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I live in the UK and my partner and I have our birthdays in the same month. What we have done in previous years is both pick something we want to do or somewhere we want to go and do that the weekend and do that the weekend after the persons birthday since hers is at the beginning of the month and mine is near the end. Alongside this we do presents and a meal, drinks etc.
This year there is an artist performing in that month that my gf really likes. The artist is not performing near us so we would need to pay quite a lot to travel and stay over. The tickets are also quite expensive. My gf mentioned wanting to go and I said that it's a shame it's that month since it would be unaffordable. She said she was thinking of maybe doing a joint celebration so instead of getting presents for each other and doing a separate thing for both birthdays, that we just go to see the artist.
I pointed out that while I didn't mind them, I wouldn't spend that much to go and see them so it's not really a joint celebration. She said I could pick where we go for food. I said I'm sorry but I just can't afford it and it's not something I'd want to do for my birthday. She got annoyed and said it might be her only chance to see them and I'm being unreasonable, I just said I really don't want to spend that much money to go and see them. The tickets cost more than me and my partner normally spend on each other, then there's travel, accommodation and food and drinks.
She said I was being unfair because I know how much she loves that artist and that it would be a good night but I just repeated it's far too much money for me to spend and that she's basically saying she'd rather spend our money on this as a present for her while completely ignoring my birthday. She said that wasn't true since this would be a joint birthday present but I just repeated that it wasn't because it's not something I want. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this?
tl;dr my gf wants us to have a joint birthday trip to see an artist she likes and got annoyed when I said no because it's unaffordable and not something I particularly want to do. Does anyone have any advice?

Preferably near Lititz but not mandatory. I need to get my eyes checked to see if I can drive (need glasses) and as for the dentist, I have had a dental infection for about/more than a year now- all my teeth are infected, I need them surgically removed and dentures. I used to live in Maryland, had to escape an unpleasant situation- went to TN, tried to get by there and thats how I found out about the dental infection. My disability causes rapid tooth decay so Im not surprised. Thing is, couldnt get medicaid in TN. Tried going to this charity doctors office who wouldve took it out for free- but I couldnt stomach it, there was no anesthetic. I need something to at least calm me down. Every surgery I ever had was with an anesthetic. Back at PA now with medical insurance, grown up there.
The dentures part isnt too important compared to the actual surgery. The eye doctor is important, not as urgent as the dentist. I wanna see if I am physically capable of driving. Last eye doctor I went to said I qualify for a restricted license but I was never able to get glasses. I wanna get glasses and know for sure I am capable.
Not every place takes medicaid, I need one that does.

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Panera Bread (PR Management Corp)	Restaurant Assistant Manager- Pay up to $65,000 - Bedford, MA	Bedford
Capital One	Cafe Experience Representative - Boston Metro Area	Bedford
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Capital One	Cafe Ambassador	Cambridge
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Honda AC works great for about 10 minutes, sometimes longer, then stops. The problem seems to be worse in hotter weather. I just took it into the mechanic and he said he could not replicate the issue (I don't believe he test drove for as long as he said, but w.e) He checked for leaks, topped freon, etc, found no problems with AC, no leaks, said it held vacuum. I specifically asked him to check the compressor clutch, as I'd heard this might be the issue, but to my knowledge he did not do so, since he could not replicate the issue. There were a couple of things he said might be the problem:
1 - the bulb on my AC switch on dashboard is out, and he said fixing that might fix the AC? I don't know how, but maybe a short circuit or something?
2 - he said the ac condenser was bent, and that nearly all the fins were bent. He listed a price of 800$ to replace the condenser, which I declined as of right now, as I don't think the car is worth that much. I'm wondering if this could really be the issue though?
3 - he said based on what I said, the engine is getting too hot and that's shutting off the AC. He did a BG flush and bleed and made sure my coolant system is fine. Afterwards, however, the problem with the AC still persisted.
4 - wary of taking it back, as I'm thinking it might cost more than it's worth, and I wanted to ask here first if anyone has any suggestions.
Thanks for any help in advance!

