I met my ex in 2012, right after he turned 20 and I had just turned 30. I had only dated and been with women exclusively until I came out as bi-sexual at 28. Let’s just say the year I was 29 was a busy year making up for what I missed out on. It was mostly casual hookups (yes, safe) and I did try dating 2 different guys for a few weeks, but it just never worked out or got serious. I kinda figured that I’d probably end up marrying a woman or not getting married at all because I just didn’t see myself catching romantic and sexual feelings for a guy. Then I met Ryan. From the first date it was just like the only other time in my life I had fallen in love…butterflies, constantly thinking about him, wanting to spend every moment with him. He fell for me hard too and we became an item, though he did say while he considered my bisexuality a turn on, because he had a thing for straight guys, it also gave him pause because of my desires for the opposite sex and his concern it may lead me astray. I thought about it and understood it was a legitimate worry, but assured him that I couldn’t even think about anyone else because I was really into him. Note: I knew he was the one by the end of the first month and I was in love, but I wasn’t going to say these things too soon and risk scaring him off.
On our first date he admitted to me that he was legally blind due to a genetic disorder and that it was progressive and eventually he would only have a sliver of his peripheral vision. He immediately said he understood if I didn’t want to see him again because no other guy had wanted to date him and be his driver all of the time. I grew up with a brother in a wheelchair who never learned how to walk or talk due to misdiagnosed meningitis at 6 months old back in the 70s. I told him that and said that what my brother had was a severe disability, so in my perspective, his blindness had no effect in my feelings and that always being the driver was a small sacrifice just to be with him.
The following years were bliss. We brought out the best in each other. My family who was surprised, but very supportive when I came out, adored Ryan and treated him like family and said that I acted happier since we’d been together. When I met him he was working part-time in retail and had done very poorly in high school because he lost a lot of his confidence as his vision deteriorated. I told him that one thing I did insist on was that he do something with his life because he had too much to offer and that I would help. He said that he’d wanted to be a teacher but didn’t think someone with limited vision could teach….nonsense. So I put him through community college for 2 years, then 2.5 years of a local university and finally the 1 year teacher certification program as required by California. I drove countless miles and paid hundreds in public transportation costs for him, never blinking an eye or complaining.
We’d been together for 7.5 years and were engaged to be married in October by the time he was in his last semester of his teaching certification which involved him student teaching at his former high school with his favorite teacher from his days in school. Then the pandemic hit and schools closed. Fortunately he’d had enough hours in the classroom that he would still qualify to be certified after the Governor issued a waiver via executive order. On the 3rd day of the stay at home order in March my life crumbled when I innocently found out he had cheated on me with an ex all because he handed his phone to me to show me something on Instagram. I accidentally fat thumbed the back arrow when he gave it to me taking me back to a list of all his messages. I looked and recognized the name of his ex as the second message, dated a week ago. I clicked on it and my heart sank. Directions to my house, pictures, dirty talk, and reassuring him not to worry about me because he had my location on my “Find My Friends,” just in case I came home from work.
I immediately started screaming demanding to know everything and he admitted to having his ex over twice for sex and that they didn’t use protection (his ex was engaged to his gf during this, adding another victim). Then he admitted to sleeping with his straight but curious recently single cousin (by marriage) twice, again no protection. Finally he admitted to sleeping with a supposedly straight guy he and many of my cousins went to school with who I told Ryan I really didn’t like him or want them talking because I didn’t trust him after what I'd read about him. Since they were never close friends I didn’t feel like this was a big sacrifice or that I was being too controlling AND I assumed that he knew why I (and all my cousins) felt that way, but didn’t bother repeating it. The reason was after high school at age 20 this guy was convicted of sexual assault and penetration with a foreign object against a 16 year old girl and had gone to jail and required to register as a sex offender for life. Apparently my ex was the only person in his graduating class that hadn’t heard that news. All of this happened in my home while I was working. We spent the whole weekend crying with me asking over and over why and him repeatedly crying and saying he just didn’t know and that he felt terrible.
Monday comes around and anger started being as common as sadness and I made a comment that said I was going to pull all the phone records going back the 3 years that AT&T kept them (for a fee). Only when he heard that did he admit to one more guy. Some random named Frankie off the gay hookup app Grindr who was the first guy he cheated with and continued to casually hookup with for nearly 2 years with the last time being in February (the month before). He told me how it started. Get this – it was the DAY AFTER his graduation with his BA in May 2018 and he was drunk from celebrating and wanted to have sex. I too had been celebrating with him and said I was too drunk to perform and said I’d make it up the next day, then passed out asleep on the couch. Apparently he was “angry horny” because he downloaded Grindr, chatted with this Frankie fellow and arranged to have sex in his car in a church parking lot across the street from our condo (which happens to be across the street from a school…this fact is important later), all while I slept on the couch. All the times they hooked up after that was again in my condo while I was working or visiting a friend for the night up the coast (he used to love going but started saying he couldn’t occasionally because of “homework” and “studying.”
I absolutely lost it, told him to get in the car and I drove him to his family’s house so he could tell them what he did so they understood why he was moving back into their house. While he was in the house I was in the driveway on the phone with AT&T ordering the 3 years worth of detailed call/text logs, then made an appointment to be screened for STIs. I suspended his service until he could figure out how to pay for his own damn phone, then , deleted the social media accounts he cheated with and to make sure he couldn't hide more evidence I temporarily changed all his passwords so only I would have access to his cloud. I also called the bank and issued a stop payment on his final tuition check that I had sent to the certification program the week before and hadn’t hit the bank yet. Before deleting his social media, except Facebook, I took screenshots of the entire Instagram conversation with his ex and mailed the conversation to his fiancée, who deserved to know so she could see a doctor and get tested too. His family was very religious and had kicked him out in high school for 3 days when he tried to admit he was bi and only took him back in when he took it back. Needless to say, she ended it, he got kicked out. ONE DOWN.
He came back out to the car and we went home. I took his house key and told him to say goodbye to our 3 pets and get packing. The entire time he packed I studied those phone records to find out dates, times and if there was anyone else he was leaving out. He answered every question I asked and it was then that I discovered that the sex offender and he had only had oral sex in my home and that the actual sex was in the same parking lot he screwed the Frankie guy in.
The wheels started turning and the next day I went over there and sure enough spotted a camera. I spoke to a secretary at the church and informed them about a registered sex offender having sex in their lot and that not only was it a violation of his parole for indecent exposure, but that he was not allowed to be that close to a school and I provided the date. I was in luck! They had a digital two year loop system that started deleting day by day after it had been retained for 2 years +1 day. It was April 2020 and he first cheated with Frankie in May 2018 and the sex offender was in April 2019. I told them I was filing a police report and that probation would require a copy of it eventually. They said they would save the file and allowed me a thumb drive of both days to submit with my police report. Within a month the sex offender was locked up again. TWO DOWN.
I also filed a police report against the Frankie guy. The police said it was a relatively minor infraction but since it was across from a school playground and skate park they would follow up but there would be no jail time. I researched the hell out of Frankie and called him to confront him. He was smug and admitted to knowing about me the whole time. What he didn’t know is that I had found out he had a job that required a security clearance and he had several judgements against him and collection agencies had been looking for him. I didn’t know why they couldn’t find him and just garnish his wages, but it ends up he was Hispanic and had two last names and was a Jr., plus he frequently by his middle name Francisco, Frankie for short…so he got lost in the paperwork confusion. I sent a letter to the collection agencies providing his employer and current location and contact info and then sent a copy of the police report about misdemeanor indecent exposure for which he pled guilty and it was a fine with community service (not considered a sex crime). His wages did get garnished, but only for two paychecks because the misdemeanor was enough for him to lose his security clearance and get fired. THREE DOWN.
Then I contacted Ryan’s family on his mother’s side pretending to be him from his Facebook account making sure they knew he had fucked his cousin. It spread through the family like wildfire and soon his cousin was contacting me because he couldn’t get a hold of Ryan to ask why he would expose what they did. I just laughed and said you shouldn’t screw your cousins, especially when they’re engaged and that he’d messed around in my house, so now it was my turn for payback. FOUR DOWN.
Lastly, I had already stopped payment but since he was so close to finishing I was sure his family would bail him out and pay the university. Like I said, indecent exposure is usually a slap on the wrist type misdemeanor. However, I remembered some of the paperwork he signed to be a mandated reporter that you could lose teaching certification for “documented acts of moral turpitude.” I sent a copy of both police reports from the parking lot with still shots from the security footage clearly showing Ryan’s face to the school district he’d been student teaching in and a copy to the Commission on Teacher Credentials. FIFTH AND FINAL DOWN!
Admittedly, I did all this out of anger but he shattered my sense of self-worth and made me incredibly bitter and untrusting after years of being generous and supporting him. Everywhere I looked in the town I thought of Ryan and the cheating. I felt a terrible energy in my condo knowing it all happened there. I stayed 9 months and watched all 5 of their lives self-destruct. Then sold my condo (making a nice profit) and relocated to the PNW to start over. One thing that is sad is I found out just recently that his ex-who’s fiancé broke up with him ended up committing suicide several months after I moved. It is too bad that his family was so closed minded to turn on their own son, but in the end, it’s not my fault that he cheated on his fiancé by coming into my home at my fiancé’s invitation to cheat. Suicide is never the answer to ones problems and I hope the fiancée he cheated on doesn't blame herself and that only his family does (as they should).
TLDR: I emotionally and financially supported my ex through college and his teacher credential program for over 7 years only to discover he had cheated on me with 4 different guys, one of them the day after he graduated and then occasionally for nearly two years in my home while I was at work. I took my revenge: My ex lost his career before it even started and our relationship, one AP (affair partner) lost his job and had bill collectors after him, another lost his fiancée and was kicked out, a third was humiliated when his entire family found out he had sex with his cousin and the fourth was put in jail for a violating probation. Lesson: Don't Cheat and Deceive.

