s host was incredibly gracious and understanding, and he explained to me that $1,500 goes very far in Bangladesh for urgent food relief. Here is the charity’s new GoFundMe link if you want to check it out: https://www.gofundme.com/f/urgent-food-relief-assistance-in-bangladesh
Ultimately I think the whole experience was a win-win. I helped a great cause, and I got a funny story out of it.
TL;DR: Some impoverished folks in Bangladesh thought I had sent them $15,041 but it was an accident and I had to request a refund for most of it.
EDIT: Many are asking why there is no $1,500 donation listed in the fund’s donation history. I donated to an old campaign link for the same charity. It is readily findable online, if you feel compelled to search for it.
Update post: June 2nd, 2023 (one week later)
PHOTO Updates: https://imgur.com/a/8Rv1LoZ (I assume the first of many photos to come in the following months)
Editor's note: Photo descriptions
1: Several Bangladeshi children holding plates waiting to get food, some are holding signs that say "Thanks Reddit". Caption: Thank you Reddit! These are just the first few photos I've received from the team leader, I'm sure there's so much more to come.
2: Similar to 1.
3: Similar, but with a sign that says "All this thanks to Reddit".
4: Similar to 3.
5: Women holding a sing that says "All this thanks to Reddit" with bags filled with fruit at their feet.
6: Same as 2.
7: A screenshot of the GoFundMe showing the number of donations prior to the Reddit post (26). Caption: Donations prior to my Reddit post ($12,500 or so, at that time)
8: A screenshot of the GoFundMe after the post. $63,301 were raised by 2.1K donations!
Caption: Donations as of this posting.
9: It's a conversation between Michael and the Team Leader (TL for short) in Bangladesh (named Shohag Chandra Das). The conversation is as follows:
Michael: I posted the story of my accidental donation on Reddit, when I donated 15,041 when I meant to donate $150.
TL: If I would know by your kindness what is the full form of Reddit.
Michael: People thought it was so funny and it went viral. Reddit is a community social media website. The story got 30,000 views, and the GoFundMe link was shared with everyone.
TL: Yes we 17 team members of Bangladesh realief Are now can hope to see a new future streagth We were hoping our program will be closed due to fund lacking
Caption: Messages from the local team leader in Bangladesh.
10th photo to 13th photo: More screenshots. I'll transcribe them here:
TL: Four emojis with a sad face and a tear. I have no words to praise you that what results your little gesture has brought for millions of needy boldest people in Bangladesh. AND DEAR SIR MILLIONS OF THANKS FOR YOUR KIND EFFORTS BY SHARING THiS FOOD DISTRIBUTION POST IN rebbit.com ,,its a strenghts for thousands of needy people and hungry children even we are seeking permanent sponsor to bear the cost of 20 accurate orphanage children for their rejoining into the school because they have lost their father now they are unable to manage the cost of educationg fooding ect ,,but no one was agreeing for this educational projects. Rebbit.com
TL: millions of thanks for your kindness dear sir i saw you have done it Michael sends a link to Reddit.com.
TL: Then this results has come. And million of thanks to you dear sir, to message me after looking this greatest news.
Then TL proceeds to send Michael lots of other photos of Bangladeshi people containing them eating, them holding their food bags and selfies.
TL: 17 total team members working in 4 districts under BR. But I have sent some pictures we are working in Bogura Office. But in 4 districts 17 young boys and girls doing part time jobs in our institute. Dear Sir. I am informing you because our institute getting a strong shape world wide.
14: A screenshot of the original GoFundMe page showing the $1,500 donation Michael ended up doing. With this text "My original $1,500 in donations on the old campaign page, since a lot of people were looking for this".
Caption: Some people were looking in the donation history on the campaign's new link to verify I actually made the $1,500 donation I claimed to have made in my story. The $1,500 donation (pictured) was made via the OLD campaign link
Last week, I posted one of my life's most embarrassing stories on TIFU, about the typo that caused me to donate $15,041 to a Bangladesh charity instead of the $150 donation I intended. At the time of my Reddit post, the charity’s latest campaign had approximately $12,500 from 26 total donations. My neighbor, the organizer of the charity, had told me the charity was running on fumes and looking to cancel some of its programs.
Of course I had hoped some Redditors might read my story and decide to help the charity, but I NEVER could have expected the overwhelming reaction nor the incredible generosity of the Reddit community. “Watch this post blow up, and a shit ton of Redditors donate” was one of the first comments the post received on Reddit. And that is exactly what happened. Over Memorial Day Weekend, the charity raised over $55,000 from over 2,100 new donations.
On Saturday, I had to explain Reddit to my 77-year-old neighbor and to the charity’s team leader in Bangladesh (he called it Rebbit, as you can see in my pics). They were absolutely blown away by the reaction – truly they view it as a miracle. I received the following message from my neighbor: “Without a doubt, this is the biggest wave of support to arrive since we started! Doors that were closed can now be opened. Plans that were parked can now be put in motion. There is much we can now accomplish. All due to your idea to post (in a funny way) on what happened a while ago. Abundant resources require an equal level of responsibility. No less. I am committed to see that these funds are applied carefully and continue to make a difference to those who need it most.”
Sometimes things just seem to work out for a reason. One Reddit donor commented, “Michael may have screwed up his donation, but hopefully his TIFU on Reddit has fixed that somewhat.” Thanks to Reddit, the Bangladesh community will receive roughly 4x the amount of the original donation I had refunded.
TL;DR: My embarrassing story of an accidental $15,041 donation (and refund of $13,541) goes viral on Reddit, Redditors raise over $55,000 for needy in Bangladesh!
EDIT: Holy cow someone just donated $5,000! Thank you, Anonymous!! Hopefully you didn’t mean to donate $500… it could happen to anyone. Charity link in comments and original post, if anyone else is interested!
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Editor's note: If this gets posted I will be really happy that my first BORU post was this level of wholesome.
Reminder - I am not the original poster.