I wasn’t feeling the iCarly reboot. It gives me the ick & honestly idk if it’s because live action reboots are hard to recapture the ambiance of its original series(yes I know that’s a nick show ) I’m not particularly found of reboots in general, but there’s a few exceptions I would make for cartoons. Feel free to add your own that isn’t listed in this poll or is live action. I’m just going off the vibes of these shows and how it could work with an adult audience given it’s already off beat humor.
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Lamborghini LB Silhouette Huracan Coupé (E.C. Level 50) (5 Gold Star Car, Tier 5) Maxed Tune and Shift Pattern:

• PP - 714
  
• Evo - 2105
  
• NOS - 207/4.6
  
• FD - 2.14
  
• Tires - 0/100
  
• Dyno: 7.636
  
• Test Run: 7.405
  
• Shift Pattern (Good launch at the left side (needle drop), shift into 2nd at 8400 RPM, shift into 3rd at 8600 RPM and NOS, rest shifts at 8600 RPM)
  

Ferrari 488 Pista Spider (E.C. Level 50) (5 Gold Star Car, Tier 5) Maxed Tune and Shift Pattern:

• PP - 713
  
• Evo - 2145
  
• NOS - 200/4.0
  
• FD - 2.20
  
• Tires - 0/100
  
• Dyno: 7.629
  
• Test Run: 7.460
  
• Shift Pattern (Perfect launch (late needle drop), early shift into 2nd at 36 mph, NOS at around 4500 RPM, rest shifts at around 8400 RPM)
  

Ferrari 488 Pista Spider (E.C. Level 0) (4 Gold Star Car, Tier 5) Maxed Tune and Shift Pattern:

• PP - 713
  
• Evo - 1989
  
• NOS - 198/4.0
  
• FD - 2.32
  
• Tires - 0/100
  
• Dyno: 7.943
  
• Test Run: 7.735
  
• Shift Pattern (Perfect launch, instant shift into 2nd at 6 mph, NOS at around 5500 RPM, rest shifts at around 8400 RPM)
  

Lamborghini LB Silhouette Huracan Coupé (E.C. Level 0) (5 Gold Star Car, Tier 5) Maxed Tune and Shift Pattern:

• PP - 714
  
• Evo - 1850
  
• NOS - 196/5.3
  
• FD - 2.59
  
• Tires - 0/100
  
• Dyno: 8.146
  
• Test Run: 7.955
  
• Shift Pattern (Perfect launch, early shift into 2nd at 17 mph, shift into 3rd at 8500 RPM and NOS, rest shifts at around 8600 RPM)
  

Honda LB NSX (E.C. Level 50) (5 Gold Star Car, Tier 4) Maxed Tune and Shift Pattern:

• PP - 675
  
• Evo - 1783
  
• NOS - 229/4.2
  
• FD - 2.73
  
• Tires - 0/100
  
• Dyno: 10.070
  
• Test Run: 9.794
  
• Shift Pattern (Perfect launch, instant shift into 2nd at 4 mph, shift into 3rd at 2000 RPM, shift into 4th at around 2500 RPM, deep good shift into 5th and 6th, and then NOS, rest perfect shifts)
  

Chevrolet 2020 Corvette Stingray Convertible (5 Purple Star Car, Tier 4) Maxed Tune and Shift Pattern:

• PP - 674
  
• Evo - 1751
  
• NOS - 188/4.1
  
• FD - 5.00
  
• Tires - 0/100
  
• Dyno: 10.174
  
• Test Run: 9.888
  
• Shift Pattern (Perfect launch, shift into 2nd at 3mph, shift into 3rd at 2700 RPM, deep good or early perfect shifts into 4th and 5th, and then Nos, rest early perfect shifts)
  

Honda LB NSX (E.C. Level 0) (5 Gold Star Car, Tier 4) Maxed Tune and Shift Pattern:

• PP - 675
  
• Evo - 1444
  
• NOS - 229/4.2
  
• FD - 2.92
  
• Tires - 0/100
  
• Dyno: 10.749
  
• Test Run: 10.471
  
• Shift Pattern (Perfect launch, instant shift into 2nd at 3 mph, shift into 3rd and 4th at 2500 RPM, deep good shift into 5th and 6th, NOS at around 7300 RPM, rest perfect shifts)
  

Rewards:
Participation Rewards:

Reward	Amount
Cash	280,000
Gold	150
Uncommon Fusions	3
Rare Fusions	3
Epic Fusions	2
Green Elite Parts	7,000
Blue Elite Parts	225
Pink Elite Parts	60
Yellow (Legendary) Elite Parts	6

Total races you need to make: 500
Trophy Milestone Rewards:

Reward	Amount
Cash	425,000
Gold	50
Bronze Keys	225
Uncommon BMW Fusions	3
Rare BMW Fusions	9
Epic BMW Fusions	4
BMW ACS4 Stage 6	1
Green Elite Parts	750
Blue Elite Parts	545
Pink Elite Parts	225
Yellow (Legendary) Elite Parts	30
Crew RP	45,000

Total trophies you need to win: 3,000
Leaderboard Prizes:

• 1st:
  
  • Yellow Elite Parts - 250
  • Pink Elite Parts - 1,000
  • Gold Keys - 30
• 2nd:
  
  • Yellow Elite Parts - 200
  • Pink Elite Parts - 750
  • Gold Keys - 20
• 3rd:
  
  • Yellow Elite Parts - 175
  • Pink Elite Parts - 500
  • Gold Keys - 10
• 4th - 10th:
  
  • Yellow Elite Parts - 150
  • Pink Elite Parts - 400
  • Silver Keys - 75
• 11th - 25th:
  
  • Yellow Elite Parts - 125
  • Pink Elite Parts - 350
  • Bronze Keys - 450
• 26th - 100th:
  
  • Yellow Elite Parts - 100
  • Pink Elite Parts - 300
  • Bronze Keys - 350
• 101st - 500th:
  
  • Yellow Elite Parts - 50
  • Pink Elite Parts - 200
  • Bronze Keys - 300
• 501st - 1,000th:
  
  • Yellow Elite Parts - 25
  • Pink Elite Parts - 100
  • Bronze Keys - 250
• 1,001st - 50,000th:
  
  • Yellow Elite Parts - 5
  • Pink Elite Parts - 50
  • Bronze Keys - 200

Purchasable cars:

• The Honda LB NSX (E.C. Level 0) (5 Gold Star Car, Tier 4) is available for purchasing using 4000 Elite Tuners credits via the Elite Tuners Hub on the map.
  
• The Lamborghini LB Silhouette Huracán Coupé (E.C. Level 0) (5 Gold Star Car, Tier 5) is available for purchasing using 5000 Elite Tuners credits via the Elite Tuners Hub on the map.
  
• The Lamborghini LB Silhouette Huracán Coupé (E.C. Level 0) (5 Gold Star Car, Tier 5) is available in bundles with 545,000 cash and 10 rare Lamborghini fusions, as well as with the Ferrari 488 Pista Spider (E.C. Level 0) (4 Gold Star Car, Tier 5) (The Ferrari 488 Pista Spider can't be bought separately), 1,400,000 cash and 860 gold, for real cash (The prices may vary depending on your country of origin and phone platform!).
  

Free Crates (Free every 24h):

• Lamborghini LB Silhouette Huracán Coupé
  
• Ferrari 488 Pista Spider
  
• Honda LB NSX
  

Notes:

• If you find any mistakes or if a car is missing, let me know down in the comments and I will fix the thread, thank you!

I've created a Ko-fi, because I don't want to limit the information that I provide with a pay wall. I'm thankful for all your support thru the years. I'll be more than happy if you can support me even further. Here's the link - click/press (Now you can use also Apple Pay and Google Pay).
Thank you for your support and time!
Happy racing and stay safe!