Tldr at the end
Basically I’ve been told that I’m most likely on the spectrum but that my autism is mainly overshadowed by my adhd and above average "intelligence" I wouldn’t call it that but basically I learnt every social cues and body language thingys.
I did 4 years of Theater and learnt all of these things, I also got really into law and poetry when I was 7-11 and so learnt a lot about tone and use of speech. I thought everyone had to learn that kind of stuff given how bad kids were at understanding relationships vs adults.
I never thought that people could tell how anyone is feeling just based on instincts I always analyzed everything, so much so that I don’t really think about it anymore.
Most people consider me to be very emotionally smart and even got a friend who was pretty impressed and a bit freaked out when he told me about some of their characters and I just guessed the exact characters’ arcs just based on their personnality.
I’ve always seen social interactions as a game like "life is strange" where you pick what you have to say while constantly weighing the possible outcomes it will have.
When I first meet someone I almost always ask them to play "would you rather" or just ask them hypothetical questions so I can know what kind of person they are and know how to act. I observe and analyze everything, how the person talk with people they’re comfortable with vs how they talk with people they’ve told me they’re not found of, so I know if they’re pretending to enjoy a discussion or not.
I was doing pretty okay until last year, I got a fairly big friend group and thought it should make me happy.
It did until it didn’t and I got sicker and sicker, always more frequently. Until I got diagnosed with a severe depression
It’s only recently that I’ve realized that all of that energy spent on just analyzing people is what exhausts me.
The more people there are the more unpredictable the conversations are, my brain just can’t follow everything, and I keep analyzing everything, Instead of focusing on what the person is telling me, I’m focusing on their hands wondering if they got their calluses from climbing or something like that that could be a potential subject of discussion.
My therapist told me it was incredible and amazing, that I didn’t struggle with social situations unlike most autistic peers
but I disagree, yes I understand and read people even better than most neurotypical (because honestly they don’t really try often to understand others they usually assume and never fact check anything) but the cost on my health isn’t worth it. Also it took me 4 years of learning like a robot shit that I was supposed to do like blinking or breathing? I constantly get told that I shouldn’t think about it, that conversations should just flow but I can’t. But when I do,
I get sick, I puke, I can’t sleep
Because having friends is exhausting me?? And I’m an extrovert, I get energy from friend groups but I can’t turn my damn brain off.
It’s ridiculous but the more I spend time alone the more it’s proven to be true.
Tldr: I don’t struggle with social cues but it exhausts me to analyze everything and Idk if I should just stop having friends.

I am playing FO3 for the first time in 8 years, & I have to say, my return to Point Lookout has been really disappointing.
Small Guns 100, Finesse, Better Criticals, Action Girl, using Ol' Painless/Lincoln RepeateBackwater Rifle/Terrible Shotgun/Reservist Rifle & battles are still just the Lone Wanderer backpedaling in a circle unloading dozens of rounds to unarmored heads with no slowing them down.
Dudes are taking 15-20 direct hits & still landing Ax swings on me??
& I hate how you can't cancel VATS in 3, the game just lets you plug away at a wall if the enemy moves behind it after executing. Crippling legs does nothing to the Swamp Folk, they don't slow down at all.
In general I am finding FO3 much more sloggy than I remembered. I've played FNV twice this year after a similar 7 year layoff & it felt/played exactly like I remembered it did, a true masterpiece that was still a ton of fun.
Not so much 3, unfortunately, & I was hoping PL would be the secret sauce. 4 hours into the DLC, & I am sick of finding the same 8 items in every container (who needs that many Confederate Hats?).
Sick of the bullet sponges, too.
What am I doing wrong here? What have I forgotten to do that made this DLC much more fun when I was playing the game at release?
In other words, what do other Lone Wanderers do to have more fun in Point Lookout, & FO3 in general?
Any tips or tricks I am forgetting?
I want to enjoy this more & not bail before I do everything, but all I can think about is how I'd much rather be preparing for another run at the Sierra Madre than stepping foot in Calvert Mansion again. I've played 3 through at least 5 or 6 times completely, I am not a noob, but at the current rate I don't know if I'll make it this play through. I am dreading Mothership Zeta. Help!