Hello everyone! Two weeks ago I started experiencing severe lower left abdominal pain to the point where I could hardly think straight. I ended up going to the ER, where after a normal ultrasound, transvaginal ultrasound, and an MRI, the gynecological surgeon found a 9x13 cm mass on my right ovary that had caused left ovarian torsion.
She was uncertain what it was, and her initial guess was a dermoid cyst. I was taken into emergency surgery that evening where they performed an exploratory laparotomy, which ended in them removing the tumor along with my right ovary which was engulfed by it. After surgery, as I was coming to, she explained to my BF and I that she suspected it was something known as an “ovarian fibroma” which is a very rare benign tumor of the ovary, but that cancer couldn’t be ruled out until the pathology reports came back. I began digging into what an ovarian fibroma is and it was not very reassuring during that week of waiting for my results. It occurs primarily in post menopausal women (I’m 24), and only accounts for 4% of ovarian tumors. The size was also quite large. I was convinced I had cancer of some sort.
Results came back, they diagnosed it as a benign ovarian fibroma. Woo hoo!! At my follow up meeting with my surgeon, she went over the results with me, but didn’t get into the nitty gritty aside from it had low cellular activity which is good, and that it was in fact an ovarian fibroma. All things considered, I felt like I got a second shot at life and was thankful the course ran the way it did. My mom died from malignant melanoma at 37, and I was convinced my life was going to take a similar course. I also struggle with bad health anxiety as an obvious trauma response to my moms early death.
I proceeded to convince myself in the days following that the pathology report is actually wrong, and that I may have been misdiagnosed with a benign tumor when in fact it may be something like a fibrosarcoma. I have no reasoning for this other than the hospital that I had this procedure and pathology done at is in a relatively small town area of Vermont. I am driving myself insane, and need some reassurance that I can trust the physicians and lab technicians who diagnosed this very rare tumor. Also any insight into “ovarian fibroma”, or coping skills, etc. thanks for reading <3