This is something noone has ever taught me and I'm incredibly confused by it. But how do people buy a decent car? I have an above average salary (>40k), fantastic credit rating (999 according to Experian), live in a dual income household with no kids and I'm in my 30s and all my life I've had bangers, I drive a 3 series BMW now which sounds good until you realise it's a 2005.
The vast majority of people seem to have really nice cars, I rarely see cars older than 8 years on the roads. But even bad cars that are this old just seem ludicrously expensive. A tiny little hatchback costs around 20x the amount I would get for my car if it's from the past 5 years.
What am I missing?

Hi all, current police officer. I was recently accused by my police department for Neglect of Duty. This would result in a reprimand and no promotion for two years preventing quite a bit more money. I wont say the state to keep anonymity, it should deal more with the 4th amendment anyway. Here's what happened:
I responded to a 911 call. The call was a 911 call where the caller hung up/disconnected. It was assigned a "911 Hang-up" designation. I was advised there was a "disturbance" in the background. There is prior domestic history at this house. I knock on the door and a male and female answer, the male has a superficial wound on his head. The female is uninjured. Male is MASSIVE 6'8, 300 lbs muscular build, female is around 5'5. Both parties are calm and cooperative at the time, showing no signs of animosity towards police, or eachother. Male states he fell and hit his head. He wants to seek medical treatment at the hospital. Female states she was the caller and called because male had a medical issue (cut on head). Male starts to walk to the car to get a ride to the hospital. I ID the female based on the vehicle's plate. Female again states she was the caller and is going to drive male to the hospital for the head injury. Male refuses to be a complaining witness. He also refuses to ID himself. I am ok with not pushing this issue at the time because there is no victim, therefore no articulable crime based on both parties statements. Another officer arrives on scene, detains and ID's the male. Nobody is wanted. Male and female leave to go to the hospital without issue. Based on injuries the only possible "victim" of domestic assault (Shall make an arrest state) would be the large male with a head injury.
The back up officer then reported me for neglect of duty for "letting the male subject go," even though at no time did I ever say to either party they are free to go.
The male subject was the only injured party and has the right to not be a victim even if there had been a domestic assault and he was lying to me to prevent the female from being arrested. The only possible victim would have been the male.
I could not reasonably articulate pushing the detention of a male who is seeking medical treatment based on what I had at the time, which is why I didn't immediately detain parties on scene. The IA board stated I should have detained the male sooner and pushed him for ID instead of the other officer. End of the day there was no complaining witness, everyone on scene was identified, and no crime to be found.
Is there any case law or legal reasoning that would help support my reasoning for letting the male subject go?
I have a Lawyer for further grievance with the department. The lawyer doesn't come into play until they suspend me without pay which is why Im probing for info.

Respectfully, let's keep the conversation focused on the music in this thread. 👍
We Are Gathered Here Today was in heavy rotation the last two years of high school for me. I remember the first time I heard Glass Casket was on a late-night metal segment on the radio; they played "Fearfully and Wonderfully Made" . I remember being especially captivated by that awesome chugging outro that starts at 3:47. From there I got into the rest of the album, and imo there is not a bad track to be found on it.
Desperate Man's Diary was a great follow-up. Tightecleaner production (although the rawness of WAGHT is missed here) and a bit more expanded in their sound, it's a quality record from start to finish. Adam Cody's vocals are one of my favorite aspects on both records. His deep gutturals and piercing highs perfectly complement the intensity of the music.
And now, 17 years later, we finally have new music! A four track, self-titled EP, Glass Casket is sadly only about 13 minutes long. My initial impressions are positive, although I do wish after so long we had gotten a full-length. My hope is that this them sort of "testing the waters", to see what kind of reception/response it'll get. Perhaps we won't have to wait nearly two decades for a true full-length.
I'll have to listen to these tracks more to really get a proper feel to them. But I do like what I hear. 🤘