Setup here is interesting. Timing is a bit tricky but put it on list at a minimum. Could the stock go lower? Sure, maybe $45 but I don't think $40 is really in the cards.
Earnings across all three proteins are getting crushed due to similar yet different dynamics. In beef, cattle prices are rising as cattle farmers shrank herds but consumer prices not following / mix shifting to cheaper proteins. In pork/chicken you have the feed cost dynamic relative to end pricing. in chicken TSN and others added too much capacity so that is weighing on retail prices. TSN will still have elevated CAPEX in F23 (sept FYE) and 24
This is a heavily cyclical business which just printed a breakeven EBIT. market shares in each segment are consolidated and players all have debt, JBS/PPC etc (don't' forget Cargill which competes in beef recently bought SAFM).
Over the past 13/15 years the business has generated on average a ~10% ROIC and mid teens ROE. Using 33BN in FYE24 invested capital implies EBIT of ~3.25BN and EPS number of ~8.25. If I look at normalized margins in each segment from 2010-precovid (as they over earned in 2020-2022 arguably) one gets EBIT closer to 3B.
Historically the equity traded at 9.3x on average the implied earnings based upon that 10% ROIC figure i highlighted earlier. currently it is trading on 6.2x.
Dividend is ~3.8%.
Now the balance sheet. Net debt is ~8.5BN. last year EBITDA was 5.6BN, flattish YOY (with 1H +35% and 2H down 25%). this year its looking closer to 2.25BN, down 60%. There are no leverage covs in the bonds. no maturities outside of a 400mm note coming due this year and a 1.25B coming due in aug24....both trading around par.
The only thing i see is a 3.5x EBITDA to interest cover on the revolver.
If i take cons-ish expectations going forward i would only get to ~6x interest cover.
I would need to annualize ebitda at around this 300mm/quarter just printed in the march quarter in order to get close.
Trading below book value, for a business that has on average generated ROEs in teh mid teens.
Family dynamics are a concern (CFO, Tyson, is in early thirties and had an issue with imbibing too much at the football game and maybe breaking into someones house to sleep there?? i don't' remember exactly) but the CEO is well respected.
#1 or 2 share in their markets.
NOTE: This is from a friend I have worked with in the past many times and I highly respect his work. This is a A+ example about how to think of a cyclical business from the perspective of a value investor.

I backed the Deluxe Nova Collection and thought it was a great bang for your buck (early bird was $89, I added the sleeves, grand total of $141 including shipping to EU). I don't think I overpaid for these items if you sum up their separate costs. I've opened the box but haven't opened the cards yet. I think the cards look beautiful in that foil effect.
The Nova Collection comes with:

• Star Realms Base set with 6 starting decks and extra Explorers.
• Crisis: Bases and Battleships
• Crisis: Events
• Crisis: Heroes
• Crisis: Fleets and Fortresses
• Gambit Set
• Cosmic Gambit Set
• Promo Pack 1
• Universal Store Box promo cards (they added these in update #11)

Now, the bad: I think the box is horrendously big. Unnecessarily big. The rulebook is huge but doesn't have that much text, it just has font size 40. If you only own the Nova Collection set, 75% of the box is empty. Plus, it does not fit standard shelves (kallax and similar). I don't own a Kallax but the box is too big for my shelves anyway. I thought about buying more expansions to not feel bad but honestly I would hate owning foil and non-foil cards because the thickness is different and you can totally see the difference if you mix them up. It's bigger than the Universal Storage Box. I do not care about the score dials nor I care about the trade board.
I like the game (I've played a friend's copy multiple times) but I am thinking of selling my Nova box and simply buying something that gets me going for 4-6 players. Perhaps Base game + Frontiers + Colony Wars? Any other recommended combination for up to 6 players? Perhaps you know of something better?
I'd love it if all the cards fit the Frontiers box so that I can have a proper small storage solution. I am not aware of other Star Realm boxes.