Hello everyone! Two weeks ago I started experiencing severe lower left abdominal pain to the point where I could hardly think straight. I ended up going to the ER, where after a normal ultrasound, transvaginal ultrasound, and an MRI, the gynecological surgeon found a 9x13 cm mass on my right ovary that had caused left ovarian torsion. She was uncertain what it was, and her initial guess was a dermoid cyst. I was taken into emergency surgery that evening where they performed an exploratory laparotomy, which ended in them removing the tumor along with my right ovary which was engulfed by it.
After surgery, as I was coming to, she explained to my BF and I that she suspected it was something known as an “ovarian fibroma” which is a very rare benign tumor of the ovary, but that cancer couldn’t be ruled out until the pathology reports came back. I began digging into what an ovarian fibroma is and it was not very reassuring during that week of waiting for my results. It occurs primarily in post menopausal women (I’m 24), and only accounts for 4% of ovarian tumors. The size was also quite large. I was convinced I had cancer of some sort.
Results came back, they diagnosed it as a benign ovarian fibroma. Woo hoo!! At my follow up meeting with my surgeon, she went over the results with me, but didn’t get into the nitty gritty aside from it had low cellular activity which is good, and that it was in fact an ovarian fibroma. All things considered, I felt like I got a second shot at life and was thankful the course ran the way it did. My mom died from malignant melanoma at 37, and I was convinced my life was going to take a similar course. I also struggle with bad health anxiety as an obvious trauma response to my moms early death.
I proceeded to convince myself in the days following that the pathology report is actually wrong, and that I may have been misdiagnosed with a benign tumor when in fact it may be something like a fibrosarcoma. I have no reasoning for this other than the hospital that I had this procedure and pathology done at is in a relatively small town area of Vermont. I am driving myself insane, and need some reassurance that I can trust the physicians and lab technicians who diagnosed this very rare tumor. Also any insight into “ovarian fibroma”, or coping skills, etc. thanks for reading <3

Welcome to Free Talk thread! Talk about...anything!
These threads will go up at 10am ET every Friday and be stickied throughout the week unless other posts take priority (AMAs, megathreads, announcements, etc.)
We'll list some other leagues that are in play right now (or in the near future) and the relevant communities you can check out
If you want to trade, swap, or share your NWSL trading cards, use this thread.

Other women's soccer leagues broadcast in US

Mexico - Liga MX Femenil - /LigaMX or /womenssoccer

• Select matches broadcast on TUDN and Fox Sports in the US, channel varies by team. Check here for up to date broadcast schedule

England - FA Women's Super League, Championship, and more! - /FAWSL

• Select matches broadcast on Paramount+ or CBS Sports in the US (some of these also on Atafootball), rest for free on the FA Player

France - Div. 1 Femenine - 1 Match a week broadcast on ESPN+ - /Ligue1
Australia - A-League Women - Matches broadcast on YouTube - /Wleague & /Aleague
Here's a list of various women's leagues from around the world you may be able to watch
Other women's sports leagues to discuss

• /wnba - Broadcast on various channels/sites: ABC/ESPN channels, CBS Channels, and NBA TV.
  
• /phf & /womenshockey (various leagues)
  

After years and years of telling myself I’m not attracted to other women, hearing my moms Catholic teachings in my head (she’s Catholic, but accepting), and feeling the roller coaster emotions of suppression, I’ve become comfortable with who I am. It’s helped my depression and anxiety, which has helped me to lose weight and not smoke so much weed to numb the emotions. I feel so much lighter and free. I’m happy! And I’m a better mom because of it.
I’ve never been with another woman, but maybe someday I’ll have the opportunity to explore that side of myself. Until then, I’m just happy that I’ve found a community that accepts me for who I am. And you even have a Discord :D
If any of you are struggling, please don’t ever be afraid to message me. You can vent, I can give advice or just listen, whatever you need. My DM’s are always open.