Since I am temporarily moving out in a week, I wanted to install Honkai: Star Rail on my deck to at least do daily task when not near my main PC. I decided to install Windows 11 on my external SSD (Samsung T7 Touch) because I don't want to risk getting banned for using 3rd party launchers.
I downloaded Rufus and followed the guide I found on YouTube. Everything seemed fine but when I selected the Windows SSD from the boot list, it showed Steam Deck logo, told me to wait a little, and instead of beginning the Windows installation, it just booted to SteamOS like usual. I tried to format my SSD 3 times and each time it failed, I am confused since I followed the guide from beginning to end. Did Steam Deck had an update preventing booting from external drives? Is there a problem with SSD I am using? It does come with some software in order for fingerprint lock to work correctly but I'm not using it anyway.
Did anyone else encounter the issue?

Trying this again! After finally managing to get my car fixed so I can safely get to and from work, I'm now at the point where my utility bill is overdue. My car HAD to be fixed so I can keep my job, it was just unavoidable. It'll be another two weeks before I'm paid again, but my electric will be shut off (In this 90 degree weather) if I don't at least pay the overdue portion by the 10th. (Over due portion is $127.21 ($92.21 now) and the full bill is $306.77. ($271.77 now) ) A good chunk of the bill is stupid fees from the electric company, but there's not much anyone in the area can do about those. Either way, I do have a Cash App if anyone is able to help at all! If you don't leave a comment here first, there's a 99% chance I will NOT open/read any chat messages sent to me. WAY too many scammers. I'm also not bothering with checks (as those are almost always scams) or Temu links. (Pretty sure the referrals are against the rules now, too.)

Just for background: nmom, a narcissistic older brother and a loveable dad ❤️
Nmom's lover molested me when I was young like grade 6/primary 6 kind of age, and nmom found out about it when I turn 17 when I was sexually assaulted by my neighbour. I managed to forgive both the neighbour and my nmom's lover.
But never the nmom. I still remember what she said when she found out what her lover did. "Don't tell anyone about this, not even to the police; I'll handle it myself and ask him" Well of course the nmom lover denied it. And the nmom of course, kept In contact with him.
So my scenario was, I go home I get paranoia and fear of hearing nmom's lover voice and her talking thru Skype, and I leave the house and I still get paranoia and fear due to neighbour (neighbour received 6 months jail and was released)
I got sick and tired of everything when I turned 26 realising that no matter what I do, nmom will not change. So I moved out of my parents house. My beloved father was devastated. He didn't knew why I wanted to move out, and eventually I did told him and he said "I am sorry.. I am powerless." Oh my good lord my heart cracked.
Well 6 months passed after I moved out, and loveable dad was having a major surgery, I was by the waiting lounge and encountered nmom and she was all regretful, in so much that I nearly felt guilt until she started saying "What if I die at xxxx year?"
And I recalled this one subreddit who advised or at least what to say in those sort of scenario "And I can also die tomorrow, so what's your point?"
Loveable dad passed away early today due to the surgery taking a toll on his body. I am not that involved in the funeral no matter how much I want to be in.
The narc older brother is the one who's taking "in charge" for most of it. My family's has the traditional values of: son's will carry the family name, so of course they must be the one to decide.
Regardless, thank you subreddit. You guys actually helped with my mental fortitude of "yea, this nmom and narc older brother can't be helped." And to how to somewhat bite back at them. Thank you. I still intend to do no contact as soon as the funeral rites and wills are over. The 6 months of no contact were utter bliss for my mental health.
Rip beloved papa, I will never forget the day you taught me how to cook rice and omelette for myself.