Greetings, members of writing!
By now you have probably heard a lot about The Open Letter about API Pricing. Some of your favorite subreddits may have signed up to protest. I know there has been discussion on this sub while the mods have been in discussions--both internally and with other subreddits--and we wanted to address our plans for June 12th. First though, we know plenty of people are confused about what API even is, how this pricing will impact them, and why it is worth talking about. There have been a number of posts about this very subject, all explaining better than we could. Subreddits like explainlikeimfive have highlighted in an easy way to understand what API is and why this is change is a problem. AskHistorians have explained in detail why so many Mods are upset and, frankly, disillusioned, in the wake of the Admin announcement.
To a lot of people, the API changes are not a big deal.
If you use the Official Apps and have no issue navigating it, that’s great. You may not have known that third party apps existed, or why people prefer them. If you’re wondering why people can’t just use the official app, we can acknowledge that for many users it is simply a personal preference. They’re used to it (some have been using them for years before there was ever an Official App) or they might simply prefer it because of the designs and features. If you’re interested in a visual representation of why so many prefer third party apps, please check this bestof comment out for a side-by-side comparison.
For mods, the mod tool support of these third parties largely makes our jobs much easier, which keeps the communities we all love safer. On a third party app, we can accomplish in two clicks what would take the Official App five. This efficiency means we can address more problems in the community in a more timely manner. Some of you may have even noticed a slight change in the modding of this sub over the past few days. This largely comes from a number of our mods needing to step back, either directly because of these upcoming issues or for personal reasons. This is also why there has been a delay in responses to this issue. We are currently dealing with those internal issues, but still wanted to take a stand on this larger problem.
If you’re thinking to yourself, “If these apps are making a profit, Reddit deserves a cut!” we do agree. What we take issue with is that their API is being valued at 10-20x over what other similar services do, to the point where almost every app has released some kind of statement that indicates these changes will kill their apps. We could link to more statements like that, but you get the idea.
Before you ask “why can’t they just run ads to offset those costs”, Reddit has already decided this will not be an option for third party apps. One thing to be aware of as well is that even if a third party app manages to survive July 1st through a subscription based model alone, those apps will not have all the same content as the Official App. Namely, despite paying for the privilege of having a choice, NSFW content will be unavailable and invisible to those users.
If you’re thinking, "Well, I'm fine. I only use the mobile website via my chosen mobile browser (chrome, mozilla, etc.)," you should be aware that Reddit has already been testing functions that eliminate mobile web browsing, and there is no guarantee that your preferred method of using Reddit won’t be next.
Limiting user choice, charging exorbitant and predatory fees, and refusing to communicate, are all significant problems that the writing team takes issue with. However, the one we find most egregious is what this change will do to members of Reddit’s blind community.
How are blind Redditors impacted by this decision?
In short, Reddit’s Official Apps leave a lot to be desired at best, and are barely functional at worst. The app on iOS has incorrectly labeled controls, doesn’t always work with swipe, and not all functions can be accessed. For blind moderators, it can be difficult-to-impossible to find the moderation functions necessary to moderate, and the customizing layouts to better suit their needs or make the app easier to navigate are similarly difficult. Third party apps have addressed many of these types of issues because Reddit won’t, giving these underserved communities a voice that Reddit seems to have no problem taking away.
You might ask yourself how blind users navigated Reddit before there were apps, and the answer is that it didn’t always used to be this way, but it has certainly always had accessibility issues. In fact, discussions about accessibility have been going on for months, if not years. Just a few months ago, Reddit received a free consultation to make their mobile layout more accessible. Reddit did not follow up, privately or publicly, until the protest’s momentum started to build. Even after numerous, far more recent interactions with the Admin, there seems to be little progress or commitment concerning these issues. This type of interaction is exactly why we, the writing mod team, feel that Reddit is not making accessibility a priority.
Subreddits like blind are vital for the visually impaired in various stages of blindness, providing not just a source of communal support, but insights, strategies, and resources to navigate their new and changing lives. In the wake of Reddit's changes, subreddits like blind will be forced to go dark, leaving an already overlooked group without the invaluable support they both need and deserve.
These changes will also significantly impact volunteer run support subreddits such as transcribersofreddit and descriptionplease, which serve to allow visually impaired Redditors to read text images, and receive descriptions of visual content such as videos and images. These volunteers are indispensable to the blind community, because Reddit is the only social media website with no support for alternative text. As visually impaired Redditors are forced to use an app that is not designed with accessibility in mind, these communities will shrink, wither, and may cease to exist. (See this video for more details on this subject).
For many of us, third party apps are a choice or a preference, but they are an absolute necessity for the visually impaired. The writing team is of the opinion that pricing these apps out of existence before their own app is WCAG compliant is nothing short of passive discrimination.
The mod team of writing, and many others, feel that July 1st is an unrealistic timeline to make all the changes necessary to make their app accessible. At this point, the only reasonable course of action is for Reddit to publish a public list of key results that they are committed to addressing and guarantee that third party functionality will be left unchanged until they do.
Disabled individuals are often expected to pay a premium for the same basic things everyone else uses and enjoys for free. Visually impaired Redditors deserve equal access, and even if third party apps survive, they will not receive it. Those users will not have access to all of the content and features that the rest of Reddit will. Remember, NSFW content will be unavailable to regular users on third party apps (and yes, disabled people like porn too!)
So what does all this mean for writing?
As stated above, many of our current mod team have needed to step back in the wake of these issues. Many of us, myself included, however don't. For us, this is not just about our personal preferences; it is about standing in opposition to ableism and making sure others have a voice.
We have had many comments and modmails asking about the position of writing modteam. We wanted to discuss these matters internally first, to make sure the remaining mods were on the same page before we made any sort of announcement. Now that we have:
The mod team of Writing is in agreement that we should join the blackout on June 12th.
We are prepared to remain blacked out for a minimum of 48 hours. This means that the sub will be turned private and no one will be able to access any writing content until the blackout is over. In standing up for the voices of others, however, we don’t want to strip away the voices of our community. So now we want to hear from you. If you support us in this decision, please share and upvote this post, and comment with your thoughts and support.
Particularly, we would like to hear from our users: How long should writing's blackout last? From our talks with mods from many other subreddits (including those of BestofRedditorUpdates, who very, very graciously allowed me to use most of their wording/research for this post) we are aware that many subs are intending to prolong their blackouts past the original 48-hour mark. Pending further developments, we are currently planning to reassess the situation after this 48-hour mark to make further decisions, taking into account what new statements have been released, how the protest is evolving, and what our users want. As it stands, some subs are intending to blackout however long it takes to effect change, others are intending to come back to be able to be a platform for their users to continue voicing their feelings on the blackout. If you have an opinion either way, please let us hear it. You are a part of this sub as much as any of the mods (and we will likely be turning to some of you to become mods in the not to distant future depending on the state of things after these protests are completed). Thank you for all that you do and letting us take this stand in however that may be.
- the Writing Mod team