Source: Growing Up in the Lord: A Study for Teenage Boys (Ch. 7, 1994)
If you haven’t done so already, you will soon decide to take a girl out on a date. Dating a girl is a good time to enjoy the companionship of someone else. Women have a different perspective on life.
When you take different girls out on a date, you have a chance to see who is available. You also have a chance to firm up in your own mind what you will be looking for in a wife. Most boys go through a phase where they cannot stand any girl, except mothers who are tolerated within limits. When these boys reach adolescence, they quickly realize that girls can be interesting.
Taking a girl out on a date gives you a chance to practice getting along with women. Girls do not enjoy being treated the same way you treat other boys. The time you spend dating gives you a chance to learn how to act around a girl.
You need to be choosy about whom you will be going out with. Some girls will understand that, because you are a Christian, there are certain things that you will not do. Many girls will enjoy the fact that they don’t have to be constantly on their guard while they are with you. However, there are girls who will use every opportunity they can find to try to get you to do things that are sinful. It is a challenge for them to see how far they can get you to go. For your own soul’s sake, you are better off not dating such a girl. David warns us, in Psalms 1:1, not to associate with sinners. By continually exposing yourself to sin, you are tempted to commit a sin. That is why Paul said evil companions will corrupt your good morals (I Corinthians 15:33).
Group dates are a good way to start out dating when you are young. If you pick your companions wisely, there will be fewer temptations in your way. A group gives you a chance to get acquainted with several people at once. You can also observe how the other guys treat their dates. Perhaps your first date won’t be so awkward when it is shared with others. Some good outings with a group may be to go bowling, play a few rounds of putt-putt golf, go canoeing, have a picnic and play softball or volleyball, or gather a group of young people together after church to eat ice cream.
Before you head out, spend some time thinking about what you will talk about during your date. In our society, boys tend to think and talk in terms of actions. Girls tend to think and talk about feelings. For example, if a boy and a girl were talking about an Olympic event, the boy would be interested in the score and the types of moves the athlete made. The girl would be interested in how the athlete was handling the stress and the athlete’s reaction to the scoring. Neither viewpoint is good or bad. They are just different. It is those differences that make conversation on your first date so difficult. Spend some time thinking about what you would like to know about this girl you are dating.
One day, all too soon, you will begin dating to find someone suitable to be your lifetime companion. If you want a companion, you must learn to be companionable. Talk about your interests and find out about hers. Do you enjoy similar things? If the two of you don’t have anything to talk about, what would marriage to such a person be like?
Make plans for the evening in advance and let your parents know where you expect to be. I know that many of you would rather keep your plans between you and your girlfriend, but you never know when an emergency may come up. Telling your parents also gives you a chance to see if your plans are respectable and appropriate. If you are too embarrassed to tell your folks, then perhaps you are planning something that a Christian ought not to do. Continue to carefully examine your motives.
Once you are out on your date, avoid changing your plans at the last minute. Don’t let your emotions lead you to making a little detour to a quiet place where you can be alone with your girlfriend. It is a great temptation to go too far when there is no one around to see what you are doing. Don’t go parking in the dark. Even if the first few times you don’t do anything shameful, it is continually tempting to go a little farther and to get a little closer. If you want time to talk, find a well-lighted place with other people around. It will encourage you to act respectfully. Finally, don’t spend time at your house or hers when no one else is around. Many boys and girls find their own home comfortable and safe, so they relax their guard and do things they would not do in public. Most teenage pregnancies come about because a boy and a girl had sex at home. Somehow, people convince themselves there is no harm done if no one will see them. Don’t let Satan fool you!
In a few years, one person that you have dated will stand out among the others. You will find yourself going out with her more often than anyone else. You may even decide to stop dating anyone else. Dating only one person is called “going steady.” Going steady with a girl for a while is a logical step before asking her the big question. It gives you a little more time to finally decide if this is really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Just don’t rush into it too soon. You can’t make a good decision if you only dated one person your whole life. There are plenty of years ahead of you, so don’t limit yourself to one person too soon.
You know you are ready to go steady with a girl when you have dated other girls but you prefer this person’s company over everyone else. When you want to spend more time with this person and dating someone else will interfere with your time, then perhaps it is time to go steady.
However, if you feel pressure to date one person exclusively because everyone else is doing it, then you should reconsider. Some boys rush into going steady because they fear there won’t be anyone else. This is another poor reason to go steady with a girl. There are hundreds of girls in the world with whom you could happily live. Don’t get the idea that there is just one right person for you. Take your time. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, so don’t rush the preliminary stages. Another bad reason for going steady is to hold on to a “good catch.” Some people pride themselves on having the prettiest or smartest girl in school as their exclusive girlfriend. Remember our discussion about the pride of life. Date a girl because you like her and not because you like the admiration of the other boys.
As you get comfortable with that special girl, keep in mind that there is a real temptation to take liberties with her that you would not take with other girls. Now is not the time to break God’s law because you allow your emotions get the better of you. Far too many teenagers allow their emotions to flare and find themselves tempted to have sex during their date.
A common excuse given for having sex on a date is that you need to find out before hand if you are compatible or not. You could have sex with any girl. How familiar you are with having sex has nothing to do with compatibility. You should not be looking for a bed partner while you are dating. You should be looking for someone to share the rest of your life with. Once you and your girlfriend are married, you will have plenty of opportunity to learn how to have sex. There is no benefit gained by breaking God’s law and having sex before you are married.
What is Love?
I’ve often told you in this book that various feelings and reactions are not love. Having an erection doesn’t mean you are in love. Wanting to have sex with someone doesn’t mean you are in love. The actual act of sex is not love, although it is called “making love” in today’s slang. To understand what love really is, we need to turn over to I Corinthians 13:1-7.