Hey everyone I just wanted to place to lay out some thoughts i've been having.
Last year my wife gave birth to our second daughter. We had our first one in 2010 after only knowing each other for 2 months! I was a real loser at the time; worked at a minimum wage job, no college, sharing a studio apartment with a friend of mine (literally slept in the closet), no car, I biked and took the bus everywhere, doing a shit ton of drugs, and properly supporting my drinking habit/addiction. At the time I was doing a lot fo "soul searching" and when she told me she was gonna keep it, I made the decision to stick it out with her and see where it would take us. I found a better paying job, and started making arrangements to get back into school and pursue the dreams I had. I spent a lot of time away from my daughter, especially once I went back to school with crazy late nights. But the reality is I was terrified to be a father, I did anything I could to stay away from the home. Even after school and in my first job I had to "prove myself" a lot and "network" which meant long nights most of time, and more time away from the family. This is NOT to say I was never there, we made sure to do a lot of things as a family, especially when my daughter got out of the toddler age. So we have a lot of core memories and good times to share as well....
Cut to now where I have the career I've always wanted, a house, a car, pretty much reached what was once thought of as the middle class, so it's still a challenge to afford things sometimes. My wife got unexpectedly pregnant after 3 miscarriages and I was so scared, with a 12 year old now we had gotten used to a certain lifestyle, going out more, traveling more, freedom again, but my wife was so happy what could I do?
Well now our daughter is here and it has been wonderful! But it has hit me how much time I didn't spend with my now 12 year old when she was a baby, and it makes me sad. I grinned so hard to help provide a decent life, and ended up making a lot of the mistakes MY parents made with me. It feels nice to have a "second chance" to experience a lot of the things I didn't get to with my now 12 year old. It has help me foster a better relationship with her now as well.
Overall I just want to say to first time parents, take some time to really appreciate the infant stage. Let them get to know you through touch and feeling. Watch them learn to roll over, sit up, crawl. Try to make the time to enjoy these times because when it's gone it's gone forever.

Is this relationship worth trying to save? Will he ever change and admit his wrongs?
Just got into a heated fight last night with my bf(38M) since we missed a concert that I(28F) had bought us tickets for awhile back for his birthday. We were running behind schedule, I forgot my ID so we drove back to the apartment, I ran inside, picked it up and had enough time to make it back to the venue but wasted time arguing in the car shouting that he no longer wanted to go with me for forgetting my ID. So we ended up staying home. I Bought tickets for the same group last year but we missed that due to his drinking binge so I was really pumped to redo this moment only for it to lead to this huge blow up. He threatened to start drinking when we got back inside since he is missing the show and I ruined his night. My heart and stomach dropped instantly. This isn’t the first time he has made this threat (3 weeks ago, we had an argument about trust and he went out to buy a bottle of tequila and asked me to pour him a drink - I hid the bottle the next morning) and I get the feeling it won’t be long before he acts on it.
I don’t want to be the reason why he relapses and tonight I am choosing to walk away while I still can. I don’t want to leave him but I know that I don’t want to live in fear of him relapsing and draining myself trying to convince him to get sober again or the guilt of feeling the reason he drinks is due to issues in our relationship. I will pray for him and hope he continues to choose to stay sober, but I can’t be there to watch and celebrate him reach those monthly milestones knowing that the saying the wrong words or being over sensitive on the wrong day might end all his progress.
Context (sharing for insight and to get off my chest): My Q and I broke up in early February (together for 1 year) due to broken promises, verbal aggression, constant lying related to his excessive daily drinking. He chose to get sober by the end of February in hopes of becoming a better person and partner. We reconnected in mid April and have been together since. I’ve seen a huge improvement in his motivation and commitment to staying sober. He attends meetings twice a day on a daily basis and has become more active. This is major progress from the days I used to find shooters and bottles of tequila hidden in the bathroom/kitchen/cawork backpack, and wake up early on weekends only to find him already passed for the day from his morning IPAs. Since getting back together he shared that this has been the longest time he’s been sober in over 12 years. I still have fear that I’ll smell that familiar scent of liquor or that I he’s learned a new way of masking it. There’s times I question whether he’s napping due to a long work day or drinking, or the impatient text spamming occasionally about plans we had but later switching it up or cancelling if I don’t reply fast enough, but I know that’s these doubts stem from his past behavior and I don’t question him about it. I didn’t think I’d find myself back with him again but the first month back together he was incredible and reminded me why I had fallen for him the first time.
Since we’ve started working on rebuilding our relationship by unpacking our issues, he has stopped attending meetings on a daily basis, and he has started hanging out with friends at bars but hasn’t drank according to him. I can’t help but feel that this relationship is a huge stressor and can lead to him relapsing. It feels like an excuse for him to make these threats of breaking his sobriety and when I point this out he deflects and says I’m gaslighting him. I’m tired of fighting and trying to keep it together while struggling to be the loving, understanding and always positive partner. I just feel like a failure for walking away and not trying harder to make it work with him and support him staying sober.