I have a daughter named Amelia (25F) with my wife Sara (55F). When Amelia was growing up, I was extremely busy with work being an entrepreneur so it was mostly my wife taking care of her. My wife was responsible for cooking, taking our daughter to school, helping her with homework, etc. I always regretted not playing a more active role, but I'm proud I tried to make as much time for my precious daughter as possible. She always knew to come to dad for advice and wise words when she was in trouble, something I noticed that she rarely told my wife. For example, when she accidentally dropped her phone in the toilet bowl, disabling some of its functions, she begged me to keep it from my wife after we had her phone fixed, in fear of "upsetting her mother". In hindsight, I should have paid more attention to the dynamic of the relationship between my daughter and my wife, but I always shrugged it off, thinking that it was just a daughter-father thing between me and Amelia, or maybe Amelia liked me a little better as a parent. Never did I realize I made such a big mistake.
When Amelia turned 19, she left us to go study abroad. She has almost always been a straight A student, and now she had a scholarship to study abroad. She truly made me proud as a father. Sure, Amelia made a lot of mistakes, some of which angered and disappointed me. But I was her parent, I sucked it up, and I helped her. When she was away from home, my wife and I were constantly worried about her not making it in the real world on her own, but being the amazing daughter she is, Amelia never let us down. I made sure I checked in with her regularly, because I was afraid that she would feel lonely and homesick. Contrary to my belief, she always seemed fantastic. She had a core group of very supportive friends, never felt homesick, and said that she "felt great to finally leave the nest". This should have been another red flag, but I never noticed. I did not come to the realization that it was not she loved her college life, but that she was also happy for being away from us.
She graduated top 1% of her class, represented her school in an international contest, and went on to have a fairly good job. She was also never involved with bad people and knew how to resist her urges when it came to drugs or substance abuse. When she turned 24, she got married to her boyfriend, who is a great guy (I have met him twice but I trust my instinct) and decided to settle down in the new country. I was sad to be away from my baby girl, but I was excited for her.
However, recently, she reached out to me (which is not unusual) but it worried me because she was crying and sniffing like a baby deer. I tried to calm her down and asked what happened. In between her crying spells, little Amelia told me that her husband is considering a separation from her I freaked out, but tried to regain my composure to listen to her story. She did not want to give me the full story at first, but she finally broke down and told me everything. Amelia told me that about a year ago, when she was at the lowest point of her life (she moved to a new city so she did not have any friends, her husband and her were fighting a lot, and she could not find a job after being laid off). It hurt me so much because I had no idea she was in a such a bad state. Amelia then went on to tell me that when she was really depressed, she decided to go shopping. However, when she walked out of the gate, she forgot that she still had their items with her, the value of which totaled $1,000 because it was a luxury shopping place. My daughter said that she was in a horrible condition and was a little bit unstable at the time she could not even tell what was happening to her. The security guard called the police, my daughter was then taken to county jail and had her fingerprints taken. Amelia said she never meant to do any of this, that she did not have any criminal intention. I trust her completely. She had to go to court, and thankfully, they did not find her guilty and the case was dismissed. She was still ordered to do community service hours for the financial damages she caused the store (although merchandise was returned in full and in mint condition). She was so scared of what happened because she had always been a law-abiding citizen and she never got into troubles before, not even in school. She thought about keeping this from her family. Amelia said she thought about telling us at one point when she feels like she could do so comfortably, but ended up keeping it from all of us for a year.
Her husband knew nothing of this because when it happened, she was living away from him due to their other issues and also due to work. Amelia told me that the truth finally came out, and when her husband found out what happened, he was furious. Not because she made the mistake, but because she lied and omitted facts from him. He called my daughter a liar and that he wanted a separation from her because she had a tendency to lie or hide from him when she does something wrong. When she told me this, it broke my heart. Never in a million years would I imagine my daughter to be this type of person. But what Amelia told me next shook me to the core.
She cried so hard and told me how she hated herself for lying to her husband, but that it has always been so difficult for her to learn to face the truth when bad things happen due to her upbringing. Amelia then screamed "I have turned out this way because this is how mom brought me up. She told me she valued honesty and then whenever I come clean, she punished, insulted, and destroyed me instead of appreciating my efforts to become an honest person." Amelia continued to cry and begged for my help as she does not want to continue her lying pattern. I told her I would talk to her mom but she begged me not to. I finally talked her into this, telling her that at least her mom could give her relationship advice. Hesitant as Amelia was, she agreed.
Amelia contacted me the next day, and she sounded depressed. She said "Why did you tell mom? Did you know she texted me 30-40 times just to make me talk to her? Why are you guys doing this to me when I said I needed space? This is harassment. Mom does not want to help me, she only wanted to be the first person to know everything about me." She also told me that this was how she treated her husband when he needed space, which led to one of their relationship issues. When Amelia hung up, I angrily confronted my wife Sara, who confessed that she was so worried about Amelia she texted her nonstop. I asked my wife to stop doing so and that we should respect Amelia's wish. Sara agreed but was upset that her daughter did not come to her for advice.
Amelia reached out to me again recently (which was a few weeks after her previous contact). She said she and her husband are still considering a separation, but more importantly, she wanted a heart-to-heart conversation with us. She video called us. She looked awful, but was articulating her thoughts perfectly. She had grown a lot emotionally since we last met her in person at 20. She said that Sara had brought her up this way. She recounted everything that Sara did that hurt her and made her feel abandoned.
1) When she was nine, she learned how to sing. Her voice was very beautiful. One day, her uncle visited us and asked that Amelia sing to him. She was a shy girl so she did not want to at first, but ended up doing so under the condition that she would wear an earplug so she did not have to listen to her own voice. When she finished singing and her uncle left, Sara (my wife, her mother) told her that "it was bad" that she didn't have the courage to listen to her own voice.
2) When she got 2 Bs, and a C in some of her classes that caused her ranking to drop, Sara scolded her and hit her in her head with the palm of Sara's hand. Her mother did not know her grades flunked because she was being picked on and bullied at school.
3) When she got caught shoplifting (which she did under peer pressure), she came clean and came to Sara for help, asking Sara if she could go to therapy. Sara got mad at her, insulted her by calling her "a disgrace to the family for doing such a low thing". Sara was also more worried about other people finding out about Amelia's wrongdoing than helping Amelia.
4) When she could not find a job after graduation (she said it is tough for international students), her mother became very upset and told her that she should never return to our home country until she found a job because we have spent a lot of money on her for her to have a good education.
5) When she said she was not thinking of getting married yet, and my wife was furious, because all her friends' children had settled down. (I'm not sure if this was the reason that led to her ending up getting married to her now husband).
My daughter was calm, but it broke my heart because I was oblivious to all of this. I was not there when she needed help. Amelia then proceeded to tell us that she is unsure if she can work it out with her husband, but she wants to focus on fixing her behaviors. She said that she would be going to therapy. At the same time, she asked for time away from her mom (not me) and that she would only check in with me. She said that "Mom, I love you too much and I hold you in my highest regard, that's why it kills me every time I think I might let you down. But I cannot be a perfect girl forever, I cannot always please you. I don't want to become a person or a mother like you. I want to learn to become honest and reward other people for their honesty." (something along the line) My wife cried and had been extremely depressed since then.
As she said, she stopped contacting my wife, but she let me know she has been attending therapy and reaching out to her close friends for help. But I'm just at a loss now. I cannot believe I never knew what happened between my wife and daughter and that I was not aware of Amelia's mental problems or my wife's behavioral issues/her parenting style. I don't want to talk to my wife right now, but I think I need to. Sara is not a bad mother but she had destroyed Amelia's life. I can't help but think if I had been more active, Amelia would have turned out to be so much better than she is today.

I don't think we truly gave Embiid the credit he deserved for his 47 point game against the Nuggets. Yes he lost in round 2. but the mvp is a regular szn award. He led Philly to the W here, it was a wonderful performance. Should we be giving it more props now that we've seen how good Denver is?

• What are our community's needs?
• How does this community define its boundaries?
• What are our community strengths?
• Values?
• Defining structures?
• Subgroups?
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I am thinking of defining "our community" as the greater New Orleans area as a whole. Be it from Mid-City to the Lower 9th or black or white or rich or poor or local or transplant and anywhere in between. This is a New Orleans assessment.
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Thanks so much, guys!