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become as sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophesy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. I Corinthians 13:1-7

Paul is explaining what true love between Christians is like. The description also beautifully describes what the love between a husband and wife should be like.
When you love someone, you are willing to put up with their faults. You understand that people make mistakes and that changes take time, if they come at all. Even when she says something mean to you, you will only return kindness back. Love involves trusting the other person with all your heart. You don’t envy her when she gets a big promotion at work or is honored for the things she has done in the community. Instead, you rejoice with her. A loving husband doesn’t boast about how good he is and ignores his wife’s accomplishments. What you do is much less important to you than what she does. If you truly love someone, you won’t say things that will hurt her feelings. She is much more important to you than your own concerns. As a result, you will keep a tight reign on your anger and not lash out when things don’t go your way.
Loving couples don’t accuse each other of wickedness. Too many marriages are broken because the husband saw a man leave the house or found some note and immediately leaped to the conclusion that his wife is having an affair. However, sometimes it is obvious that sin is taking place. When this happens, a loving husband will stand firm with the Lord. He will do everything possible to bring his wife back to the way of righteousness.
Being in love means you are optimistic. You are always hoping that things will get better. That hope helps you to get over the many rough times that you and your wife will face together.
Most of all, love doesn’t fail. Planning to marry someone for a time to see if it will work out means you are not in love. You don’t fall in and out of true love. Love holds on through good times and through bad times.

The Difference Between Love and Infatuation

Many people confuse being infatuated with someone for being in love with someone. Each of us has a mental picture of the ideal companion. That mental picture is usually based on various physical attributes. She should be so tall, with a pretty nose, brown eyes, etc. Occasionally you meet someone who closely matches your mental ideal. You get excited and believe you have fallen in love at first sight.
This is not really love, but infatuation. You can tell the difference, because infatuation dies over time. I guarantee that while you are moonstruck with a girl you won’t believe that it will ever end, but it usually does. As you get to know the girl and find out about her likes and dislikes, you realize that she is not as perfect as you imagined her to be. The word “imagined” is the key word. You have no idea what a person is like when you first meet them. Getting to know a person takes time.
Over time an infatuation will either die off or be replaced by true love. When you are truly in love, you will be aware of a person’s flaws, but you have made a rational decision that you can live with them. A person who is infatuated with someone will either be totally unaware of the flaws in that person, pretend that those flaws are not there, pretend that those flaws don’t matter, or believe that they can change that person over time. The last attitude can be disastrous for a relationship. People do change at times, but it is not very often and it is rarely because someone caused them to change. People change themselves because they want to make the change. When you choose a woman to be your wife, you should look at who she is and not who you think you can make her into. If you do not like who she is today, you are taking a big risk thinking she will be different tomorrow. In other words, if she doesn’t change before marriage, then she certainly won’t change after marriage.
Talk freely with your intended companion. Some men are afraid to tell their girlfriend everything they are thinking for fear of driving them away. If your true thoughts would drive your girlfriend away, then the two of you were probably not cut out for each other. Both of you would be better off looking for someone else. Nothing could be worst than to find out you have made a lifetime commitment to someone who can’t stand you.
In summary, true love is based on reality. Infatuation is based on fantasy. Before committing yourself to someone, make sure you both have a firm grip on reality.