We had been dating a year and a half and he blindsided me with a breakup after just talking to me about moving in together and starting a family. We were broken up for a few months and I know during that time he was seeing someone else. He didn’t cheat on me. I confirmed that when I messaged the other girl and asked her when they met. I started talking to him again during the holidays after his sister invited me over for thanksgiving. At this point him and the other girl had broken up. When we got back together I told him that he needed to remove the other girl from social media and block her number and he didn’t hesitate to do it right in front of me. Since we’ve been back together things have been pretty good. We’re living together and looking in to buying a house. But periodically I still feel insecure about our relationship. I’ll check his social media to make sure he hasn’t added the other girl again, which i never used to check his socials before this. I also occasionally have dreams about him cheating on me or leaving me for the same girl. Last night was the most recent dream that happened and it became very violent. Sometimes I get flashbacks of me going through the breakup, like when i would be crying in my car or crying myself to sleep and it makes me feel sad again.
I just don’t understand why i still think about it when things are going well for us and we are getting more serious about our future together. Has anyone gone through this and how did you manage to let go of the past?

I know this one will be unpopular and I’ll likely be downvoted to shit for it.
All the signs were there that I’m a lesbian. I came out to myself in my early to mid twenties and fell in love with a woman in my mid twenties. I’ve dated a few women since.
However it’s not easy to find a soulmate. The dating pool for lesbians is small. And on top of that, with the political climate being heavy with lgbtqia+ currently, I have to see if our values even align. The lgbtqia+ is divided with many choosing to leave the community because of it. Lesbian bars/clubs have lessened to, what, zero is it (in the USA)? Lesbian dating apps are full of men and couples looking for a third.
Finding the sort of love I want is like nearly impossible.
About a year ago I met a guy. What I felt for him was platonic but at the time I was questioning whether I could actually be with a guy. I let him know before we started dating that I thought I was a lesbian. I’ve been honest with him throughout the whole relationship.
At this point in time I was honestly wondering if I was a lesbian or if I just felt disgusted by men because of how they are towards women. I knew plenty of straight women who didn’t like men but still couldn’t help their sexuality. So maybe I was just basing my feelings of men off of the patriarchy’s hold on heterosexual relationships.
So I gave it a try. And I’m definitely not into him the way I am with women. But it is nice having someone. It’s nice not having to wade through the mess that is lesbian dating. It’s nice having someone there to go through life with, even if it’s platonic.
I’m in my thirties. And I have to be realistic about where I’m at in life. He’s there for me in ways that I appreciate.
The woman I fell for was like lightning in a bottle. It was amazing. But was a once in a lifetime sort of love.
I’m sure people will be very judgmental of this. But I honestly want to have someone I can go through life with, even if it’s a platonic partner that’s a guy.