I'm looking for some advice and just need to put my story out there. I'm a 37m. I've been on quite a journey with my prostate. All started in early March when I had a random health Fair blood test PSA of 8.5. I recently had a vasectomy in February and had a very bad strep infection too like 104 fever and chills. Got meds for strep but PSA stayed same on a repeat test after that. So go to urologist and they put me on doxycycline and have major symptoms during it was like pelvic pain, frequent urination golf ball. Anyway 2 weeks after that round of antibiotics another PSA test results of 4.8. Good reduction of almost half but still worried. Had a few DREs and all normal besides inflammation felt. But Fyi, I didn't even think to look further into it but the previous few years of blood work I had a psa of 1.4, 1.2, 1.4, and then 3. Never questioned it as it said it was normal on the paper and my doc thought the same as well but can't go back in time now. Anyway, I get a different antibiotic and was to go for another test. Also had CT scan cause doc said MRI wouldn't be covered yet. Came back normal too with evidence of prostate calcification.
I then switched urologist because I didn't like the blow off I was getting. New urologist in that group at another office sees me and he does another blood test the next week after the second round of antibiotics (he didn't like what the first urologist gave me) and he orders 3t MRI. I get a psa of 6.5 on that Tuesday and have my MRI on Sunday. Still have pelvic discomfort and pain and a weakish stream. MRI results come back when I saw him 10 days later. Now good news is MRI results are promising...PIRADS 2, no lesions, small nodules in transition zone (most likely BPH), seminal vesicles normal, lymph node normal, no prostate encapsule issues, and a prostate size of 46 and it actually said prostatitis in the peripheral zone. A pretty clean MRI. So my prostate is big for my age (apparently my grandpa too had a big prostate with no cancer ever detected).
So Doc orders Cipro this time for 10 days and I have a psa test a week after that. Fast forward to yesterday and my psa is now a 3.21 here in early June. So my PSA numbers have been all over the place. Nothing is constant and everything is in the grey area. Now I'm pretty sure I have a bigger prostate for my age but not sure how much the size would go down with the prostatitis. I still have some pelvic discomfort and maybe a slight pressure when sitting. Doc says he doesn't really want to do a biopsy but could go either way. He did the whole talks like a duck, walks like a duck analogy for prostatitis. He is having me go to pelvic floor pt and have another test just before 2 months and see me a few days later with results at my 2 months mark. I'm being proactive too but not sure if I should wait. He thinks my numbers will go down further and I agree given I still have pelvic discomfort and a slight feeling when I sit but to what extent. I read that sometimes PSA can take 6-8 weeks after antibiotics to normalize and then other studies say 14 days so it's all over.
I think I should get a biopsy but not sure as to when. I was gonna wait for my inflammation to go down further either way because it's obviously not been happy and poking a bunch of holes in it and have a bigger risk of sepsis. My thoughts is to schedule a biopsy a week after my next appointment. That way I won't have to wait 2 or 3 weeks after it to get one in if I need it. Do you all think this is the right course and wait a bit for inflammation to go down further or should I just get a biopsy now? Am I being proactive enough. Lots of things point bph and prostatitis but also not.

As the title suggests, I'm trying to build the most accurate ability of Yangchen into a DnD character and I am having trouble.
I was thinking she would be a Four Element Monk focusing alot on the air discipleship (Fists of the Unbroken Air, Elemental Attunement, & Rush of the Gale Spirits), but afterwards I'm having trouble.
I know there should be Mastermind Rogue lvls in there...
Spoilers for the books below:
In the book the Dawn of Yangchen, we learn so much about her:
-She is known to have a great connection with animals (her two flying lemurs and when all the sky Bison flocked to her) and I was thinking one lvl in druid but that would delve more into the Spirits and she wasn't really into that and focused more on humanity... (and you don't necessarily need to be a druid to be good with animals, I think)
-She can heal people with her waterbending abilities (so she'll need cure wounds and I was wondering if I should delve into or even start with Divine Soul Sorcerer due to Rava's divine spirit and also because Sorcerer has the most spell list options available)
-She has a mastermind intrigue type of mindset I KNOW she'll need Mastermind Rogue because of how she handles "people" and "things" in the books
The obvious background would be an Acolyte.
Should she be an Air Genasi or a VHuman?

I work as a legal assistant, unofficially remote (they won’t give me the official designation because I live an hour from the office; they automatically give it to those who move out of state). I have my ABA-approved paralegal certificate but I’m not working in that role so I’m not on the website. I’ve been there for several years and I’ve been working MAYBE two hours a day for the past three years. It’s an extremely niche area of law and big-money clients so I’m typically only involved in maybe five cases and it’s evolved into mostly admin work. I’m bored out of my mind. And trust me, it’s not like there’s a pile of backlogged work I could do when I’m bored. I’m super responsive and fast and doing my job well but I just don’t have much to do. I make pretty decent money and the benefits are amazing. But I also live in a high cost of living part of the country and have some debt I’m trying to knock out.
I have an opportunity to work for a firm that is fully remote and in a completely different area of law. I’d be working as a legal admin assistant and again, wouldn’t be listed on the website. My LinkedIn is hibernated. As long as there are no conflicts of interest going on, how would J1 ever find out about J2 unless I got extremely unlucky?

How do I contest charges from my damage deposit after moving out? The condo is trying to charge me a cleaning fee but I spent 3 days cleaning absolutely everything before I moved out. I have a video of the condition of the apartment before I moved out. In the apartment, I go through every room and outline the marks on the walls that I couldn’t fix, or damages, even very minute ones. Some of the charges are ridiculous. Ex. $48.00 for 6 lights bulbs. In my video I turned on every light in the house when I went into the rooms. There were none that didn’t work. That’s clear in the video. If I have proof, what do I do next.
Also, is a move out inspection the same at an itemized damage list? He just listed the price for each damage at the bottom of the inspection form, in his own handwriting. Is there a way I can verify the damage costs? How do I know he’s not just coming up with prices/costs on his own? I hope that makes sense.
I’m thinking of going to the address and speaking with the new tenants. I was introduced to them once already. They moved in the very next day. I finished cleaning at 11pm on May 31st. I know they moved in the very next day because my cousin lives in the same building and saw them moving their belongings. Some of the charges include carpet cleaning, a cleaning fee, six bulbs, a pair of keys and the damage of the door but I’m not contesting the damage of the door or the keys. Just the other ones.
How long does the process take?