A Small Exercise

Take a sheet of paper and write down the things that you hope to find in the woman you will one day marry. Is it important that she be good looking? Does it matter to you if she is taller than you? Do you hope she is a good cook? Should she like children? How many children do you hope to raise? Give it serious consideration and don’t base your answers on someone you are dating at the moment. It would be better to work on this when there is no one in particular competing for your heart. Talk to your dad or an elder or the preacher about it, but make sure that it is your list showing what is important to you.
Try ranking your points. What is the most important? Which things would be nice, but really don’t matter that much?
It may seem a little early to start thinking about whom you plan to marry. After all, marriage is still several years off. However, if you know what you are looking for, then when you finally meet the girl of your dreams, you can be confident that you are making a sound decision that you will never regret.
Have a rough list done before you start chapter 8. Through the years, continue to revise your list. The things that are important to you at 13 may seem childish at 18, so continue to think about these things.

https://www.saltwire.com/newfoundland-labradonews/local/government-of-nl-releases-request-for-proposals-for-new-affordable-homes-in-the-rental-market-100861622/
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• The provincial government of Newfoundland and Labrador has issued a request for proposals to create new affordable homes in the rental market.
• Over 1,000 housing options have been created in the past two years.
• The government has allocated $70 million for a new three-year affordable rental housing program in Budget 2023.
• The program aims to develop over 850 new affordable rental homes in partnership with the private and community housing sectors.
• The focus is on supporting seniors and other vulnerable populations, including young adults, Indigenous peoples, persons with disabilities, newcomers, women and children fleeing violence, and homeless individuals.
• There are two application streams: private-sector and community housing sector.
• Successful proponents will own and manage their projects, renting to lower-income households at or below rates established by the Newfoundland and Labrador Housing Corp.
• Funding levels will be determined based on project location and incentive criteria.
• The capital cost of projects varies based on geographical location, with land, labor, and materials influencing costs.
• Projects can involve new construction, conversion of non-residential buildings, or additions to existing residential structures, with a minimum of four units required.
• The community housing sector stream can receive funding for up to a maximum of 20 units.
• The private-sector stream may receive per unit funding for the first 10 units and 50% of the units thereafter, up to a maximum of 20 funded units.