I was driving home from work the other night. Two motorcycles ripped past me like I was standing still. I was doing 80. A couple of miles down the road I saw brake lights. I pulled over to see if I could help. There was a woman standing on the shoulder on her cell phone. I could hear someone cursing at the top of their lungs. The bike was in the pines on fire. One rider laid on his side piled up. His body twisted. His friend was talking to him, I couldn’t hear what was said. I ran up to them. The crotch rocket was ablaze at the base of a tree. I had always heard that you shouldn’t move someone that’s been in an accident because you might injure them further. But the fire was growing. We had no choice. His friend and I lifted him and carried him up he slope to the asphalt. We laid him down and I put his helmet between my knees. He was broken. I could feel that he was broken. When the police arrived an EMT relieved me and I stood on the shoulder watching as they attended to him. After working 60plus hours at the refinery that week I was exhausted. The fire grew and grew and I was no longer helpful so I left. I wrote this poem over the next week or so.
(Pineneedle Geese and the passers-by don’t ask why)
The turnpike shoulder
full of dead geese in spring
brand new Pumas
full speed grease in pines,
the garden state is burning
forward the median
The rain light full on light rail head case
ready set for a Friday night at the shore
careening
toward a meaning
a slipshod living
asbestos siding
whipsaw giving
the best is hiding
O’er rumble strips guided
Our broken bodies lie
Ill costumed for the slide
Dead geese on the shoulder cry
Majic came
To the states in ‘03
Sylvester in ‘04
Big Lu form little Peru came in two thousand and two;
From Poland
From Ghana
From Lima;
From cracked land
From fortunes pilfered
From hidden gems;
The world gave us her donations and we gladly accepted
Let’s all occupy the same space And pretend that we are in control
Lets all utilize similar skills And pretend that we are in control
Effective
Selective
Purposely poised to be our best selves
Positioned by chance
Propositioned by chance
Equal opportunities presented presently
perfunctory purpose provided
by need
Our tired
Our hungry
Our poor
Majic quit smoking cigarettes when the baby was born but he has been on nicotine lozenges for four years now
Sly is a high school drop out One of the smartest men I’ve ever known
Lu, a compassionate man, a lapis lazuli man, drives his Toyota everyday, back and forth to work It has over 300,000 miles on it.
I clean the bathrooms and I mop the floors
I wipe down the microwave
inside and out
I toss heavy bags full of garbage into reeking dumpsters
I can hear the flies buzzing as I approach
When I lift the lid, the flies burst forth
A fountain of dreams
A cloud of smoke, blue-bottle buzzing
The language of radiation echoing across empty space
An Intermittent flash
As the defunct star from which it emanates rotates
Washing their hands in their own vomit
Burning themselves against the sun
Falling to the land that is mine
The land that is yours
The land that was made for both of us
We ply our trades
Turning with the world
Burning with each other
Burning with envy
Burning with hate
Burning with pity
I put up a small sign that warns of wet floors, so that no one falls, and if they do they can’t sue the company because the sign was there and they chose not to heed its warning
When my wife lost the baby these guys took me out for drinks
I got drunk:
Taking a piss in the alley behind the bar
I looked up
Between the slick brick buildings
The moon echoed in the puddles
The sound of a muffler-less car
I searched for shooting stars
My dick in my hand
But I saw nothing save stationary stars, the ones that are always there
And I cried
Majic called me a cab
Sly paid the fare
Lu buckled me in and tipped the driver
I made it home ok
and went to work the next day
Compromise is a thing meant to pacify you
Understanding is a curse uttered in your sleep
A promise you will keep
Something you’ve given
Willingly
Weak
The vastness of the sky at night is a lie that sounds different than the lie of the sky during the day
Closer
Ferrous moments Kept in by the stars
Whilst fishing on the beach a rocket took off from the crypt of Cape Canaveral
Casted
Casted
Casted
Overhead
the diminishing vapor trail burns lower and lower still Casting its leaden tail upon the face of the earth
Compromise is a lie told to you
by you
Because
You
know
you can’t escape the atmosphere
Their ain’t enough fuel in the world

I am looking for someone I can vibe with! We can talk online for quite some time then go on a golf date in Golfx or other SFW dates if we vibe :) teach me tho cause im a noob
What I look like:
- I’m chinita na medyo morena skin tone, short hair, 5’2, curvy fit
Other details:
-Single and childfree
-DLSU grad
-Can host
-Remote worker
-Works out daily
-Funny, extroverted
About you:
-24 to 33, single and childfree
-5’7 above
-Financially stable (plus if remote worker also)
-Big 3 grad (hopefully from dlsu also)
-Has a car and willing to drive us around
-Can host is a plus but I got that covered naman
-Chinito/moreno
-Works out
-Kind, respectful of boundaries, funny (mix of jejemon & conyo pls), caring, chivalrous