For simplicity sake we can imagine a perfect sphere and ignore the vents for now. I'm just trying to get an idea of how to approach this problem and solve it. I understand it's not an easy one to figure out and there are procedures for engineers but my hypothetical material isn't on a look up chart. All I have is it's compressive strength is 38 psi. That's not much I know. There is no standard of safety as this is purely an intellectual problem for now so that I can understand the problem. The radius is 1 meter. Temperatures are room temperature. If a shear value is needed we can try to approximate one to get an estimate of a reasonable wall thickness. The vacuum can be assumed to be roughly 14 psi. Does anybody know how to solve for at least a reasonable approximation of theoretical wall thickness?

I’m really at the end of my rope with my boyfriend and I don’t know what to do. I’m 20F and he’s 21M. We have been dating for a little over a year and half, and for the first year or so everything was perfect. We had little fights but nothing relationship ending. I have given 100% of myself to this man. My body, my mind, my heart. I’m not the kind of the girl who likes hook ups or flings. I’ve always dreamt about getting married and being committed to someone fully. I don’t like wasting my time with somebody who can’t do the same. One night when I was sleeping over I noticed he was being weird about his phone. Every time I came near him while he was on it he’d immediately shut it off and put it on the bed upside down. I was thrown off by this but at first didn’t think too much of it. But I’m an overthinker so the more I thought about it the more it bothered me as he’s never been sneaky about his phone. Eventually he went to sleep and I was still awake, my gut telling me to check his phone. And I know it’s not right to do so and it’s a complete invasion of privacy, but I did it anyway (i understand this was wrong of me) because I couldn’t shake the feeling he was doing something behind my back. Now he has this one friend who I never trusted. This kid is a notorious cheater and just a overall disgusting individual. I don’t like that they talk, I don’t like that they hang out, but he’s not my friend so there’s nothing I can do about it except trust my boyfriend when he’s with him. Well I went through there conversation because I knew it was him he was talking to when he was trying to hide his phone. I saw many texts like “let’s go out after work and fuck some bitches”, “let’s go the beach and check out girls”, and stupid shit like that. But the one thing that hurt the most was my boyfriend was talking about how hot he thought this girl was he had on Snapchat. Going on and on about how he would fuck her and just sexualizing her on every level. I was obviously heartbroken thinking that my boyfriend was thinking about fucking another girl while I was sitting right next to him. His friend even said “chill out dude my gf is next to me” and my boyfriend replied “so is mine but I don’t care”. My mom says that at this point I’m “waiting to be cheated on”. We had a long discussion about it because I told him I went through his phone, and he basically just cried and told me he wanted me forever and I was the only girl he cared about. And I asked him numerous times if he wants to be in a committed relationship right now to which he said yes every time. But I don’t know. Am I being too over dramatic? Is this just “guy talk”? Am I making a big deal out of nothing? We’ve had numerous fights about him crossing my boundaries, I mean ffs he has a giant sticker on his car that says “send nudes.” What kind of loyal, mature man does that?? I just don’t trust him 100% anymore I find myself worrying what he’s doing when he’s not with me. And I’m so lost.