Never thought I'd be making this post. I'm only seeking advice on how to emotionally handle this situation because I'm the type whose face is an open book.
Back in March, I (27F) had a family visit (as hundred others) for a proposal. I was emotionally exhausted, and the abuse at home seems to have triggered by rage issues and depression. As this was one of the many families who my mother invites without my consent, I met with them, hoping for the best.
I do not like them. They are materialistic and judgemental people. Those were my first impressions.
They made us travel 3 hours mid Ramadan to meet us again (different cities) and were less than courteous throughout the meeting.
After much insistence on my mother's part, she's tried to force me into marrying every single guy she could get interested in, she controls the process and I'm in a deeply narcisstic relationship with her.
After much asking, the guy came to the women's side for like a minute. I was very disappointed, I'm being brutally honest. The pictures are deceptive. I'd seen his bio before, it is common to lie about the height in my community, but this was a stretch. He looked completely different.
I cannot tolerate people who lie to be honest.
His side invited most of his immediate relatives. We were outnumbered by 2:12.
He asked how our Ramadan was going, apoligised for making us travel and that's it. I don't know why I was so offended over this but don't people bring something to the house when they come along?
They did not. They've asked all about our whereabouts to verify about us but ofcourse my parents won't do their due diligence and get to know the guy.
My only hope was having a proper conversation with this person but since that did not happen. I thought not much would come out of it because my mother only once mentioned they'll be visiting us in August again and then take a decision.
My parents have and will lie. I feel guilty writing such bad things about them but they've done worse. I cannot say no because things turn abusive and my mental health is at the edge of a cliff.
I've gone from praying duha everyday to missing fajr. So faithwise, I'm at a loss too.
Today I overhear a conversation between my father and the guy's father. It was out of the blue, they are fixing wedding dates. The guy's father was convincing my father to book the same venue for a discount.
I do not want this kind of a wedding. I've always made it clear I want a simple nikah but I guess that's expecting too much when them asking for my consent for the person itself is out of the question.
I don't even know how to react to this. At the moment I'm completely isolated and have no one in my family to reach out for help. My mother's side are a slice out of television drama.
A couple friends know about my situation and one of them offered to help me leave my family last year but I did not take her up on that offer because I hoped Allah would make a halal way.
That even though the entire process has been haram, Allah will perhaps send a compatible spouse.
I'm at a loss honestly. My parents are pretending as if they've been transparent about this all along when they've been as silent as possible on it.
I have no way to contact the guy. Hell, he does not even have a LinkedIn.
Unlike every other time I did not argue with my parents, did not do my istekhara (or maybe I did, my memory's been all over the place with all the istekharas I've had to do), I just gave up this time around. I guess I was hoping this one would work out eventually, after meeting him again but what is this?
Is this normal in desi families? Am I missing something?
Please tell me there's hope for kheir. I don't know what I want to hear, as much as I hope nobody had to go through such hell, is there anyone who's been in this scenario. How do you advice I handle this?
Edit: I know you all mean well about moving out but its a lost opportunity now. As for finances, I'm financially constrainted, my savings from my first job were sacked. I was not allowed to work for 4 out of the 6 six years since I graduated. Last year, I'd found a good job and all, but my mother forced me to quit. I'd prefer keeping the details vague. Finance was also one of the reasons, I did not move out. I'd be for the streets in SA. Some of you may go check my profile, so might as well say it, my mother MOVED countries to make me quit my job. I was on my father's visa in the Gulf.
My life last year was just getting dolled up for a new family every other day. I couldn't find work either. Part of it is my fault, I just kept hoping Allah will make a way.
I'm currently back in the Gulf. I'll be going back to my home country with my parents in August. As I type this out now, it feels pre-planned for some reason.

https://www.saltwire.com/newfoundland-labradonews/local/government-of-nl-releases-request-for-proposals-for-new-affordable-homes-in-the-rental-market-100861622/

• The provincial government of Newfoundland and Labrador has issued a request for proposals to create new affordable homes in the rental market.
• Over 1,000 housing options have been created in the past two years.
• The government has allocated $70 million for a new three-year affordable rental housing program in Budget 2023.
• The program aims to develop over 850 new affordable rental homes in partnership with the private and community housing sectors.
• The focus is on supporting seniors and other vulnerable populations, including young adults, Indigenous peoples, persons with disabilities, newcomers, women and children fleeing violence, and homeless individuals.
• There are two application streams: private-sector and community housing sector.
• Successful proponents will own and manage their projects, renting to lower-income households at or below rates established by the Newfoundland and Labrador Housing Corp.
• Funding levels will be determined based on project location and incentive criteria.
• The capital cost of projects varies based on geographical location, with land, labor, and materials influencing costs.
• Projects can involve new construction, conversion of non-residential buildings, or additions to existing residential structures, with a minimum of four units required.
• The community housing sector stream can receive funding for up to a maximum of 20 units.
• The private-sector stream may receive per unit funding for the first 10 units and 50% of the units thereafter, up to a maximum of 20 funded units.