I met my ex in 2012, right after he turned 20 and I had just turned 30. I had only dated and been with women exclusively until I came out as bi-sexual at 28. Let’s just say the year I was 29 was a busy year making up for what I missed out on. It was mostly casual hookups (yes, safe) and I did try dating 2 different guys for a few weeks, but it just never worked out or got serious. I kinda figured that I’d probably end up marrying a woman or not getting married at all because I just didn’t see myself catching romantic and sexual feelings for a guy. Then I met Ryan. From the first date it was just like the only other time in my life I had fallen in love…butterflies, constantly thinking about him, wanting to spend every moment with him. He fell for me hard too and we became an item, though he did say while he considered my bisexuality a turn on, because he had a thing for straight guys, it also gave him pause because of my desires for the opposite sex and his concern it may lead me astray. I thought about it and understood it was a legitimate worry, but assured him that I couldn’t even think about anyone else because I was really into him. Note: I knew he was the one by the end of the first month and I was in love, but I wasn’t going to say these things too soon and risk scaring him off.
On our first date he admitted to me that he was legally blind due to a genetic disorder and that it was progressive and eventually he would only have a sliver of his peripheral vision. He immediately said he understood if I didn’t want to see him again because no other guy had wanted to date him and be his driver all of the time. I grew up with a brother in a wheelchair who never learned how to walk or talk due to misdiagnosed meningitis at 6 months old back in the 70s. I told him that and said that what my brother had was a severe disability, so in my perspective, his blindness had no effect in my feelings and that always being the driver was a small sacrifice just to be with him.
The following years were bliss. We brought out the best in each other. My family who was surprised, but very supportive when I came out, adored Ryan and treated him like family and said that I acted happier since we’d been together. When I met him he was working part-time in retail and had done very poorly in high school because he lost a lot of his confidence as his vision deteriorated. I told him that one thing I did insist on was that he do something with his life because he had too much to offer and that I would help. He said that he’d wanted to be a teacher but didn’t think someone with limited vision could teach….nonsense. So I put him through community college for 2 years, then 2.5 years of a local university and finally the 1 year teacher certification program as required by California. I drove countless miles and paid hundreds in public transportation costs for him, never blinking an eye or complaining.
We’d been together for 7.5 years and were engaged to be married in October by the time he was in his last semester of his teaching certification which involved him student teaching at his former high school with his favorite teacher from his days in school. Then the pandemic hit and schools closed. Fortunately he’d had enough hours in the classroom that he would still qualify to be certified after the Governor issued a waiver via executive order. On the 3rd day of the stay at home order in March my life crumbled when I innocently found out he had cheated on me with an ex all because he handed his phone to me to show me something on Instagram. I accidentally fat thumbed the back arrow when he gave it to me taking me back to a list of all his messages. I looked and recognized the name of his ex as the second message, dated a week ago. I clicked on it and my heart sank. Directions to my house, pictures, dirty talk, and reassuring him not to worry about me because he had my location on my “Find My Friends,” just in case I came home from work.
I immediately started screaming demanding to know everything and he admitted to having his ex over twice for sex and that they didn’t use protection (his ex was engaged to his gf during this, adding another victim). Then he admitted to sleeping with his straight but curious recently single cousin (by marriage) twice, again no protection. Finally he admitted to sleeping with a supposedly straight guy he and many of my cousins went to school with who I told Ryan I really didn’t like him or want them talking because I didn’t trust him after what I'd read about him. Since they were never close friends I didn’t feel like this was a big sacrifice or that I was being too controlling AND I assumed that he knew why I (and all my cousins) felt that way, but didn’t bother repeating it. The reason was after high school at age 20 this guy was convicted of sexual assault and penetration with a foreign object against a 16 year old girl and had gone to jail and required to register as a sex offender for life. Apparently my ex was the only person in his graduating class that hadn’t heard that news. All of this happened in my home while I was working. We spent the whole weekend crying with me asking over and over why and him repeatedly crying and saying he just didn’t know and that he felt terrible.
Monday comes around and anger started being as common as sadness and I made a comment that said I was going to pull all the phone records going back the 3 years that AT&T kept them (for a fee). Only when he heard that did he admit to one more guy. Some random named Frankie off the gay hookup app Grindr who was the first guy he cheated with and continued to casually hookup with for nearly 2 years with the last time being in February (the month before). He told me how it started. Get this – it was the DAY AFTER his graduation with his BA in May 2018 and he was drunk from celebrating and wanted to have sex. I too had been celebrating with him and said I was too drunk to perform and said I’d make it up the next day, then passed out asleep on the couch. Apparently he was “angry horny” because he downloaded Grindr, chatted with this Frankie fellow and arranged to have sex in his car in a church parking lot across the street from our condo (which happens to be across the street from a school…this fact is important later), all while I slept on the couch. All the times they hooked up after that was again in my condo while I was working or visiting a friend for the night up the coast (he used to love going but started saying he couldn’t occasionally because of “homework” and “studying.”
I absolutely lost it, told him to get in the car and I drove him to his family’s house so he could tell them what he did so they understood why he was moving back into their house. While he was in the house I was in the driveway on the phone with AT&T ordering the 3 years worth of detailed call/text logs, then made an appointment to be screened for STIs. I suspended his service until he could figure out how to pay for his own damn phone, then , deleted the social media accounts he cheated with and to make sure he couldn't hide more evidence I temporarily changed all his passwords so only I would have access to his cloud. I also called the bank and issued a stop payment on his final tuition check that I had sent to the certification program the week before and hadn’t hit the bank yet. Before deleting his social media, except Facebook, I took screenshots of the entire Instagram conversation with his ex and mailed the conversation to his fiancée, who deserved to know so she could see a doctor and get tested too. His family was very religious and had kicked him out in high school for 3 days when he tried to admit he was bi and only took him back in when he took it back. Needless to say, she ended it, he got kicked out. ONE DOWN.
He came back out to the car and we went home. I took his house key and told him to say goodbye to our 3 pets and get packing. The entire time he packed I studied those phone records to find out dates, times and if there was anyone else he was leaving out. He answered every question I asked and it was then that I discovered that the sex offender and he had only had oral sex in my home and that the actual sex was in the same parking lot he screwed the Frankie guy in.
The wheels started turning and the next day I went over there and sure enough spotted a camera. I spoke to a secretary at the church and informed them about a registered sex offender having sex in their lot and that not only was it a violation of his parole for indecent exposure, but that he was not allowed to be that close to a school and I provided the date. I was in luck! They had a digital two year loop system that started deleting day by day after it had been retained for 2 years +1 day. It was April 2020 and he first cheated with Frankie in May 2018 and the sex offender was in April 2019. I told them I was filing a police report and that probation would require a copy of it eventually. They said they would save the file and allowed me a thumb drive of both days to submit with my police report. Within a month the sex offender was locked up again. TWO DOWN.
I also filed a police report against the Frankie guy. The police said it was a relatively minor infraction but since it was across from a school playground and skate park they would follow up but there would be no jail time. I researched the hell out of Frankie and called him to confront him. He was smug and admitted to knowing about me the whole time. What he didn’t know is that I had found out he had a job that required a security clearance and he had several judgements against him and collection agencies had been looking for him. I didn’t know why they couldn’t find him and just garnish his wages, but it ends up he was Hispanic and had two last names and was a Jr., plus he frequently by his middle name Francisco, Frankie for short…so he got lost in the paperwork confusion. I sent a letter to the collection agencies providing his employer and current location and contact info and then sent a copy of the police report about misdemeanor indecent exposure for which he pled guilty and it was a fine with community service (not considered a sex crime). His wages did get garnished, but only for two paychecks because the misdemeanor was enough for him to lose his security clearance and get fired. THREE DOWN.
Then I contacted Ryan’s family on his mother’s side pretending to be him from his Facebook account making sure they knew he had fucked his cousin. It spread through the family like wildfire and soon his cousin was contacting me because he couldn’t get a hold of Ryan to ask why he would expose what they did. I just laughed and said you shouldn’t screw your cousins, especially when they’re engaged and that he’d messed around in my house, so now it was my turn for payback. FOUR DOWN.
Lastly, I had already stopped payment but since he was so close to finishing I was sure his family would bail him out and pay the university. Like I said, indecent exposure is usually a slap on the wrist type misdemeanor. However, I remembered some of the paperwork he signed to be a mandated reporter that you could lose teaching certification for “documented acts of moral turpitude.” I sent a copy of both police reports from the parking lot with still shots from the security footage clearly showing Ryan’s face to the school district he’d been student teaching in and a copy to the Commission on Teacher Credentials. FIFTH AND FINAL DOWN!
Admittedly, I did all this out of anger but he shattered my sense of self-worth and made me incredibly bitter and untrusting after years of being generous and supporting him. Everywhere I looked in the town I thought of Ryan and the cheating. I felt a terrible energy in my condo knowing it all happened there. I stayed 9 months and watched all 5 of their lives self-destruct. Then sold my condo (making a nice profit) and relocated to the PNW to start over. One thing that is sad is I found out just recently that his ex-who’s fiancé broke up with him ended up committing suicide several months after I moved. It is too bad that his family was so closed minded to turn on their own son, but in the end, it’s not my fault that he cheated on his fiancé by coming into my home at my fiancé’s invitation to cheat. Suicide is never the answer to ones problems and I hope the fiancée he cheated on doesn't blame herself and that only his family does (as they should).
TLDR: I emotionally and financially supported my ex through college and his teacher credential program for over 7 years only to discover he had cheated on me with 4 different guys, one of them the day after he graduated and then occasionally for nearly two years in my home while I was at work. I took my revenge: My ex lost his career before it even started and our relationship, one AP (affair partner) lost his job and had bill collectors after him, another lost his fiancée and was kicked out, a third was humiliated when his entire family found out he had sex with his cousin and the fourth was put in jail for a violating probation. Lesson: Don't Cheat and Deceive.

Currently looking to buy our first house and I think we’ve found somewhere. The only issue is the windows are 30+ years old and would need replacing (noted in the home report).
I’m looking to get a very rough idea of how much this would cost before putting an offer in. There are 9 windows in total (3 single casement, 3 double casement and 3 triple casement) plus a front and back door.
I have got one quote (£18k-£20k) which based on talking to family is quite high, so looking for a check on that. Generally people have been unwilling to quote unless they have access to the property, which isn’t easy as we don’t own it.
Would anyone have any idea of cost to buy and fit these? Based in the UK. Not looking for an exact amount, just a approximate range.